Yikes! from a Step-Mom - To - Be!

Lauren - posted on 07/20/2015 ( 1 mom has responded )

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HELP! This about-to-be-a-stepmom bit may just kill me before the big day which I WAS so excited about. Two months to go and now i'm officially freaking out. We just cannot connect. He does Anything and Everything to keep her mother happy and it's killing me.

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Raye - posted on 07/20/2015

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Lauren, a lot of times one parent has to put forth more effort to play nice and get along with the other parent for the sake of the kids. I am a step-mom of two. My husband has primary custody. And there have been may times that he has gone above and beyond to do things for his ex... all for the sake of the kids. My husband paid the way for his ex, her fiancé and the fiancé's two kids to get into his son's basketball game, because our kids expected them to be there, and he didn't want them to be disappointed by their mom not showing up. He's given her gas money, because it was her visitation day and he didn't want his kids stranded on the side of the road. He's allowed his ex to have more visitation than the court agreement because he knows the kids would otherwise have almost no relationship with her. They are sacrifices that are made for the kids.

What you have to come to grips with (I know I did), was that he doesn't want to be with her. He wants to be with you. It's not about being nice to HER, it's about providing a better environment for his children. That being said, he should not be ignoring his responsibilities to your relationship. But if he's not, then you need to stop being so insecure about the situation. His kids are his blood. If he's a good dad, he's going to try to make things better for them.

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