Young adult daughter's relationships

Jackie - posted on 05/15/2013 ( 8 moms have responded )

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How do moms of young adult children learn to stay out of their relationship?What if the ex-boyfriend or girlfriend was very close to the family and was so much better to your child than the current boyfriend who acts wild and immature!

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Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/15/2013

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I would imagine that being one of the hardest situations after parenting and loving a child from a baby. The best advice I can give is to not push her. I know as a young adult the more my mom harped on something the more prone I was to prove my " independence". I'm not saying Just turn a blind eye , but try to wait until she brings it up and try to show her What a healthy relationship looks like. We can't control our kids choices once they reach a certain age , but we can still guide them and hope the morals and values we instilled in them will stick

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Jackie - posted on 05/16/2013

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Danielle thank you for this advice it is hard to see your children make bad decisions but I guess I did too! I will try to use myself as an example when I talk to my daughter.

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 05/15/2013

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I always thought one of my priorities as a mom would be to show my kids they can trust my judgement , to show them I have their best interests at heart. I thought this bc I hoped if I could show them this they would be more willing to consider my opinionto when situations such as this occurred. I always thought my mom had no clue how I felt and couldn't relate to my life, and I wanted to show my kids that I've been there and made mistakes and make them realize I can understand them. It's harder then it sounds but I hope I can achieve this

Jackie - posted on 05/15/2013

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Thank you so much for your response, yes sometimes we just have to step back and let our children make mistakes, it's all a part of life!

~♥Little Miss - posted on 05/15/2013

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Well, whether you like it or not, for whatever reason....the relationship did not work out. Hopefully this new one won't either, but honestly there is nothing you can do. The more you push for her to leave this man, the more you will actually push them together, and push her away....lol....lots of pushing in that last line.

Personally, I would be prone to telling her about my own failed relationships with idiots....but not in a motherly fashion....more like friends chatting. Especially when the guy does something stupid and makes her angry.

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