Julie - posted on 03/25/2014 ( 6 moms have responded )
I am one to follow etiquette, but feel perplexed on what has just occurred. Ten months ago it was mentioned that my niece was having a "Destination" wedding, but it was going to be small. A month later after finding out over 80 people from the groom's family were coming from overseas, the bride's mother said at an intimate dinner at a restaurant (14 people) that EVERYONE was invited. She asked if we were thinking of coming (with our 13 year old next to me). I said we were, but had to check about whether our daughter was attending sleep away camp or not (logistically if she went to camp, the drop off day would of been the same day as the wedding). I'm hosting a bridal shower (for over 35 people) and our daughter is not on the invitee list? This makes it extremely awkward, since we our hosting the bridal shower at OUR house, and the bride is inviting four Flower children (ages 6-11) to the event. Yes... that's 4 Flower Children! It isn't fair to tell our child (whom will be 14 then) to stay in her room and rude to tell her to find something to do since she heard herself "everyone is invited to the wedding". I am concerned about my daughter's hurt feelings and what to say to her. I understand weddings expenses can get out of control, but on the other hand... why have a destination wedding for 180 people? My daughter's feelings count more to me than etiquette at this point. What should I do (I certainly will not mention anything to the Bride's mother) ? Thanks.