Kara - posted on 10/31/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )
I am a young bonus mom of 21. I currently do not have any children with my boyfriend expect his 2 year old daughter. Bio mom and I have been on okay terms with each other except recently when my bonus daughter stared calling me MommyK (my first name). We never taught her this my boyfriend and his family always call me by my first name and refer to me by my first name with her. I will admit it was an honoring feeling for her to call me this. We talked about it and was unsure of where she came up with it. It was our weekend again and she was still calling me mommyK . She went home and the next weekend we had her, bio mom confronted my boyfriend saying it is inappropriate for her to be calling me mommyk. My boyfriend explained that we only call me by my first name and she decided to call me mommyk on her own. Bio mom was beyond mad at this point and said she does not allow it at her house. During our weekend with her I was in the kitchen cooking and she approaches me and says "mommy, can I call you that ?" so I say "yes, you can call me whatever you want." she says "okay mommyk." When my boyfriend took her home that weekend bio mom said that we are not disciplining properly and handed my boyfriend a book and rudely stated "you should read this or go to parenting meetings, to learn to discipline our daughter properly." My boyfriend didnt take the book. I understand we should be on the same grounds for disciplining but she was pretty rude about it. I've read about other bonus moms reaching out to the bio mom. Is it my time to shoot an email asking about rules they have at home? So we can all be on the same grounds or its this a no no no.!?