Amanda - posted on 04/04/2013 ( 2 moms have responded )
Hi i am a step mother of a 5 year old little boy. I am having such an awful time trying to figure out what my role in his life should b. It is causing such a problem with my marriage and is really confusing him. His parents have not been together since he was born and he has always been shuffled around from grandparents houses to parents. I am having more of a problem with his biological mother. She says awful things to my husband about his parenting or to what she thinks is lack of parenting on his part. She is so mean abotu what she says. I know that she is saying things to my stepson about his father and I. She is constantly making things harder on us and my husband. We have a custody agreement and she hates it. She is always saying things like im taking you back to court over silly things. I dont know how to not let the awful things she does and says affect my husband or me. How do you put all this stuff out of your mind. I have tried and tried to be nice and civil but at this point im done trying. I dont want to hate her but i feel like im getting no where and we have 12 more years to go. We try so hard to do the best thing for his son in everyway. But he is starting to say such awful things to my husband and i. Like i dont love you, Your not ever gonna have any kids of your own, He screams at the top of his lungs when he is in trouble and loses his posessions as a result. Things that he has never done before. Im so sick of crying and my husband being so upset. I dont want him to stop coming but im so upset about it, it seems like its always on my mind. PLEASE HELP!