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It is fine i should have put all my information in the above question, i was so devastated I did not proof read my question, i needed quick clarification. I think the main problem i am having is the forgiving part. I am still trying to forgive my baby daddy for putting himself in the predicament of getting placed in prison. He knew i was pregnant why do something stupid and leave me alone to take care of his child by myself.

Dove - posted on 12/04/2012

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Sorry... didn't read responses when I posted. Didn't know you don't live w/ your son either....

Dove - posted on 12/04/2012

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I wouldn't let any woman that I barely know take my kid anywhere w/out me and I wouldn't be so keen on having a 2 year old brought to the jail either.



I would let Grandma know that you are happy to have her come and see your son or meet you both in public somewhere, but you are not comfortable w/ her taking your son anywhere w/out you... and aren't comfortable w/ him at the jail.



This is your son... and yes, he deserves to know that side of the family, but do it under his mother's protection.

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It was a casual thing and I had broken up with him 2 months before i found i was pregnant. Out of all the guys to end up pregnant by a guy who has had numerous chargers (stealing), which i did not know of. (sigh) My son is 2 years old.



but Yes indeed. My mother already told me i was going over there to meet his other grandma when I am come home. :/

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/03/2012

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Also, it would be better if you brought the baby over to her house to check the scene out. To make sure it is a place that you would even want your baby to be. (when you have known her longer) give her a call and do a drop in to say hi. I would not let my baby at someones house that I have never walked in before.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/03/2012

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Exactly. How old is your baby? And why is the dad in jail? Were you both very close or was this a casual thing?

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Thank you so much for expressing your opinion. I will need to discuss this with the other grandma when i meet her because I do not feel comfortable. I guess one thing that bothers me is the fact that when my son does get comfortable being around his other grandma and have the chance to go home with her for a while (not over night).. I am afraid she may go against my wishes and take my son to see his dad anyway.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/03/2012

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I do not blame you for not feeling comfortable. You literally do not know this women. While I think it is important for your baby to know the family, this would be out of my comfort level also. I would tell your mom it is not ok to let her take your baby.

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My baby daddy's mother had visited my mother 3 times. I go to college and live on campus while my son stays with my mother. So personally i have not had the chance to meet my sons other grandma yet. I only hear what my mother tells me when his other grandma comes over. My mother told me that his other grandma wants to be able to take the baby in order to "give us a break" sometimes....



That is why i said i dont know this woman because i have not met her, my mother did and says she is a sweet person. That is why i am bothered because i finally let her visit my son and she is already talking about taking him for a while and describing the visitation process at the prison yard.... Not having it at all if i may agree with you. ITS TOO TOO SOON AND I'M OVERLY PROTECTIVE

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/03/2012

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No. I would not allow this. I would not feel comfortable with my young child visiting a jail period....then meeting their father in there? No way in hell. ESPECIALLY if you barely know this women. HOW can she take him their without your permission if you do not leave them alone together? You have said you barely know this women and she has only seen her twice. WHY would you leave them alone? Not good judgement in my opinion.



What you can do, is take some current pictures of your son, and send her on her way to the jail house alone.

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