15 year old hanging about with 20 year olds

Maxine - posted on 03/21/2011 ( 5 moms have responded )

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does any one think im wrong worry about my 15 year old hanging about with 20 year olds she was missing every day last week told her she couldnt got out she went reported her missing as she didnt come home that nite 2nd nite she called police on me as i took her stuff from room can behave lose it until u do as rules are laid out 4th nite same again went shopping she wasnt home she calls police again saying i kicked her out i didnt she wasnt ment to be out if she done what she was told she would have been in doors police blue lights and i get told off what am i to do 5 years this have been going on /off carnt take no more soical service well fat lot of good they say put rules in place there there but she keeps bracking them and i canr lock her in house as its human rights wheres mine when im out of mind with worry not knowing if she is dead or not i had no sleep last week but parents are in the wrong how does that work need help or im going to crack

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Louise - posted on 03/21/2011

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It sounds like this child is very strong spirited. All you can do is damage limitation here I feel. I would take her to the doctors and have the norplant put in to make sure she is protected from unwanted pregnancies. Have a doctor talk to her about aids and sti's also the risk of drugs. Then you have done your upmost to protect her. Really if social services will not step in and help you, you are really on your own. I feel so sorry for you, you must be worrid sick. Try taking her away from the house and talking to her over a dinner or something just the two of you. Tell her you are worrid about her and fear that she is getting out of her depth. Let her talk to you and express her feelings about what is going on, see if you can break down barriers.

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Maxine - posted on 03/21/2011

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iv done loads of things yes councelling one to one meetings familey ones parenting classes u name it iv done it but how do i get her to do things that i have enfoceed so i 15 now i carnt handle this no more im worn out totaly iv asked for her to be put into care for a while but i get told they carnt she wants to go in care i feel like im a useless mother other 2 kids are brill they 18 and 9

Maxine - posted on 03/21/2011

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sorry being out of contrl for 5 year kicking smashing things home and school she goes to another school now 3 days a week for 3 hours the past 2 years she has been running off

Jodi - posted on 03/21/2011

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She's been doing this for 5 years? Since she was 10? Sorry, just wanting to clarify. If that is the case, Social Services are right. Rules. You CAN enforce rules on a 10 year old. You can enforce rules on an 11 year old. You can do it to a 12 year old, 13 year old and 14 year old.



Have you considered counselling? Have you or your daughter ever received counselling? It is probably a bit late for you to force her into counselling, and by that, I don't mean you should give up on her, because there is still hope, but I think there would be great benefit in you finding someone to counsel you through this.

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