Barbara - posted on 01/23/2009 ( 2 moms have responded )
I have a 17 year old step daughter who lives with us. She is a wonderful, loving girl who stays out of trouble. I have only been married to her father for 6 months, and she has lived with us since then. Heres my question... She is a big baby. Everyday something is wrong with her, I don't even ask anymore because it is always: I have a headache, I hurt my leg, I've got cramps, I am sleepy... just everything. I try to be sensative, but it's really hard to feel bad for someone on a regular basis. I have a 9 year old daughter I am trying to not raise as a big baby. So when she complains about anything I underplay it and it seems to be working. Do you all think my 17 year old is whiney because she doesn't get enough attention? I am afraid if we dote on her when she complains that it will encourage the whining. BUt, I really love her and want her to know we do love and care when she's hurting. I know I would feel the same way if she was my biological daughter. I just mentioned she was a step-daughter to point out that I did not raise her, so I don't know the root of the problem.