2 year old not eating....

Cindy - posted on 01/08/2010 ( 51 moms have responded )

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my toddler (25 mths old) use to eat anything and everything now she is getting to where she dont want to eat anything at all she just wants to drink... does anyone have any advice and should I be worried? Should I give her pediasure or is this a stage she is just going thru? Shes not losing weight shes just not eating..... please help!

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Sarah - posted on 03/01/2010

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My son did the same thing at 2. He went from eating everything to never eating and only wanting things to drink. his docotr told me as long as he's taking in fluids and when he actually wanted to eat it was healthy that he was fine. Its normally a stage they go through. my niece did the same thing. they both are back to eating anything and everything thats not glued down.

Jeannette - posted on 01/14/2010

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I have something a little different to add. I agree that most likely this is just a stage and as long as you are not filling her up with juice or milk, she will eat when she needs it-just keep offering good choices. However, I waited and waited for this stage to be over with my 2 year old and it didn't, she quit growing. I eventually found out that she had food allergies and intolerances to wheat, milk and egg. Thinking I was being a good mom with scrambled eggs with cheese and wheat toast in the mornings, I waited too long. She learned that food was an enemy to her and is still a very poor eater although as soon as we eliminated these foods, she gained twice the normal weight the next year. Probably not the case for you but something to keep in mind if the "stage" lasts a very long time. Good Luck!

Tam-lien - posted on 01/11/2010

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I have four kids and they all went though that stage! Some better than the others. What I did was feed them their favorite food at that time while offering other stuff on the side. Some days were succesful and other days where not.Continue giving your child fluids. Drinking fluids does not fill them up. It's what their body needs at that time. If you remember that's all they did before they could even eat. I have a friend that cut her kid's fluid intake so her kid could eat and her kid ended up in the hospital from dehydration and the doctors told her never to cut their fluid intake if they're not eating. They told her that it's the fluids that keep the child going through those stages. Just keep offering food every meal time, if they eat it great if not that's ok. Keep giving them their vitamins. They will grow out of it. LOL!

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Shelli - posted on 02/24/2012

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Do not allow beverages with meals. It is normal for children that age to not want to eat, and many will drink milk/water/juice all day and fill up but not get enough nutrition. You can try Pediasure but this is not a complete suppliment for food and does not set her up for healthy eating habits later in life. Try brightly colored plates for meals, and set a good example :)

I hope this helped!

Christina - posted on 02/20/2012

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It makes me feel good reading your guys posts because my 3 yr. old is doing the same thing right now and I get so frusteraated. I took him to his 3 yr. physical and he is perfectly healthy. I did tell his Pediatrician what has been going on ans she said I have to be more strict on him. Like she said they will not starve once they are hungry they will eat what there is. I do give my son the pedaisure shakes once in a while.



Hang in the Cindy I hope it gets better for the both of us.

Kristin - posted on 02/17/2012

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This is a phase. They are big on asserting their autonomy; NO is such a big word for them for this very reason. Offer at least one thing you know she will eat at every meal and snack and keep offering lots of variety. Do be sure to not let her fill up on fluids at meals or in between without actually eating something too. You could try allowing only water between meals and at snacks. That severely limits her access to milk (and juice if you allow it).



I would only do the nutritional drinks if she has lost weight and is not acting like herself; not just crabby because she is hungry.

Becky - posted on 02/11/2012

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My 28 month old is the same and I am kinda worried, but I'm hoping it's just a fase

Kimberly - posted on 03/01/2010

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my 1 year old is like that..i make sure he has Polyvisol (a infant/toddler vitamen) and he gets whole milk and i offer him a different things.sometimes he will just drink milk all day.

Cassia - posted on 01/17/2010

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Even if she does not seem interested in eating, have her sit down with the family for meals and offer her a healthy, balanced diet. If she is not losing weight, don't go to any drastic measures, and don't worry! Children are very good about following their body's cues and eating when and as much as they need.

Jocelyn - posted on 01/15/2010

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hi....i don't think u should b worried...kids eat when they feel like it...id they haven't been eating for days that's when u should worry.if he's drinking fluids that's good that means he's taking something.hope that helps

Leona - posted on 01/15/2010

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Hi there, i know just how you are feeling, i have a son that done the same thing, he ended up having trouble doing poos, he stopped eating every thing but bread and bananas. He lost weight got very tired and moody. I had to push my doctor into sending him to a specialist. one of the signs of having this problem was he had no control of when he wanted to go to the toilet, it just happened, so keep an eye out for that.
He is know 7 and is getting better at eating but it has talen about 5 years three visits to childrens health camp and a lot of tears, both from his and myself. so do leave it to long, my doctor told me it was a stage and not to worry about it, we did as he said. but it didnt work and we ended up very worried. dont let thing get out of hand. in the end the eating thing became a problem only in his wee head.

Barbara - posted on 01/14/2010

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Cut down on drinks before it's time to eat. My daughter did the same thing. Good luck barbara

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If she is filling up on fluids before mealtime, she might not have any appetite left. I suggest limiting her beverages (when, what, and how much). Eat with her at mealtime, do not offer snacks. Essentially, when it is mealtime: make one meal that everyone eats together. Everyone sits at the table and no one is excused until the meal is over. If all she wants is water, she can have water. Eventually she will either get hungry or bored and the carrots (or whatever else) will get played with. Some of it *will* make it into her mouth. The important thing is that she is expected to be with the family throughout the entire meal whether she eats or only drinks. Once it is clear that eating/drinking only happen at certain times, she will begin to eat the food offered at those times. It may take a few days, just be consistant. - an older Mom

Nicky - posted on 01/13/2010

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I know how you feel, me 19mth old daughter used to eat anything and everything we put in front of her. Now she will only eat fruit, rice crackers, yoghurt and fruit! We only offer her water during the day, and she has milk morning and night. She will eat only those foods and nothing else. We have been told to keep offering her other foods and she will eventually start eating them again. Good Luck. We been doing this for almost 3 months now!

Sam - posted on 01/13/2010

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my 3 year old was exactly the same, she went from eating everything put in front of her and became very fussy to the point she just wouldn't eat, she wasn't ill and seemed ok on weight so just gave what could and when. I stopped giving her little snacks mid way through to try to make her more hungrier when dinner time came but didn't seem to make much better, she eats better now, must be just a stage they go through, thats what i put it down too, Just give healthy snacks. hope this helps :)

Mandy - posted on 01/13/2010

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if she is drinking pleanty and showing know signs of illness dont worry, try making meal times fun by making faces with her food, shapes letters make it a game, ask your doctor about childrens vitamins which are found in the food we eat. good luck

Megan - posted on 01/13/2010

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Definitely do not deprive your child of fluid or the risk of dehydration does increase. Please do not use Pedialyte unless your child is dehydrated. This drink contains electrolytes that in larger amounts can make your child sick. Pediasure is a supplement so that is OK. Carnation instant breakfast is another good supplement. Don't worry, your child will eat better soon, it just takes a while sometimes. I currently have to tell my daughter no to snacks so she'll eat her dinner when it's ready :)

Noelia - posted on 01/11/2010

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Hy...My son has 23 months and i´m in the same situation...the truth is that with my eight years old boy happends the same....The peditrician always told me that when they hungry they´ll eat...the important thing is that they don´t stop drinking water. Give her fruit juice and milk several times a day away from meal time...that´s what i do to make sure that my boy is hidratated and introducing nutriment and works very well.
Good luck from Argentina

Nicole - posted on 01/11/2010

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I had the same problem with my two year old son. We had to limit the amount of juice and milk. He gets a cup of milk in the morning and at night and one cup of juice after nap. If he wants more to drink, he gets water (plain water/not with a splash of juice). He was upset a first, but after a week or so he got over it. He eats a lot more, although he is still picky. I also try to limit sweets, so he doesn't fill up on chocolate, cookies, or candy. Good luck.

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Ignore it. It's probably that she, being 2 and all, has discovered she can say 'no' and most effectively around eating time. Don't force her to eat, because that will only lengthen the power struggle which you will lose anyway. Just keep offering (healthy, no junk alternative) food to her, and don't make a big deal out of it when she refuses. If she's really hungry, she'll eat. And eventually, she'll grow out of it. Good luck... ;-)

DeAnna - posted on 01/11/2010

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What is she drinking? That could have a lot to do with it. I would limit her drinking to only water, and possibly a little juice. I could be that she is liking the sweets (juice/pop/koolaid) or that she is getting ful if she is drinking milk. Otherwise I wouldn't worry, as long as she isn't loosing weight she is fine.

Rachelle - posted on 01/10/2010

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sorry. my mom had to deal with that with me and now 2 out of 3 of my grandchildren are the same. leave them alone they will eat when hungry.any way to get them nutrision is good

Lori - posted on 01/10/2010

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this is most likely just a stage she is goin thru. my 3 childern did the same thing, but u should ask her doc.

Cindy - posted on 01/10/2010

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Thank you all for your advice I will try each and every one of them...Yes I have been told to take her drinks away till she eats I have been trying that so far been helping a little..I like the advice of leaving snacks laying around I will definately try that. and that is all i give my child I try not to give her junk food.. I definately do not give her chocolate .....she eats what we eat I do not make a special meal for her but I guess a little is better than nothing at all. Thank you all so much...

Bonnie - posted on 01/10/2010

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At this age, this is a phase they go through. What I have done with my kids, and my daycare kids is, at mealtime, I only let them have their plate of food NO DRINKS, until the food is gone. And of coarse, no snacks until they get back into the "routine" of eating their normal meals. Go about a week with no snacks. They won't starve, they might through a fit, but they some get over it. You have to let them know that you mean business, and how important food is. They like to fill up on liquid, so that they can go back to doing what they were doing, before lunch time, or whatever meal it is. The don't want to take the time out of THEIR busy schedules!

Nichole - posted on 01/10/2010

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We have been dealing with this for a long time now and it has completely stressed us out!!! I have been told to make sure she drinks no more than 16 oz of milk a day. We have gone to 3 dr.'s and they say that some toddlers don't eat much. I know this doesn't help at all, but just try and feed her the most healthy things that you can. My daughter only eats eggs, peanut butter crackers, and soup. It is crazy I know! Hang in there...I feel your pain. The good thing is that she is not losing weight.

Elaine - posted on 01/10/2010

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hi cindy hope i be able to help u. u dont have to worried. it is a stage your child going thru. one min they love all sorts veg when there small cause u mix it all up they wouldnt notice what they were eating. now mind wont touch them. leave for few days. then try again. hope was much help to u.

Jennifer - posted on 01/10/2010

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My two year old was doing the same thing and she wasn't loosing any weight just not eating much. This was very strange for her and she too ate everything that was put in front of her. I asked her doctor and I was told that toddlers don't have very much control over their own lives and can only rebel in a few ways. One is using the potty and the other is eating. They can decide if they want to sit on the potty or just use their diapers and they can decide what they want to put in their mouths.
I was told that if she is of normal weight and she is not loosing weight and when she does eat or drink there is no difficulty, than there is nothing to worry about it will pass.
We went through it for a couple weeks and then it ended! Hang in there!

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My 3 1/2 year old is doing it also she's been going through this stage for about a year i just leave healthy snacks around and she snacks during the day. She's not losing weight she's just really active and only eats when she slows down. Leave carrot sticks, cucumber sticks, cheese and crackers and thats fine for her. Sit down at dinner all together and don't let her leave the table til you all finish. She'll eat from boredom and watching you eat. Good luck.

Michelle - posted on 01/09/2010

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first u need to limit her juice intake 1 cup of milk and 1 cup of juice a day and the rest water plus most kids her age really just nibble all day not really eating a whole meal believe me she will grow out of this

Jessica - posted on 01/09/2010

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My son is 20 months old and he is doing this some days all he wants is milk to drink and other days he is eatting me out of house and home. My son's DR says this is normal at this age, and he will eat when he wants to. He actually said to offer him food and not to force him to eat, (as focing children to eat when they are not hunry teaches bad food habits and is a leading cause of obesity). My son's DR also said I could give him half of a childrens multivitamin if i was concerned he was not eatting and getting all the nutrients he needs. So I give him a half of a vitamin daily and offer him food all day, if he eats he eats if not, ok too. I do set limits though like if we have dessert after dinner and he has did not eat he can have what we had for dinner or some milk but not the dessert. Good luck Cindy!!

Mary - posted on 01/09/2010

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what kind of doctor that will tell you to give your child chocolate all day. a child needs a balance diet or he or she will be deficient. You cannot allow that child to eat what they wants. It's up to the parent to impliment various food items. Who's the parent. Give suppliments if you have too. You have to think about what our body consists of and what it requires.

Heide - posted on 01/09/2010

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i had pretty much the same problem with my son, but from about 1yr old. he ate everything & then nearly overnight, refused all food...except yoghurt & fruit...that's it!
i've gone to the paed, he said no child will voluntarily starve itself, if they're hungry they'll eat...maybe bribe her to say she can have some juice if she eats one bite of food, we do this & it works like a charm...then 1 bit becomes 2 etc...just to ensure he/she at least gets in something more than cooldrink...good luck!

Dawn - posted on 01/09/2010

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That is fine (as far as I am concerned, mom of 9), God made us not to starve...As long as she is not drinking sugary drinks...Give her water...When my babies go through that, they get milk, water, juice, water, milk, water,that wayshe will get more than sugar...That is what I have done and she will eat again soon...Dawn

Erin - posted on 01/08/2010

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My son is the same way. Half the time he eats next to nothing and half the time he eats minimal amounts. Every once in awhile he eats a ton though! My ped said it was normal toddler behavior and to make sure not to give him his cup until after the meal.

Tiffany - posted on 01/08/2010

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I do know that this is normal. When she gets hungry enough she will eat. I was told when a toddler does this, Give them a raw hotdog. My brother went through this and my mom gave him a raw hotdog and he ate it.

Kathleen - posted on 01/08/2010

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Many kids go through stages of cutting back on how much they are eating. I would say to probably limit some of her fluids, especially around meal time, so she isn't filling up on those, but not so much that she isn't getting the hydration she needs. Make sure to keep offering her meals. Just because she doesn't show an interest, doesn't mean she's not at least kinda thinking about eating, especially if it's a favorite. Also make sure the meals you are offering her are balanced and of good nutrition so should she decide to try to eat, she'll be getting a good boost of the nutrients she needs. If she does start to lose weight, I would engage your family doctor for some recommendations.

Cindy - posted on 01/08/2010

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Quoting Stacey:
I understand what she is saying I dont give my child chocolate anyways...But I give her a variety of foods and there are certain foods she wants to eat all the time like corn on the cob and french fries but Im not going to give that to her on a daily basis she needs variety. But i understand what you meant ...thanx


Quoting christine:

This is the best advice I can give.. I took my son to the doctor when he was like 1 and told the doctor he was not eating, and the doctor told me he doesn't care if my son just wanted chocolate all day.. I had to give it to him because something is better than nothing, but he was probably not hungry because he was in between growing stages..






I don't agree with that advice.  I am sorry and I am not attacking you for posting what a doctor told you.  Children should be given healthy nurturing foods.  If you give a child chocolate because that is all they will eat.. Then they are learning they don't have to eat anything but chocolate... 






Just my opinion, but I think that doctor gave you bad advice.





 

Angela - posted on 01/08/2010

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My daugther that is 3 now did that at 2 and is doing it now. Her doctor said as long as she eating 2 meals a day she will be okay and plenty of milk. Try to stay away from to much juice and if thats all she wants to drink then water it down some. She will eat when she is hungry. I wouldnt be too worried if she not losing weight.

Mary - posted on 01/08/2010

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Toddlers go through stages of not eating. No you should not be worried but it will help if you have supplimental vitamins. If you give them too much to drink, they will not eat.
See if they will eat fresh fruit and cut back on the juice. Pedialyte is good to replace nutrients. Check with the doctor and make sure that the child's hemoglogin is ok. (iron) level. If that is ok, then the child is fine. Just make sure the child is getting plendy of calcium for bone growth. Try oatmeal, yogurt, applesauce, apples, banannas, peanut butter sandwich.

Shawn - posted on 01/08/2010

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She will eat when she gets hungry she will not starve herself, you could start cutting her drinks down because if she is drinking a lot of them then that could be making her full.

Cindy - posted on 01/08/2010

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If she is not losing weight, I would let her be too. Maybe get her to drink some ensure or pedialite. Also take her to the store and let her pick out stuff. My two year loved quaker oat bars, and peanut butter crakers. Also have her cook with you, stir up the whip cream, give her the cake batter stick, make it into a game and get her interested in food again.

BJ - posted on 01/08/2010

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My little onw does the same thing.She doesnt eat hardly anything.I always say she survives off of milk...lol..somedays she will eat good but other days she dont...the Dr says aslong as she isnt losing weight shes ok!!!!

Katharine - posted on 01/08/2010

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My 2 year old does this too. And she'll go through these phases where she'll eat like I'm starving her, and then she won't eat much of anything for a couple days. Maybe your toddler is not going through a growth spurt right now. But like what's said below me, I'd watch for signs of sickness. And make sure you give your child lots of liquids.

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Quoting christine:

This is the best advice I can give.. I took my son to the doctor when he was like 1 and told the doctor he was not eating, and the doctor told me he doesn't care if my son just wanted chocolate all day.. I had to give it to him because something is better than nothing, but he was probably not hungry because he was in between growing stages..



I don't agree with that advice.  I am sorry and I am not attacking you for posting what a doctor told you.  Children should be given healthy nurturing foods.  If you give a child chocolate because that is all they will eat.. Then they are learning they don't have to eat anything but chocolate... 



Just my opinion, but I think that doctor gave you bad advice.

Christine - posted on 01/08/2010

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This is the best advice I can give.. I took my son to the doctor when he was like 1 and told the doctor he was not eating, and the doctor told me he doesn't care if my son just wanted chocolate all day.. I had to give it to him because something is better than nothing, but he was probably not hungry because he was in between growing stages..

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That is a pretty normal stage for them to go through. Don't worry about it, honestly. She will eat when she is needs to. Kids intuitively know when to eat and what to eat. My son went through it and my daughter 26 months just started eating again. She had not been eating much since about 24 months. I know it is hard not to worry, but trust me don't worry.

Jennifer - posted on 01/08/2010

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AS LONG AS SHE'S NOY LOSING ANY WEIGHT YOU SHOULD GIVE HER PEDISURE IT HAS EVERYTHING IN IT ALOT OF CHILDREN GO THROUGH THIS

Felecia - posted on 01/08/2010

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Cindy, she is going through a growth spurt. If she does eat just not all the time no need to worry. Try given her things that you know are healthy when she does eat. I had the same issue with my oldest who is now 8 and she is doing just fine.

Ashley - posted on 01/08/2010

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If she is hungry, she will eat. Kids got through this stage all the time. I wouldn't be worried at all, unless she starts losing weight. Don't stop offering her foods though, even though you know she probably won't eat it. I also would limit her fluid intake until she eats. Kids fill up on fluids before they eat, and then they won't eat.

Melissa - posted on 01/08/2010

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I would say as long as she is not showing any signs of being sick. She is fine and it is just a stage she is going though. They will eat when they are hungry. You don't want her to get dehydrated so it is a good thing that she is drinking. Just don't give her liquids close to meal time, so that maybe she will eat a little bit. Good Luck!!!

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