2 yr old wont tell me when he has to go

Sarah - posted on 03/27/2013 ( 13 moms have responded )

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My son is two years old and is fully potty trained for the most part, he rarely has accidents and stays dry overnight. The only problem is he won't tell me when he has to go, I can tell what his signs are when he has to go, but if I ask him if he has to go potty, he tells me no but then if I bring him to the potty he will sit and go. Any suggestions? Thanks moms

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Christie - posted on 04/04/2013

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Start using the words "I have to go potty" when you see him giving the 'signs'. Don't tell him ..."you need to tell mommy you need to go potty", just simply use the words for him so he begins pairing the 'feeling' with the words. This works amazingly with young children with disabilities and will work for him as well.

Donnna - posted on 04/04/2013

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When you need your child to do something like going potty, don't ask, just tell him, "It's time to go potty." When you ask a question you need to respect the answer. If we learn how to re-phrase what we need then the child feels respected and usually complies with less fight. If you want him to put on his coat say "time to put on your coat" or "when your coat is on then we can go to the park" etc... Asking allows for a yes or no reply which needs to be respected. Oh, and stop saying "OK" at the end of your sentences too. OK implies a choice.

Threase - posted on 04/09/2013

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This is not as odd as you may think. I see this quit often in my line of work. Sometimes we as mothers overlook the simplest of things because, lets face it, our lives are extremely busy. My child had the same issue not long ago. Here is what I did that worked: when I first noticed the signs ( and I was sure they were signs, not just guessing) I took my little one to the toilet and lightly pressed on the tummy area while at the same time saying "I feel potty time" and after about six times of this, my child "learned" to properly identify the feeling, and BOOM, no more issues. It worth it for sure, especially when out in public. Hope this works for you as well. Good luck!

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He is too busy! This is completely normal. I STILL go thru this with my 9 year old if he is doing something. He starts doing the dance and holding it. I say, Tyler - Stop and go Pee! we both laugh, and he goes. They are just too engrossed in what they are doing to stop and go. Personally, I hate the interuption too!!! Just keep asking and reminding him. It is perfectly ok.

Pamela - posted on 04/07/2013

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Two year olds can show signs of stubbornness as a matter of age and the development that occurs at that time. If he does not fight you when you take him consider it a blessing.
You might also want to just say to him in a gentle way that he has signs that let you know he needs to go, and then share those signs with him. You might say, "(Child's name), Mommy can tell when you need to go because I see you......." Drawing his own attention to his body signs can help to make him aware of them so that he will know himself when he needs to go and start to do so on his own.
Our children are a lot more intelligent than we give them credit for. Help him to "see" his own signs and watch what happens!
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Mary - posted on 04/08/2013

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The world we have to live in together I guess has to be that way.. can NEVER be too busy for a loved one. That's the whole problem. A child's too busy?? He has employment then at that age? Must be a prodigy.. say the truth, u are too lazy or u don't care enough and please please stop wasting the rest of us dedicated mothers time on you.


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Mary - posted on 04/08/2013

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Honestly...without malice at all. When u have a day or two the you and him are at home consecutively. Set him on toilet and leave door open, it's not a punishment.. talk to him, feed him all day till the evening, tell him continually and spend time with him in there letting him know that's what we all as big boys and girls. Never, never in a cruel way. That type of behavior needs to corrected quickly and respectfully, but quickly. A Lot larger issues in future to let loved one get hung up on a minor thing.

Victoria - posted on 04/08/2013

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My daughter does the whole (I don't have to go, but she really does), and she's 4! She never has accidents anymore, though, so I don't push it unless I know we will be away from a bathroom for a long period of time.

He will grow out of it. Don't push him. Just bring a change of clothes with you.

Diane - posted on 04/02/2013

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This is easy. He's too young emotionally to tell you what you need to hear. My children were both trained at two, but every two hours I sat them on the potty, whether they said anything or or not. It just made our lives easier. Don't look for signs or signals, just put him on his potty consistently, and in a few months, he'll be either telling you, or taking action himself.

Rebecca - posted on 03/31/2013

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My friends almost 4 year old still won't tell her, so don't worry to much

Kullo-Egelton - posted on 03/29/2013

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Your plan sounds like it is working so why not leave it the way it is. Does he tell others he has to go potty when you are not around? If he does than I would suggest you not worry about. I am impressed with his success!

Evelyn - posted on 03/27/2013

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A lot of two year olds do not tell when they have to do something even potty. I think you are going the best you can with reading his signs when he needs to go and you take him and he does his business. I would just keep on doing this. In time he will tell you he needs to go or he will go on his own. Its part of their development and growing up. Its a stage they go through. And as they go through those stages they progress to the next one. Don't push it just go with it and in time he will be telling you instead of just giving off those signs and making you guess at it.

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