21 months and need guidance - extreme tantrim with baby-girl

Claudette De - posted on 11/15/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )

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my girl is turing 2 in feb next year and the last week she has started to through exteme tantrims. she is an early developer since her birth to support what i am trying to say is she had all her teeth before 9months and showed tantrim signs already straight after 14months, she does things that a 3year old would starting to do or be interested in, therefore for her troughing tantrims was understandable and i dealth with it and try to help where possible to ease the burden but now...it is a total diffenrent ball game all together. she would through herself down on the tile floor where she end up hurting herself and start to tantrim, not the worrying part, all seen before...the worrying part is when she is so frustrated that she hit herself in the face and head to the extreem. i thought perhaps she suffers from head aches but that did not proof any signs of truth or what i can gather because she just move along as if nothing has happend after i got her calm . i have been told that since she is an advanced learner for her age she find it more difficult to express herself since she has not developed her speach as yet. could there be truth in that - and if so how do i deal with it in a popper manner? help please

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Holly - posted on 11/15/2012

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oh no!!! no teacher should EVER tell at your child to shut up!!!!!! you need to talk to the head person there!!!! that could be your problem right there!!!

Holly - posted on 11/15/2012

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well that is just one option. perhaps she needs help calming down, get down to her level and talk to her, tell her honey, until you calm down, i can't help.

Claudette De - posted on 11/15/2012

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yes that has been working - so i thought i was winning the battle there - now today at the daycare she has trougn another tantrim and my mother ewas supprising me to be there before me and the lady was shouting and screaming at her to shut up - will this behaviour not worsen the case for me?

Claudette De - posted on 11/15/2012

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hi holly, thank you for your reply. i have done that in fact i have even taken her to her room and let her have time out but it never calms down - it pregresses the longer i take to calm her down...at times she has lost her voice since she will not give up until she is taken care off...how do i do that when as you say i need to walk away from it all and ignore..

Holly - posted on 11/15/2012

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in addition, since she is having a hard time expressing what she is thinking, help her learn to use her words, tell her calm down, use your words. find out what it is that she wants, but do not cave in if she continues, tell her until you calm down and tell me, i will not be able to help you. have her talk to you.... you'd be surprised how bright children are, my daughter was a big tantrum thrower, and she is advanced, she is in advanced placement in her grade... but we worked with flash cards when she was that age, she knew english well and spanish, and a little bit of mandarin.... but only a little, she could count to 5 and a knew a few colors.

Holly - posted on 11/15/2012

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do not give in, walk away from her tantrums these are the keys to dealing with tantrums... don't stand there and watch. go on your way, she is trying to get you to cave into what she wants. my oldest daughter would do things like that and end up pulling at her hair... i popped her hand and told her not to do that, she threw a bigger fit and eventually once she calmed down i told her, i am not getting that, but if you can act like a big girl, we can go do this. or if i decided that i WAS going to get what she wanted, i would tell her, if you calm down, i will get it, but if you act like a baby, i am not.

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