2YR OLD LOVES TO CRY ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT FOR NO REASON IM GOIN CRAZY!!!

LETICIA - posted on 09/07/2009 ( 38 moms have responded )

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HE WILL CRY WHEN HE WAKES CRY DURING THE DAY CRY IN THE CAR CRY WHENEVER HE FEELS LIKE IT.... I CANT GET A SITTER BECAUSE HE JUST CRIES AND CRIES! HE IS NOT HURT HE IS NOT SICK WHAT CAN IT BE??? AND HOW DO I STOP IT!!!

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I agree with those who have suggested getting a professional assessment....and then if there isn't really a problem besides him being two, here's the goal: Help him learn what things he can decide to do/not do on his own, and what things are absolute no's. The developmental task of a two year old is to learn how to assert his will and opinions and when this is not appropriate or possible and you just have to do what is expected of you. You would not allow him to run out in the street in front of a moving car, even if he did whine and cry would you? When you have decided on the non-negotiables, stick calmly and firmly to your "NO" and become a broken record---"Jaedin, I know you want that right now but you cannot have it." And then WALK AWAY and do not give him an audience for the tantrums. His crying is gaining a rewarding effect from you, or it would not continue (albeit, some two year olds can be stubborn, but you have to outlast him!)Sometimes we think that scolding is a negative reward, but to a two year old negative attention is far better than no attention at all. Behavior that is inconsistently rewarded actually increases in frequency, consistent limits are the MOST improtant thing you could do. You don't want to confuse him with mixed messages...tantrums in the grocery store get you cookies but at home they get you a time out. Example: If he throws a tantrum in the store, calmly remove him from the cart and leave it where it is, take him out to the car and strap him in his car seat and let him scream---stand outside the car with your back to the car and ignore him until he stops!!! Don't do this as a punishment, but rather as a way to help him understand that whining and tantrums are not the way civilized people get their needs met. His future wife will thank you too! :)

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Hi Leticia,
This can be very frustrating! I learned it is a stage they go through when they want to do something physical and they don't quite have the motor skills for it yet... It is their way of expressing the frustration of their body not cooperating with them. Sometimes it makes them upset when you try to help... so you just have to play it by ear.

The other thing that comes to mind is rewarding him for not crying... the reward system worked very well for me. What does he like to do? Where does he like to go? What food does he enjoy? These are all things that can be used to reward him for not crying.

Crying gets your attention and right now it is getting him negative attention... your frustration! He has learned that crying gets him attention...so take this and use it to your advantage!

I remember so vividly when our youngest son was about 3 1/2. When we would go thru a drive thru to get something to eat he would throw a fit b/c something didn't quite suit him. This was embarrassing b/c everyone in the drive up window could hear him screaming and yelling! I finally decided to take action... I told him that from this point on if he acted like that when we were in the drive thru I would not stay... I would drive away! Of course he tested me to see if I really meant what I said... the next time we went to a drive up window he started in... I told him we weren't staying... and that made him all the more upset! I gave him some time to think and then asked him if he was ready to try again and he said yes.... ahhh...blissful quiet while I ordered and picked up our food. It took quite a few trips before he was completely "cured" of this annoying habit! One day we went through 4 drive thru's before I finally ordered our food!!

Another thought that comes to me is reverse psychology... a good example of this is books called Mrs. Piggle Wiggle. In this particular situation Mrs. Piggle Wiggle would cry herself. About everything...etc. to make the child see how silly it was to act that way. Not sure how to adapt it for a two year old!

Trust your instincts... you are a Mother! You can do this! You do have an answer... an idea of what will work!! Go for it! Keep on doing different things till you find the solution!

Hope this helps!! Motherhood can be very intense at times!
Love from,
Susan Holsinger
http://www.GoodGriefandYou.com

Hilary - posted on 09/11/2009

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first stay calm, children pick up on your stress. Hes being a normal 2 year old so relax. First understand that he cries because hes frustrated that he cant comunicate his desires, crying is the only way to show his needs.stop catering to the crying, he knows you respond to it. Calmly tell him you cant talk to him or understand him when he cries and walk away or turn around, and stick to your guns, dont be wishy washy. Children need structure and disapline to feel safe . as ceaser milan says be the pack leader.Let him know that crying is not going to get what he wants it will stop. Your going to have a few very hard days and then it will get better. good luck

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Patricia - posted on 09/11/2009

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Seriously, try crying with him, rock him and cry with him. He will stop and wonder or ask you why you are crying.

Juanita - posted on 09/10/2009

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I do not think that , that is normal. I really do believe that there is something truely wrong with him. When was his last check up? How did that go? Did he always cry like that? I would really think about calling his Ped. and let him or her know exactally what is happening. Don't worry about your boyfriend because he must really care about the both of you to have stuck around that long already! Good luck and keep us posted. God bless!

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Another thought I just had to, if he is over tired that will do it, but also if he has pent up energy......he might also cry. My son who is 17 months, he LOVES to be outside. So if he gets grumpy/ whiney we get him out and tucker him out. Take him to the park, or let him walk on the walk ( that works great to wear them out) Chin up Mommy, you'll make it through. Its takes a much great mom to admit they need help!! Remember it takes a village to raise a baby :)

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Quoting LETICIA:

2YR OLD LOVES TO CRY ALL DAY AND ALL NIGHT FOR NO REASON IM GOIN CRAZY!!!

HE WILL CRY WHEN HE WAKES CRY DURING THE DAY CRY IN THE CAR CRY WHENEVER HE FEELS LIKE IT.... I CANT GET A SITTER BECAUSE HE JUST CRIES AND CRIES! HE IS NOT HURT HE IS NOT SICK WHAT CAN IT BE??? AND HOW DO I STOP IT!!!


Leticia, I know about those kids, & I have 2 possible reasons, first some kids need a lot more attention that others & at a young age the only way they know to call you attention is by crying, those kids need to know in different ways that you love them so much, & what we usually do with a bouncy kid is reject him, I know is hard but probably as soon as he faces a cry hug him & say I love you. The other reason is unhealthy kids, I'm not talking about pain, it's just the feeling of not being well, a regular DR. is going to tell you that it's normal & do nothing about it, but visit a chiropractic, kids by nature, because they don't have all the crap we do on our minds, expect their bodies to heal by themself, but because all the bad nutrition that we are going thr. it's not possible anymore, consult a chiropractic on your area he might help.

Patricia - posted on 09/10/2009

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Sometimes they cry for attention. Try crying with him, I mean sit in his face and cry, let me know what happens. :)

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Quoting LETICIA:

WELL JAEDIN CRIES BECAUSE HE IS HOLDING HIS SIPPIE CUP IN THE CAR AND DOESNT WANT TO HOLD IT! HE CRIES BECAUSE HE IS IN HIS CHAIR AND WANTS TO GET OUT! HE CRIES BECAUSE HE WANTS TO PUT HIS SHOES ON AND CANT OR TAKE THEM OFF! HE CRIES THAT HE DOESNT WANT SOMETHING THEN CRIES IF YOU DONT GIVE IT TO HIM! IDK WHAT HIS PROB IS HE IS JUST SO FUSSY! YOU CAN NEVER MAKE HIM HAPPY I DO SQUEEZE HIM AND TICKLE HIM HE GETS HAPPY BUT THE NEXT MIN HE IS WHINING AGAIN! WHAT DO I DO?


 

Angela - posted on 09/10/2009

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Rule out anything medical first, possibly even developmental delays. Then if it's not that, it's definately the terrible twos...my daughter will get in moods sometimes like that where nothing will make her happy and we tell her to go to her room and have quiet time, and when she's in a better mood she can come out...which usually works...does he still take naps? it could be that too. not enough sleep and too much stimulation...plus it sounds like he's driving you crazy and you need to maybe give yourself a "time out" and go read a book or just clean or something...

He might also have a hard time expressing himself. Help him understand that what he's feeling is frustration or anger or sadness by teaching him what they mean...like, "I know it's frustrating to not be able to put on your shoes, baby, so let's do this instead." diverting his attention elswhere...hope it gets better for you

LETICIA - posted on 09/10/2009

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Quoting Susan:

Hi Leticia,
This can be very frustrating! I learned it is a stage they go through when they want to do something physical and they don't quite have the motor skills for it yet... It is their way of expressing the frustration of their body not cooperating with them. Sometimes it makes them upset when you try to help... so you just have to play it by ear.

The other thing that comes to mind is rewarding him for not crying... the reward system worked very well for me. What does he like to do? Where does he like to go? What food does he enjoy? These are all things that can be used to reward him for not crying.

Crying gets your attention and right now it is getting him negative attention... your frustration! He has learned that crying gets him attention...so take this and use it to your advantage!

I remember so vividly when our youngest son was about 3 1/2. When we would go thru a drive thru to get something to eat he would throw a fit b/c something didn't quite suit him. This was embarrassing b/c everyone in the drive up window could hear him screaming and yelling! I finally decided to take action... I told him that from this point on if he acted like that when we were in the drive thru I would not stay... I would drive away! Of course he tested me to see if I really meant what I said... the next time we went to a drive up window he started in... I told him we weren't staying... and that made him all the more upset! I gave him some time to think and then asked him if he was ready to try again and he said yes.... ahhh...blissful quiet while I ordered and picked up our food. It took quite a few trips before he was completely "cured" of this annoying habit! One day we went through 4 drive thru's before I finally ordered our food!!

Another thought that comes to me is reverse psychology... a good example of this is books called Mrs. Piggle Wiggle. In this particular situation Mrs. Piggle Wiggle would cry herself. About everything...etc. to make the child see how silly it was to act that way. Not sure how to adapt it for a two year old!

Trust your instincts... you are a Mother! You can do this! You do have an answer... an idea of what will work!! Go for it! Keep on doing different things till you find the solution!

Hope this helps!! Motherhood can be very intense at times!
Love from,
Susan Holsinger
http://www.GoodGriefandYou.com



U KNOW WHAT UR RIGHT WHEN HE STARTS HIS CRYING I GET FRUSTRATED WE ALL GET FRUSTRATED WHICH USUALLY ENDS IN YELLING THEN I GET UPSET WITH MY OTHER SON THEN MY HUSBAND!! I DONT WANT TO BE LIKE THIS I GUESS IM GONNA START IGNORING JAEDIN AND IM GONNA TELL MY 8YR OLD N HUSBAND TO DO THE SAME THING! MY MOTHER TOLD ME MY 8YR OLD TOLD HER THAT HE GETS MAD AT ME BECAUSE I MAKE HIM CATER TO HIS BROTHER N ITS NOT FAIR! I NOW SEE THAT MAYBE J'S BAD BEHAVIOR IS MY FAULT BECAUSE INSTEAD OF DEALING WITH IT I GIVE IN..... FROM HERE ON OUT NO MORE! J IS GONNA GET THE LOVE AND TOUGH LOVE SO TO SPEAK! THANK U ALL!!!

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Quoting Georgia:

I have the very same issue. Cries about everything. We ahve been to the dr and Kelsi checks out just fine. She is testing her boundaries with us. I also read recently in an article that they feel comfratable with us so they let there guard down and express all feelings that they have had pent up. I understand so much what you are going through, I feel that we never have any quite time anymore. goood luck



that's sooo true about the letting their guard down with you.  You know that's happening when the sitter, daycare, friend or relative tells you that they behaved beautifully while you were away.  my provider said my two would completely change personalities when I arrived to pick them up - changing from little angels to little monsters at the turn of the key.  it's not a bad thing per se... it was good to know too that during these growing years they've had wonderful behaviour at friends' homes and at school.  i've been asked many times by their friends' parents if they could keep them, and teachers say they're the best behaved kids in their classes!

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I agree with many of the posts on here. "Terrible Two's" are sometimes bad because of tantrums and our lil ones learning the word 'no' and liking to use it ALL the time. However, your lil one sounds like there is something definitely WRONG..possibly physically. Babies/toddlers don't cry ALL the time for no reason. It sounds like he may be hurting or not feeling well and doesn't know any other way to express it except through crying and everything is upsetting him because of the primary cause...yet to be determined. Little children his age cannot properly express their feelings/emotions verbally. Yes, he can talk, but he still may not be able to convey correctly how he's feeling or where it hurts or what hurts or if he doesn't feel right. This is definitely something for a doctor to check into. If your doctor says 'nothings wrong' then you need to find another doctor that will listen. YOU know if there is something 'not right' with your child and should insist that he be checked out no matter how many doctors you need to see to get it done. If us 'strangers' can tell this isn't 'right' then so should a doctor. I hope you find out what is bothering your little boy and get the help he needs (and obviously desires, by the way he is crying). Good luck and God bless!!

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I have the very same issue. Cries about everything. We ahve been to the dr and Kelsi checks out just fine. She is testing her boundaries with us. I also read recently in an article that they feel comfratable with us so they let there guard down and express all feelings that they have had pent up. I understand so much what you are going through, I feel that we never have any quite time anymore. goood luck

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Do you go to him everytime he crys? If so, he is associating your attention with his constant crying. My twins did that and it was very hard to listen to, but I had to learn to ignore it. They eventually figured out that I wasn't going to come come running everytime they cried.

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He may be frustrated because he cannot communicate his feelings well. It could be a language barrier. Sign language helps a lot; another thing is that he could be hungry and doesn't know it. It is hard work but try to convince him with whatever you can for him to eat and after that you may see a great difference. It is like us most of the time our bodies are asking for water and we think we are hungry and we eat instead and then we gain weight unnecessarily. hope this info. will help. This is my first time doing this comment. I am a grandmother of a boy and girl and a mother of 4 boys. My baby is 19 yrs old. Good luck!

Christy - posted on 09/10/2009

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I totally agree with most of these moms that if he is crying for attention you have to make it stop and now!!! I have 2 kids my daughter is 20 and my son is 9 both of them tried this on me and it didn't work. If they were hurt that was 1 thing but if they were crying for "no reason" then they were told to go to their room and when they could be nice they could come out. I also had boundries when it came to going to the store. I had a rule that we talked about on the way to the store each time that if they were good they could pick out 1 treat at check out if not no treat no exception. All it takes is 1 time of not getting a treat and no more tantrums. He is pushing your buttons and it is working. You better take care of if now or you are going to be dealing with it forever. My son has a friend that still crys to get what he wants at 10 yrs old and his mom still gives in because she doesn't want to deal with it. It is all a game and they learn quick what works and what doesn't so don't play the game be the parent.

Elisa - posted on 09/10/2009

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I wish I had an answer but it think its growing pains/ teething, Is he cutting molars? My 2 year old son screams at the drop of a hat , any little thing will make him scream at the top of his lungs. I have heard that this is common with a lot of 2 yr olds, and it could just be The Terrible Twos! lol , I hope you find and answer maybe it can help me too

Linda - posted on 09/10/2009

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I'd take him to see your pediatrician. Even WITH the so-called terrible twos.... your dr. may have some helpful suggestions and/or perhaps find what is truely bothering your little one. Remember - if it bothers you that he is crying all the time...think how horrible HE must be feeling. :( good luck

Julia - posted on 09/10/2009

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Take him off from milk products, try soy or rice or goats milk. Mom of 11, parented 100 through foster care over 15 years.

Joni - posted on 09/10/2009

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Quoting Christie:

I agree with those who have suggested getting a professional assessment....and then if there isn't really a problem besides him being two, here's the goal: Help him learn what things he can decide to do/not do on his own, and what things are absolute no's. The developmental task of a two year old is to learn how to assert his will and opinions and when this is not appropriate or possible and you just have to do what is expected of you. You would not allow him to run out in the street in front of a moving car, even if he did whine and cry would you? When you have decided on the non-negotiables, stick calmly and firmly to your "NO" and become a broken record---"Jaedin, I know you want that right now but you cannot have it." And then WALK AWAY and do not give him an audience for the tantrums. His crying is gaining a rewarding effect from you, or it would not continue (albeit, some two year olds can be stubborn, but you have to outlast him!)Sometimes we think that scolding is a negative reward, but to a two year old negative attention is far better than no attention at all. Behavior that is inconsistently rewarded actually increases in frequency, consistent limits are the MOST improtant thing you could do. You don't want to confuse him with mixed messages...tantrums in the grocery store get you cookies but at home they get you a time out. Example: If he throws a tantrum in the store, calmly remove him from the cart and leave it where it is, take him out to the car and strap him in his car seat and let him scream---stand outside the car with your back to the car and ignore him until he stops!!! Don't do this as a punishment, but rather as a way to help him understand that whining and tantrums are not the way civilized people get their needs met. His future wife will thank you too! :)



I completely agree with you.  If it's not a medical condition, it is just being 2.  Sometimes, too, it's a parental condition.  The more you cater, the more he'll continue.  Deep breathing helps. So does taking a walk. 



Both my healthy kids pulled this in the store like maybe twice, with screaming and having a tantrum, throwing themselves on the floor.  My response was to walk away.  I didn't scold.  I didn't show any emotion, but put my full attention on the shopping and the corner of my eye on them.  They'd had a hard time getting up, following me and throwing themselves on the floor with each aisle I went to.  I do remember that it only lasted about 3 aisles before they realised it wasn't working and gave up! Luckily the store wasn't busy!



One more bit of advice:  If a man you're involved with sees that you're frustrated and struggling with your child threatens that he'll leave.  Show him where the door is, open it for him and lock it firmly behind him.  Your child is more important, always. Good Luck.

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Try not to reward the crying by doing whatever he is crying about. 2 year olds understand more than we give them credit for. I have a 2 year old and she was doing this same thing. I began to tell her, that I would do what she wanted when she ask and did not cry to get her way. I would tell her how to ask, and just keep repeating what is expected of them. They will get the message and see that their crying will not be rewarded. She has already began to ask instead of crying and whining to get what she wants. This is a great lesson to teach early, then we teach them not to be whining complaining adults. Also it teaches good communication skills.

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Hi Leticia

I'lm going to assume you've taken him to the doctor and checked him out for health issues already. From there I am going to guess, that he gets a reaction or some kind of attention from you that he enjoys. My daughter cried about everything and anything for 2yrs. straight. Its tough when your trying to bond with your child. I finally had enough and stopped running to her to see what was wrong and started giving her attention in different ways. When she cried about something ridiculous: I would say: hey..how about we go outside? Not giving the crying any attention. ( unless hurt or pain of course ) diversion is always a good tactic with small children and eventually they get the idea. I hope you find something that works.

My daughter is 9 now and still cries easily but for the most part she's happy go lucky and she knows when she cries to get attentiton she will quickly be told: When you can tell me whats wrong in words come back to me.

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Parenting with Love and Logic is a GREAT book to help with setting the boundaries and consequences that Christie suggested ~ BUT - if it really seems that he is crying because he is agitated, and not because he is being stubborn or wants his way, check for some kind of pain (allergy? skin sensitivity? hyper-acute hearing?) if he is constantly agitated inside, he cannot understand and would be quite troubled and fretful.

Paula - posted on 09/10/2009

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HE'S 2!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your husband married u with your child, stop being paranoid! U can't think very highly of him if u think he will leave u cos little one is hard work! I understand it's frustrating and upsetting, but if u give in everytime he winged this will NEVER end! I hope u work things out,

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When my neice was little she cried a lot also, and come to find out, she was anemic. Once her blood started building up, she stopped crying all the time. Might be worth a check with your doctor.

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This is by far the best advice given on this poor mother's cry for help!



 I was going to say the same thing, but she's done it so nicely that I just wanted her advice recognized!



Quoting Christie:

I agree with those who have suggested getting a professional assessment....and then if there isn't really a problem besides him being two, here's the goal: Help him learn what things he can decide to do/not do on his own, and what things are absolute no's. The developmental task of a two year old is to learn how to assert his will and opinions and when this is not appropriate or possible and you just have to do what is expected of you. You would not allow him to run out in the street in front of a moving car, even if he did whine and cry would you? When you have decided on the non-negotiables, stick calmly and firmly to your "NO" and become a broken record---"Jaedin, I know you want that right now but you cannot have it." And then WALK AWAY and do not give him an audience for the tantrums. His crying is gaining a rewarding effect from you, or it would not continue (albeit, some two year olds can be stubborn, but you have to outlast him!)Sometimes we think that scolding is a negative reward, but to a two year old negative attention is far better than no attention at all. Behavior that is inconsistently rewarded actually increases in frequency, consistent limits are the MOST improtant thing you could do. You don't want to confuse him with mixed messages...tantrums in the grocery store get you cookies but at home they get you a time out. Example: If he throws a tantrum in the store, calmly remove him from the cart and leave it where it is, take him out to the car and strap him in his car seat and let him scream---stand outside the car with your back to the car and ignore him until he stops!!! Don't do this as a punishment, but rather as a way to help him understand that whining and tantrums are not the way civilized people get their needs met. His future wife will thank you too! :)





 

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He may have started to get attention and got into the habit of it now. I think most 2 year olds do cry alot, all part of the tantrums, and I have had days where mine has had one tantrum after the other. I have found giving him a time out works best. I tell him he needs to calm down and put him in his bedroom. There is nothing in there that can hurt and lots of toys for him to play with when he calms down. I go and ask him if he is ready to behave and wants to come out after a few minutes. If he is still difficult when he comes out then we try again. He also learns that by having a tantrum he gets less attention not more.

The other day Dad went out for a surf and so the crying began, I tried hugs and kisses, lollies and milk, the favourite DVD nothing worked he cried for an hour without a break, then I decided definitely time for a time out and within 5 minutes he had calmed down and was a happy little boy for the rest of the day.



I am lucky my little boy always wakes up happy, but he does often go to bed crying. Obviously I would never leave him in his room too long only a few minutes at a time, but if you're sure your son is healthy then time out may be worth a try.

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It's ok. We all felt this way at one time or another as a mom. But babies always have a reason to cry. They have no words. This is thier way of telling us EVERYTHING. My son did the same thing, but as soon as he began developing a vocabulary, it slowly began to subside. Babies have no words and no way of comunicating how they feel, if they are sick, are hungry, are wet, are mad, are sad, nothing. they have no words. But remember, if he is not in pain, not hungry, not sick, or not hurt, it is simply ok to let him cry sometimes.(be sure to reassure him that you are still there and will not leave him though). A doctor visit is a good idea too, just to rule out any pain he may have that you can not physicallly see.l Good luck to you.

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I feel you with the crying. My son is 2. He talks,but not in sentences. He repeats words we say. He cries out of frustration, when he can't do things himself - when he can't get a toy he wants from his sister - or when she takes one from him. So I assess each situation. When he's having a hard time doing something - I tell him to say "Help" and then I help him w/whatever it is. If it's a situation between the 2 kids I find out what it is - and either get his sister to give him back his toy or let him know he can't have the one his sister has and get him interested in some other toy. They are easily distracted at this age. I agree w/ what alot of the other mom's are saying. Talk to your doctor and set boundaries. Good luck.

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Quoting LETICIA:

WELL JAEDIN CRIES BECAUSE HE IS HOLDING HIS SIPPIE CUP IN THE CAR AND DOESNT WANT TO HOLD IT! HE CRIES BECAUSE HE IS IN HIS CHAIR AND WANTS TO GET OUT! HE CRIES BECAUSE HE WANTS TO PUT HIS SHOES ON AND CANT OR TAKE THEM OFF! HE CRIES THAT HE DOESNT WANT SOMETHING THEN CRIES IF YOU DONT GIVE IT TO HIM! IDK WHAT HIS PROB IS HE IS JUST SO FUSSY! YOU CAN NEVER MAKE HIM HAPPY I DO SQUEEZE HIM AND TICKLE HIM HE GETS HAPPY BUT THE NEXT MIN HE IS WHINING AGAIN! WHAT DO I DO?


This is all VERY normal 2 yo behavior. It will pass! He's just trying to assert his independence but he still doesn't know what he wants so it's hard on him.

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I have 3 kids and my 2 older one's went through a phase like this. I attributed it to growing pains possibly b/c they had a growth spurt about that age and just a grumpy phase. I just did lots of cuddles and tried to be as understanding as possible. They snapped out of it around 3 yrs old and then they were really cheery all the time.

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I agree I think that you need a professional opinion... Good Luck to you please keep up posted on the progress as there must be a solution...

LETICIA - posted on 09/08/2009

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JAEDIN CAN TALK VERY WELL TOO WELL LOL! HE REPEATS EVERYTHING HE HEARS.. AND I AM MARRIED TO THE MAN IN THE PIC HE IS NOT HIS FATHER BUT HAS BEEN IN HIS LIFE SINCE HE WAS 6MNTHS AND HE IS VERY HELPFUL BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL HE MAY LEAVE ME BECAUSE OF HOW MUCH WORK J IS... HE TAKES HIM ON WALKS OR FOR RIDES IN THE CAR TO GIVE ME A BREAK BUT I KNOW J STRESSES HIM OUT TOO! I AM REALLY GOING TO TAKE UR ADVICE AND SEEK MEDICAL ATTENTION! THANK U LADIES!

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This is why they're called the terrible two's. He is going to test his boundries and if crying gets him what he wants or other postive responses he will cry. I would double check with your doctor just incase there is an underlying medical issue that could be adding to it (ie ear infections, ect).



Also if you have a family resource centre in your area (I know the have them here in Edmonton). They have developmental tests and questionaires that will let you know if he is just being a 2 year old or if there is an underlying developmental issues (ei anxiety, poor communication, ect).



I took my Son in and they have been a great help. He would just scream and scream when he wanted something. It turns out he may have hearing loss in one ear so he doesn't respond to some pitches. We go for a 2nd hearing test in November. Since finding that may be a possibility it's really taken the stress off. He may simply not be learning language properly hence he does what has worked, crying and screaming.



I'm not sure if you're with the man who is in your picture, but can he not watch your child for an hour or two so you can get a break for even a 1/2hr a day? My Husband does that for me and though it doesn't sound like a lot of time it really does help take the edge off.

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WELL JAEDIN CRIES BECAUSE HE IS HOLDING HIS SIPPIE CUP IN THE CAR AND DOESNT WANT TO HOLD IT! HE CRIES BECAUSE HE IS IN HIS CHAIR AND WANTS TO GET OUT! HE CRIES BECAUSE HE WANTS TO PUT HIS SHOES ON AND CANT OR TAKE THEM OFF! HE CRIES THAT HE DOESNT WANT SOMETHING THEN CRIES IF YOU DONT GIVE IT TO HIM! IDK WHAT HIS PROB IS HE IS JUST SO FUSSY! YOU CAN NEVER MAKE HIM HAPPY I DO SQUEEZE HIM AND TICKLE HIM HE GETS HAPPY BUT THE NEXT MIN HE IS WHINING AGAIN! WHAT DO I DO?

Abbie - posted on 09/08/2009

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SOMETHING IS WRONG!!! Babies don't just cry for fun! They cry because something is wrong, either growing pains, teeth.....something. Have you had him checked by a doctor? Also some kids are just very sensitive and are easily upset, in which case I would remove most things that stimulate him.



You need to get a break from this baby, someone must be willing to watch him. Have you tried to snuggle him in tight and just hold him when he cries?



I'd get him to the doctor ASAP though!!!!!!!

Abbie - posted on 09/08/2009

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SOMETHING IS WRONG!!! Babies don't just cry for fun! They cry because something is wrong, either growing pains, teeth.....something. Have you had him checked by a doctor? Also some kids are just very sensitive and are easily upset, in which case I would remove most things that stimulate him.



You need to get a break from this baby, someone must be willing to watch him. Have you tried to snuggle him in tight and just hold him when he cries?



I'd get him to the doctor ASAP though!!!!!!!

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