3 year olb baby talking to herself

Holta - posted on 10/16/2011 ( 39 moms have responded )

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my baby girl is now 3 years old and she is starting to talk to herself a lot. It started when she pretend plays with her dolls or when she is alone by herself. It has since grown into talking to herself quite frequently. Sometimes, when we are out and about with me in her car seat in the back, she'll carry on full conversations with herself. Most often, the other personality she talks as seems to be some kind of "motherly" personalitly.

So, is this normal? Should I worry? Or is this something that all 3 year olds do?

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Sherri - posted on 10/16/2011

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Nope no worries at all, 100% normal

Just a pet peeve though she is 3 yrs old and is long past being a baby.

Ngahina - posted on 10/17/2011

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Look I wouldn't worry about it. It could be that her grandparents or close family who have passed on are visiting her. My uncle and Dad used to visit our babies all the time but they haven't for awhile now. Our dog we grew up with use to come and play with the kids in the lounge. They would be running around and the kids would say we are playing with Kodie. Nobody even told them about Kodie my younger sister was still at school when he died. My baby is now 5 she has an imaginary grandma. At her house she has horses, a Barbie room and her grandma is rich. One of her Kindy Teachers approached me because she was talking about this grandma and she found it really strange. She was talking to her about her being dead and she has all this stuff at her house, she thought it was weird. I told her she needed to work with her if she reacts weird around baby she is going to scare her and then it will become weird. Adults need to be open with childrens imagination or be aware that those who have passed on do visit our babies. I can share many experiences about that, Don't worry if she does mention someone you know who has passed on, tell her next time to tell them you said hello. Perfectly normal stuff.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/16/2011

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It's totally normal, she's probably making up songs and stories which is what my 7 year old did and still does on car rides. She's just working her brain.

Katherine - posted on 10/16/2011

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Nope, no worries. Totally normal. In fact it's good for them. My 2.5 year old does the same thing. Imaginary play is very helpful in their development.

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Caridad - posted on 02/10/2014

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Hi I'm a mother of two kids a 7yr old boy and 2yr old girl my question is my little girl has been talking to herself and it is every day and more than one to two hours

Keri - posted on 10/25/2012

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I often have to ask my 3 year old daughter if she is talking to me because she will be having a full conversation with her pretend mom and Lisa, whoever Lisa is. It is totally normal and nothing to be worried about unless she is reverting to her imaginary world and no longer interacting with the rest of the family.

Collette - posted on 10/18/2011

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My daughter turned 3 in Sept and she talks to herself all the time. Sometimes, I think she's talking to me and I didn't hear her. I'll ask, "What did you say?" She says, "Oh, I was just talking to myself." LOL

Keri - posted on 10/18/2011

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My 11 year old has been doing that since he was about 3. He still does it. Usually he is playing some sort of game. My almost 6 year old started doing it about a year ago and my 2 and half year old has started doing it too. It is a totally normal part of development and it is wonderful that your child has such an active imagination. Unless it is interfering with her making real friends, or in other areas of learning, I don't think it is something to be concerned with. If you are really concerned you can talk with your pediatrician, but He will probably tell you the same thing.

The only time I think it would be worrisome is if she is talking about hurting herself or someone else. That is not real likely to happen with a happy child though.

Annette - posted on 10/18/2011

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my son does it nothing wrong with it it just there imagination and just a thing that most kids do

Rashae - posted on 10/18/2011

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It is something very common in "only children". However, I was still doing it when my brother was born because we are 6 years apart. I can't say it's something they grow out of because I'm 40 years old now! lol

Beck - posted on 10/18/2011

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You have a highly intelligent little girl - Count your blessings!!! This is VERY normal and shows her keen sense of imagination.

Katie - posted on 10/18/2011

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I also meant to say that she is probably the 'mother' in the conversation because she spends a lot of time with you and she gets to be the one in charge in this imaginary play. My daughter quite often puts her pretend baby on the naughty step, makes them pretend lunch etc. My other daughter is only 8 months so effectively the eldest is an only child as they cant play together yet. Is yours eldest or only child as that seems to be the case in a lot of the responses on here? I must record her doing it sometime as it will be so lovely to look back on. I have been writing down the funny things she says so that I can remember it as its just brilliant.

Renee - posted on 10/18/2011

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completely normal. my son talks to himself when playing and sometimes alone and i think it is adorable

Cina - posted on 10/17/2011

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My now 12 year old did that too. When I asked who she was talking to she said no one and continued her conversation with herself. Now she's a very talkative girl although a good portion of her conversations are texting. lol

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/17/2011

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I still talk to myself... heck sometimes I also answer myself back

Rebecca - posted on 10/17/2011

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My 5 year old does it. Heck, I do it!!! I do it to help talk myself through what I need to do, what I am thinking, etc.

Martina - posted on 10/17/2011

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I think its totally normal. Its nice to see how creative they can get when they make up their friends! My daughter used to do it a lot at that age as she was the only child then.....now she is 6 and mainly does it when playing, but now and then she comes to me with invisible cats or dogs and tells me to be careful so I don't squash them with my feet haha. :)

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This is absolutely normal and I think it just shows she is extremely bright and articulate. My son, at that age, would play and talk (by himself) for long periods of time. I recorded a few of those moments and they are my favorites to watch. Is she a firstborn or only child? I think that makes a difference. They have to create their own little world to play in . . .

Genevieve - posted on 10/17/2011

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Don't worry! it is wonderful that she does that, it means she is developing normally. It's important to have a good imagination, and who knows for now she might even have an imaginary friend and that might be why she is having such conversation!

Katie - posted on 10/17/2011

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She has a great imagination and its fantastic that she can and will play by herself. My 3 year old is constantly talking to herself and to her babies, dog, kitten, rabbits (all imaginary and all have their own names). Apparently my older sister had lots of imaginary friends and animals but they phased out when me and my brother arrived a few years later.

Sherri - posted on 10/17/2011

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Cassandra I have 3 children with one on the way. I most certainly have children.



I don't have a problem if left in the home but it is very odd to be referring in public to a 3yr old as a baby. As I stated it was just a personal pet peeve.

Bonnie - posted on 10/17/2011

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I think it is more of a pet name and refering to your child as baby rather than saying your child is a baby.

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/17/2011

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If Sherri doesn't have kids (and she does have kids) why would she be on CoM?

A lot of people do call their older children their babies. Heck my brother has Baby Boy tattooed on his neck in reference to himself. But just the same there are people who get annoyed at calling the child a baby when they're a toddler or older. I call my 7 year old my baby, but not on public forums. I only do that in our home.

Sarah - posted on 10/17/2011

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I remember talking to myself a lot when I was really young. My first imaginary friend that I can remember was a bird, and we chatted it up all the time.

I still talk to myself on occasion. No big deal .;)

Cassandra - posted on 10/17/2011

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Clearly you don't have children. . . I call my 6 year old my baby boy. .. my 3 year old my baby girl and they will ALWAYS be my baby! (at the woman whose pet peeve is you called your daughter baby girl. . .

Bonnie - posted on 10/17/2011

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I say it is normal. It is a good thing she has an imagination. My boys do the same thing!

Jessica - posted on 10/17/2011

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My 3 year old does this also. It's actually very funny to listen to her and what she talks about. Sometimes in the car I can't tell if she is talking to me or not, and if I say "Pardon? I can't hear you" she'll say "Just talking to myself..." I think it's cute. :)

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/17/2011

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My 7 year old has conversations in the backseat with her 7 month old sister on drives up to her grandparents. She'll read her stories too, part from a book and part made up.

Jessica - posted on 10/17/2011

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LOL! My 3.5 yr old daughter has fights with herself... One hand talking to the other, and next thing I know they're fighting!

Leeann - posted on 10/17/2011

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When my daughter was three she had an imaginary friend she called it sissy. its actually why we call her crisse, :) kids are just that kids. my son carries on full covo's with himself, but then again so do I. So no worries momma let your little one do their thing.

Louise - posted on 10/17/2011

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Completely normal....My 5 year old never stops talking and talks himself to sleep....You can learn a lot by listening to them. It is mainly reliving things that have happened in the
day and is a sign of a good imagination.

Tara - posted on 10/16/2011

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Both my girls (3 1/2 and 2) do this. It's just pretend for them and is totally normal. They talk to each other, then they talk to themselves, then they talk to me.

I wouldn't worry at all, pretty much all toddlers I've ever been around have done this at one point.

Lisa - posted on 10/16/2011

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My three year old some does the same thing... It gets frustrating because his imaginary friend's name is 'Mom' so he'll say mom and I'll say what and he says NO the other mom. UGH!!

♥♪Megan♫♥ - posted on 10/16/2011

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My 7 year old is outside by herself on the porch playing with empty detergent bottles because she can. Let your 3 year old be creative because it's good for them

~♥Little Miss - posted on 10/16/2011

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That is awesome! She is showing imagination. Let her keep doing it, really is healthy and normal.

Tamara - posted on 10/16/2011

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Most children have imaginary friends, its nothing to worry about. Just something/someone they more relate to that they can hold conversations with and can play with at their level. I wouldn't worry.

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