35 weeks pregant and baby is huge

Margarita - posted on 11/13/2009 ( 37 moms have responded )

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This is my 2nd pregnancy. My daughter was born at 38 weeks and weighed 8 lbs 8 oz. This baby is measuring 7 lbs 5 oz by sonoogram. I had complications with my daughter because my pelvis was too small for her big self. I want to have a c-section soon because this baby is just as big if not bigger and the doctors just aren't taking me seriously. I can barely move from hip pain and my legs have swelled up. What will it take for them to take me seriously that I really need to have this baby???

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Tania - posted on 11/17/2009

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I am a student midwife, so I hope you can take what I say to heart. Your body will make a baby perfectly for your body. When you are pushing, do NOT stay on your back. This makes your pelvis smaller. If you get up and squat, your pelvis will open up 30% larger. Squatting also uses gravity better and baby more easily descends. You do not want a cesarean. It puts both you and baby at risk for so much more than regular, vaginal birth (infection, breathing issues, bleeding, death). Also, ultrasounds are not an accurate way to measure the size of the baby. And at this point, your baby is gaining fatty mass, not bone mass. Fatty tissues are no problem to pass. Get it out of your mind that this baby is too big. Rest, drink a lot of water.

Sharon - posted on 11/16/2009

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suck it up baby cakes.

this is a baby, not a cake. The baby needs to stay in as long as possible to avoid issues.

And maybe get your tubes tied to avoid this sort of uncomfortable situation in the future.

Mary - posted on 11/14/2009

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I'm really sorry that you are so uncomfortable...this is something that, sadly, is not uncommon at the end of the 3rd trimester, irregardless of the baby's size. No responsible OB would electively do a C-section prior to 39 weeks without an amnio to confirm lung maturity of your baby. I am sure, that despite your aches and pains, you would not want to risk having a baby that stuggles to breathe unless it was medically NECESSARY for the health of you or your baby.

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Cindy - posted on 11/20/2009

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The doctors told the same thing with my son. They told me he would be 10 lbs by the ultrasound. He was 7lbs14.9 oz when he was born 2 weeks after my due date They also told me my daughter would 8lbs she was 7lb 13 oz.when was born five days after my due date So the ultra sounds are never right. Just hang in and get plenty of rest and if still bugs you talk to your doctor about the pain and how you are feeling.

And my son and daughter are now 14 and 11 and are very healthy, my son is now on the smaller side and my daughter is on the larger side

Janice - posted on 11/20/2009

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They induced my first baby a week early because he was suppose to be over 8 lb. He was 7 lb. 13 oz. A good size for a first baby. Second, they said would be bigger and wanted to induce early...I said no. I didn't think they were right. I let them induce on my due date and she was 9 lb. 1 oz. She got stuck coming out and they almost had to break her collar bone to get her out. I could feel (and see) that my 3rd baby was getting pretty big. My hips hurt and I could never get comfortable enough to sleep. They did an amnio. (can't spell it) to test if the lungs were fully developed...that is the issue with inducing too early...they want the lungs developed. Her lungs were fully developed and they induced 3 weeks early...she was 8 lb. 4 oz. If she had stayed in she would have been over 9 lb. She was fully developed and just gaining weight! I would ask for an amnio at the earliest possible time when you can have the baby and if he/she has fully developed lungs then there should be no reason not to go ahead with the birth. Make them listen to you!!!!!!

Amanda - posted on 11/19/2009

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Quoting Tania:



Quoting Krista:

Why do women even bother conceiving a child if they aren't ready for all that comes with it?





I love this! I mean, seriously! Women are like, 'My baby doesn't sleep through the night!', 'Help! All my baby does is nurse!' Um, yeah. Part of being a parent!






LMAO!  you girls are so right, i'm glad someone finally came out and said it!

Tania - posted on 11/19/2009

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Quoting Krista:

Why do women even bother conceiving a child if they aren't ready for all that comes with it?


I love this! I mean, seriously! Women are like, 'My baby doesn't sleep through the night!', 'Help! All my baby does is nurse!' Um, yeah. Part of being a parent!

Krista - posted on 11/19/2009

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Why do women even bother conceiving a child if they aren't ready for all that comes with it?

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Hi, I think you should try and get lots of rest and try & stop worrying...When you next see your consultant/Gp/Midwife you need to express your concerns! I was told when i was near my due date my baby woule be nearly 8lbs...turned out Harry was a whopping 9lbs 12.5oz!!! (natural delivery!) so dont be guided by ultrasound or what they say as it's often inaccurate!! Take care x

Isobel - posted on 11/16/2009

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A friend of mine had gestational diabetes, then gave birth to a 9 pound preemie. Size is not the only issue when it comes to the health of a newborn. At 35 weeks, the baby's lungs aren't fully formed yet. Giving birth this early could have life altering effects on the baby.

I know it hurts but try to relax and keep your feet up (mine swelled up too...I know it isn't fun)

Krista - posted on 11/16/2009

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I'm sorry, but in all of this all I hear is "me, me, me" when I SHOULD be hearing "what's best for the baby?"
My son was born at 8lbs 11oz......I too, had complications from being too narrow. That resulted in me actually being able to feel them cutting my abdomen open in the c-section. I'm pregnant again and you know what? I have no qualms over doing it again because it's what's best for the baby.
Sorry, but I feel like you're being COMPLETELY selfish.

Amanda - posted on 11/16/2009

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you're just going to have to suck it up, the Dr's main concern is the health of your baby. i would think that you could suffer through the pain for a couple more weeks to allow your baby to finish developing. i've been there, i was a size 0 when i got pregnant and carried a 10lb 8 oz baby far over my due date (he was estimated at 11 lbs 2 oz by sonogram the day i had him). i had a c-section due to size. just because my 2nd is measuring big already does not mean i am going to ask for him to be delivered early, his health is far more important than any pain i will suffer to ensure his safety.

sorry if that is blunt or rude, but plenty of us carry big babies and have a small pelvis, just be greatful that c-sections even exist.

Tabby - posted on 11/16/2009

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If they see that you have a problem. make sure you are telling them everything, past history everything.. they can't just turn there back on you.. When they do ultrasounds or sonograms and feel the baby is distressed, they will do an emergency c-section, or if there are complications with you. Talk to them more and it it comes down to it, change doctors to whom you can count on! They need to take you seriously. Just because there doctors and nurses doesn't necessary mean they have kids either, so they might not understand.. you deserve better.

Lisa - posted on 11/16/2009

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My son, my first child was 9lb.11oz. which sounds enormous but I had him naturally with the help of forcepts. He wasn't chubby at all and his head was a perfectly normal circumfrence, but he was really long. Maybe your baby will just be tall like mine and everything will work out for you but I would wait. If you are having trouble in labour they will use forcepts or give you a c-section, it will all work out just try to be patient.

Ava - posted on 11/15/2009

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You won't be having the baby early more than likely, you will have it when it's ready to come. Big weight doesn't mean you'll get to have it right now. But they might put you on bed rest and let you have a c-section a few weeks close to your due date. Sounds to me like you need to switch doctors. If you're going with a hospital and not a birth center, that might be why they aren't listening to you.

Carrie - posted on 11/15/2009

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I am sorry you are not feeling well. You need to have people wait on you so you can get your rest. Also to let your baby develop more especially his/her lungs. I too cannot have babies over 8lbs naturally. My baby measured 9 lbs 9ozs at 35 weeks. I stayed strong and did my job. He was born at 40 weeks weighing in at 10lbs 61/2 ozs and 21 1/2inches long. Hang in there.

Teresa - posted on 11/14/2009

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My fourth child was just off 10pound when he was born, i knew he was going to be big. I was in alot of pain under my ribs and felt i couldn't breath, the sonographer and the doctor both warned me he was going to be big. I begged the doctors to induce me early for the last couple of weeks of the pregnacy and they refused Flat. they said unless i am over by 10 days they wouldn't conder it. i ended up giving birth a couple of days after the due date. It was the most pain i had had in any of the births, and i ended up having an epidural. The previous births were all with out pain meds. Doctor are pretty stubborn........ In the end i got through it and my baby although big is well worth it.

Hayley - posted on 11/14/2009

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Yeah i would just wait it out, they told me my baby was going to be really really little like 4lb to 5lb but born by c-seaction after 12 hours labour and at 42 weeks and she was 7lb 15oz so they not all was right! Just take it easy and let people do things for you! Good luck n hope all gos well with whatever you :)

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I went to 41 weeks and my son weighed 9 lbs 9 oz and was almost 22 in long. When I first got pregnant I weighed 113 lbs and when I had my son I weighed 153lbs. I was miserable the last couple of weeks but I knew that my son was healthy and would come out when he wanted to come out. I got the epidural at 4cm and slept through the rest of my labor. I dilated to 10 cm and only pushed for 14 mins and he was here! Out of all my friends I have had the biggest baby and was pregnant the longest. I was fine knowing how much he weighed and knowing I was going to give birth to him. My friends kept telling me to get induced and get it over with but I knew he would come when he was ready. Doctors are doctors for a reason. If they see some kind of medical reason to take the baby early then they will. I think they won't do a c-section until 36-38 weeks but i am not positive. Just hang in there and get rest. I hope everything works out.

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As other moms have said, sonograms aren't always correct. They can be off in either direction. At 35 weeks, your baby is still at high risk for complications if you gave birth now. As long as you don't have a condition that's threatening your or your child's health, a responsible OB wouldn't give you a c-section this early, even if you do have a big baby. You may be uncomfortable, but if you had your baby now, there could be lifelong repercussions to his or her health. You really need to wait it out at least until 38 weeks when your baby should be developed enough to be born. What your doctor should be taking seriously, though, is your pain and discomfort, which can happen regardless of the size of your baby. It sounds like you could use bed rest and someone to help you out until you can safely have this baby.

Brandy And Dale - posted on 11/14/2009

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i had my baby at 38 weeks and the doc told me she was going to be a lil over 6 pounds.. well she was born being 6 pounds 6 oz. and that was a week before i had her

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I think if you make it to 38 weeks they technically won't stop you if you go into labor and I believe the option to induce is there since its technically considered full-term at 38 weeks. You may want to talk to your doctor about having an amnio test to determine if your baby's lungs are developed if you are really wanting to deliver before 38 weeks. I understand what you're going through though. Everyone told me my baby was going to be big since around 20weeks, then I got gestational diabetes and had to really watch the baby's growth rate. The last two weeks I blew up 12 lbs from water weight (I had edema) and I ended up having an emergency C-section because my 8 lb, 12oz baby was stuck in my pelvis. They had told me that he would be born about 7 1/2lbs, so they actually let me go 10 days over my due date, needless to say they were off by over a pound. Sonograms are not 100% accurate for weight measurements apparently... If I would have been induced at 38 weeks, I probably wouldn't have had to get a C-section. Good luck with your delivery!

Jacqueline - posted on 11/14/2009

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When I was 37 weeks, we were measuring at 43.. I ended up being induced 4 days earlier than my due date. My sonograms were saying he was over 8 pounds and showed that I was holding a LOT of amniotic fluid which throws off the reading quite a bit. I was completley swollen from head to toe..and my OB finally decided to take him by Csection after 6 hours of labor..and he came out weighing 7pounds13ounces!

Tammy - posted on 11/14/2009

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tel me about it my 1st baby was 8Ib 12 oz my second was 9Ib 9oz they tend to get bigger each one u av. wen i was preg with my 3rd child i found it inpossible to move i was in so much pain i kept tellin the midwife the babay is to big she said its not even tho my 1st 2 was big i was told in every pregnancy they were 2 small and had to have extra scans . when i did have my 3rd child after bein made to go 2 weeks over she weighed a whopping 12Ib 0z they then told me i shouldn,t of had her naturall because i was very high risk of complications she as now just gone 2 years and i have had problems ever since because of her size .

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I was a gestational diabetic and didn't get diagnosed until I was almost 27wks. Stella was born via C-sect at 9lbs 12oz. They "guesstimated" her measurement at 7lbs 8oz when I was 35wks and they made me carry out until my due date to ensure the lungs were fully developed...I'm a fairly small build at 5' 2" and I couldn't lift my legs onto the ottoman when I sat down--someone had to help me. If I knelt down for anything, I needed help getting back up. Walking was difficult b/c of course I had an almost 10 pounder baking PLUS all the water weight....I was in pure misery--discomfort and I begged an pleaded for my doctor to do an early delivery and he just smiled and said it'd be over before I knew it.....So, I KNOW how you feel..

Tracie - posted on 11/14/2009

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My doc wouldn't take him before 39 weeks, I had gained 40 pounds (second pregnancy) and my stomach was HUGE, and I was in constant pain. I went into labor 2 days before my scheduled c-section (my first was CS as well,) and my son was 10 pounds 12 ounces! I am glad we waited though, because my doc told me the concern wasn't his size, the concern was fetal lung development. I decided I would rather have a huge baby with mature lungs, than risk a slightly smaller baby with breathing troubles. Good luck to you, and keep trying to build yourself up. The baby will come, and you will not even remember the pains.



By the way, he is now six months old and weighs 20 pounds 1 ounce, and is 27.5 inches long, and we just started baby food 4 days ago! He was born big, and has stayed big!

Stephanie - posted on 11/14/2009

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I remember my mom had the same problem. My oldest brother was 8lbs 7oz (I think). Then I came along at 9lbs 6oz. My younger brother was 10lbs even and the youngest was 9lbs 3oz. They wouldn't let her have a c-section early for any of us because of course they wanted her to wait until the due date. You will probably just have to wait in there so I wish you luck.

Rachel - posted on 11/14/2009

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hiya, my baby was also huge, i couldnt sleep or do anything, i had several scans after 20 weeks and at 36 weeks the scan predicted he was already 8lbs. Naturally being my first child i panicked at having to deliver such a huge boy, so i asked whether i could be induced at 38 weeks which we did, 3 days of labour and finally after getting to 10cms, he was too big ad got stuck so we had an emergency c section, he arrived healthy weighing 9lbs 2 so im glad i asked to be induced early. Im not sure if this is an option for where you are?????? but good luck. :o)

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Hi Margarita.



My 3rd baby was very difficult to carry. My first was a preemie, born at 36 weeks and weighing only 4lbs 15oz. My 2nd was born at 37 weeks and 7lbs 5oz. My 3rd was measuring bigger than 7lbs 5oz early too. I was told that this baby was growing at an alarming rate. I spent the last 3 months on bed rest, and just grew. So painful to walk, stand, sleep...At any rate, when I went into labor naturaly on my 37th week, my doc was happy for me, since she feared I had a little giant in there. Guess what? My baby weighed 6lbs 13oz. Turns out I was filled with so much amniotic fluid that it made the baby measure so huge. My doc said she'd never seen so much...lol. I say you not worry, and do wait until after your 37th week, because before that your baby may not be ready to breath on his/her own. Hang in there. If the baby IS too big at time of birth, your doc will certainly be ready to deliver via C-section, if need be. :o)

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RELAX!!! - put yourself on bed rest!!! Let other people do everything for you. You have a very important job to do - finish letting that baby develope. Eat healthy, read books for yourself and your daughter. Try to enjoy the pampering. My daughter was 10.7 lbs. c-section of course - but healthy!

Ashley - posted on 11/14/2009

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yes ultrasounds can be wrong but they can also be right. when i was 37 weeks i had an ultrasound and baby was weighing 8 pounds 4 ounces. i'm telling you when she told me 8 pounsd 4 ounces i broke out into a sweat. my mom happened to be at that appointment with me and when i looked at her face her mouth was opened. she was in shock. i had a doctors appointment the next day and told my dr i was scared because he was so big. he said dont worry ultrasounds usually arent correct with weight. he said you can usually tell by the fluid and your fluid is only at 60% which means he wont be that big. a wk later i had him. he weighed in at 8 pounds 14 ounces. i didnt get to see my drs face but according to my mom his mouth just dropped. she said he looked atleast 3 times at the scale and couldnt beleive he was actually that big. so for me the ultrasound was pretty much exact with his weight.

Helen - posted on 11/14/2009

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like everyone says you'll have to wait a bit longer sorry but hopefully you'll have this little one soon, i was induced at 37 weeks 'cos my little one was big

Dana - posted on 11/13/2009

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I had an ultrasound at 36 weeks and they measured my lil man at 6Ib 1oz., i had him 2 days later (induced due to high blood pressure) and he was 5Ib 9oz. so you never know.

Kristina - posted on 11/13/2009

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I agree with waiting it out. If you're concerned with the pain you should really push your doc for some help. My 3rd was 'measuring' to be 8lbs+ at due date. She came a week early and was 5lbs 11oz. There's no way she would have gained enough in one week to come close to 8lbs, so the sonogram was way off.

Jodi - posted on 11/13/2009

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I agree with Christina, the sonograms aren't always correct at all. I had this problem throughout my pregnancy. One minute I was told she was too small, next being told my dates must be out because of her tiny size, then I was told she was actually average. In the end, when I was 34 weeks, they told me she would be around 7 1/2 lb. She was actually born at only 5lb 2oz at full term. So they were a whole 2lb out on their estimates.



Hang in there for another couple of weeks, then if you still have concerns have a very serious talk with your doctor about it, and ask him why he is not concerned. Is he the same doctor you had when you had your daughter?

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The sonogram isn't always correct. They were telling me that I was going to have a huge baby because that is what they thought through the sonogram pictures. A car accident made them take her at 37 weeks by c-section and she was only 5lbs 10 oz. I would just wait it out

Wendi - posted on 11/13/2009

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They won't let you have a baby before 36 weeks. If you go into labor before 36 weeks, they will try and stop it because it is too early. That's what they did with me. My first son was 8 lbs 15 oz. They let me have a c-section with my 2nd one about 10 days before my due date. They only gave me option of the c-section b/c I tore so bad with my first. They said that they normally like for the women to have it naturally but if you have a 3rd or 4th degree tear that they will give you the option of the c-section.

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