4-year old waking up every night

User - posted on 06/10/2009 ( 10 moms have responded )

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My 4 year old son has been waking up every night (around 3-4 am) for the past ffew months. It's either monsters, noises, he misses me or daddy. I have a 2 year old and 3month old as well. I need some sleep. Luckily my 3-month old sleeps but I need my 4 year old to sleep. I walk him back to bed and he eithers goes right back to sleep or he wants me to lay with him. I'd be lying if i said I haven't laid there and fallen asleep myself, as much as I know that doesn't help, but some nights i feel like a zombie. Any helpful suggestions?

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ACS - posted on 10/02/2011

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My 4 year old boy doesn't sleep through either. He has had night terrors and nightmares as long as I can remember. He goes to sleep very well, but between 11 and 2, he goes into shrieking fits a half dozen times (sometimes he wakes up, mostly he isn't really awake). After 2 am, he's usually fine. But OMG, I haven't slept all night long since the start of the third trimester and I'm feeling it...

Anne - posted on 06/11/2009

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its really hard to take them back when they sneek in .one of mine did this nearly all the time till he was about 8. he always went to his own bed on his own and nearly

every night he would slip in and we never felt him it was quite funny really.. he grew out of it .still dont know why he certainly was not lonely as he is the youngest of 5 but as he was our last we just decided to suck as much goodness from him as possile cause they just grow up to fast...lol

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Jamie - posted on 06/11/2009

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I made up a little bed on the floor next to my bed and said if you have to come to my room you can sleep on your little bed in my room ( which was just a couple of blankets and pillows) first he started sleeping in it then just started sleeping in his own bed because it was more comfortable than the floor. But it did take a while

Yvonne - posted on 06/11/2009

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I have four children and I swear that I was unable to sleep through the night until my oldest was 10. He slowly transitioned from sleeping in my room, to sleeping in his room with his little sister, to sleeping in his room with his little brother. Even then, he woke me up at least once a night to use the bathroom. It slowly improved to where instead of me accompanying him to the bathroom, he just checked in on me to make sure everything was OK. Nothing really made a difference - he really needed the reassurance of mom to be able to sleep.

I know that is no consolation, but it will improve as he feels more comfortable in his world. It is simply a reflection of how secure he feels in the world. One thing that helped was making him a dream catcher and telling him the native American belief that they capture bad dreams/monsters and trap them in the web leaving him to sleep in peace.

Linda - posted on 06/11/2009

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I have a 3yr old son and we just now are getting him to sleep in his own bed. I found a Parents mag and it has suggestions in it. It is the 2009 June addition and it has been very helpful. So far I have had a few good nights sleep. The first couple of weeks were ruff but its getting better.

Lydia - posted on 06/11/2009

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My niece used to get afraid of various 'monsters' at night. Her Mum leaves her light on for her and that helps. I also have given her some crystals to protect her from any 'bad things' (whether you believe or not - if they believe it, it can help) She still wakes up occassionally though but I think she stays in her own bed now. Good Luck!

Sarah - posted on 06/10/2009

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I can relate 100% to what you are going through. My son, also 4, wakes up in the middle of the night as well, and wants to sleep with me, a lot of the time I don't even know he is there until I wake up. The best advice i got was to just take him to bed and leave him there. Don't look at him, or talk to him, just take him to bed and say one thing, "it's bedtime I will see you in the morning I love you" and that's all. That is what I had to do to get him to actually go to bed at bedtime. He would cry and slam stuff in his room around, I was scared it would wake up his little sister, but thankfully she sleeps like a rock. And soon enough, he was going to bed without a problem. So that is what worked for me, and I am still working on this whole 4am thing, I will (if I wake up when he comes to my bed) take him to his room and close the door. He might read a book or something, but he will usually fall back asleep. A nightlight also helped my little guy with sleeping (and a fan too). Hopefully you can get some sleep soon!!

User - posted on 06/10/2009

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my daughter is 4 and has never slept through, in and out of our bed. I too have fell asleep on her bed. Reward charts never worked with me but i would try it if i were you. My daughter just doesnt want to be alone and even though i have put her in the same room as her sister 2 yrs and asked her to look after her at night, she still wants us. Are we just too nice, maybe we have to be a stricter mum. i know i couldnt do that though. I am taking my daughter to a sleep specialist for advice. My daughter has nightmares and seperation anxiety (only at night though). Good luck (i also wonder if they get cold in the middle of the night)

Tina - posted on 06/10/2009

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i know just how u feel,my 3yr old does the same thing hell sleep in his bed but no fail 3 or 4 hes smack dab in the middle of his father and i we use 2 get up and put him back in his own bed but we totally got lazy and have excepted it only problem is we sleep terribly 1 ;lil person seems 2 almost do acrobats in bed w/ us squirms all over!i 2 would like some advice..teehee hopefully they will grow out of it but my son does not like 4 me 2 ever b out of site!

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