4 yr. old still wearing pull ups to bed

Angie - posted on 02/14/2010 ( 28 moms have responded )

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My daughter is 4 years and 4 months old she is fully potty trained during the day, never has any accidents. It was realy hard to potty train her, she has only been fully trained, without any accidents for about 7 months now. We started potty training when she was about 2 and a half. She wears regular "big girl panties" during the day now, but at night she has to wear a pull up to bed and pees in it every night! Is this normal? When do they usualy grow out of this and what can I do to help her?

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Nicole - posted on 02/14/2010

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My four year old boy is still wearing pull ups to bed, sometimes he wakes up dry. I've heard that until they wake up dry consistently that they are not able to wear underpants to bed. I think it's totally normal and as they mature they will be able to transition. Hope this helps!

Corina - posted on 02/15/2010

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Have you tried waking her up at night preferably the same time every night and take her to the toilet. my girls (twins) were wetting themselves to the point of leaking out the sides, since waking them for approx 5 months dry nights, occasional small wet spots in nappy pants but overall dry. they are starting to wake themselves now. Yes they go back to sleep. Try and use as less light as possible so not to stimulate them to wake up completely, l use a sensor light in toilet that has really low light, but enough to see. hope this helps goodluck!

Bobbi-Jo - posted on 02/15/2010

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My son was fully trained day and night when he was 21/2. He's now 8 and he wears a pull-up to bed ever night and is wet every morning. We will even limit what he has to drink before he goes to bed. We can even wake him up to pee in the night, but he'll still wake up wet. Just be patient. Some kids just have a small bladder and are too heavy of a sleeper to wake up on their own to go pee.

Katherine - posted on 02/15/2010

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I think the biggest thing is to stay away from the liquids. My 3 year old son wears underwear to bed and wakes up dry every morning, because we don't allow him milk, juice, or anything else to drink (except water in small doses) after about 6:30 pm. Of course we never deny him water if he's thirsty, but if he asks for it we give it to him in small amounts to help keep his bladder from filling. Going pee in the toilet directly before bed is a must, and I think it's also a good idea to keep a potty chair in the child's room. That way, they can wake up and go pee if they need to.

Another thing is that perhaps part of it is a comfort, or she's going in her pull-ups strictly for the ease of it. I'd say, forego the pull-ups altogether, and start a strict rule about the liquids, and you might very well have better luck.
All the best!

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Sarah - posted on 02/15/2010

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I have a 7 and a half year old who still wears pull-ups. My brother, mother, father, grand mother, her father, aunt, etc. all had this problem until about 12 years old. I saw a doctor about it when she was about 5. They will not do any tests until they are at least seven because it is SO common for children's bladders to not develop as quickly as other children. Now at seven, she seems to be growing out of it. Keeping liquids from them before bed will not help if their bladder has not developed as quickly as the rest of her body or if your daughter has the same problem as my daughter and doesn't always completely empty her bladder. Having SO many family members who have had this problem, I have been told that with-holding liquids will just make them feel like they are being punished for having a problem beyond their control.

Laurie - posted on 02/15/2010

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My daughter will be 4 in April and she also wears pull ups to bed. She wakes up dry sometimes but not consistently. Our pediatrican says some kids take more time for their bladders to develop and not to worry. For older kids they have medication to help now but I dont think its necessary until your kids start having sleepovers with their friends (then they would be embarssed). I also think you dont need to worry. We do praise her tons when she wakes up dry and she is really proud when she does so make sure you acknowlede the accomplishment even if its only 1 day.

Sandy - posted on 02/15/2010

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My son just turned 5 and still wears pull-ups to bed at night. I asked his doctor about it and his doctor said that it was perfectly normal for some kids to have trouble staying dry at night. He said the he wouldn't worry about it until he was about 7-8. He said some children just sleep to deep to realize that they need to go to the bathroom.

Heather - posted on 02/15/2010

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My son was exactly the same way. He will be five in March. I actually found that if I take him to the potty before I go to bed, he always stays dry all night long. He sleeps really hard and I think this is why it is hard for him to wake up and go to the bathroom. Anytime I accidentally forget, he has an accident, so I have been religious about remembering. Hope this helps!

Shell - posted on 02/15/2010

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My son was 8 before he stopped wearing pull ups to bed. He wore underwear during the day, but couldn't stay dry at night--even if I woke him to go to the bathroom in the middle of the night. I wouldn't worry too much about it. It seems pretty common for kids to wet the bed at night. Rest assured you are doing absolutely nothing wrong.

Julie - posted on 02/15/2010

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It can be very normal.  My step-daughter had night accidents until she was 9.  I was ready to pull my hair out - sometimes 2 a night.  She also had urinary tract problems since she was a baby and has undergone 2 minor surgeries since then.  So we've seen the pediatric urologist very regularly.  Even though she had these problems, the doctor said normal children can wet the bed sometimes to the age of 12.  They usually just out grow it.  If they have buring during urination and dark colored stains in their underware during the day - get them checked out for problems - Urinary tract infections or problems holding in part of the urine throught the day.  When they out grow pull up, they usually are at the age that they do NOT want to wear adult diapers so we layered the bed.  Waterproof sheet, fitted sheet, waterproof sheet, fitted sheet, and again - each time she wet - SHE could take care of herself and pull the layer off - jump in the shower and go back to bed - this really helped with her self esteem issues.  We did not allow her to have any drinks 2 or 3 hours before bedtime.  And we/her alarm woke her up in the middle of the night to use the restroom.  These are accidents and they do not do it on purpose.  LOTS of LOVE, PATIENCE, and PRAYERS will get you through this!

Cathleen - posted on 02/15/2010

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Hello Angie,
I just want to strengthen what most of the other moms have said:
Don't panic .... Keep cool .... Don't be angry ..... Praise and special treat for dry pull ups ....... cut back on fluid intake after tea time (don't deny, just small amounts), Work with her and the day should come when she will say that she wont need the pullups any more. At least pullups save embarrassing wet sheets.
Every child is different and as a Granny I am delighted to see that bed wetting has so much more understanding these days.
Well done to all moms
Cathleen

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sometimes they just go deep into sleep they don't feel the need to wake up. this can take awhile. years in a lot of cases.
i was a stay at home mom with my 3 so i could stay up all night checking to see if there was a regular pattern as to the times they would pee in their pullups or diapers. then i would be able to wake them regularly at that time to get their bodies used to waking up and going themselves. of all the stages i think potty training is the worst. with all the cleaning involved,
good luck, hopefully you'll be one of the lucky ones and it doesn't drag out. but for NOW...keep the pullups on

Krystal - posted on 02/15/2010

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hi i was a bedwetter myself from the ages of 3-16 years old. i had bladder problems and minor kidney problems, i tried everything from medication new one evry week as i was becomeing amune to them, bedwetting alarm to stopping drinks from 6pm onwards to a reward system, i had alot of tests done but everything they tried on me didnt work, the only thing that did kinda help was that they told me when i started to need the toilet during the day and night, i should count to 10 unless i was very desprite to go that did actually help. but i just had to wait till it stopped and it eventually did. i do also have alot of urine infections weekly. i wore pull ups till i was 6 then i couldnt fit in them anymore, my mum put a waterproof sheet on my matteress and woke me up 4 times a nite and i would still end up wet. in the end i just learned to live with it. dont make a big deal of it, give her lots of support and help her through it. she needs to know mummy isnt goin to get upset or angry when she does it because the fear of it makes the bedwetting worse. shes only 4 and its alot for her to handle, take it from someone thats been in her shoes its not nice to wake up in cold wet pee nearly every morning its so emmbaressing and you feel guilty for wetting the bed even thought you know you cant controll whats happenening. you might find that nothing works and like i did you might have to live and deal with it till she does grow out of it. it runs through my family to, my mum had it, my nan also had it. have you been to the doctors, if you havent i would suggest going they might be able to tell you if something is making her wet the bed nothing worked for me but there might be something that workes for your daughter. but please watever you do dont put pressure on her or make he feel like she doing it on purpose because believe me no child wets the bed almost every night on purpose. hope you find something that works for you and mostly for your daughter. good luck and best wishes. krystal :)

Louise - posted on 02/15/2010

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Did you know it's classed as normal/ok for a child 7 and under to keep wetting the bed, my daughter is 7 and still had the odd accident! don't worry yourself.. Thankfully it's not got worse sine our baby daughter was born, but if it carrys on later on this yr we will back to the dr's..

Trindy - posted on 02/15/2010

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All kids learn in their own time, my son has only just got out of pull ups at six and a half. Don't stress to much as it will happen, we used knickers on weekends when we had time to wash bedding, to make sure it wasn't laziness. He was just a heavy sleeper. He was out nappys during the day by three.

Jane - posted on 02/15/2010

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my nephew was in them until he was 7. you'll have to end her drinks at night earlier and pick a time during the night when you wake her up and bring her to the potty. pick the same time every night and eventually she'll wake herself up.

Kelly - posted on 02/15/2010

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see if there is a family history of it... normally the bed wetting runs inthe family.
Goodluck

Stephanie - posted on 02/15/2010

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it may be normal. speak with your pedi to rule out any problems such as too small bladder, infection, etc. if no probs, be patient.

Melissa - posted on 02/14/2010

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My 4 and a half year old also wears pull up's to bed (no probs at all during the day with underwear) and the nappy is always full in the morning - I was starting to wonder myself if this was normal but im gathering its not uncommon. Once my son is asleep he is impossible to wake to the point I have given up trying to get him up later on in the night to go toilet..... just letting you know your not the only one in this situation!

Elisa - posted on 02/14/2010

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I have one son 5 doesn't have any problems at night and I have one son 8 who still has to wear pullups. But when the 8yr old falls asleep a bomb couldn't wake him. the 5 yr old wakes when you walk in the room. I think it is a combination of how deep they sleep and if their bladders are ready for it. Be positive, it is all you can do.

Jacqueline - posted on 02/14/2010

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I believe this is normal, but if you want to completely train her, try not to give her any liquids 1-2 hours and take a couple of trips to the potty before bed. I have three children and this was the only way and it did work. But the pull ups for a while is perfectly normal.

Theresa - posted on 02/14/2010

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My son had that problem for a long time, like until he was 8. I talked to his ped about it, was wondering about meds or something. He said not to even worry about it until at least 6. He said it's not uncommon for kids to still wet the bed when they're a bit older, especially boys. He said that 10% of 18 year old males still occassionally wet the bed. I was surprised at that. It will stop eventually. In the mean time she probably is already self conscious about it enough. Don't make a big deal out of it.

Cynthia - posted on 02/14/2010

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it could be for her. one thing you could look at is how late you let her have any fluids? when our children where little they all still needed to have one more drink before bed, so they always peed. our son was 7 yrs old when he stopped peeing at night. our daughter was just afraid of getting out of bed to go pee, so we had night lights leading to the bathroom. and the bathroom we had two lights in there (one not as bright as the other so as not to blind her). I say to try different things but not to make a BIG deal over it. She's doing GREAT!

Arrica - posted on 02/14/2010

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My daughter is 4 years and 7 months and she's been potty trained since she was 2. I never had this problem with her but up until she was about 3 I didn't let her have anything to drink for about an hour to an hour and a half before bed and made her go potty before bed. Now that she's older, if she has to go potty in the middle of the night she wakes up and takes herself to the bathroom. I'm sure it's totally normal though but not letting them have a drink and making them go potty I'm sure will help.

Keely - posted on 02/14/2010

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I think she will be ready when she is ready and if not it doesn't matter. Just keep up the rewards for dry nights.

Florance - posted on 02/14/2010

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Some children wet the bed until almost puberty. It is not uncommon. Thankfully pull-ups are available and then once she outgrows them there are other products available. The proper term for bedwetting is enuresis. The best advice I can give you is to continue to develop her self confidence and do not punish her for the night time "accidents". There are web sites that will give you a lot of pointers on helping her and you with this. Here is a link that may help http://familydoctor.org/online/famdocen/...

Chris - posted on 02/14/2010

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My daughter is almost 12 now but she had accidents up until she was 9. I expected it because her cousin and uncle both did the same thing. I think it is perfectly normal. I think you should still continue a reward system for dry nights so that there is still some motivation to learn to control it and not become complacent. Don't fret! She'll outgrow it someday! Chris

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