4yr old boy kicked out of school for hair

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Sharon - posted on 01/12/2010

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His parents knew the rules.



They don't like it, they shouldn't ask ##### students to accept their normalcy, they should find a school that is their version of normal.



Schools are coming around to making conformity rules to get rid of kids fighting. To prevent kids from standing out, to prevent shit like columbine.



if all kids are dressed alike, and basically look alike, alot of those silly rivalries will be null.



The playing ground will never be perfectly level. But its a step in the right direction.



I'm all about individuality and non conformity. Ask anyone here. I refuse to fit anyones mold. But when I go to work, I wear the specified clothes, fix my hair, and dress clean & neat. & face it, that kid is going to wear a uniform of some sort, he'd better get used to the idea of conforming.



So get over it. Frankly I'm looking forward to schools getting rid of belly revealing shirts for 5 yr olds or 15 yr olds. And buttcracks. Sloppy looks.



The child has an option to keep his hair long, his parents just want to buck the system.



I brush and plait my daughters hair every day - they can do the same.



OH, and a child with neon pink hair would be a distraction.



School isn't a fashion show, its for LEARNING. For getting an education so you know that when you sign your child up for a school and get the pamphlet that specifies "hair no longer than... for boys..." you'll understand it and not snivel about it.

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Agreed. The parents knew the policies. I think that they are being stupid. If they didn't agree with the policy, they never should have placed their child in that school. Now they are all just punishing the child. I saw the mom's interview and I also saw the child speak. He said that he missed his friends, he didn't really seem to care about his hair. It seems like the mom is trying to fight a battle here, and while I see what she is doing, she is only helping to punish her child for her beliefs.

Susan - posted on 01/17/2010

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I am sorry but he is a little boy not a girl, long hair is for girls. Rules are Rules and they are going to be in our life forever! Teach them now because when they (KIDS) reach the work field they have to follow the rules........thats my opinion.

Brandy - posted on 01/12/2010

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I dont understand the whole perspective that if kids all look alike then there will be less bullying and kids being picked on. I find that ridiculous. Kids will find something to use to pick on kids. It's part of life, and has been that way for eternity. I'm not saying bullying is ok. I'm saying that if it's not clothes or hair it will be where their parents work or what kind of house they live in. It's a part of life than cannot be avoided. There are life lessons learned during our school years.....ones that can be learned from being different. Maybe I'm wrong but I think people try to protect kids so much sometimes that they forget to let them live and learn. I dont like the thought of my kids being the target for other kids to make fun of them, but when that happened to my oldest child we worked through it together, and although it hurt his feelings he learned ways to ignore it and deal with it. Those are things he will use all his life.

Angie - posted on 01/12/2010

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I don't believe this is discrimination because the child was breaking the school's dress code. The parents didn't do their homework before they signed their child up. The entire thing is stupid. Unless the child's hair is causing a disruption at school he should be able to look messy. The parents went WAY overboard in calling the press. As soon as we don't get our way, we call the press or a lawyer. Get over it, folks, it's not a big deal!

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Kelly - posted on 01/24/2010

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i think that the schools have to have rules and some parents obviously dont want to abide by them ...what example is this setting for her little boy? she should do what it takes to have her son back in school...so he can get his education ..which is more important than having long hair!!!!!

Lauren - posted on 01/24/2010

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okay a DRESS code violation would be what he's wearing, HAIR should not be a dress code!!! If he really does like his hair then let him like it, thats showing a 4 yr old how to judge people who are different, total discrimination!! its a public school and they have no right, its not effecting anyone but this poor little boy!

Lauren - posted on 01/24/2010

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okay a DRESS code violation would be what he's wearing, HAIR should not be a dress code!!! If he really does like his hair then let him like it, thats showing a 4 yr old how to judge people who are different, total discrimination!! its a public school and they have no right, its not effecting anyone but this poor little boy!

Michelle - posted on 01/24/2010

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Has anyone stopped to think about the fact that long hair just gets in the way? This FOUR year old boy will be learning letters, numbers, shapes and the general school rules. Its hard to see with your hair in your face.

As for school rules, they were made, in general, for the good of the whole student body. Mainly dress code rules teach the older students how to look presentable and to take pride in their appearance. They have a dress code to prepare them for adult life.

As for individuality, he's FOUR!!!. He wants to go to school and play with his friends. If he gets knowledge out of it too then good for him. That is what school is for four year olds. When he's older, he can express HIS individuality (not his mother's) through art work, writing, and public speaking.

I have a four and a 6 year old, both boys. When they are older, their hair is not going to be something I will raise a huge fuss over. As long as its kept neat and out of their face, then I have no problem with them having longer hair. I will explain that people in society generally frown upon long hair and that some companies have restrictions against it.

The parents were offered a compromise, but they refused. Come on and wake up parents. There are things that we have to do. We may not like it, but we have to do it. This is what schools are trying to teach with the dress code.

Jeni - posted on 01/24/2010

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I think that this is nuts!!! How does the length of this kid's hair cause any problems with how he or anyone else does their school work? My fiancee works in a business setting with his hair down to the middle of his back and tattoos on his arms and his boss doesn't care as long as he is doing the awesome work he always does. So how does a 4 year old get bounced out of preschool for having long hair? I can't believe that there is this kind of ignorant discrimination out there still....

Carol - posted on 01/23/2010

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Who are you or anybody else to say what is a boys haircut and what is a girls haircut for someone else. Everybody has there own thoughts on that. There was some one else once who thought the perfect person was blond hair blue eyes and he was the one to tell people what to do and how to do it and look what happened there. Everybody is different in this society. Lets say a boy comes in with a cleff lip and his parents can't afford to get the surgury that would fix it. To a child that is a distraction they stare because he is different. No one would think of saying he can't come to school because it would be a distraction. Come on people, there are many distractions to a child but hair isn't one of them. Now I am all for a dress code but this is going to far. This argument has been going on for many years. Growing up I remember the long hair issue and most were much longer than this little boys. 3/4 of the boys I grew up with had long hair and they are now scientist, Doctors, computor geek ect. I remember elephant pants that the girls wore and they were as much as 4-5 inches to long. I remember Elvis not shown from the waist up because of him shaking his legs to much. Doies anybody remember sizzler dresses and the go go boots. They were dresses that were as short if not shorter than a mini skirt with matching panties for when you bent over. The only differance between them and underware was they matched the dress. Go Go boots were high heeled boots that went to the knees. They were worn with these sizzlers. Girls wore these things and boys had long hair when I was in school and I am 48 now. I live in Amish country and you think conforming is the way to go well let me tell you they are the biggest conformers you want to see but every Sunday around 11-12 PM a horse and buggy would go by with his sterio on and his crushed purple velvet interior. Some were busted around here for growing marajawanna in there fields. A few were busted for driving there buggies drunk. Some of thier kids drink have sex before marrage, do drugs and get into fights. So is conforming to someone elses appinion of right the way to go. Maybe we conform in the work place when we are older because we chose to. We no longer think it is as important to be different all the time. Been there done that and now I no longer have to. I know you are going to say he is only 4 but if you let it happen now where do you draw the line. You know there was a time when I was in grade school, girls had to wear dresses because it wasn't approved for them to wear pants. The schools policy said pants were for boys only. If I told you all girls had to wear dresses all the time because pants are only for boys you would be up in arms. What is the diff with some one saying boys have to have short hair. People fought to get the dress rule changed they said it was discrimination. Isn't boys having long hair just reverse discrimination. WAKE UP PEOPLE

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schools do what they want unless we stand up for our kids rights.

when my daughter started her first day in high school, the principal took her to the office and called me at work because he didn't like her hair being blue.

I had to insist he send her back to class and I would look into the situation later [he was going to keep her in the girls locker room shower until it all washed out, which could take months]

when at home, I read the dress code handbook and saw no mention of hair color, so I sent her to school with blue hair and a note telling him he can speak to my lawyer if he thinks he has a leg to stand on.

that ended it.

I think she looked adorable with blue hair.

Grace - posted on 01/23/2010

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I just wanted to point out there are different standards in our armed forces! New girl recruits dont get shaved! they have different standards for hair, dress, makeup..etc! a male soilder canot show up to work in makeup but a woman can...so if we have differences in the Armed Forces we are going to have differences in schools...Im with you, it should be for both sexes equal! but people dont want to see bald woman!

Annie - posted on 01/23/2010

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I am so sorry this has happened to you and Taylor. THIS IS NUTS.!!! NOSE peircing, tongue, baggy pants, bullying, fighting, guns, knives, extra sharpened pencils on both ends, marjuanna, pills, cursing, BUT HAIR!! Kids have blue, pink, bright reds, purple, green, yellow all sorts of colors of hair. What else does this school have rules on or against. Do the teachers have long hair "women" and the men short hair..if NOT they must! Do they teach about Jesus? If not they need to? do they have a muslim flag now? If not I wouldn't be surprised!!! What is wrong with this school. THIS child, Logans hair is beautiful and even if I wanted to get it cut, I WOULD FIGHT THIS! Do NOT GIVE IN NOR GIVE UP. MY email is shoehill@yahoo.com I will help you all I can. This story is going to make news!! I want to know any thing this school does or doesnt' do that you do not think is right or is wrong!!! Please right me Taylors' Mom..! We will start a petition. What state are you in? This is so very wrong!!! Annie

Grace - posted on 01/23/2010

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Let me tell you moms a little understood fact....once your child enters to doors of a public school you give up your rights as a parent....oh there is the illusion that you have some say but in the end the schools do what they want and your beliefs, liberal or conservative, go out the window...It will only get worse...Try to tell the school your only going to send your child for half a day from now on....ya right! but really, why not???? Remember they work for us! Try telling your local teachers union or school bord that! Now there are many great teachers out there but its the system thats screwd-up...its to late to take it back but u can take yourself out! Homeschool today!

Melissa - posted on 01/23/2010

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WAT A JOKE....SHE SHOULDN'T EVEN BOTHER PUTTING IT UP IN A PONY TAIL...SHE SHOULD JUST FIGHT THE SCHOOL.....

Anne - posted on 01/23/2010

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How can this happen. society is all you know what, always picking on the wrong ones

Amber - posted on 01/23/2010

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The boy likes his hair longer.... it's the style these days. For those of you who disagree, do you not let your kids watch the Disney channel!!! Most of those boys on there have longer hair. Good for the mom to stick up for her son! I don't think the mom went overboard by calling the press and whoever said she did it for money... Where did you see that, cause I watched the video and it wasn't mentioned! Get your facts straight and let the kid keep his hair!

Kristen - posted on 01/23/2010

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Take a look at my four year olds hair? I would like to see them try to make me cut it. He has never had it cut in his life and Im not about to start now. It is his hair and his decision.

Subrina - posted on 01/23/2010

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Post a reply! Really i think the school is going to far these days becos to me a child should be able to who he is as a individual. Every child's personality is different. I mean we always teach our children to be who they are and not like everyone else but with the schools dress code how can they difine that?

JUNE - posted on 01/23/2010

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WELL HES A LIL GUY AND MAY BE ONE DAY HE WILL CUT HIS HAIR IF HE DOSENT SO WHAT.WHY ARE PEOPLE SO UNHAPPY THAT THEY WANT TO MAKE OTHERS UNHAPPY.I BET IT WAS ONE PERSON WHO HAD SAID SOME THING THEN THE SCHOOL BOARD STEPPED IN.WHAT SHOULD I SHAVE MY SONS RED RED HAIR BECUSE HE LOOKS DIFFERENT.LIL KIDS DONT CARE THEY WANT TO RUN AND JUMP AND PLAY AND HAVE FUN.HE SEEMS TO JUST LOVE GOING TO SCHOOL I SAY TO THE SCHOOL BOARD,ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT HIS LOOKS OR HIS "EDUCATION???

Brenda - posted on 01/23/2010

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I think it dumb that the school is making such a big deal about hair, I feel it is wrong for the

school also to make the little BOY have is hair pulled up into a ponytail. It is neat I see no problem with his hair.

Joan - posted on 01/23/2010

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All I can say is....incredible. I teach in an elementary school in the midwest and I have had several boys who have had long hair. One boy was half Cherokee, and it would have been disrespectful to even suggest that he cut his hair. Some people have different beliefs about this, and often religious.

I can hardly believe that the school even suggested he cut his hair! Sounds like they are living in the 50's.

Belynda - posted on 01/23/2010

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I am absolutely appauled that with everything going on in the world that people can be so petty and ignorant if i was her i would start a petition against the ministrators of that school district.No wonder so many people choose to home school their children.What is our wourld commimg to?

Jeanette - posted on 01/22/2010

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I think some people may be missing the point a bit here. The reason this issue strikes a cord with so many of us is that we see it as being about a parent's right to parent thier children,and not just about hair. I also believe that the school officials are punishing a child because they want to get to the mom. If they are so concerned about him, why is he kept apart from the other kids. That's no way to teach kids to judge others by thier character instead of thier appearance.

Amber - posted on 01/22/2010

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I think this is absurd. I understand dress codes, and there is a need for certain restrictions. My seventh grader wanted her nose pierced, which I was okay with, but called the school to see if it was okay per their dresscode. They said piercings were not allowed, so she did not get one. I do see how it can be a distraction. But hair LENGTH? That's overdoing it a bit.........and to SUSPEND a FOUR YEAR OLD?!

C'mon.

Charmaine - posted on 01/22/2010

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Telling boys that they cannot have long hair is sexist. While it may be a good idea for this mother to find another school for her child, who says she can afford to do so?

Donnelle - posted on 01/22/2010

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I WANNA SEE HOW THE PARENTS OF THE GIRLS IN THIS SCHOOL FIX THEIR HAIR,lESS WE FORGET THIS IS EQUAL OPPORTUNITY...tHE MOTHER WAS FINE,THE CHILD WAS FINE,IT WAS THE SCHOOL THAT BROUGHT THIS ON...THEIR THE ONES WASTING OUR TAX DOLLAR,AND THE REST OF THE CHILDRENS TIME...

BAAL - posted on 01/22/2010

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I am a pastoral head in a British school. Our dress code is quite relaxed , because we found that too many restrictions in this area caused staff to be continually battling to enforce rules that had no real bearing on a child's education. However, we do uphold one particular rule, and it is regarding the length of hair. No student is allowed to have a shaved hair, grade 1. if they come to school like that they are sent home until it grows back (about a week). This is because we have found that hair cuts, strangely, affect a child's attitude, and this particular hair cut seems to encourage aggressiveness in UK, at least until the child gets used to his new style, and reverts to his normal character. I am not saying that all people with shaved hair are aggressive, just some, and our rule reflects our experience. All other styles are accepted, including dyed hair. We have many male students with long hair. They must, of course, be prepared to tie it back for certain lessons where there is a health and safety issue.

Charlene - posted on 01/22/2010

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Joanne and Jeanette:

He is allowed to keep his hair long as long as it is braided and out of his face. The problem here is with the mother. She says that if she braids his hair, his head bleeds.. I'd like to know what kind of braiding she is doing for this to happen.



Donnelle:

The only reason any time and money is being wasted on this is because the mother is stubborn. He can go to school as long as his hair is out of his face, but she is the one making excuses and making a big stink about it.

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Well, that's it the schools have gotton out of control. The length of hair on a boy is no different than the length of a girl. Will girls have to cut their hair. I know ridiculus, but I think you all get my point.

Donnelle - posted on 01/22/2010

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AND THEN WE WONDER WHY OUR TEACHERS ARE UNDER PAID,OUR TAX DOLLAR IS BEING WASTED ON THINGS LIKE THIS,UNREAL!

Kelly - posted on 01/22/2010

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I must say Sharon, I am appaulled by the way you can judge. I understand Danielle's veiwpoint. And it is just that, her veiwpoint.. I can also understand her need to defend these people regardless of whether she knows them... You don't know if these people sought out the press or they came to her...

And for you to assume she does nothing about her son being bullied is another judgement you know nothing of... She didn't even allude to that...

Maybe it would be a good idea for you to look up the difference in; "personal opinion" and an "verbal attack".

Daneille, don't respond to comments such as these. It is a waste of energy and you can't change her opinion, nor should is it worth trying...

This is suppose to be a place of encouragement and a place to come and share... We should try to keep it that way...

Keep up the good work Danielle.

Kelly - posted on 01/22/2010

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I must say Sharon, I am appaulled by the way you can judge. I understand Danielle's veiwpoint. And it is just that, her veiwpoint.. I can also understand her need to defend these people regardless of whether she knows them... You don't know if these people sought out the press or they came to her...

And for you to assume she does nothing about her son being bullied is another judgement you know nothing of... She didn't even allude to that...

Maybe it would be a good idea for you to look up the difference in; "personal opinion" and an "verbal attack".

Daneille, don't respond to comments such as these. It is a waste of energy and you can't change her opinion, nor should is it worth trying...

This is suppose to be a place of encouragement and a place to come and share... We should try to keep it that way...

Keep up the good work Danielle.

Carolyn - posted on 01/22/2010

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I agree with you. The school board needs for put strategies in place to up the academic scores nationwide at all levels. Yes, even starting with 4 year olds.

Jeanette - posted on 01/22/2010

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That is totally ridiculous. He should have the right to have his hair long if he wants. If they just want it out of his face, the ponytail looks fine. I don't see anything wrong with it. The school board has nothing better to do with their time.

Carolyn - posted on 01/22/2010

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What reason did the child's hair play in getting him kicked out of school. What was wrong with his hair? I don't understand. This seems absurd.

Donnelle - posted on 01/22/2010

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BTW,Linda Aubert,My son is 27,and just completed 10 year of employment at UPS! Didn't stunt his way of thinking! Or my morals of parenting! He is a great asset to soceity,thank you very much...

Donnelle - posted on 01/22/2010

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That is pathetic,my son,who was that age back in the mid-eighties had his hair longer...never was an issue w/the school...and if this lil boy has to wear it in a pony tail,then are all the lil girls complying to that code? Ethnical,I think not...once again,dictatorship in America!

Joanne - posted on 01/22/2010

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How ridiculous. I understand the school has policies and our schools in Australia have hair policies too, but why is it not acceptable enough for him to wear it in a pony tail. In the private schools that I have taught at girls are able to have long hair, but it must be tied back off their face, so why should this be different for a boy.

Gelaine - posted on 01/22/2010

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the problem here is the rule... this one in particular is an example of sex discrimination and is unconstitutional! Sorry folks, but that's the way it is. I have a feeling that this will be resolved with the parents winning the case!!

Laura - posted on 01/22/2010

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Really! I can't believe adult parents teach their children rules don't apply to them!

Cheri - posted on 01/22/2010

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that is ridiculous! i used to buzz my son's hair when he was little until he could take care of it on his own then i let him grow it out. at one point it was down past his shoulders. i went to a private catholic school & the boys hair couldnt be below the collar but most other schools here dont have a policy on hair. that's just dumb.

Shirley - posted on 01/22/2010

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Hair absolutely does affect the learning process in school. Children are taught the differences in males and females (boys and girls). A little boy should be sent to school looking like a boy and a girl looking like a girl. It is very insensitive of a parent to send a little boy to school looking like a little girl for the other children to make fun of. His parents should be in the classroom when the other children are laughing and making jokes about his looks. This lowers the child's self-esteem and creates other problems for him. It also interrupts the learning process for the entire classroom because the teacher has to constantly stop teaching to bestow order in the classroom...the halls...the gymnasium...the playground...the cafeteria... Visit some schools, parents. Become more involved in the education of your children. Teach your children to support and cooperate with their teachers and the educational system instead of rebelling and you will see more progress in the education of our children. Can't you see that our children are becoming less and less respectful, productive, goal-oriented, educated...?



Shirley Connally

Beverly - posted on 01/22/2010

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that bothers me immensely.. My 4 year old son has long blonde curls, which go past his shoulders.. I refuse to cut them and he says he doesn't want me to... Bring it on! If you want to suspend my son because he was gifted with gorgeous blonde curls, by all means do so.. I'm a stay at home mom, if I have to, I will home school him. But I don't believe that any public school should be allowed to make regulations on hair length.. Unfortunately private schools are allowed to make such restrictions, but if you don't like the restrictions, don't pay for your child to go to private school. But I don't believe in any way should a public school be allowed to make that.. Why can girls have long hair and it not be an issue, but boys cannot

Bonny - posted on 01/22/2010

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I'm soooo glad that taxpayers can know that their dollars are hard at work maintaining a 'proper' image in the classroom. Wow. What a relief! I guess I didn't realize that the length of hair was so detrimental to a child's learning.



OMFG ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!?!?!? And the public schools wonder why more and more parents are homeschooling their children! Its because of irrelevant BS like this!! I wouldn't cut my kids hair, just out of the principle of it!

Becky - posted on 01/22/2010

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I had 5 kids go through the Texas public school system and every year I had to sign that I had received AND read the policy and procedures pamphlet which entailed the dress code. If there was a mistake and the rules were broken we would be notified and we as the PARENTS were responsible to fix the problem. This little boy is being punished because the MOTHER wants his hair long and rather than complying she would rather put her child through this emotional trauma and isolation. Come on mom, think of your child!

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I was completely shocked by this news..... What does hair have to do with getting an Education? I really hope she wins this case.

Becky - posted on 01/22/2010

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I guess what upsets me the most is that this poor little boy has to sit in the library isolated while he knows his friends are going by with their day. If they are going to suspend him that's one thing but isolating him could make him feel like this is his fault and he has been bad in some way!!

Jennifer - posted on 01/22/2010

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Aaron, the simple fact is that each parent is responsible for signing a copy of the student dress code policy before enrolling their child into school. So, there is no legal issue. To make matters even worse for this parent is that she has other sons that attend that school. This woman has years of knowledge on rules of the school district, but is having a hissy fit now? If anyone reads the whole story about this online, it is easy to lose sympathy for this family's plight. Especially because the little boy could care less about his hair...he just wants to go to school. His mom should just give it a rest.

Julie - posted on 01/22/2010

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I am engerfied (yes it's a real word that i made up) that someone, some stranger, can take away that families freedom of expression like that. My own son had long (longish) hair up until this school year. He was in a private school until now, and he was encouraged by the administrative staff to be an individual. He chose to cut his hair this time because he wanted to be able to put it up in a mowhawk. He's only 6. I did get a little flak, but it has been only with snobby moms who scoff at the idea of letting their precious son look like a girl. I just reply that I am letting my son be himself and that it makes me sad when people raise robots instead of individuals. I feel that family should keep fighting, and not even put his hair up!!!

Tara - posted on 01/22/2010

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And as far as grooming is concerned... should it not be the responsiblity for the school to step in when they see it is not being done? You can't say they can care one way and not the other. Does that not raise a flag to the problem in the home? Hello! Stay out of things, burry your head, and when the kid turns up dead or abused later because the school needed to "stay out of it", who is going to be the first ones to say, "why didn't anyone do anything?" OH yeah, its that person who filed a lawsuit against the school and told the school to mind their own business... so they did! Ignorance!

Tara - posted on 01/22/2010

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Dress codes and restrictions are there to encourage the kid's learning ability. Just as a work place would put restrictions on you looking neat the school is conforming to the same attitude of a structured environment. As previously said, it is stated in the policies; they don't like it, home school or find somewhere else. The kid's hair looked like it was in his eyes for crying out loud. Hair styles, trend dressing and so forth give extended opportunity for clicks and problems, and later gangs. Does not matter how old you are! Obviously peer pressure has its effect and even if the kid does get involved in something of that sort it is up to the parent to be the parent! If you can’t watch and monitor your kids, or give them tough love, you shouldn’t be a parent.

That parent could not even speak adequately or articulate why she felt her son should be able to have his hair at that length! If you want to fight a legal battle, know what you are talking about and know your rights! If you sign a piece of paper pertaining to your child, look at what you are signing. It's that simple, we do have choices, welcome to America.

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