Ashley - posted on 01/29/2009 ( 11 moms have responded )
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My son has shown some bad behavior that has gotten worse the past few years. It seems it happens more often when we are around his grandma (my mother). He has spit in my face as well as my mothers, swears when he gets mad, and throws temper tantrums when he does not get what he wants. He rarely does it around me, but he should not behave like this at all. Any advice would be appreciated!
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Victoria - posted on 01/30/2009
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Ashley, I've read through all of your replies and all are great. I do agree the one from Kirsten Glinke, find out whats going on with his feeling about his grandmother. And just try and listen, I know as mothers we try to explain everything to our children. But with his behavior, it really has to be something that is really bothering him. Just listen and then talk to him later. Meditate on it a little before talking to him. try and recall what was going on with him before seeing your mom. it may be he is jealous of your of your mom.
April - posted on 01/30/2009
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I would try to do some positive discipline! and there is a book call positive discipline and it's a great book you really should read it it has helped me a bunch with not only my 7 year old boy but all of my kids! and try to praise him when he is being good instead of always pointing out when he is doing something wrong and also try a treasure chest we did that too and it work great with kids all ages we got to like the dollar store and buy little things fun stuff toys , crayon , gum ,candy,etc...and when they have done something you think is good give them a little prize! or a sticker chart! if he earns so many stickers he get to do something fun! and you can google charts like that the Internet is full of good ideas...good luck I hope this helps you some! Take Care
Debbie - posted on 01/30/2009
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Read "Shepherding a Child's Heart" by Ted Tripp
Kirsten - posted on 01/29/2009
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I think that if he's just doing this type of thing around Gma and not around you then you need to find out what's different about his time with Gma or else what upsets him about being with Gma. Maybe there's something going on that you don't know about. I would try sitting him down and asking him why he behaves that way around Gma when you know he is such a sweet boy and doesn't do it with you. Good luck!
Rebecca - posted on 01/29/2009
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If the behaviors are occurring on a regular basis (daily), I would suggest making him earn his things (fun games, tv, etc), instead of taking them away. Positive reinforcement. You need to be consistent, and not deviate from it. Once you give him something, do not take it away. You can however not give him another item. He needs to understand that the behavior he is displaying is not appropriate, but he also needs to understand why. Don't try to reason or explain it to him when he is presenting the behavior, you need to wait until he is calm. Also try giving him an alternate behavior to the ones being displayed. Ex. what could you do instead of ....
Jodi - posted on 01/29/2009
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i wish i had the answers for you but im having very similar problems myself with my 5 year old, been trying many different tactics but none that seeem to work, im hoping school settles him a bit, he can be such a sweet boy but then a minute later he can be plan narsty. i can only suggest councelling, baby they can provide some answers about why he is being like this, maby he will open up to them?? that is deffently somthing i will be thinking about if school dosnt settle him. keep us posted if there is any improvement and what you did.
Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2009
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We are going thru the "rages" at home too with my 7 year old. Talking about ADHD meds. I have found that sending him to a quiet area somewhat helps him calm down, and every time he must apologize to whomever he has wronged. Persistance is key, eventially he will get the message..I think. Like I said we'lre going thru it now. I also try to diffuse the situation before he escilates to that level. My son will throw things at me when he gets angry. (Batteries, picture frames, etc) I too understand! But the spitting thing...I would pull out the bar of soap for each spitting offense.
Jennifer - posted on 01/29/2009
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We are going thru the "rages" at home too with my 7 year old. Talking about ADHD meds. I have found that sending him to a quiet area somewhat helps him calm down, and every time he must apologize to whomever he has wronged. Persistance is key, eventially he will get the message..I think. Like I said we'lre going thru it now. I also try to diffuse the situation before he escilates to that level. My son will throw things at me when he gets angry. (Batteries, picture frames, etc) I too understand! But the spitting thing...I would pull out the bar of soap for each spitting offense.
Nicole - posted on 01/29/2009
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My 7 year old son is also going through a bad spell right now. We are taking away toys that he absolutely loves, then if it does not improve we are going to take away Boy Scouts and B-Ball. He has to earn these items back by being good. We'll see if it works....
Vickie - posted on 01/29/2009
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dont respond to his throwing a fit he want atention so walk away and he will stop.
Brandy - posted on 01/29/2009
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oh my goodness girl i thought my 7 year old eas bad,but spitting in grandmas and moms face..wow thats bad..have you tryed time outs at all...u just got to be persistent and stick to your guns..and after time out talk to him...i feel for ya,
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