A brother's love

Linda - posted on 01/28/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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My son was shot and killed in a robery in May 25/08. He was only 16 yrs old. He was the baby of 7. His love still with us.

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Linda - posted on 01/30/2010

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I'm very sorry to hear about your loss, what a triple tragedy. How is your mother doing?. My prayers for you and your family and every one touched by this tragedy, may the Lord Jesus restore the peace, the trust and joyfull days be added to every one of you. I have my hope in the highest place, I know God let this to happen for a very good reason. God's reason is to glorify His name, God's plans are big plans. God does not do anything small, even when I'm unable to see it right know, and even trough the unberable pain of the loss, I do believe God is good and I will see His hand, His purpose and the total manifestation of His Love, in time, soon. You need to know Ashie, that very soon God will bless every one of you and you will see that God's does not forget, neither take the loss of such beautifull people lightly. He will, for sure, bring joyfull days to your life and in those days you will give thanks to God, because He is a God of justice and He will reward your faith and you will remember your baby sister with love and kindnes and even that you will miss her and the little one forever, you will learn that love is forever and never die. God bless you all.

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Christina - posted on 03/27/2010

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God Bless you and your family,my heart goes out to you and yours! Everything happens for a reason some we will never know the anwser to but have faith that he is with our lord and savior and youll meet again! God Bless You!

JUNE - posted on 03/15/2010

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IAM SO SORRY,BUT I FEEL GOOD TO SEE THE PHOTO OF YOUR SONS REATING PLACE,I LOST MY 2ND GRANDSON ON JUNE 18,2007 AND HE WAS SUCH A WONDERFUL,LOVEING CHILD HE WAS TEN.I NOW WILL POST HIS RESTING PLACE NOT MANY MOMS DO .JAMES DIED SUDDENLY AND QUICKLY HERE ONE DAY GONE THE NEXT,AS HIS GRANDMOTHER MY LIFE HAS CHANGED AND SO HAS HIS MOTHERS,AND WE WILL NEVER BE THE SAME,IAM HERE IF YOU NEED SOME ONE TO TALK TO.IN CHRIST JESUS JUNE

Lisa - posted on 03/12/2010

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wow couldnt imagine what your going through i got goosebumps reading this post :'( i feel for u and hope that u r doing ok .. and i bet he was glad to have the family he did xx ...

Linda - posted on 03/06/2010

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Thank you for your words Elissa. God bless you and your new baby. Enjoy that little blessing as your greatest treasure and do not take life for granted. Make desitions that will plant a seed of love and care and tomorrow you will have a tree that will hold you strong. God bless you and the sweet baby and your family.

Linda - posted on 03/06/2010

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Linda, my prayers are with you and your family. Always remember that your baby brother just moved from the Planet Earth to the Kingdom of Heaven. Be close to your mother and give her words of encouragement constantly and ALWAYS tell her you love her and you are blessed to have her. I agree with you to use the grieving, the pain and the hopeless feeling in a way we can help others that are going trough the same experience and those who has never has or will go through this to realize not to take life for granted and to make wise desitions and to be grateful for what they have.

Linda - posted on 03/06/2010

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Thank you Charlene. Your words are appreciated. God bless you and your family.

Linda - posted on 02/23/2010

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A baby is a gift from God, and is an eternal gift to each and every one of us. That child will be our child no matter what, for the rest of our lives and trough Eternity, that's our legacy as a mothers. We are truly blessed with our children. The children are the future of every nation. Jesus was a child and his legacy is the eternal future of life. God bless you all.

Linda - posted on 02/22/2010

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I'm really sorry for your loss Diana. I know the rough road, but in my most difficult moments I hold on on God's promises, that's what's keep me going on. It's really hard to accept that a life can be gone in a split second and it feels so unreal. I asked God what's was left for me from my son and He reponded "his love". I'm really grateful for the many moments I spent with my baby and with the rest of the family, to me it's my greatest treasure and the good news is that NO ONE can take it away from me. The moments that you spent with your little brother are a treasure no one can take it away from you. Spent time as a family as much as you can and be close to your mother and your father, tell them you love them. Thank you for your words. I declare healing,peace and joy for you and every one in your family, in Jesus name, amen.

Linda - posted on 02/22/2010

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Diana, it ripes my heart to read what happened to your sister. It's really a rough road but what Is holding me is to know one day I will see my baby again. Your sister is not dead, she just moved from Earth to Heaven and one day we will too. My first son wife was pregnant and we all went to skydive (exept for my daughter in law of course). My older son was visiting us in Miami in January, 3 months before my son was murdered and he was also happy that he was going to be an uncle. What helps me the most is to remember the many times we spent toguether as a family and I wear a t-hirt in my son memory and to make a clear stament that any one who hurts a kid, must know that kid has a mother and a family that will fight for justice. I will see your post in fb. Thank you for your words. I'm holding in God's promises and I know He will fulfill them, I had only one request to God, to not let my son's death to be in vane. We celebrate my son's birthday like if he is with us. I think lighting up a candle for your sister is good and you should keep her memory alive. I declare healing,peace and joy to you and your family. in Jesus name, amen.

Linda - posted on 02/16/2010

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I AM SO SORRY 4 UR LOSS!! I RECENTLY LOSS MY ONLY BABY BROTHER IN JULY. HE WAS ONLY 12 YEARS OLD FROM A MOTORCYLE ACCIDENT!! IT IS SOMETHING SO HARD TO LIVE AND DEAL WITH!! THE GRIEVING PROCESS IS A LONG ROUGH PROCESS BUT IT IS REALLY HELPFUL IF U USE IT WISELY!! MY HEART AND PRAYERS R WITH U AND UR FAMILY!!

Diana - posted on 02/13/2010

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Reading this made me tear up thinking about my oldest sister that passed away June 2006,she was only 24. Her boyfriend was driving drunk and crashed,he survived but my beautiful sister didn't make it. I think about her all the time and how excited she was to meet my daughter(i was 3 1/2 months pregnant) because she was going to be her first niece. It saddens me that she never got the chance. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love so much,me and her were so close and people called us "the twins", she the blonde one and me the brunette. I light a candle in her memory everyday and as silly as it may sound to some people,i still talk to her and tell her how much i love and miss her. My daughter also say she loves her Titi Tania. I have a memoir of pics in my facebook page so she would never be forgotten and people can remember the good time they had with her. She makes me feel like she is happy and at peace and that helps me through the day.

April - posted on 02/05/2010

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sorry for ur loss my heart goes out to u and ur family and may god be with you

Linda - posted on 02/02/2010

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Thank you very much Beth. in 2000 I had cancer, after surviving I made the desition to hug and kiss and tell my children I love them in case I die I will make sure they know I loved them, that was the best desition I ever made. I still do hug them and tell them I love them and I evensend text messages to their phones. The Bible said "Love will errase multitude of sins". In my opinion, you should kiss and hug and tell your kids you love them every day, the only sure thing we have is today, tomorrow is a gift. Call your mother and tell her you love her, does not matter how many mistakes she has done, let's be a part of a blessing, plant a seed of love and you and your children will ripe love and kindness. God bless you, your entire family and your loved ones Beth.

Beth - posted on 02/02/2010

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sorry for your loss. my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. just reading this makes me want to go upstairs wake my babies up ell them I love them and then put them back to sleep.life is a blessing and children are miricles. god bless.

Linda - posted on 02/01/2010

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Ashley, thank you very much for your words. If my loss had helped you, I'm very happy because I the only thing I asked God was :"Do not let the death of my baby be in vane" that was my only request to God. And I'm really gratefull to see God has granted me that. Like you, I look with my heart and my spirit my baby, like you I was unable to say good-bye, but God was so good, that the morning before he died, a saturday, my baby grabbed me while I was washing dishes and said to me:"Ma, I love you very much". And I still can feel that hug around me and his love. My baby went to a 15 party on Saturday May 24-08 and he came home around 1:00 a.m and his friend called him to ask to go with him to drop some girls, I was already a sleep, so he called his brother for permission and his brother told him ok. He went and after taking this girl to her house they decided to walk around the block and two guys chase them, they separate my baby from his two friends to prevent them to help him and the other guy robbed my babys gold chain and after he already robbed him, can you belive he came back and shot him on his neck, taking his vocal cords and my baby was falling and this guy shot him again on the head.
I think the tatoo you have and the use for it is for a good cause, my son, the one in the picture, had his name,Emanuel tatoo on his wrist and I do understand the feeling, the need to remind him and to keep his memory among us. We even celebrate his birthday like he's here. I have the same need to fill the empty space, I have a 6 foot picture of one of the most happy times in my room and people critize it and really I do not pay attention to the negative comments. One thing I know: his love is with me and no one can stop that love. I was sad one day and asked God:"What do I have left from my baby? and God reply "his love". I told my kids: be proud of your baby brother, lift your heads always in his name. We made the desition to celebrate his life, rather than feel sorry for the loss. We have no loss, our baby just moved from earth to Heaven, so we are celebrating his life, his love, even when ist's hard we focus on all happy moments we lived as a family together, and I tell you those moments are a lot. You have a baby of 3 years old, rather to feel sad for the loss, start celebating and giving thanks for the life of your sister, her unborn baby and her husband. I assure you they're not dead, they just moved from earth to Heaven.
We all have to move from earth and we need to focus in our final eternal destiny and be ready for it.
I bless you Ashley and I bless your entire family and your sister's husband family and I declare and stablish that those tears will be converted in tears of joy,now, in Jesus name, amen.

Linda - posted on 02/01/2010

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Elissa,thank you for your kindness and your sweet words. God bless you. Congratulations for your first baby. When we get pregnant I learned (I'm a mother of 7 children) your feelings change the first day we get pregnant and also the feelings of the baby's father change as well, it's amazing the connection and I'm going to tell you why, The Bible said: Two will get together and it will become one" and you know why? because of the blood connection. The Bible also said: "In the blood is the life". When Cain killed his brother Abel God asked Cain:" Where is your brother? because his blood is calling justice from earth". There is a connection by blood, but the most powerfull connection is love and love is so powerfull that is eternal, it never dies becuse the source of love is God himself.
I bless him/her inside of you, I bless his entire life and all his/her descendent and I give thanks to the Father God because He listen and answer every prayer and command and I declare and stablish that this baby belong to God trough Jesus and this baby will be a light full of joy to you, and your family and I also declare and command angels from Heaven will guard you and the baby and the birth of this baby without any complications in Jesus name, amen.
Love your baby and give thanks to God every day for that beautifull gift that will be your companion, your helper, your strong motivation for the rest of your life.
Again, thank you Elissa.

Ashley - posted on 02/01/2010

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I most definitely will, and I am going to share the quote with her, if you don't mind. My perspective on my tattoo, is that they are watching over me, always with me. It's brought me closer to them, so to speak; as though I have a permanent physically seen connection with them, rather than just spiritually and mentally. I know it's not something everyone can see and understand, and I've still had comments for example, "I don't care what the reason is.. and continues with a rant about 'damaging' my body." It is what has helped me. Everyone is different, and deals and copes in their own way. If I'm feeling sad, or distant from them, or having trouble with anything in life, I stand with my back to the mirror, turn my head and talk to them -- ask them to help me through the hard road I'm traveling, or whatever it may be at that time.
I think you are an amazing woman. Your words are helping me soo much, my daughter (3) asked me yesterday, if she could go stay the night with Kayla, take her jammies with her. I instantly started to cry, and she said it ok Mommy, my home 'morrow.
I was readying myself for the why questions, or what happened, where is she, etc.. (She knows she's in Heaven, and she can talk to her whenever she wants along with her Uncle Bill & baby William) but not for something like that!
You have reached out, and touched me -- helped me so much. Thank you, and God bless you.

Elissa - posted on 01/31/2010

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Becoming a mom in may makes me finally begin to understand true loss, the loss of a child. I am so sorry!

Linda - posted on 01/31/2010

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Ashley, thank you for your words. I asked you about your mother because I know how she feels, there is moments of unberable pain, do not let her be alone. In time, like I said, God will bring joy and lots of laughs to your family. I agree with you, I know for sure God has a Master piece plan with all of us who had suffered the loss of a loved one. The quote that helped me the most at the time of the murder of my baby was what the mother of one of my son best friend, she told me: Even through this tragedy, you have the best part (and when she said this I felt very offended), but she continued and said, you are the mother of the victim". I had to agree with her and I realize the mercy and love of God upon me and my family. More than preventing anything worse to happening, God's plan i s to bless us abundantly, but He need to get us focused in the things that are REALLY important, the spiritual things and the right spiritual attitud that will glorify His name. God sacrifice His only son, Jesus just because He truly loved us. God knows very good about the pain of loosing a loved one. God told me we are very special to Him, even that we do not feel like it.
That tribute tattoo, you did it because you feel marked and you want to remind your self that life has an ending. I feel marked as well. We are marked but the purpose of this mark is far away of a life ending , on the contrary, it's the beginning of a new life because death has no power over God's children. God's purpose through this difficult expoerience is to lift us spiritually in a deeper and higher level. We do not like it to go trough this experience, we do not fully understand it, but most certainly, God has blessed us in a very special way. If you read the book of Job, you will find God tested Job's faith, and he remain trusting God in every catastrophy he experienced, he acknoledge God is the source, all the material things in this world has an ending, but the spiritual things are eternal, good or bad and we need to focus in the right direction that will define our eternal destiny. My baby, your sister, her baby and her husband, they are not dead, they are alive, they just moved from Earth to Heaven and they are waiting for us and for sure we will see them again. God bless you. Give a kiss and a hug to your mother for me.

Ashley - posted on 01/30/2010

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Thank you so very much. My mom is still more in denial than anything else. She has her moments, and struggled when she had to go to court to close out the estate from my sister & nephew, but I worry and pray for her like mad. It hasn't completely sank in yet. When we losed a loved one so tragically, it's hard to find the justification in the saying but at times it has helped me - "Death is God's way of saving one from something worse happening." I have a tribute tattoo on my upper back, 3 angel wings (big, medium and small, stacked horizontally and overlapping one another, since they all lost their lives together) and a quote around it "They give me wings, to get through the day." It has helped me the most out of any other quotes, or words. God bless you, too. Thank you for sharing your kind, embracing words with me.

Ashley - posted on 01/29/2010

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I am so sorry for your loss. I can completely agree and feel your heartache. I am the oldest of 4 girls, (21, 19, 'forever 16' 18 yr old, and the baby is 17) My sister died 16 days after marrying her high school sweetheart, along with her husband and unborn (8 months gestation) son. My little nephew never had a chance to look into his mommy & daddy's ass. I completely understand, and you are so right! May all our angels rest in peace.

Linda - posted on 01/29/2010

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Thank you Ashie.I want the moms to know about my baby's death so they will realize that life is a gift and our children are the most valuable treasure God has given to us. After I learned I had cancer and if I did not had surgery I would die in 2 years, I made the commintment to hug my kids every day, even if they did not like it. That was the most rewarding desition I ever made. I still hug and tell the rest of my kids I love them almost every day.God bless you.

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