A.D.H.D. my son has it, any help?
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LÃºcia - posted on 11/22/2009
Hi Tracey! My sun has ADHD since he had 8 years old. He goes to a child psicologist regulary, he has the attention of his doctor and he is medicated whith "Concerta 18 mg". In school he has a special skills and test, which had been made only for him attending medical reports of his ADHD. Today, he is 11. We can feel the difference. He is calm, he has B in school tests, he has much more selfcontrol. He is better and better as the time goes whit the treatment his doctor told us to do him. My advice to you is: go to a good doctor and do exactly what he says you to do. Each case is a case. Good luck to you and your child; and dont worry, our children`s problem can be solved. Anything I can help you, just say it. Love, Lúcia
Sharon - posted on 11/20/2009
my 12 year old has it too, only diagnosed this year. We can't medicate due to him also having tics. keep an eye on preservitives in foods, especially colourings as they are not good. We are going to get him some help with anger management and I'm also reading a really good book call 'Every Day with ADHD'. Get hold of a support group in your local area as it helps to be able to talk to other parents. Oh and don't forget to breath. Good Luck :)
ps talk to teachers and make sure they know whats going on.
Tara - posted on 11/20/2009
call me crazy but here might be a soulution. Some kids get hyper off candy and sugar right well a kid with ADHD is naturally hyper i heard of giving kids with that sugar and it will have the opposite affect. my friend has a friend whos kid is ADHD and when he eats sugar products hes calm and collective.
It could work... but I already tried that with mine, and he becomes violent when he eats to much sugar... same thing with coca cola and so...
I'm not saying that it's like that with every kid... each kid has his/her own reactions.. but with mine... nope ;-)
What does help is eating alot of fruits, sour fruits that is... like the green apples (Granny Smith it's called here), citron, oranges, and so on.
But I guess you'll have to figure out yourself what helps with your kid :-)
I just want to throw out there to be careful with citrus and acids if your child is medicated it counteracts the meds. Thus you are actually making all efforts useless! So only try if your child is not medicated and if so read the arnings and side effects thoroughly and make sure you are not messing with the way there body is absorbing there meds!
Courtney - posted on 11/19/2009
get him on meds my little girl has it too and was doing so bad in school and i could not take her much at home.. but i had her put on meds and it like a new child she makes a and b and is so much beeter behaved!!!!
Raquel - posted on 11/07/2009
Diet of minimal amount of processed foods. Regular chiropractic care is excellent; my husband is a chiropractor and he has successfully treated many children who were diagnosed with ADHD. Some parents threw the Ritalin in the garbage, brought their children to my husband, and laughed when the medical professionals exclaimed "look how great the Ritalin works!". I also recommend restricting or eliminating TV entirely.
Katie - posted on 11/07/2009
I found this on the internet with Ann's email address see if this will work for you.
To know more about '3 steps to conquering ADD you can visit his website - http://3stepsadd.com
All the best!!
PS - email me and I will be glad to share our experiences with you and answer any questions you may have.
annfetzer (at) gmail.com
Lori - posted on 11/05/2009
My son had it starting in grade 3, he is now 24. There are doctors who specialize in this area and they can be very helpful if you get a good one. A child with ADHD requires A LOT of patience and perseverance. I had my child on Ritalin during the school week and took him off on the weekends, holidays and summers. It made a tremendous difference. He wasn't doped up, he was just able to sit in class (which was nothing short of a miracle). I also found that caffeine had a calming effect on my son. Just a small amount of mountain dew in the morning. Its like an opposite effect that it has on the rest of us. It just doesn't last all day. I also found that giving my son one thing to do at a time and standing with him to make sure it was completed was very helpful. I have to agree with the comments about having very clear rules and consequences and being consistent with them is extremely important. And equally important is the positive feedback for the good things they do. It's too easy to focus on how much of a "handful" they are. Hang in there, it does get better. My son a well functioning hard working man. He is still a little hyper (he paces or bounces his leg when he isn't doing something) but he is doing great.
Don't underestimate the power of counseling either. It's huge.
Hope I helped.
Melissa - posted on 11/04/2009
Both of my daughters age 9 & 6 suffer from adhd. Although, neither have the same characteristics. Where as one is extremely impulsive & hyper, the other has anger issues and gets 'lost in thought' regularly. Both of my children are taking Vyvanse w/ no side effects... It has been the best! Working apx 30 min after taken and lasts until 6:00pm!
Jennifer - posted on 10/31/2009
My son has asperger's and I took wheat, dairy and gluten out of his diet. He became a whole different person! I read the book "Special diets for special kids" which also includes recipes. It isn't easy to do, but is so worth it when you and your son see the results.
Jana - posted on 10/30/2009
Tracey, I am a Special Ed teacher. In my eyes every child is a unique learner! (And we are all students. Regardless of age.) The main thing that I offer the students that I work with is tools to fill their tool boxes that will help them through life. Tools such as fidgit stones in their pockets to release extra energy, tapping fingers quietly on their legs so that no one notices. Recognition, nurturing and patience are the main advice that I offer. Your son is his own person and has the right to be recognized and celebrated for his individuality.
You are doing one of the best things you can for yourself, your family and son by reaching out to others for help. Surround yourself with support and love.
And as one mom said be consistent. Remeber the 3 "Cs", clarity, consistency and consequences.
Toni - posted on 10/30/2009
First off many normally energetic children are misdiagnosed as ADHD. Doing some kind of physical activity before having to sit down and concentrait can benefit alot ot them. Secondly many children have bad reactions to red food dyes that mimic ADHD, so avoind anything that has red food dye in it and see if that makes a difference. The medications can be hard on the hearts of children who take them, my nephew came very close to having a heart attack at 6. I have 6 kids and 15 grandchildren and 5 great grandchildren. Out of all of those children only 3 actually have the disorder while 10 were misdiagnosed. The real problem can sometimes be an emotional issue such as divorce, a death that was never dealt with, ect. With boys moving during the early teens can set them off big time. Be patient, be loving and firm as much as possible, and have firm rules and guidelines while keeping things as structured as possible. Best of luck to you.
Jodie - posted on 10/29/2009
hi tracey,my son has a.d.h.d,hes 12,ive been battling it alone snice he was 5,kids with a.d.h.d,are very challenging,as any mum would know.there is a lot of networks out there to help,mums like us.they do need to know boundries.my advice to you.is that you as the mum,need time out,when you get the chance to take it.as they can take all your energy up.if ya boys on meds...despite,them being zombies,and they dont eat,they do need it,to help them thru,all kids are different,some kids are at a higher level than others,as im sure the doctors,have explained,they did to me.there are some kids that dont need the meds,i know some parents,have done other things,apart from the meds.ive tryed all sorts of natural things,and none have worked,and thats becourse,simply,hes at a higher level,of being a.d.h.d,sad as it is,my son needs his meds.it sux,but it does help.despite my boy being on so many meds,ive learnt,over the years,when he does need them,and thats thru school,and when i feel i can control it,by not giving him any.normally its his afternoon one.it all depends on your son,and how bad it is.also they need a lot of praise,they dont like being agrued with,cos you dont get anywhere.my son loves being outdoors,they do get bored very quickly,it helps to do things he will enjoy doing.give him some options,get him to make a list of 3 things,and go and to it,they love one on one contact,with people,lots of people can get them to become loud and show off,like i said all kids are different. plus it ties them out,if they are busy.course they can be very negative.but you can get pass the negatives and you place positives in place for them.eg..taking them out,make it fun for him,they like fun things.you will become very overprotected of him.maybe more so than other kids in your family,course of their behaviour,no one understands,why,and they go to one person they trust,to make it go away,and thats us,theirs mums.all though we cant take it all away,all you can say to him,is that we can talk to the person involved,then on the down side,they dont all ways open up,i know when my boys upset,and i just ask him whats up,he says nothing.and then i wait,for him to come to me,and he does.i leave an open space for him,and tell him im here.your boy mayb different,but thats some advice,worth knowing,its just about,learning.im still learning.as long as he has good structure in place,within the family home,consistancey as well is important,one thing,they do lay blame on others,they can lie,and they can be very cunning,if they can wrap you around their finger,they will.don't let him.he may even try to play one parent of to the other,and that's what you and your partner need to watch,and your kids.in time you will have the tools you need to know how deal with situations.so i do hope with the help of everyone's different advice to you.every single mum,has a bit of advice,you will need to use. it is a very long and tiring road,but there are great results as well,they are the most loving and caring kids around,they forgive you,despite tension.and he will try your patience.just be strong.one thing if its gets tough,and it will,dont ever let him see you breakdown,and no mother on here,can say you dont break down,course at sum stage,you do.its hard to explain,but when it happens,you will no what mean.for you tracey,and only you,if you get the chance to have a break,take it,and dont feel guilty,cos we need a break.i know everything ive said,may not seem like advice,but it is.we have all experience our kids differently, and my advice to you,is my own experience with my boy.apart from all the advice,its a learning thing as well.and i do wish you and your family the best.there are support networks out there for you.only you know your son,and only you can make the right choice for him,around his upbringing.as long as you beleive that you are doing the right thing,no1 else negative input will matter.course at the end of the day you know you are doing your best,and good on you.all the best tracey with your son.take care.
Mary - posted on 10/29/2009
Educate yourself on ADHD before jumping into medications for your child. Know what the disease is and how it affects the brain and the child. Have you son tested by a professional before taking the "word" of the teacher and school counselors. If your child is diagnosed with ADHD by a professional, work with the school at that time. Don't rely on medication to solve the issues assoicated with a child affected by this disorder. It takes strong consistant parenting when dealing with a child afflicted with ADHD. Again, educate yourself on the disorder before doing anything else. It is always good to get advise from others on what you should and shouldn't do but until you understand what is happening to your son, you can't help him. CHADD is the best place to start. Be patient and let your son know that you love him no matter what his behavior is. Work together to find the solutions. Good luck!
Lee - posted on 10/29/2009
My mother would of loved this forum. I believe that patience is the best advice any mother could give. When a child suffers from an attention disorder, it is very difficult, not only on the mom but for the family as well. I was always distracted as a child and no matter what my working mom tried, I always went into myself. I find that even as an adult, I sometimes have trouble concentrating on what is important. For me, I find that when people give me love and patient direction that I can learn anything.
Maybe just knowing that what your patience and love teaches does get through to your son, may be of some hope to you. I hope this helps you.
Dee - posted on 10/29/2009
I have 2 children w/ ADHD a 19-yo who is controlled by behavior modification and a 13-yo which is controlled by medication. We still use behavior modification with our 13-yo because during the summer he doesn’t want to take his meds. We have to give him a list or give him simple directions, go pick up your dirty clothes and put them in the hamper when we started it was pick up all the red blocks, it depends on the child. I won’t tell you it doesn’t get frustrating but it is well worth it, work their teacher so that you are on the same page and know you are not alone you will find many families in the same boat.
Martha - posted on 10/29/2009
I have a grandson with ADHD and early in elementary school he was diagnosed, given a medication that works for him and also instructions regarding what food and snack items can trigger his ADHD. He has been a part of his treatment since the beginnning and is very vigilant about both the med and the diet choices. He has been on the Honor Roll for many years now and loves school and learning. Between med and diet choices he can pay attention well and he has been given much recognition for his accomplishments...not the tangible, big gift kinds of things but Congratulation cards, phone calls to let him know his name was in the paper on the Honor Roll etc. One of the biggest keys is to involve the individual from the very beginning.
Julie - posted on 10/29/2009
My son was diagnosed when he started nursery. We managed to use no meds at all for 2yrs. Unfortunately lots of really bad things then happened in one year and he had to go back on but by using the natural products he only has 1/2 the required amount. Please feel free to get in touch for more advice on the natural products we use. salsawattiez.com
Julie - posted on 10/29/2009
My son was diagnosed when he started nursery. We were able to take him off medication for 2yrs and just use the natural alternative. That was why i joined our business. We still use the natural products and that means he only needs 1/2 the medication. He is now 9yrs.
Chelsy - posted on 10/29/2009
My 14 yr. old son also has ADHD. We chose not to medicate him but rather change his diet. It is hard because they have already created their own eating habits by this age. I know he sneaks sweets and soda and school and friends but we no longer have that kind of thing in our home. We buy organic foods and eat a lot of fish & veggies. Check out this website for good food ideas http://www.oneaddplace.com/adhd-diet.php
Rene' - posted on 10/29/2009
an IEP is Individual Education Plan you and the school decide the best education plan and any special assistance your child might need. An ARD is Annual Review Discusion you, and the school meet yearly to measure the progress your child is making and decide what changes need to be made.
Suzanne - posted on 10/29/2009
Could someone explain to me what IEPs and 504s are? I was under the impression that IEPs are for special needs children and children that have learning disabilities. I'm getting the feeling that even though my son is bright and in honors classes that this is something that would help him. Now that he is in high school he is starting to struggle because the course work is so much harder. Would he benefit from such plans? Thanks in advance for your advice.
Cathy - posted on 10/29/2009
Hi Tracey I am an older mom in her late forty's but my daughter of twenty now, grew up and still has ADHD. I know there are different kinds, and for our sake our daughter wasn't diagnosed with it (yet we had our suspisions) that she had it until her high school years. She has never been one to sit still, so we kept her in everything from brownies, hockey, soccer, running but her biggest thing was her dancing which she still does. As long as she was busy it seemed to have kept her calmer. In grade eleven she finally went to our family doctor who sent her to a specialist to put her on medication. During her schooling and even now in college and at work (taking one pill early in the morning) she concentrates well and is a much more different person than she was, although she is still very busy. It isn't easy rasing a child with ADHD but always know there are others out there like yourself with support. In our community we have a St Leonards Society that would work with our daughter and our family to help us all understand it and to help her so she could cope with it better. All the best to you and your son.
Rene' - posted on 10/29/2009
hi, my oldest turns 18 in 2 weeks, I have been dealing with this for awhile. First find set up a schedule for him and stay with it! A regular routine will help alot! I put my oldest on medicine worked closely with his teachers and made sure he had a calender for his homework (he forgot his homework unless it was written down). The good news is he will learn to manage it with your support.
Linda - posted on 10/29/2009
My 16 yo son was diagnosed ADHD when he was in 2nd grade. Through the years we have tried different meds and behavior control strategies. They have been effective in letting him learn how to develop his own strategies for taking responsibility and controlling his own behavior and staying focused long enough to complete homework. Middle School was the most difficult for him because an ADHD child also has social issues...they can't focus on what someone else is doing or saying or process how that person is responding to their behavior. Hitting puberty and hormones cause additional issues. As we are preparing for college it's important to put accommodations in place (i.e., 504 plan). The earlier the better. Since my son has processing issues (he knows the content he just can't "get it out fast enough") he needs extended time on ACTs and SATs. There must be a diagnosis and evidence of accommodations used at the school over a period of time. Providing structure and organizational skills are absolutely necessary. The schools see lots of it, get a diagnosis from a psychologist and they will work with you. And by the way, it's not just boys, my 14 yo daughter is also diagnosed with ADD, but she's in denial. I believe it's genetic as my husband (and a number of cousins) are also ADHD.
Jodie - posted on 10/28/2009
I also have a 10 yr old son with Aspergers syndrome and he is benefiting from the diet change and also a routine is what they need 2. I have set up a good behaviiour system which is also working. If u would like any information on tis please dont hesitate 2 contact me.
Elizabeth - posted on 10/28/2009
my brother has the same my mom took him off dairy things and red die but also trys to give him a little less attention then he wants it sounds mean but thats all they want is attention and if you give it to him for good things then fine but when he shows off pay no mind disaplin him if you need to but my mother did all those things and my brother is now a great help around the house well behaved and he gets stright a's patince keep ur head up
Samantha - posted on 10/27/2009
Get an IEP through the school so he can have modifications if necessary. You are your child's best advocate, stand your ground and don't be afraid to ask for something (accommodations, special services, teacher aids, etc). You can often get a lot of things with an IEP, you just have to know what to ask for since they don't automatically offer it (costs and stuff). Talk to a teacher in your sons school to get the "behind the scenes" info on the IEP process and services in your area. Best of luck...
Sara - posted on 10/27/2009
don't worry about the sugars too much. concentrate on getting him off all artificial additives. Try organic as much as possible. STAY AWAY FROM ARTIFICIAL DYES!!
my son is a different child after I did this! look up the Feingold diet. go green in your home as well with cleaning supplies, etc. do food challenges to check for sensitivities, the blood tests have a very high false negative ratio, don't bother with them. My son is sensitive to dairy, now that he is off of dairy he is calm, and he tested negative for dairy allergy with skin and blood tests. when we took him off dairy we noticed a huge difference in the first week! sometimes it takes a little longer. try dairy and wheat first and second- they are most common.
suppliments instead of drugs!!! Omega 3 fatty acids, vitamin methyl B12, high protein diet, if he has been on even a few antibiotics since birth try probiotics to replace vital flora that were probably destroyed by the antibiotics..this can lead to vitamin defficiences. exercise, exercise, exercise!! have him checked for low iron levels (ferrous sulfate) not hemoglobin, but iron stores...I found one study on this, and had my son checked and sure enough!! he was almost anemic.
Positive reinforcement constantly, and try to tone down the bad stuff. being strict on these kids back fires! have rules and consequences consistently, but be matter of fact when the rules are broken and the consequence is given...be over the top with the praise and pats on the back for good behavior. Don't spank...it will increase the impulsivity and the anger/frustration. these things treat the problems instead of masking them with drugs. take him to see a DAN! doctor...let me know if I can answer any more ?s. Good luck, take it a day at a time.
Tatiana - posted on 10/27/2009
I have a great recommendation. It's called The ADHD/Autism Cookbook. It's written by 5 M.D.'s and a nutritionist and the first 30 pages is an in depth description of how specific food groups affect kids with ADHD, etc. I recommend it to my patients along with checking for food intolerances by doing an IgG blood draw with a natural health care provider. I also use acupuncture and herbs for attention, immune support, etc. (I'm a pediatric acupuncturist). Good Luck.
Susan - posted on 10/27/2009
My son has A .D .H .D he is 25 there was very little help when he was dignosed in 1992. It was meds or not much els. Now my son has o.c d anger problems and still thinks hes the most important thing on the planet. Now i would go the natural way were posable.
Sherri - posted on 10/26/2009
I have a ten year old son that has ADHD, I I have tried at least 5 medications without much help. All of the meds we have tried had horrible side affects like mood swings, nausea, tiredness, we have had a horrible time. I even went to the Natural Food Store and bought every kind of ADHD type medicine I could find that was natural, I even went with the vitamins and minerals, because I read a huge article on line that said that scientists have done studies on kids that supposably had ADHD and they found in their blood tests, many of them were low in fatty acids, so we put him on fish oil, along with many other vitamins. Nothing seemed to work, and for 4 years I tried everything. Finally I went to see a dietition and they told me to take him off all sugar, all caffeine and give him healthy stuff like lots of veggies, and fruits to snack on, and at the beginning of this school year we were able to take him totally off any medications that he was taking! So this worked for us, you can try it and see if it works for you!
Stephanie - posted on 10/26/2009
My daughter works with a child who is A.D.H.D and his behavior is very bad.
He treis to choke her, hits her, pulls her hair, and is out of control. The mother
refuses to put him on any medicatiion other than an anxiety pill which he takes at night.
I feel for this little guy, but my daughter can't take much more of his abuse. Help?
Anybody have any advise. He is in a public school setting and it isn't good for him or the rest of his classmates.
Kirstie - posted on 10/26/2009
I have a A.D.H.D daughter she has been put on caterpress, ritalin, and anything else the doctors could think of. We took her of the medication and changed her diet, she does not have McDonalds or any take away food. Also she dose not have any food with 202, 282,211 or 262. Also trying to find out what they love to do. When she has her outburst i get her to paint or draw or jigsaw puzzles. whick carmes her down. Go swimming. I hope this helpls.
Theresa - posted on 10/26/2009
my son has combined ADD/ADHD and he is now 10 years old we have been working with this for 4 years now. I have learned alot in the last few years. I have learned that the high protein diets do work. Having him eat scrambled eggs or what ever kind of eggs he likes for breakfast and having him eat some boiled eggs after school for a snack while he does homework. I have found that the snack bars from special K and adkins that works for weight loss for adults are great for my son for helping him. He was a premie and he only weights 60 pounds so we are very limited to the amount of meds he can take so we have to do everything we can unconventiuonaly to help support the meds. His body is woking so hard and so fast with the combined issues that he is on time release meds and they are out of his body in 4 hours instead of 8. So we limit his sugar intake as well as red die foods. We have taught him to read labels himself and we have also made sure not to have him eat the lunches provided at school he takes his own usually lunchable because they are very high in protein. The school lunches are high in carbs which just turn to sugar and are not helpful at all. The teachers at school are a huge part of your fight as well. I have recently had to take a leave of absence from work this school year because his teacher this year cant seem to work with him. There is a local group here that help special needs kids to make sure that the school is not punishing incorrectly and taking away things that will cause more issues like his recess time. If you are having trouble with the school you should find out if there is an advocate for kids with ADD. Good luck