A photographic gift for grieving parents

Christina - posted on 11/27/2009

I think its sweet and inoccent. i dont see any thing wrong with taking a picture with your child, passed away or critically ill. i would 100% do it. its not for other ppl its for me. if you think thats vile and sick then thats you opinion.

Shonene - posted on 11/27/2009

I too have seen the work of this photographer. It was through a website while researching "spina-bifida" during my second pregnancy. The photographs were incredibily touching and not grotesque in anyway. Several of the mother's and father's that had lost an infant through defect or still birth were very grateful for the chance to have the cherished memory as a lasting memory. One of the mother's on the website wrote (and this has stuck with me) having those pictures is "proof" that she was here, that she was loved, and that she is part of the family. I didn't realize it until that moment, how many of us (in times of discomfort) while pregnant think: When will this end and I can be normal again. Not realizing how really wondrous the entire act of "incubation" really is.
My personal opinion: I believe this gives credence to their pregnancy, helps to remember the little person that's no longer there physically, and can add comfort when you don't have that little baby to hold while you are crying in grief at night. It's a lasting legacy to the joy of motherhood and family. I have lost both my mother and father at an incredibily young age. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think, take a picture write something down, keep that momento...knowing that one day I won't be here for my children, OR God forbid they are taken from me. Once they are gone, it's forever. I would definitely have had this service provided.

*back in the "olden" days, they used to take death portraits, as a lasting memorial to the loved ones.*

Kristi - posted on 11/27/2009

Ive seen pics like this and at first I thought OMG that is awful why would anybody want that but then a friend of mine said what if that was your baby and that picture was the only thing you had left of him or her. That really made me think. I think it is a beautiful was to remember your baby and cherish the time you has with the. That is awsome that there is a non profit org that does that for ppl

Crystal - posted on 11/27/2009

I think its great, moms need to have a visiual memory, even if some people think thats wrong....but you have to think, even if the mom doesnt want to see it take the pic and put it away but just incase you do want that pic even in 10yrs atleast youll have it. I have a son who passed and my mom took pics at the services ( i didnt know...) from a distance, she told me later when i said i wished i would have. then she gave them to me.

Daphne - posted on 11/27/2009

Hey there...

I really think it just depends on the person...

We lost our baby nephew at only 26 hours old in February 09 :(

Its the sadest thing but his mum and dad wantied all the photos they could get of him!! Even though he was gone the photos of him are simply precious....

Tiffany - posted on 11/27/2009

I think it's a sad situation, but still a touching way to remember that baby that you carried for months.