A spoiled baby?

Crystal - posted on 04/04/2013 ( 273 moms have responded )

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Since the moment my baby was born the nurses let me know she was a hard burper. So she's 8 weeks old already and according to everyone I'm holding her too much. When she eats I have to burp her and it can take up to 20 minutes sometimes and since she is a spitter I burp every ounce she drinks. You can see how that can take up so much time. I feel that right when were done feeding I'm right back at it again since she still eats every 2 hours. When I put her down she wakes right back up and cries until I pick her up. I read somewhere that at this point in her age, babies don't know manipulation so it's okay to let them cry for just a minute or two but pick them up after because it's still at the "building trust" stage. Am I raising a spoiled baby already, or is this okay?

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Imbeautifuldawn - posted on 04/06/2013

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I have 5 kids and you cannot spoil an 8 week old. if she cries it is for a reason. even if the reason is that she is lonely, have compassion on your child! Her entire existence she was in physical contact with you, then she is born and suddenly we want to put them in a corner all alone? let her feel the reassurance of your care and presence.
That being said, it sounds like you have a gruelling schedule as a mom. you wont be able to maintain that for long.
1. she might not be tolerating the formula well. see your dr and switch to another kind, or better yet, see if you can get breast milk from a food bank. thant might help.
2. Try regular infant massage. there are youtube tutorials. it is simple and easy and might help her let go of those burps much more easily.
3. see a chiropractor. my younger sister had stomach problems her whole life starting as colic in infanthood. when she was a teen a local chiropractor adjusted her and said, "was she a colicky baby? Well her back is out in a place that would effect her stomach." My oldest wouldnt lay on her back until she was adjusted. so it might make a difference. it isnt what you think. there is no big crack or anything like that. The dr will rub her little back and just encourage everything to allign again. not traumatic. No worries.
Do your research, find a good one who is trained in pediatric manipulation frequently works with infants. as always, keep a watchful eye, and trust your instincts.
One last thought. i found that my babies actually did better with more milk in them than less. try i and a half ounces and see if that helps. Then maybe up it a bit more. frequently change positions when trying to burp her: lay her on her back and play with her while puting her little knees up to her chest (gently), put her on her tummy and lay down with yer so you are eye to eye and rub her tinyback. those might help too. take care! you are doing fine, Momma!

User - posted on 04/08/2013

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NO! Nononononononononono and NO. You are NOT spoiling ypur baby! You CANNOT spoil a baby. Babies are emotionally healthier the more responsive you are, the more time they spend with you - they learn to trust,. You cannot spoil a baby that young! You can *never* spoiil a baby or toddler with your time and attention. They need it. I'm the same. Don't listen when people say you spoil her - they are wrong, and they aren't giving you evidence based advice. A secure attachment is the greatest gift you can give her. Don't let her cry. If she's crying, she's already distressed. A short period of fussing is ok, but not crying. Crying babies should be held, wherever possible. crying is bad for babies.

User - posted on 04/08/2013

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I didnt read everyones answers but here is mine as a mother of 3.

Everychild is diffrent. Some babies are more esay going than others. If the baby wakes up for God sake pick her up . YOu can not spoil a baby until he/she is over 6 months. I was told with the first child the first week that he was born ,oh he is such manipulator...Well, he was not!! Babies dont manipulate. Never ever forget, Mothers know best what their baby need.

Danielle Elizabeth - posted on 04/07/2013

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I was also berated for cuddling with my daughter until she fell asleep in my arms . They would tell me " she's going to get used to that and not be able to fall asleep on her own which will make it hard for you" and I thought so what if some nights it takes an extra 20 min out of my time to cuddle her instead of just putting her in the crib!? I know I love falling asleep in the arms of my husband , I feel so content and happy and fall asleep with a smile on my face , so why is that wrong to let my baby have that too!? I don't understand our culture , it seems we're told to do things based on the convenience of ourselves instead of the well being of our children. My lo is 14 months and I still cuddle her until she's sleeping and I also let her sleep with us whenever she needs the extra comfort. What is so wrong with making sure a baby feels safe and secure? Maybe the parents who condem us who do things this way are trying to make it negative in order to not feel so bad that they didn't do the same for their kids

Tine - posted on 04/07/2013

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There is NO SUCH THING as 'spoiling' a baby!! Let me repeat, no such thing! You are doing a GREAT job with your beautiful bub!!
Babies are biologically wired to need certain things, they are extremely vulnerable little people and they are born looking for the comfort and safety of thier mothers' bodies. It is only our strangely disconnected culture that says that we should leave our babies alone for lengths of time, that they should be put down away from us. Leaving a baby to cry alone causes harmful stress hormones to literally flood their tiny bodies and actually rewires the brain and vagus nerve making them much more prone to depression and anxiety in later life - in fact through life. This practice is condemned by many child and adolescent mental health organizations, and it makes me sad to know that parents are still being told to do this. There is an excellent book called 'The Science of Parenting' by Margot Sunderland, which explains clearly the steps in brain development and the effect of various parenting approaches on the developing brain. An easy, enjoyable and very helpful read for any parent.
Most of the world 'babywears' (Google it, or look up the Kanga Collective for more info), carrying babies in slings, wraps or similar while they go about their business. And when babies are carried like this, it is easy to meet their needs (babies do NOT manipulate, they can only communicate to you to have their very real emotional and physical needs for feeding, comfort, warmth and security), breastfeeding becomes easier as you get to know your babies cues for hunger, thirst, etc, and burping happens naturally.
I have not deliberately burped either of my children!!! I know, shock horror, right?! But I have carried them in wraps and slings, and this is the optimal position for any air to be burped up. If you are holding your baby upright against you and she is not burping, she probably just doesn't need to! Babies who breastfeed with good attachment or bottlefeed with the bottle held so that air does not get in do not swallow much air at all.

Also, air swallowed while feeding is completely different from gut gas that causes 'wind' pain. This is caused by digestive problems, usually caused by an allergy to something in mum's diet, or by an oversupply of breastmilk that means that baby is getting a lot of lactose (chat to the ABA in Australia or the La Leche League overseas if this is a problem for you). The gas that comes out in burps is oxygen and other gases from the air, the gas expelled at the other end ;) is made up of methane and other gases which cause that unpleasant smell... it is actually made during the digestive process, and nothing to do with burping at all.

It sounds to me as though you are doing an excellent job with your baby, responding to her needs and following your instincts as a mother. Good on you, keep it up, and don't listen to anyone who undermines your confidence in yourself or your ability to know what your baby needs.

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Summer - posted on 04/30/2013

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I read that if you use the palm of your hand and rub up on their left side it really helps, so I tried it and my son would always let out a really good burp. The Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg was great. Some really good tips in there. They also have those baby slings you can use. You can keep holding her and get things done.

Tina - posted on 04/28/2013

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My first baby was like this. Everyone said I was spoiling him and that I needed to put him down. I couldn't ignore my gut instinct however and continued to hold him and comfort him. When he grew ollder my gut instinct just satrted to tell me it was ok to let him cry and that he was fine. I listined to my feelings and didn't allow any outside influences by listening to the advice but leting it go in one ear and out the other. I agree completely with what you say you are doing, there is no such thing as a spoiled baby only a secure baby. You will always know best even in those moments when you are not quite sure you do. Just hang in there until she's a little older and I think you will see what mean. : )

As far as the laying her down part of your post, do you have a seat the allows her to be at an angle? I have a sleeper seat for my second baby that is like a 35 degree angle and she loves it. She does not like being laid flat. That may help you get a few minutes of down time so you can relax a little? Just a thought!

User - posted on 04/27/2013

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In the first yr of life the main thing a baby is really needing is to build security, like you mentioned. This doesnt spoil the baby, but just lets them feel more secure with you. The first yr you can not spoil a child. This is true and and the best way for them to have that is for you to be there for them when they need you. Hold you baby when you feel like it, when she wants you to, whenever theres a need. This builds that trust they need in you. Its easyt let other get to you when your a new parent, but go with your gut instint and what you feel is best and forget the rest lol. People parent in so many different ways so theres always someone who doesnt agree with what you are doing, and no this doesnt mean that you or they are wrong, its just the way you feel best in raising a child.

I havent read all the other posts but have you heard of the "milkshake" lol it sounds crazy but works. Dr harvey Karp came up with this, look it up online, With one hand hold the baby's bottom and the other rest it under their chin to support their head and gently wiggle their body like you would a milkshake lol It really does get the air back up. He has alot of great advice on parenting, and does so well with children, I recommend his video and books to anyone

Michelle - posted on 04/25/2013

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I think your doing fine....my baby has been same way. She gets hiccups if I lay her down too soon so I understand the lack of time between feedings. I don't believe a baby that young can b spoiled. Plus your the mom who cares what someone else thinks right! ?

Hope - posted on 04/23/2013

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I think you have to trust yourself and your instincts, and stick to what YOU (and your husband) believe is right. This is only the beginning of unwanted, unsolicited, and opinionated responses to what you are and are not doing "right". (Some) People feel obligated to tell you what they did and feel that you should do it their way, when in reality, it boils down to a matter of opinion, beliefs, and personal preference. Do what YOU think you need to do, or not, and let others comments, recommendations, and advice roll off your back - don't let it bother you. Everyone is different, and everyone raises their children differently, you may even raise 2 children of your own differently. My daughters are complete opposites, what worked for one didn't work for the other, because THEY are different too. Bottom line - stick to your guns, believe in yourself, and don't waste this time stressing over what other people tell you to do or not to do, there will be PLENTY of other things to stress over!! Spend this time, that flies by at lightening speed, enjoying every second of your little one, because before you know it, they will be doing things on their own and off to Kindergarten!!

Kat - posted on 04/22/2013

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Wow, that's a tuff one... I agree that you can't spoil a baby, but you can build certain routines/habbits that are not always convenient. So it really depends on your lifestyle. I personally practise attached parenting and bed sharing and love it. HOWEVER, it's not for everyone and it's not always the easiest, even for me! Lol Thankfully my husband is very supportive and we both realise that our Ds won't always be this small.
Anyways, before I ramble. For small naps try baby wearing. It'll help give you some freedoms around the house. Then for bigger naps, lay down with him. It'll do nothing but give you more energy :) As for the burping, I find that burping halfway through a feeding and after works best. I also rub Ds back (until he squirms a little) and then firmly pat from the bottom of his back then up. Works every time :) HTH

Ana - posted on 04/20/2013

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There is no such thing as a spoiled baby. Your baby needs you and wants to be with you. I raised my son the same way and people gave me a hard time for it but when you have that precious little face wanting you all the time I jump on it!

Caitlin - posted on 04/19/2013

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I think it's ok to hold her as much as you want just don't take it over board with my first child I held her a lot and now she is extremely clingy and screams if I'm not constantly carrying her. Good luck:)

Nestingdays - posted on 04/19/2013

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I'm a postpartum doula, and I agree with many of the comments that encourage you to not listen to people who tell you that you are spoiling your baby. Your baby is sensitive by nature, and it sounds like she has 'reflux'. She will grow out of this, but being held up-right after feeding, should give her some relief.

I recently patented a soft babycarrier made specifically for newborns 0 to 3 months. Yesterday I conducted a focus group with mothers who were experiencing the same issues you describe. They loved the product. I'm so anxious to offer this product to mothers like you.

My goal is to make holding your baby for prolonged periods easier and more convenient, but also to make the statement that our culture needs to honor the biological need that mothers and babies have to be connected in the first days, weeks and months of life. Look for Nesting Days -- skin-to-skin comfort for you and your newborn -- coming soon.

Gillian - posted on 04/19/2013

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Genetics/temperament has a lot to do with whether a child is clingy or not, so do whatever makes you and your baby most comfortable (love love love) and to a certain extent some will be clingy and some won't and it may not make a difference whether you held them a lot or not. I am NOT talking about neglect here, I'm talking about a normal range. I personally think babies need a lot of love and snuggling and don't equate this with spoiling. But to make a lot of cause and effect statements is not necessarily accurate at this point. There is, however a lot of brain research that says that physical touch is responsible for the "good" chemicals babies get in their bodies.

Tosin - posted on 04/18/2013

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hi, when I was nursing my daughter at that age, I never sleep or do any other thing. she use to cry if not held by me. not even any family member can hold her. but now she is 5 and she is not spoilt.

Tosin - posted on 04/18/2013

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hi, when I was nursing my daughter at that age, I never sleep or do any other thing. she use to cry if not held by me. not even any family member can hold her. but now she is 5 and she is not spoilt.

JDaniel4's - posted on 04/18/2013

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I think I nursed 24/7 and my son never slept. He loved to be held. We did get a swing. He loved to be in it.

LeiShell - posted on 04/17/2013

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I don't think you can spoil a baby! Good job for loving on her mommy! They are only little once.

LeiShell - posted on 04/17/2013

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I don't think you can spoil a baby! Good job for loving on her mommy! They are only little once.

Kristi - posted on 04/16/2013

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Not at all!! Spend every moment you can while they are babies...it goes by too quickly. Babies can't manipulate and they NEED their mommies! You are doing the right thing....I never let my DD CIO and she is a wonderfully independent and vivacious 3 year old now - not spoiled!!

Kristi - posted on 04/16/2013

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Not at all!! Spend every moment you can while they are babies...it goes by too quickly. Babies can't manipulate and they NEED their mommies! You are doing the right thing....I never let my DD CIO and she is a wonderfully independent and vivacious 3 year old now - not spoiled!!

Lorien - posted on 04/15/2013

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My comment is actually another q, I'm a single mom of twins nd 1st of all it is such a relief to know I'm not th only one nd that there are message boards like this to ask people who have been there, how to do that:). So w 2 I'm not able to give both physical attention at th same time, i feel awful having to let one cry nd its usually th louder one i pick up even tho his volume doesn't mean he if in greater need. I don't want spoiled babies but i also don't want to go too far in th other direction. Of y'all

T - posted on 04/15/2013

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You cannot spoil a baby. Your baby is crying because she needs something. If you want to hold her all day then do it!!! You are her mother you know your child. Don't let people tell you how to raise her. It's a learning process and you two will learn together. Trust me from a mom who has been told what to do and not to do, just enjoy your baby because it goes by way to fast!!!!!!

Leah - posted on 04/14/2013

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This prece of 'advice' really bothers me. For one thing, it's ignorant and not true. You can't spoil a baby!!! Also, makes new parents feel quilty for holding their baby. You are right, babies don't know how to manipulate. All your baby knows to do is get her needs met--hungry, wet, cold, too much/not enough stimulation, etc. Or maybe she justs wants to be held. You are a wonderful mother and, you know what? Your little girl will grow so fast that, before you know it, you will wonder where your little baby went!!! I am so tired of people giving this kind of advice! My brother/sister in law started telling my husband this since before our son was born. (They never said it to my face). It has made my husband afraid to hold our son, and comfort him when he cries, and that's a shame! Let me tell you what kind of parents these people are: their 2 y/o daughter is withdrawn, never talks, eats her meals in front of the TV. She stares into space and looks at people with distrust. Recently, her mother was too bussy doing who-knows-what, and this girl walked several blocks to the park, dressed only in a soggy diaper. Yes, these are model parents, right?

Shauna - posted on 04/14/2013

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Well I understand that it sometimes hard to burp a child. I have two kids of my own, plus I have worked in daycares since I was 18 and let me tell you what you can spoil a baby. If you pick them up every time the cry and as soon as they start crying they will figure it out trust me. I work with infants and I have a two month hold that has been sick a lot and is moms first child and miracle child because mom wasn't suppose to have any kids and she is spoiled. She is held all the time at home and at daycare she thinks that she has to be held all the time. She also is very hard to burp and a lot of times she falls asleep while drinking her bottle and still eats about every two hours as well and it is very hard for us to put her down and for her to stay asleep because she too wakes up as soon as you lay her down. But we have figured out that if we swaddle her and then rock her and then lay her down she sleeps until it is time to feed her again or she needs a diaper change.

Don't get me wrong it's ok to pick up your baby when she cries, but there is a thing as picking them up and holding them too much. A thought to burping her is to maybe set her sideways on your lap and cradle her head in your hand and pat her back or you could lay her face down on your lap and pat her that way. I have to set the baby at daycare on my lap and I had to lay my youngest daughter on my stomach face down to get her to burp. Just a thought.

Melodie - posted on 04/13/2013

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I know I already said my piece, but some things here are bothering me.

When child number 7 was born, he slept in the bed with me all the time. He got RSV when he was 6 weeks old. He almost died. When we went to the hospital, I told them to get the crib out and give us a bed. I stayed with him every day all day. Most parents leave their child for most of the day. I was not a 'usual' parent. When it was over the nurses and doctor told me that he would not have made it without me crawling in and letting him feed as much as he wanted. He did go back to primmy status. I followed my instinces and will never regret this.

All my kids at all ages crawled in whan sick. The 7th hugs me every night, he tells me he loves me on the phone and at night. He doesn't care who hears. He is a football player and weight lifter. Seems I did the right thing.

All my kids had a sense of securith that is strong enough then can't be bullied and they step in when others are being bullied.

Child number 8 was a 'surprise'. But the best one I could ever have. He is 6 years old and I left him to visit my daughter in another state. This was the first time we were apart overnight. Being the over bearing mother I am, I had a handmade card with pictures and a small present for him. He did fine, he is secure.

I was 25 and still sittingin a chair with my Dad. I will never feel bad about it because he died a few years later.

Sorry if I am rambling, I just want you to understand that you will make mistakes. The worst one is to let others tell you that you are wrong. Not all my kids are perfect with the perfect life, but they are their own person and know I am here no matter what and no matter when.

What was this about? Oh yeah, you are a wonderful mom. You go this far to get advise on your gift and raising her. Don't follow an 'experts' way, you are the expert.

BTW in my experience that people who try to parent by the way if 'experts' way, ie potty train in a day, letting them cry themselves to sleep, self sotting have kids with problems.

I would love hearing how it turns out, but honestly the fact that you care this much says that your baby is lucky to find such a good parent,

Christi - posted on 04/12/2013

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I have nine children ages 11-37. She needs your holding and love. Things will work out. I held my children a ton and they are all loved and well adjusted. You better do it now because teenagers aren't into that at all. Enjoy every minute of that beautiful baby!

Mary - posted on 04/12/2013

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I firmly believe that the majority of mothers know what to do with their babies; they just need to hear that they are doing the right thing. YOU are doing the right thing when you hold your little one. As I've read in so many responses, your little one will grow up all too fast; you can't hold them when they "reject" you, so get in a lot of cuddle time now. I wish I could hug my son now, but leukemia took him from us two years ago at the age of 36. I cherish my grandson (almost the spitting image of his daddy), who is just five years old -- and lives more than 11 hours away. Just love your baby so you won't feel you should have done more when your sweet little girl is older.

Bigleocat - posted on 04/12/2013

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Still building trust. Anyone who tells you that you are spoiling her is someone who was too self absorbed to do the same for their own child. There is a reason why there are various carriers for parents to place their little one in and wear them around. The carriers reduce the chance of colic too. So, as long as you can take care of other things you need to do or aren't stressed out by it then ignore those people.

Danelle - posted on 04/11/2013

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Babys need to be coddled and made to feel secure. I held all (4) of my children all the time when they were baby's. As they get older they learn to manipulate.

But, infants.... HOLD ON Mommy, they grow up fast.

Kathryn - posted on 04/11/2013

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Crystal, love and respect yourself and your baby. Trust your instincts. I got lots of "help" from folks when I was raising my kids. Sometimes it was helpful, a lot of times it wasn't. I breastfed all my kids back when it wasn't the thing to do, AT ALL. My kids are 27-33 now. Tune into your baby, listen to what she is saying! You are the most important person to her now! You can't spoil a baby.

Melissa - posted on 04/11/2013

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You cannot spoil your baby at this age by holding (loving ) her too much. There have been studies and cognitively babies do not even know they are separate from your body for at least 3 months. She will get more independent the more her needs are met. She is not capable of "manipulation" at this age. Enjoy her she is only little for a short time which passes all too quickly.

Joquena - posted on 04/11/2013

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It's obviously not wrong to spend lots of time holding and loving on your baby But it's also not necessary to burn yourself out. Your child is a couple months old so if you want you can start working on getting your baby into healthy sleep and feeding patterns so you have some much needed time for mommy. I recommend this book "Baby Wise" by Gary Ezzo, it changed my life. It helped me to have the confidence to know that letting the baby cry a little didn't make me the worst mom ever, and that I didn't have to nurse the baby every time she cried. http://www.modernhomemakers.com

Sabrina - posted on 04/11/2013

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in my humble opinion, there is no such thing as a spoiled baby. In our home, we have always said "if you have food that is spoiled, you throw it out, so that baby isn't spoiled, it is WELL LOVED". Studies have shown that babies thrive with the touch of a mother! I say if you want to love on that baby DO IT. It seems that only yesterday, my baby NEEDED me, he is 13 and thinks he knows everything, and doesn't want me! I would give ANYTHING to get that cuddle time back! Good luck!

Lynn - posted on 04/11/2013

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Having brought up 3 very different children at very different stages of my life I can safely say no there is no such thing as a spoilt new born. I worked as a nanny before having my own children and can sincerely say I think you have a few more months to cling on to your baby for as long as you wish.

Stephanie - posted on 04/10/2013

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Smile and thank them for their opinion. My father said the same to me, I was holding my daughter too much. I carried her in a sling. I was a stay at home mom. He would say, "put that baby down!" Four years later I have a happy, healthy, gregarious little girl. When she was 18 months old, she began going to day care twice a week for half a day. When I started working, about six months later, she went to daycare all day, five days a week. I never had a problem dropping her off at school. She was happy to go, and still is. I think there was maybe one or two days she decided she didn't want to go, so I left her at school quickly. I think it cruel to prolong it. Most kids stop a few minutes after you leave and they're fine. Anyway, I think my constant availability and care of my child for the first 2 years of her life made her a more secure toddler. She never had to feel a panic about "where's mommy??!" So it never became an irrational fear. She just "knew" I was there, or would be there soon. Not to mention the wonderful staff at the school. All children are different and need different things. Thankfully, my daughter and my style of parenting meshed well. When my father was telling me to put her down, I would remind myself that one day, when she starts to crawl and walk, she won't want to be by my side all the time. They grow so fast, a baby human is not like a giraffe. They can get up and walk around in about hour after being born! Our children are much more vulnerable and need us to take care of them. Therefore - YOU CAN NEVER HOLD A BABY TOO MUCH!!

Elaine - posted on 04/10/2013

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You have plenty of good info about holding your baby. I want to add something about feeding. If you are bottle feeding parents tend to let the baby lie down on your arm. To help the baby with swallowing it is good to try to have the baby sit up in a basically breast feeding position. I am sure you probably have tried methods to help your child. I hope this may help.

Autumn - posted on 04/10/2013

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you are a mother who loves her child so yes it is ok but once they do start manipulating it is a good idea to let them alone more often at least that`s the case with my daughter she is 11 months now and spoiled and loved so much but not overly. hope this helps

Ronnisha - posted on 04/10/2013

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I will tell you this everyone will have an opinion on how to raise your child. You just listen to some and do what you feel is right. I feel that no baby can be spoiled, they are just babies they need all the love you can give them and when they hit the one year mark then you can disciple them. Until then I did whatever my baby and I felt was right.



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Louise - posted on 04/10/2013

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You know you have a year before it is called spoiling. Then maybe you can start to make corrections to your parenting. But what about spoiling our selfs through that first year too? I am a 40 year old mom that just had a second baby after 10 years of trying and 5 heart breaks. My sweetheart is here and is just a blessing to have. What I forgot was what a pain those cribs are to change. Expecially in the middle of the night. So I came up with an invention and patented it. Power to all moms. This is for us. www.Ripngo.ca

Amy - posted on 04/10/2013

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What do you think you should do, use your mommy's instinct. No one can tell you you are holding your child too much. Now if its hindering its growth and developement than thats when a doctor will tell you to let go more often. But you hold your baby as long as you want. The baby will grow up just fine and it will know how much you love them. Not saying putting your baby down for an hour will hurt its emotional developement, but you go ahead and do what you think is right. There is gonna be a lot of critics out there and you can't please anyone but yourself and your baby. So be the mommy you know you can be and do what feels right for you and your baby!! Good luck in the future. There is gonna be a lot of questions that will pop up, but remember to always look to yourself, you know more about being a mommy than you might think.

Melodie - posted on 04/10/2013

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Sounds like you already know the answer. She still needs to be held when she needs to be held. You can't spoil her. I swear I held mine nonstop for the first 6 months after they were born whish is a total of 16 months. They are fine.

Listen to all the advice, then listen to your heart. Act on your heart. No one else will take the blame for making bad mistakes. Your mothers instict is your best bet always.

Kathryn - posted on 04/10/2013

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Let me start by saying I raised 4 kids. They all were different, but they are all secure, pretty well-adjusted adults who are happy in their lives.
You CAN'T hold a baby too much. You are creating a security base for your baby. She wants and needs your love and attention. Letting them cry for a minute or so is ok because you have to keep on at "life". All of my kids were different. My 3rd son was the most independent (and challenging as he grew up), but my first and 4th wanted lots of holding and cuddling their first year or two.
My youngest wanted to be held ALL the time until she was almost 2. I even had to find a babysitter who didn't mind carrying her around. But once she hit the ground (and I don't mean walking...she started walking at 8 months!), she was running. She excelled at sports and is now an officer in the USAF. But an aside....she always has maintained a close relationship with me, she would come & sit in my lap (in between games...) when she was pitching fast-pitch games at tournaments. We are still close.
So, just because they want to be held ALOT, it just means they love you and want to be super-close to you. Invest in a sling or front-pack to carry her when you doing housework, etc. She will love it! And don't worry, remember you are truly building the trust that she needs. Keep her close and make her feel loved.

Tammy - posted on 04/10/2013

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I work on a mother/baby unit in a very large hospital. Some babies do have a spitty problem, and that's just the way they are. What type of formula is she on? How much does she eat in a feeding?

Michele - posted on 04/10/2013

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As a mother of an 18 year old, I say hold your baby all that you can because the years fly by. You don't spoil your children by loving them too much. Discipline is another story but you certainly won't have to worry about that for at least another 6 months. And that will only be for safety purposes. The real discipline comes much later. Anyway, I say enjoy your baby, hold your baby, and don't worry about what others think is the "correct" way to raise your child because all children are different and mother knows best!

Erin - posted on 04/10/2013

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You can never hold an 8 week old baby too much- they need all of the comfort and closeness of you that they can get right now. It makes them feel secure:) About the burping: my feeling is that if your baby is only getting one ounce at a time before you burp her, then she is not getting much of a chance to swallow air and therefore does not have any gas to burp up. I know that you feel that she is probably spitting up due to gas, but most likely she has reflux, which has nothing to do with how frequently you burp her. If you are using a bottle try a nipple with the smallest holes so that she has to drink slowly. Let her drink a few ounces before you burp her- that will give her something to actually burp up:) Good luck to you- I remember those early days with my two and they are very tiring- you will get through it I promise!:)

Nicole - posted on 04/10/2013

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Omg, some people just need to keep their mouths shut. You are not holding your baby too much. In fact I don't think there's a such thing as holding your baby your too much! Do it now while you can. My son is3 1/2 and is already telling me that my kisses are yucky. I thought that wasn't supposed to happen for another year or two lol

Dale Hartley - posted on 04/10/2013

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I am sure your baby isn't spoilt, just loved. you have only had her 8 weeks, no need to worry I don't think. My first daughter was a hard burper too. No such thing as that quick 10min night time feed my friends got to enjoy! More like an hour or more. Maybe during the day you should be looking to stretch out the length of time between feeds to give you some time out in between if nothing else.
We learnt some really effective burp techniques, maybe you should you tube some videos of burp technique there are some pretty effective ones out there.
Also, despite the way people preach these days, I slept her on her tummy, it got the wind up better (even if she did spill a bit) and she slept better than on her back.
Don't worry, as she matures she will get better at this herslef, especiallywhen she starts to roll around and sit up herself.
Hope that helps.

Stephanie - posted on 04/10/2013

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I constantly held my son and he is just fine. Sometimes people just don't know when to leave their opinion at the door. This is your child not theirs. You do what feels right to you.

Gemma - posted on 04/10/2013

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my baby was always picked up in first few months when she cried now she is a very independant 3 year old who likes cuddles but i never hear a peep out of her unless she sick then she craves some more attention. she doesn't even scream in shops when told no as i have built up that bond with her and she goes with what i say or do without any fuss x

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