Advice on how to handle breast development with my girl?

Anina - posted on 11/02/2011 ( 24 moms have responded )

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my daughter age 10 breasts are starting to develop and she complaints that it is painful and tender - is there a sort of a bra that i can get her?

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Stifler's - posted on 06/19/2012

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I don't think it's really about teasing, breasts need support.

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I used to have this problem. It was VERY painful to even walk or run..any "jiggling" was just..awful! My mom was trying desperately to keep me "a little girl" so she wouldn't let me have a grownup's real bra with straps and hooks..she let me try out a sports bra. I found that the sports bras were MUCH more supportive than the little A and B cup bras for little girls. The sports bras didn't let me "jiggle". And, they were VERY modest...my prudish Irish Catholic mother liked that. No cleavage...no "enhancing" push-ups.

(I still prefer them most of the time, I only wear a BRA bra when I have to accommodate a special outfit or blouse. If it's a tshirt..sweater or pajamas...I prefer my sports bras.)

And...young girls wearing a SPORTS BRA...don't get their bra strap snapped by boys.

Good Luck!





edit to add: She may be getting close to her first period...from what I understand, the development and pain is coming from hormone induced growth. These are the same hormones that are going to bring her cycle into activity.

Stifler's - posted on 11/02/2011

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I used to wear a padded bra for this reason. to protect them from bumping stuff, mine were tender and hurt to touch when they were growing too.

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John Duffy - posted on 09/08/2013

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When a girl is showing strong breast development, you must give her a lot of encouragement!

Ail - posted on 09/14/2012

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Those tight pullover sports bras are the best. My daughter would sleep in them if she was experiencing pain and the pressure really helped.

Sharlene - posted on 06/19/2012

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You can go and get her measured for a right fit bra at major shopping centers.

Rachel - posted on 06/19/2012

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I would get her a womens bra because that is what I got first. I started to develop at 7 and my mom got me my first bra when I was 10 and I was already a DD. Start early or she will be more prone to teasing. A padded or underwire bra will do just fine.

Leslie - posted on 11/06/2011

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Both my girls developed at an early age, one at 9 and the other at 8, I bought the sports bras for them as they were more like wearing a T-shirt under the clothes!

Dawn - posted on 11/04/2011

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My daughter is now 13 and has just started her periods, however she started to develop breasts about 18 months ago and I bought her Angel bras from M&S as these are designed especially as first bras for young girls, and they are very pretty. Periods tend to be the last thing to happen when developing so I think you will be ok for a while yet.

Deb - posted on 11/04/2011

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As a mother of 4 daughters. I can tell you all complained of tenderness and some pain when growing. Padded bras and sports bras as others have said were a help. My one(who is my granddaughter we are raising) that just 13 is in a C already! I have bought her new bras about every 2 months that is how fast she is growing. I have another granddaughter that has been in a C since 5th grade. I was the same way.

Monique - posted on 11/04/2011

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Any supportive bra will be great but that is all dependant on what suits your daughter she will let you know what feels right and what feels wrong, here in australia they have a bra called the R bra which is great and sport styled with no clips clasps wires or rigid parts, you may also find that your daughter is more sensitive just before her menstral cycle or during ovulation if she is an early developer. Good luck the teenage years are pretty emotional ones.

Maria - posted on 11/03/2011

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My daughter has been developing hers since she was 8, just after she turned10 we felt it was time for her to wear a bra as her boobs was showing in her clothes. I have started her on sports bras and 1st bras with no underwire as I think she would find them unconfortable with the wire in I know I do & have to cut them out of my bras.

Christy - posted on 11/03/2011

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This is normal, I recall being in 5th grade and 10 or 11 and this going on. I would suggest as some other ladies on here did, a sports bra. My mom MADE me get a training bra which was embarrassing and MADE me wear it every day since she said I looked "tacky" without it. I would never want another girl to go through that!!!!! No support from it, and it dug into my skin. It was very obvious to all the kids and boys would "pop" my bra (pull the strap far out on the back and let go). AWFUL!!!!!!!!

Krista - posted on 11/03/2011

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Yes, I would say that a sports bra would probably be a good way to go. They're very supportive and comfortable, and are modest as well. You might also want to get her a plain, skin-tone bra with lightly padded cups, so that her bra won't show if she's wearing a pale-coloured top.

It could be worse, Anina....I was wearing a C-cup at that age.

Tara - posted on 11/03/2011

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You could get her a sports bra or a training bra. The sports bra might work better and make her feel more comfortable with it since she is only 10. Once her breasts get bigger then a training bra/regular bra would work best for support but until she gets larger breasts a sports bra would be comfortable and supportive for her.

I had to go straight into a regular bra because my side of the family kind of "explodes" into it - I was a DD by the time I was 11 and honestly, if a sports bra would have had enough support that is the way I would have chosen to go for myself at that age.

Anina - posted on 11/03/2011

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i am also so not ready for this - it scares the daylights out of me my baby are starting to grow up - sad feeling :( wish i could kept her small

Stifler's - posted on 11/02/2011

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not full on padded padded but those ones with cups so you can't see the nipples with thicker material

Becky - posted on 11/02/2011

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I'm right there with you. My oldest started to develop at 8, and at 9 is an A cup. So far, she says the bras that have a little padding feel the most comfortable. I was an early developer, so I knew there was a good chance at least one of my daughters would be too. Sigh. I'm so not ready for this.

Anina - posted on 11/02/2011

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Gosh, that as well :) i started late with everything, thanks for the advice - it helped me to stop this panicking feeling that i am currently going through

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