Afraid of the working world after baby..

Voni - posted on 12/23/2009

Perhaps you could find someone who needs care for their infant while they work and you could get a check and care for your child at the same time?

Karin - posted on 12/20/2009

A lot of us go thru this. I had been out of work for 5 years when my baby was 3 and I decided to go back. And I was 43! The office world had gone computer in my absence. I checked with the county for a little help. They paid for child care for me to get started. I was able to find a day care/school that I could be comfortable with and I went back to working. You will be tired at first but you will be more motivated to establish a hometime schedule. Good luck, go for it!.

Ashlea - posted on 12/20/2009

Oh..and there is also something else that you could try if you wanted to. It's called Co-Sleeping. I do it occasionally now..but, did it for the first month with my daughter. I had a c-section and wasn't able to move very well for the first month..I had complications...but, Co-Sleeping allows for you to sleep while your child is sleeping...but, he would be right next to you.

Ashlea - posted on 12/20/2009

My story is a little different than the rest of the moms on here. But, I returned home from a deployment in April of 2008, a month later..I became pregnant...I have not worked since I have been back from deployment...my daughter is 10 months old. I have no plans of working until she is 15 months old. Although, my daughter has slept through the night since about a month old. I have had her on a schedule though..from about the age of 3 months. My daughter has always been a very active baby..never stops...So, when she does go down for a nap...which..she takes two a day..I go down as well. If I sleep while she is sleeping..unless if I have housework to do or something...I always find myself feeling better than if I stay up. My husband is also in the military and works long weird hours..so having a sleep schedule for myself..is hard and that is why I sleep when she naps.

Annabelle - posted on 12/20/2009

Quoting Lisa:

Hi Annabelle! It is natural for us to worry about these things, but please don't, you and your little man will be fine. Only go back to work when you are ready, centrelink and a cheap unit with cheap rent would be an ideal start. When you do decide the time is right for you, (my son is now 16mths and I have only just gone back to work part time) start off doing part time work and don't worry about being able to find an accomodating employer, you will, but play around with it if you have to, I started off full time and had to cut back because we were paying out more childcare etc than I was making, sleep when he does, when you can and don't stress about anything unesscessary, enjoy your time with your baby before he grows up, ever so quickly, take care, Lisa xx

hi lisa!  your words have been very encouraging.  my little man is very important to me and he is growing by the minute...  it's hard not to concern being a single mom but i do reside in a cost effective unit so i'm wasting my energy.  i will enjoy my boy, continue to look for work and pray the perfect job will be presented to me.  thanks again

Annabelle - posted on 12/20/2009

Quoting Christina:

Well, my son slept through the night by 2 months, so I can't say anything about that.. But just know that you are not alone. There are so many moms out there in the same situation as you. You may be tired physically and mentally, that's to be expected of any new mom. You may be able to find a job where you only have to work a few hours a day, or you may be able to find a job you can do at home. I know someone whose girlfriend is a Medical Billing Specialist-or something to that affect- and she works from home a lot, gets paid well.. You have to do training for it just like any other job, but that may be something you can do, even if it's just for a few months until your baby gets on a better schedule. Also, go to some local businesses and see if they are willing to hire someone to work from home. Explain your situation and they may be willing to work something out for you temporarily. Best of luck to you!

thanks  christina, i never thought of going to a local business and ask about working from home.  I've attempted to look for work i can do from home online and they're all marketing...not my cup of tea...  so i think I'm going to have to do what i can once i get a job and hope for the best.  thanks again.

Annabelle - posted on 12/20/2009

Quoting Brittany:

I completely feel the same that you do. My sons 3 months and theres no way he'll go on a schedule. Im also a single mom and I dont have anyone to watch my son if I go back to work. I had to quit my job when I was 7 months pregnant due to the heavy weight on my back. Im thinking I'll be the one with the separation anxiety rather than my baby...

Hi Brittany,  I think that too I'm petrified of, is the separation after getting used to having him with me 24 hours a day.  A lot of mom's do it so we can too.  Good luck and congratulations!

Annabelle - posted on 12/20/2009

Quoting Renae:

Annabelle, I never had my kids on a schedule either when they were younger. I would like to say that you need a good vitamin and try to sleep when the child is sleeping it will give you more energy and you won't feel so drained even if it's a quick afternoon nap. I think that when you start to work that you will be able to get the baby on a better schedule but for now just enjoy those precious moments with the baby.....Renae

Thanks Renae, I appreciate your response.  I will enjoy my little one and work on my sleeping schedule when I cross that bridge.

Lisa - posted on 12/20/2009

Hi Annabelle! It is natural for us to worry about these things, but please don't, you and your little man will be fine. Only go back to work when you are ready, centrelink and a cheap unit with cheap rent would be an ideal start. When you do decide the time is right for you, (my son is now 16mths and I have only just gone back to work part time) start off doing part time work and don't worry about being able to find an accomodating employer, you will, but play around with it if you have to, I started off full time and had to cut back because we were paying out more childcare etc than I was making, sleep when he does, when you can and don't stress about anything unesscessary, enjoy your time with your baby before he grows up, ever so quickly, take care, Lisa xx

C. - posted on 12/20/2009

Well, my son slept through the night by 2 months, so I can't say anything about that.. But just know that you are not alone. There are so many moms out there in the same situation as you. You may be tired physically and mentally, that's to be expected of any new mom. You may be able to find a job where you only have to work a few hours a day, or you may be able to find a job you can do at home. I know someone whose girlfriend is a Medical Billing Specialist-or something to that affect- and she works from home a lot, gets paid well.. You have to do training for it just like any other job, but that may be something you can do, even if it's just for a few months until your baby gets on a better schedule. Also, go to some local businesses and see if they are willing to hire someone to work from home. Explain your situation and they may be willing to work something out for you temporarily. Best of luck to you!

Peita - posted on 12/20/2009

I always felt like that until I actually started back at work, it is amazing how you learn to cope with everything! It was hard at first, but things seemed to work themselves out! I do have a husband at home that helps out, hope everything works out for you!

Brittany - posted on 12/20/2009

I completely feel the same that you do. My sons 3 months and theres no way he'll go on a schedule. Im also a single mom and I dont have anyone to watch my son if I go back to work. I had to quit my job when I was 7 months pregnant due to the heavy weight on my back. Im thinking I'll be the one with the separation anxiety rather than my baby...

Renae - posted on 12/19/2009

Annabelle, I never had my kids on a schedule either when they were younger. I would like to say that you need a good vitamin and try to sleep when the child is sleeping it will give you more energy and you won't feel so drained even if it's a quick afternoon nap. I think that when you start to work that you will be able to get the baby on a better schedule but for now just enjoy those precious moments with the baby.....Renae