Ah...temper tantrums

Krystal - posted on 11/06/2009 ( 6 moms have responded )

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My son is15 months old. He has recently learned that if he doesnt get his way he can throw himself on the floor screaming. My husbands says that I have spoiled him but darn it I dont!! I dont allow him to do anything he shouldnt do, I am constantly chasing him around making sure he is aware of his boundaries...I am going through terrible twos early!! Anyone else? Thoughts?

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Eileen - posted on 11/08/2009

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You are gonna wear yourself out constantly chasing him, do you have someone constantly chasing you? You learned what you could and couldn't do and so will he sometimes by getting himself hurt. Like from a spanking. Ignoring the floor fits will become an unproductive manuver after a while. Tough I know but remember you are the adult and his loving boss.

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Anticipate the situations that trigger your child to have a tantrum.

Keep a positive but firm attitude when you enforce compliance in a situation in which he commonly tantrums to get his way.

Don't argue if he starts to escalate into a tantrum. Simply restate your expectation and say, "I know you can do this. If you throw a fit, this will be the consequence."

If he chooses to tantrum, step back, stay close, but don't talk to him until he stops. If he storms off, let him go.

After he calms down again, enforce the consequence that you stated.

Follow these steps each time he tantrums. In time, you'll see in his eyes that he knows this is not going to work. Then, the behavior will start to fade away and you can both celebrate his newfound maturity.

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Shawna - posted on 11/09/2009

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Ok so do any of you have a solution for when you are in a structured environment such as a gymnastics class? I just recently enrolled my 2year old in a parent toddler class and it is semi structured. She wants to run around doing what she wants not what we SHOULD be doing. Most of the other kids have been going there for awhile, so they kind of know the drill. She stays at home with me everyday so she doesn't get the everyday interaction with other kids. The next youngest around her any length of time at home is her 7 year old cousin, so there is a pretty big age difference. She doesn't take part in the activities like the rest, doesn't like taking turns and throws herself to the floor screaming. I've tried sitting her down till she settles down but this last time (our third class) we left within 15 minutes of the class starting. I thought maybe with time it would get better and that is what everyone around me says, but I know these other parents don't pay for their children to go to gymnastics and listen to my daughter scream because she isn't getting her way. Any ideas

Krystal - posted on 11/09/2009

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I wish my son would make it that easy on me. I do walk away from him until he calms down. Once he calms down I come back in the room and he throws the fit all over again. There have been times where its been so bad that I put him in his crib until it subsides, sometimes this works but I dont want to put him in there every time. He does need to learn. Thank you all for the help

Angela Louise - posted on 11/08/2009

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My daughter is 14 months and she does the same thing. I walk away and ignore it. She eventuallys comes to me and will let me hold her and cuddle with her. It's a normal way for them to communicate. It'll pass.

User - posted on 11/06/2009

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The terrible twos are called that because they last two years - 1 and a half to three and a half. Anyway, his tantrums are his way of communicating his displeasure. Don't allow his reward for his displeasure to be him getting his way. You may not be able to control the tantrum, but you can control your response. My toddler doesn't bother throwing tantrums to get her way, because it doesn't work. I show little effect or disinterest. Now the only fits I see are when she is tired. I cuddle her and put her down for a nap. Good Luck.

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