all better but not sleeping

Sarah - posted on 09/08/2010 ( 6 moms have responded )

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Hi
My daughter has always been brilliant when it came to bed time. Come 7.30pm she took a drink of milk and walked herself to the door waving goodnight as she went (she only needed me to help her into her cot) and when in bed she went to sleep herself.

She was recently ill but is better now. During the period of 2 weeks she was sick she was up alot during the night with pain and couldnt or wouldnt go to her own bed by herself, falling asleep on my knee.

Now she is better i want her to go back to normal but it seems like i am starting from square 1 with a new born!
She is 16 months now and i know that she doesnt need night feeding. but she is getting up at 10pm and screeching, so i go in to calm her down and end up spending till 1am in and out of her room calming her down putting her back and leaving (only takes about 10 seconds from me leaving the room for her to cry again) and having to go back in and at 1 i just gave up last night and ended up giving her a bottle of milk and she went to sleep.

I no that i shouldnt but i am just so tired.

Should i just ignore her crying or because of not i need some advise!!
She is too old for a night feed

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Pamela - posted on 09/09/2010

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I agree with being firm. In and out of her room all night is not good for anybody. My daughter did this too after her cold. After a night of crying she'll most likely go back to sleeping.

Emily - posted on 09/09/2010

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I wouldn't ignore her cries. Just because she's 16 months doesn't mean that her cries don't mean anything. It's really normal for little ones' bodies to take awhile to adjust after being ill, even if they seem fine. I also don't think she's too old for a night feeding. Lots of babies still need this through the second year. Doesn't mean she'll need it forever, but I think being patient with her and not ignoring her cries will help her to get back on track, physically as well as emotionally.

Kelly - posted on 09/09/2010

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She has decided that having you there is preferable. You have to just be firm. Take her back to bed and say good night...no lingering and no mushy mom stuff : ) It's bedtime is all you have to say. Walk her back. If she screams then you can get up. Stop at her door and say it is bedtime and then walk away. Go back in in 10 mins if still screaming, don't touch her and say it is bedtime. Need to be robotic yet not showing up may scare her so this is done every 10 mins. with a min. ammount of contact besides walking them back and don't enter the room. just say the words from the door and then shut it. After a week you will all be getting a good night sleep. If you cave in once it will be a lont time before the lesson is learned.

Tanya - posted on 09/08/2010

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Try the routine you were using before she was ill and stick to it because it might take a few days to get back into the swing of it. Or you can try a new routine and stick to that one but the same thing it may take a few days to get on track. Just stick to it. Good Luck

Alison - posted on 09/08/2010

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I am very glad to hear your little one is doing better! It is normal for her sleeping habits to be a bit thrown off. Go back to whatever methods helped you get her on track in the first place. If you feel ready to let her cry it out, it will probably allow both of you to get more sleep. I agree she is too old for the night feed.

Rebecca - posted on 09/08/2010

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I had this problem with my son when he get's sick for more then a week the get into the routine of being sick I ignored the crying and enforced the regular bed time routine it only took a couple days to sort it out I know it is hard to listen to them cry but don't give in or she will keep doing it

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