All Members: PLEASE READ!!!

Sherri - posted on 10/28/2009

I thought this was to help mothers and encourage each other, not put people down. Please, if you don't want to raise each other up and try and help others, then why are you even on here! I was excited to find a site on "motherhood" but I'm sorry this isn't very encouraging to read these posts and find mostly negative feedback!

Christine - posted on 10/28/2009

I agree. Hopefully everyone is smart enough to do this but it is nice that you put up a reminder..

Dana - posted on 10/27/2009

Quoting debora:

I AGREE WITH YOU BUT YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO USE CORRECT SPELLING OF WORDS OR PROPER GRAMMER WHICH I FIND NOT SO HELPFUL .JUST LOOK AT THE POST I FLAGGED FROM ANOTHER YES MODERATOR WHO PUT YOU CHILD INSTEAD OF YOUR .THANKS.

Funny  that you post here of all places to complain.  It's ironic because I was correcting a post of yours telling someone to give an 11 week old a bottle of water and yes I inadvertently put you instead of your.  Big Whoop. 

Michelle - posted on 10/27/2009

I concur!

Kristy - posted on 10/27/2009

MAKE ALOT OF SENSE .. NOTHING AGAINST ANYONE OUT THERE , BUT JUST REMEMBER YOUR CHILD HAS A DOC FOR A REASON , AND THEY DEFENTLY KNOW "NOT BETTER THAN THE MOTHER " BUT THEY KNOW WHAT IS OK FOR YOUR CHILD....

Arlene - posted on 10/27/2009

Great advise, not all moms will think of that, most will, but we are only human...

Lisa - posted on 10/27/2009

Common sense should be used when taking advice from someone not medically trained. I agree Jenn. Well said!

Erin - posted on 10/27/2009

Quoting debora:

I AGREE WITH YOU BUT YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO USE CORRECT SPELLING OF WORDS OR PROPER GRAMMER WHICH I FIND NOT SO HELPFUL .JUST LOOK AT THE POST I FLAGGED FROM ANOTHER YES MODERATOR WHO PUT YOU CHILD INSTEAD OF YOUR .THANKS.

Umm... how totally random and off-topic. And FYI - you spelt 'grammar' incorrectly yourself, which makes this post even more ridiculous.

As for the OP, it most definitely does need to be said. There have been numerous instances of members giving advice that is far from medically sound. At some point, someone is bound to take this advice seriously.

Amanda - posted on 10/26/2009

I think that is totally true I ask my doctor about everything and usually I bug them about stuff even though I do like to get the opion of other women and I like to give my opinion if it can help but checking with your doctor is the best thing to do.

Neiceydaboss - posted on 10/26/2009

That is good to know. I know that Im not a DOCTOR but if I can help some mom I will offer my support I have a 25 year old that follows me to the letter and she sees that momma's not wrong on those things and she has three kids its works for some people. God bless you my fellow Mothers.

Lisa - posted on 10/26/2009

OK People Lighten up, no one is perfect that is why we are all here, and yes if you post in caps it means you are shouting!! There are many things going on in peoples lives MUCH worse than grammar and typing skills, be KIND to one another!

Hiba - posted on 10/25/2009

perfectly right jenn. specially that what applies to a certain child may or may not be suitable for another due to allergies or certain comlections. a mother should know all about her child before performing any action depending on a piece of advise. pediatricians are there to confirm what to do and what isnt suitable foryou child.

Brittani - posted on 10/25/2009

your absolutely right

Jena - posted on 10/25/2009

I agree that we need to contact our doctors but being the oldest of seven and the mother of 4 I know things these new fangled docs don't because I have the experience of being a mother and the oldest that makes me uniquely qualified to give the advice that I do. I also have and early childhood ed degree and would never give any one advice that I didn't personally use. So just as my mother said to me 12 hrs after the birth of my first child I raised all 7 of u and none of you are dead so hush. At the time she was spooning cheese and enchilada sauce in to the mouth of my 12 hour old baby.
Take all the advice you get with a grain of salt and if you are unsure ask your doc or just go ask your Mom. Remember that your instincts are your best bet. If it doesn't feel right don't do it

UMANA - posted on 10/24/2009

Thanks for the advice

Thandiwe - posted on 10/23/2009

Hey...wise one. This is timely advice and mothers lets take hind....we do't wana regret later ya.....

Pam - posted on 10/23/2009

Often health plans have a nurse on call or pediatricians have a "nurse line" you can call just to check on anything, and many are staffed 24/7. These can be helpful to either set your mind at ease or get help when needed, and can save a trip to the doctor's when you just have a question. For example, working 12 hours a day I could only breastfeed early a.m. and night, so didn't produce much, so supplemented with formula, but felt like even a little breast milk would do him good. When my 2nd child was born I could pump during the day at work, and now many companies offer a special place so you don't have to sit on the toilet in the ladies room to do it.

Tara - posted on 10/23/2009

I am lost... are we debating eachother her or were we thanking Jenn for caring! Someone... let me know!

Confused!

Charlie - posted on 10/22/2009

Quoting debora:

I AGREE WITH YOU BUT YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO USE CORRECT SPELLING OF WORDS OR PROPER GRAMMER WHICH I FIND NOT SO HELPFUL .JUST LOOK AT THE POST I FLAGGED FROM ANOTHER YES MODERATOR WHO PUT YOU CHILD INSTEAD OF YOUR .THANKS.

Please read posting ettiquette pinned in this community .

* Do not TYPE ALL IN CAPITAL LETTERS for emphasis. IT LOOKS LIKE YOU ARE SHOUTING. If you need to emphasize a word, use asterisks, like *this* or lines, like _this_.

(and it can be considered rude )

*if you come across someone else's mistakes on the net, don't put them down, just politely point them in the right direction for guidance.

Spelling mistakes and incorrect grammer are NOT cause for flagging please read our guidlines : http://apps.facebook.com/circleofmoms/th...

Krystle - posted on 10/22/2009

it just needs to be reminded that all children are different and no one can offer you better advice than ur doctor but its also very important to get different views on the subject you are asking about because sometimes doctors can only see the medical view about the topic !!

Jodi - posted on 10/22/2009

Quoting debora:

I AGREE WITH YOU BUT YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO USE CORRECT SPELLING OF WORDS OR PROPER GRAMMER WHICH I FIND NOT SO HELPFUL .JUST LOOK AT THE POST I FLAGGED FROM ANOTHER YES MODERATOR WHO PUT YOU CHILD INSTEAD OF YOUR .THANKS.

Debora, it's called a typing error.  Everyone does it occasionally.  Same as some people seem to have their Caps Lock left on so it appears they are shouting. 

Please DO NOT flag posts because they have typing errors in them. 

Debora - posted on 10/22/2009

I AGREE WITH YOU BUT YOU HAVE PEOPLE WHO DO NOT KNOW HOW TO USE CORRECT SPELLING OF WORDS OR PROPER GRAMMER WHICH I FIND NOT SO HELPFUL .JUST LOOK AT THE POST I FLAGGED FROM ANOTHER YES MODERATOR WHO PUT YOU CHILD INSTEAD OF YOUR .THANKS.

Amy - posted on 10/21/2009

I agree with what Jenn put on here. Even before I came on facebook and circle of Moms I asked different Moms on oppions. But I always check with my doctor first. What Jenn said is not putting any of us down. We all should know this but there may be someone who does not or they do know it but like what they hear and try it. I have seen alot of great post but also have seen some advice and thought why would you do that. I come on here to talk with other Moms and get advice. Do I always do it no but I sometimes just want to see how you would handle the situation. I am also in 12 step groups and someone always says Take what you like and leave the rest. That is what I do here. NONE OF US ARE STUPID but we are only human and we all make mistakes. Sometimes what works for me and raising my child may not work for you and your child. I think what Jenn said is SOOOO important as a reminder.

Not as a put down on anyone. If I give you advice on what I did with my child while he is sick and you use that method, and it does not work I do not want you comeing to me and flipping out. We all ask for advice on different issues. That is why we are here to help one another and support one another. What she said is just for all our safety not to harm and put down..

Vickie - posted on 10/20/2009

I agree very much! While many of us have tried & true methods on a variety of things, it doesn't necessarily mean they'll work for everyone. The best advice I ever got when my son was a baby is: "You'll be getting all kinds of advice. Some of it very good and some of it bad. You need to use your own judgement and common sense to sift out which to take and which to ignore."

Karin - posted on 10/19/2009

I agree, with both! Yes we are intelligent but oft we become just too desperate & accept advice from whom ever. It does need to be emphasised that a professional needs to be contacted BUT it is also important to hear from the "moms out there" as oft their advice is tried and tested, but they also offer support in the way of "hey you are not alone!" Also they could "point" a mom in the direction e.g. breast feeding clinics, support groups etc. Great post!

Lisa - posted on 10/19/2009

Quoting Delynn:

Great post. I know with my Dr. office , they have a nurse line and if you call them they are always willing to help. Asking questions to the right person can save a life. Asking questions to the wrong person can kill them.

Not only may your Dr.'s office have a nurse line but check your insurance card as well.   My insurance has a 24 hour nurse line that I have used a couple of times and it was VERY helpful.....saved me a trip to the ER.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/19/2009

Well said

Tiffany - posted on 10/19/2009

Well Said, I hope everyone on here is smart enough to know this already!!

Jamie - posted on 10/17/2009

Good Advice. I agree to check with your childs dr first. But I have got alot of advice from moms here. The first person to see my daughter was a nurse practitioner and I thought he was a dr b/c at first he seemed real good and haylea seemed to like him. Well, as time went on he ignored me and reported me to social services b/c my daughter was a small baby, but he couldnt figure out what was going on. So I came here and ask some question and alot of mom gave me advice on what might to feed to her to help gain weight. Needless to say we switched to an actual dr and she has gained weight b/c she is now on whatever she wants from the ok of her dr and is on half whole milk and half formula with ok from dr. This dr is not worried about her weight at all. She is 14lbs 10oz and only 9 months old. I want to say thanks to all the mom that gave me encourgement and said not to give up.

Delynn - posted on 10/17/2009

Great post. I know with my Dr. office , they have a nurse line and if you call them they are always willing to help. Asking questions to the right person can save a life. Asking questions to the wrong person can kill them.

Susie - posted on 10/17/2009

I remember riding in the back window of the car on a 500 mile trip when I was a kid. Car seats are life savers! Great comment.

Susie - posted on 10/17/2009

I agree, but it is always nice to be reminded as there may always be that one who does not have the knowledge everyone else assumes to have.

K - posted on 10/17/2009

Thanks Jenn...a reminder now and again keeps things in perspective.

Thea - posted on 10/16/2009

I agree!!!!!! I asked about my 4 month old screaming in her car seat and someone told me to face her to the frount!!!!!! I would never do so but after her comment a LOT of other moms went off on her and me. She may have just read things wrong and not understood that she was a 4 month old. Always talk to your doc! But if it is a question for moms read closly and respond with respect to others please. This is not a place for put downs or lashing out. It is to offer help and advice!!!!!

Cheryl - posted on 10/16/2009

Smarty Pants Badge --Who would have thought!lol!

Cheryl - posted on 10/16/2009

Yeppers!

Kat - posted on 10/16/2009

what do the badges mean?

Kat - posted on 10/16/2009

ur right about that

Tamla - posted on 10/16/2009

i agree with you completly on that especially if the baby is sick

Connie - posted on 10/16/2009

IT is not a matter of disparaging any ones intelligence, but people especially parents will buy into things, by a ton of being a parent books, there are many who don't live around family and so they are kinda learning this as they go along. I for one think that there is way too much crap that parents buy. You do not need a ton of books, Dr. Spook is one of the best , but I am not recommending really any others, of course it's been a long time since my kids were small.I also think that many feel a lone and so they are scared or not sure or confused and that is why this is a really great place to come and ask questions. It really is overwhelming how much stuff is out there and how much people prey on fears and make a lot of money. SO I am glad that you posted this, but what I also like is that we are able to say what we want to a point and that is ok even if I do not agree with you. Like the baby Einstein good lord what your baby is not a genius at 3 months old, it's ridcoulous really. THings have gotten too complicated and compettiveness . Let kids be kids .

Carolyn - posted on 10/16/2009

Common sense says your Dr. should always be consulted. As a Director/Owner of Daycare for 26+yrs. We were told by the state, even though we work with these children every day. You must tell the parents to consult the Dr. before you do any changes or try any suggestions. So my view, it's sound advise and some not so experienced moms need to know. Even though a caregiver I was always questioned and after a while. Take the advise or leave it, but remember you did ask for it.

Christina - posted on 10/16/2009

Quoting Leanne:

Quoting Susan:

Does this really need to be said? I think majority of us are intelligent women who have
already talked w/ their Dr. and want second opinions.

I think it definitely needs to be said! Although most of the advice given is good, some of the suggestions I have read on here are just plain crazy and dangerous. I don't think we can assume that everyone is in a position to have talked to a professional for a number of different reasons.

I think your point is very important and was very well presented, thank you

I agree, you have to be mindful that there are mothers of all ages that use this forum and there may be a young mother that may actually use some of the advice presented before consulting a doctor. I know a few mothers personally that likes to take advice from other people before they go to the doctor.

Connie - posted on 10/16/2009

I am so glad that you said that.

Cindy - posted on 10/16/2009

Good point Jenn!

Wendy - posted on 10/15/2009

your absolutely right !!!

Sharon - posted on 10/15/2009

Very good advice. Sure we all have encountered these things but nothing can replace the guidance & expertise of your family physician.

Lee - posted on 10/14/2009

While it can be helpfull to hear what others have tried remember not all situations are the same and all babies and children are indviduals with their own circumstances. I have 4 children and 11 grand children and I'm an advocate for breastfeading and going to the doctor, remember not to many years ago mothers DIED in child birth and many babies DIED in infantacy, but today we have these wonderfull people called Doctors, use them as often as you need. I'm still trying to get over this mash potato and gravey!!!

Patsy - posted on 10/14/2009

Quoting Jenn:

All Members: PLEASE READ!!!

CoM is a great place to get advice from fellow moms, however.......

There are certain controversial topics that are discussed on this forum quite frequently. ie: when to start cereal / solids, what to give for reflux, what to do about rashes,, circumcision, breasfeeding, constipation, failure to thrive, eczema, fever, etc.... you name it, we have questions about it.


The one thing that I want to remind moms of is:

No matter what kind of advice you may receive from CoM forums...it is ALWAYS best to CHECK WITH YOUR CHILD'S DOCTOR FIRST.

We have wonderful, caring moms that always mean to help as best they can, but, as wonderful as they are, they are not medical professionals.

Please consult your child's doctor before implementing any advice you have gathered from the CoM forums.


Thank you,

~Jenn~

Com Moderator

Patsy - posted on 10/14/2009

Good advice.Thank you.

Shannon - posted on 10/13/2009

True. Good advice. Every child is different.