All Parents Of Intact Boys Read Immediately

Mark983 - posted on 01/16/2013 ( 22 moms have responded )

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This is a subject which many physicians in the United States are highly ignorant of. The Foreskin is to NEVER be forcibly retracted. The forekin does NOT need to be attempted to be pulled back on a child for any reason. The ONLY person that should be retracting the foreskin is the boy himself when he finds that it retracts on its own.

From the moment a boy is born the foreskin is fused to the head of the glans by a membrane called the synechia, which is the same type of membrane that seals the fingernail to the finger. As the child ages the foreskin will begin to separate from the glans until it is eventually fully able to retract. The mean age of retraction in boys is 10.5 years. Until this point the foreskin should never be retracted prematurely in an attempt to clean the penis. This would be equivalent to breaking a girls hymen in order to clean the inside of the vagina.

In non circumcising cultures parents do nt teach their sons to clean their penises even after they are able to retract. A way to look at is that circumcised men are not taught how to clean their penises, but they figure out how to do it on their own. It is the same for intact men. The obsession with cleanliness is a myth, evolution and natural selection resulted in the ideal types of reproductive organs for both genders based on environmental factors.

Forcibly retracting the foreskin before it is has retracted naturally can lead to many short term and long term consequences. These include but are not limited to:

Infections

Scarring

Painful readhesions to the glans

Phimosis later in life ( where the foreskin is not able to retract )

Paraphimosis ( where the foreskin is not able to go back over the glans following retraction )

Swelling

Bruising

And other conditions as well

It is important to remember that the only training many pediatricians and urologists in the U.S have on the foreskin is how to cut it off. Even today many of them are completely ignorant as to how the foreskin functions as they are not taught this in medical school.

Here is a quote from the organization Doctors Opposing Circumcision:

" WARNING TO PARENTS: FORESKIN RETRACTION OF INTACT BOYS — AN EPIDEMIC (And ease of hygiene for your child)

In my capacity as the Executive Director of this international physicians’ non-profit, I field around three anguished complaints each week from parents of intact (not circumcised) boys whose foreskins were forcibly retracted by ignorant medical practitioners. Premature, forcible, foreskin retraction (PFFR) is a much more painful, serious, and potentially permanent injury than most parents imagine. It is also epidemic in English-language medicine (though apparently not elsewhere). I speculate that only one in 1,000 cases in N. America comes to our attention. Indeed many parents have no idea their child was injured or why. That might mean as many as 150,000 cases in the USA each year, but no one knows for sure.

Here is a typical incoming email. (For reasons of HIPAA protection of our parents, this complaint is a composite, details changed, but it is very typical).

I have read on a mothering website that you handle complaints about retracting the foreskin of little boys. We kept our boy, Ethan, now six months old, uncircumcised because we know it is unnecessary, painful and risky. Last week during a routine doctor visit, and before I could stop him, our pediatrician, Dr. ‘Paul,’ peeled my son Ethan’s foreskin back all the way. It happened so fast there

“Ethan screamed instantly, cried for hours, and has been restless and fussy ever since. There are now small circles, like cracks, around his foreskin, which ooze blood. His whole penis is red and swollen. Ethan is now unusually fussy as soon as his diaper is wet, and we think it must sting when he urinates. He screams when we change him or the diaper touches his penis. It just breaks my heart to hear him. He had no problems at all before this doctor visit.”

“Dr. Paul told us that we must pull Ethan’s foreskin back this way every day or at least at every bath, to prevent what he called ‘adhesions’ and to clean out the smegma that builds up there. He said that if we don’t, our boy will need to be circumcised for sure.”

“Is all this necessary? I can’t believe you need to hurt a boy to keep him clean. It makes no sense to me and I am very angry at what happened to Ethan. He was a very happy baby before this.”

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What happened to ‘Ethan’ in this composite anecdote (my three cases each week all have similar heart-breaking details) is an unmitigated, inexcusable disgrace, indefensible medical malpractice, and a clinically unnecessary (and illegal) injury to the child. ‘Mom of Ethan’ has exactly the right

Forced retraction is only rarely defensible. Inguinal hernia, undescended testicle, hydrocele, and varicocele can all be addressed without forcible retraction. The penis should be repositioned for any necessary intervention with sterile tape, not by inserted hemostat. Catheterization can be done by 'feel,' without retraction. Only in the instance of significant hypospadias or epispadias (congenital malposition of the urethral opening) might retraction be necessary and even then only if it is unavoidable collateral damage for which there should be specific follow-up care."

You can read a more in depth analysis on this subject here: http://www.doctorsopposingcircumcision.o...

It is appalling what is being done to intact boys in the U.S at the hands of ignorant and uninformed physicians. The true severity of the problem may unfortunately not become apparent for several years when the victims of these ignorant practicioners begin to explore their sexual nature.

Here is information on what you can do if your son has been forcibly retracted: http://www.drmomma.org/2009/12/forced-re...

Please take this line to heart " when intact, dont retract".

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Mark983 - posted on 01/17/2013

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Sorry, i thought that fathers could join to. I do hope that this advice helps parents that are confusede on this issue though.

Lucy - posted on 01/18/2013

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As a Brit, I find it bizarre that this would even be an issue! Here in the UK circumcision is a very unusual procedure generally only done for specific medical reasons. My son who is now 5 is intact (as are all of the boys of a similar age that we know) and it would never occur to me to try and retract his foreskin- We would certainly be shocked if we were told to do so by a medical professional.

There really is no reason to harm your child in this way, for misguided "hygiene" concerns or any other reason. If it were necessary to clean under a boys foreskin in the way this doctor suggested then there would be a huge infection problem with intact boys in the UK, because no parent that I know of does this. The fact is, there is no such problem. I have never met a single intact boy or man who has had medical problems due to not being circumcised, nor any parents who have felt the need to retract their sons foreskin for any reason.

Merry - posted on 01/17/2013

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Yes Phina, your son is just fine. Sme boys foreskin doesn't retract until teenage years! There is never a reason to circumcise. If there's a deformity it almost always can be healed through meds creams or maybe a small slit. Keep your son whole and remember it could be years before it retracts and this is totally fine. Check out the whole network, circumstitions.com. Drmomma.org. Saving our sons. And other intactivism web sites for more info.

Phina - posted on 01/17/2013

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Thank you for posting these, It helped a lot. My 4 year old boy foreskin is not retracted, I've been so worried I even wanted to Circumcise him, but no luck course every doctor I went to told me that they do not do it on boys of his age, they start doing it at 7 years only. Now I am realive knowing that there's nothing wrong with my boy. Thank you

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he said it was the most painful ordeal he had ever endured! He made sure both his sons were circumsed at birth
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Was that so they could share the "most painful ordeal" as babies adn therefore is negligible since they 'wont' remember.'

Shirley - posted on 01/21/2013

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Every male in my family was circumcised at birth-including my grandsons so I am not sure what this is all about. I was raised that the best thing was to circumcise at birth because it was better for the male. I do know that my husbands brother was for some reason not circumcised at birth and he needed to be circumcised when he was in his 20's due to medical reasons-he said it was the most painful ordeal he had ever endured! He made sure both his sons were circumsed at birth!

Mommy - posted on 01/21/2013

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It's intresting because when I gave birth to my son I asked the doctor if there was anything special I needed to do and he said nope, just use water and mild soap to clean the area daily during bath time and he said NOT to pull the skin back. I guess some doctors are not informed...that's sad....and scary!

Amie - posted on 01/20/2013

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Both my boys are intact. My first was born when I was 18 and circumcising just seemed cruel, so I refused it. No reason other than why mess with nature? He was apparently the rare guy who is born with retractable foreskin, because I never forced it, but it was always easy to push back. (I heard a hundred million times about how hard it was to keep it clean- but never had an infection or any other issue) My fourth child (and second boy) was born when I was 29 and had done my homework. He is a happy 18 month old, but I will admit, I was amazed at how little his skin retracted at first. At this point, his explorations have freed it a little, but he will definitely be much older before his skin is back all the way. Very different experiences, still no infections or issues, but info was easier to find this time around!

Shaina - posted on 01/20/2013

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Thank you!!!!!! The dr told me to do this evety diaper change or they are going to have to be circumsized. My husband gets so mad because even uf i barely do it they cry. Im so releaved!!!!! Thank u thank u thank u!!!

Dianne - posted on 01/20/2013

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I will never forget the look of pain on my son's face when he was circumcised on top of all the weeks of addt'l care involved in taking care of his 'little area' he was an infant a day old, he's 16 now but I still remember the look on his face & how painful it must have been. I was told to hold & comfort him & believe me, I did most of that night. He was also my first baby so it was extra stressful being inexperienced & 'all thumbs' not quite knowing what to do!

Marie - posted on 01/20/2013

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I will say I was a CNA and we had an older gentleman that didn't pull his foreskin back himself. When we had him in our rehab facility he had a major infection and when the doctor or nurse pulled back the foreskin a little they were able to to try to clean it and apply medication it smelled of rotting flesh. I do not know if he had ever pulled it back or not. My sisters boys are intact and she makes sure they know how to clean themselves. I understand everyone has their own parenting styles but it is important to be sure they know proper hygiene methods for their own health and safety now and in the future.

Lucy - posted on 01/20/2013

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Sorry Dianne, you probably think I'm being sarcastic, I didn't mean to tag your post as funny! I was typing on my new smart phone, which I keep making mistakes on because of the tiny screen!

Julie - posted on 01/20/2013

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They retract their foreskins themselves slowly over years of stretching and pulling. I've seen my son pull his foreskin and wrap the whole thing around his finger and pull his scrotum out flat. It' given him hours of enjoyment, ranks up there with cardboard box on the fun scale. It's just inane how medical practices enacted a hundred years ago still pervade the industry of Medicine. It's up to parents to be an informed, skeptical parent.

Stephanie - posted on 01/18/2013

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I agree with you 100% on this especially since circumcision started as a religious sacrifice, and everyone decided to adopt it because of "cleanliness" issues. It brings to mind the superstitions of the dark ages. You know, not washing because you would catch your death. It seems logic has slipped past Hamas once again lol

Dianne - posted on 01/18/2013

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I heard that you are not supposed to pull the foreskin back until the child is around 5 years of age. When did this study come out?

I have to say I am a little worried about hygiene, as I have heard horror stories of (at 3yo) I thought he would hurt himself as it is still attached, but he seemed fine with it. But he did it on his own.

Dianne - posted on 01/18/2013

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I was told not to pull the foreskin back until the child was around five. When did this study come out?

Ulrike - posted on 01/18/2013

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thank you for posting this! not being a boy myself :-) and not having brothers this has been something i was wondering about and have not really been able to find any information on. Thanks!

Phina - posted on 01/17/2013

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Thanks Laura, I will definetely check the website for more info. have a blessed day.

Merry - posted on 01/17/2013

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Wonderful advice. Parents really must be careful to protect their sons form foreskin damage. Intact is always healthier, but retracting a baby's foreskin can cause so much damage.

Kelly - posted on 01/17/2013

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Also men on this site is a Not generally always accepted,but I do believe CoM is creating something for men so stick around and join the community for men when it is made :)

Kelly - posted on 01/17/2013

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Thanks for posting his as many will find it helpful although I didn't know what to expect when I read the title to your question lol.

Have a lovely day :)

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