am i a bad mom?

NICOLA - posted on 01/01/2010 ( 204 moms have responded )

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hi all my son will be 3 in may and he is still in nappys i have tried to potty train him so many times but he refuses to use the potty just pees all over the floor. i do want him to be out of nappys but i am not gonna pressure him to do something he does not want to do. everytime i see someone i know and if they ask is he out of nappys and all i say no and there like WHAT REALLY!!!!!!!!!!!! like i am a bad mother or something should i already have him out of nappys or are all kids different. any advice on potty training is muchly appericated. thanx

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Bethany - posted on 01/07/2010

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Your definitely not a bad mom. My daughter who is now 7, wasnt potty trained till she was 3 1/2. Despite my best efforts of trying every trick I could think of to entice her to go in the potty just didnt seem to work with her cuz she just didnt want to. She would scream and holler everytime i tried. I finally just gave up and decided i wasnt going to bother with it for now and a few months later she basically potty trained herself. Each kid is different. I found its not really worth getting her and I all frustrated, they will do it when they are ready. He's not 3 yet so I wouldnt worry about it.

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Hi, I had the same problem with my 11 year old boy. he was not ready period until 3 1/2. One day he decided he was ready and he's never had an accident. I was nervous too. but that's just the way it is. I say to my mommy friends now: you don't ever seeing an adult walking around in diapers, right? So that just proves everyone gets potty trained eventually. My son is a GATE gifted student - really smart. It makes no difference. They're ready when they're ready. cheers!

Enola - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hi there,



I had trouble getting my twins to potty train as well. I tried every piece of advice I was given. Took it from family, friends and doctors. They refused to go to the potty. By the time they turned 3. I had convinced myself there was something medically wrong with my kids. Took them to a specialist and nothing was wrong. It all boiled down to them not being ready. Their pediatrician finally said, they will do it when they are ready. So I gave up on trying. They both started potty training themselves 3 months later and it was the easiest thing in the world. Because they were ready..Dont be so hard on yourself. All kids are different and will DO IT when they are ready....

Shanan - posted on 01/07/2010

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I have 3 boys. The first one did everything early (walked at 9 months) He potty trained by 2 1/2. The other 2 sons were at least 3 1/2 . One thing that worked well for me was the poo poo party story. Let me know if you havn't heard it. That is if he has a hard time with #2. Its common for kids to have a hard time with #2. Be patient mama. He won't be in diapers forever even tho it may feel like it sometimes.=)

Sandra - posted on 01/07/2010

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yuo are not a bad mom.Dont feel that way.Step by step he will stop.Some kids take their time to stop wearing nappies.It differs.you can try also by singing the potty song making it funny as time goes on he will like it.Good luck.

Sandra - posted on 01/07/2010

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yuo are not a bad mom.Dont feel that way.Step by step he will stop.Some kids take their time to stop wearing nappies.It differs.you can try also by singing the potty song making it funny as time goes on he will like it.Good luck.

Evie - posted on 01/07/2010

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YOU ARE NOT A BAD MOTHER TRY TO IGNORE THESE SELF RIGHTEOUS WOMEN THEY WERE JUST LUCKY

I found with my son, to help toilet train him was having a step for him to stand on at the big toilet and for him to try and hit the table tennis ball and then he had the fun of flushing after he had finished and a little treat, a stamp on his hand or a piece of fruit or a chocolate.

This might seem gross but my son first started toilet training by weeing on the hawthorn bush unfortunately taught by his father. I wouldnt advise this it could lead to embarrassing situations in public.

cheers

Evie

LaDonah - posted on 01/07/2010

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well he's goin 2 go wen he gets ready 2 be potty trained my son jus got potty trained an he will be 3 in like 2 weeks but he was potty trained like 3months ago but i was tryin 2 potty train him since he was 1 but then wen he got around older kids and seen them go 2 the toilet thats wen he wanted 2 do it so my suggestion is 2 put him around like older boys like 4 or 5 but you r not a bad mom every kid isn't the same

Amanda - posted on 01/07/2010

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Make a target in the potty so that it makes it seem fun. I did that with my nephew and he just loved it! helped him lots. cherrios, fruit loops or even if its a kid potty you can paint on a target!

Jodi - posted on 01/07/2010

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You are not a bad mother. Every child is different so don't worry. My son was about 3 1/2 before he reallt started on the potty. When they are ready you will know. I find that the more you push them to do it the more the don't want to. Good luck

Louise - posted on 01/07/2010

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Hi Nicola, My daughter will be three in march and is just getting out of nappies, we only put them on her when we go out and at night time now.

But its been a long hard road- we almost had her trained when my twin daughters came along and she reverted, and she is now the only one in our mums group who still wears nappies at all (all same age)

I've been through the whole 'bad mum' thing severel times with a lot of issues, my daughter is only 11 kilos and 'should' be 13!

They had all the tests done, quzzed me on what I fed her, made me feel like a bad mum, and have now finally accepted what I said all along, that she has my fast metabolism, but it took me producing two chubby (and getting chubbier) twins for them to believe me!

I know I'm going on a bit, but the point is, no matter what, don't let people undermine you because of the way a child 'should' behave or look.

If your son is happy and has a zest for life, I say you are a good mum!

Colleen - posted on 01/07/2010

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Don't stress you will get there just keep persevering and remain calm. We used the big toilet from the outset. I would just insert a toilet seat inner on the big loo for number 2's. I was worried my boys would wear the potty as a hat. I also didn't fancy having an extra thing to sterilise and clean out. We just put a little stool at the base of the toilet for the boys to climb up onto. You'll probably find the big toilet has more area to aim into rather than the little potty. It's also a good idea to put things like cheerios in he loo for him to aim at. He might also not enjoy doing his number 2's in there at first either as it's quite a freaky feeling for some kids (I had one of those). First work on the peeing and maybe let him wear a nappy just when he needs a poop until the peeing is sorted. One step at a time and leave the night nappies for later because that would be too much pressure. It will happen so hang-in there and don't be pressured by other people.

Schmoopy - posted on 01/07/2010

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Many kids aren't out of diapers until 4. And boys are notorious for being especially "slow" in this area.



Take a break from it for at least a month - maybe even longer. Don't stress about it. Remember: he won't be in diapers when he's in college!

Shannon - posted on 01/07/2010

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You're doing fine. Don't listen to people who say things like "At the age of three, it must be a medical problem because my kids didn't do it." They don't know squat about you, and they don't know squat about your kids. Some kids are stubborn, and don't wanna give up their diapers. Some kids are afraid of the potty. Gosh! That sounds so awfully medical doesn't it? My son has older step brothers and when school started this year, his step mom told him that if he kept having accidents that he couldn't go to school. THAT is what finally ended my potty training issues.



You're doing fine, keep on trying. There's some good advice here, and sinking the cheerios is a GREAT help. Also, candy rewards can be good, and you can hook them up with a little extra for doing things like, putting the seat down and washing their hands too. ((And its a great way to teach them to count!))

Brooklyn - posted on 01/06/2010

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it really helps if a man teaches it to him but if not just stick to one thing try big boy pants and yes he will still wet them but you have to stick to it give rewards and praises. help take him to the potty and take him at night sometime letting him were nappys is tell him it's ok to wet he's selp with out sayin it, it nothing wrong but boys are harder then girls has nothing to do with mom being a bad mom

Lisa - posted on 01/06/2010

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The average age for potty training boys is around 3. No two kids are alike, and I don't know of anyone who went to kindergarten in diapers. Persevere, and it will come!

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I didn't really get to read all the replies and this all may have been said, but I am the mother of 3 boys (ages 8-11) and they do take longer to get the potty training down. What worked for me was putting Fruit Loops in the potty bowl and let them "hit the target". Then, I would give them a few as a reward. It was fun for them to actually put food in the potty (which by the way dissolves and causes no plumbing problems) and then they had a reward at the end. Many said that they would give them candy treats or keep treats even by potty for rewards, but that just made my kids go to the bathroom over and over just to get treats, but would never actually use the potty. Hope this helps!!!

Sonora - posted on 01/06/2010

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Don't let anyone make you feel bad about this- all children do things when they are ready, and sometimes the more you push the more they are hesitant, all you can do is make a big deal about it when he does good. my son was fully potty trained at two then at almost three he regressed and acted like he didn't know what to do. I think its just because it is one of the very few things they CAN control and also trying to get attention maybe.

Kerri - posted on 01/06/2010

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Nicola you are not a bad Mom. My son is a little over 3 and he is still in pull ups(although I have been thinking of switching him to regular underwear and dealing with the extra messes, because I heard pull ups don't help anyways) I know how you feel about potty training being so frustrating. You don't want to force him before he's ready because he will just rebel harder. But in the case of my son, I know he's ready, he knows how to use it and will use it sometimes, but most of the time he's just lazy or doesn't want to stop what he's doing to take the time out to go potty. I am really trying to get him trained by the fall though because he is supposed to start school and I want him trained before I will send him. And yes Boys almost always take longer than girls to train. I just wanted to add my support and say that no you are not a bad Mom at all.

:)

Harilene - posted on 01/06/2010

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First and foremost, you are NOT a bad mother. If your pediatrician says that there is nothing wrong with your son healthwise, then don't worry. He will eventually use the potty.



My two boys did not potty train until they were almost 3 1/2. I didn't push either one of them but I did mention to them every so often that they were getting to be big boys and it was time to start thinking about using the potty. My youngest was the hardest. I would give him my speil about being a big boy and using the potty and he would tell me that diapers were just fine with him. Then, one morning I heard him in the bathroom and I looked in and low and behold he was using the toilet and he's never looked back.



So don't worry about what others say, it'll happen and probably sooner then you think.



Take care!

Kat - posted on 01/06/2010

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You're not a bad mother! Your son is just strong-willed. Welcome to mommyhood. lol



My third son was still in diapers a few months after he turned 3. At that point I also had a 2-yr-old and a newborn, and I just got sick of the expense. So one day I told my son, "You're a big boy now, so you're going to wear big boy pants." When he had an accident, I made him put his wet pants in the laundry and get out a new pair to put on. Sure, the work of cleaning it all was a pain, but he was completely potty trained in less than two weeks.



It's all about what works best for your family, though. As long as he'potty trained before he goes to school, all will be fine.

Aj - posted on 01/06/2010

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I was a single Mom when my son was potty training and the BEST thing in the world are cheerios!!! Sink the cheerios, a friend gave me this advice and I used it, he was potty trained at 15mos old!!!!

Sherry - posted on 01/06/2010

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do you have a husband or a man that can take him in the bathroom and show him what to do ( I know souds weird) but it was the only thing that helped my son.

Chelle' - posted on 01/06/2010

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O my goodness no! I went through this about 13 yrs ago... Boys! SO MUCH EASIER than girls! Lucky for us eh? Try pouring a few cheerios in the water, and tell him to sink the circles! :-) always turned out pretty fun really... I actually told Ryan when he was resisting the potty training thing... It's ok buddy, as soon as you no longer want any more diadies and to have wet pants, you do this ( referring to big boy potty) and then you'll even get big boy underwear! I was amazed when the next day to my amazement he chose to go all by himself!

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"Many parents don't start potty training until their children are 2 1/2 to 3 years old, when daytime bladder control has become more reliable. And some children aren't interested in potty training until they're closer to 3, or even 4.

Use the checklist below to measure your toddler's progress toward readiness, and keep in mind that starting before your child is truly ready doesn't mean you'll finish sooner — it's more likely that the process will just end up taking longer."

Physical signs

Is coordinated enough to walk, and even run, steadily.

Urinates a fair amount at one time.

Has regular, well-formed bowel movements at relatively predictable times.

Has "dry" periods of at least three or four hours, which shows that his bladder muscles are developed enough to hold urine.

Behavioral signs

Can sit down quietly in one position for two to five minutes.

Can pull his pants up and down.

Dislikes the feeling of wearing a wet or dirty diaper.

Shows interest in others' bathroom habits (wants to watch you go to the bathroom or wear underwear).

Gives a physical or verbal sign when he's having a bowel movement such as grunting, squatting, or telling you.

Demonstrates a desire for independence.

Takes pride in his accomplishments.

Isn't resistant to learning to use the toilet.

Is in a generally cooperative stage, not a negative or contrary one.

Cognitive signs

Can follow simple instructions, such as "go get the toy."

Understands the value of putting things where they belong.

Has words for urine and stool.

Understands the physical signals that mean he has to go and can tell you before it happens or even hold it until he has time to get to the potty.



This is a quote from babycenter.com. All children develop at different rates. I work in a preschool and it is not unusual to see three year olds not potty trained. I would look for signs of readiness but certainly NOT force the issue before he is ready!

Kelly - posted on 01/06/2010

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boy usually do take longer... and no you are not a bad mother.... as long as your are trying and you cant force it on them or they will be come afraid of it.... it is something they need to become comfertable with.....my nephew was not completely potty trained till he was 3 1/2

Joanne - posted on 01/06/2010

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When he's ready he'll potty train himself. Don't push him. i just had a nephew who

fianally said i'm ready at four. Most kids are done my school age..

As sleeping my boys went to sleep any where they got tired on floor,

outside just laid down and took a nap. boys seem to be a little slower then girls.

Don't be surprise once they can be outside they will pee anywhere. To busy

to come. in.

This too will pass. good luck.

Angela - posted on 01/06/2010

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My son is 4 1/2 and still has lots of accidents. he trained the week he turned 3 and my doctor said this is average for boys. Get him a step stool and put cheerios in the toilet for aim.

Heather - posted on 01/06/2010

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No your not a bad mom. Boys take longer to train for some reason. My son was 3 1/2 by the time it finally clicked. What worked for me was a reward chart in the bathroom. Once he went he put a sticker in the peepee or poo box and once he got ten stickers he got a prize. A sucker, a kids meal, a car or something small that I came up with even just a hershey kiss. It took about two weeks once the chart was in place. As well as lots of praise and no discouragement. Hope it helps

Caroline - posted on 01/06/2010

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I agree with Diane Smith-Jardine. A child should be completely potty trained by 3. Encourage him that he is BIG boy now. Purchase him big boy underwear, have him watch his father or father figure. I have 2 boys and 2 girls and the boys were much easier than my girls because it became a game for them. My boys were trained before 2 yrs and girls by 2 yrs..Good luck

Kristal - posted on 01/06/2010

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all children are different. they will go when they are ready for it. its a big step and for some kids very intimidating. a girl i worked with her daugter was 4 before she fully was potty trained and the mother tried very very hard with her daughter.. where we worked we could bring our children to work. and she would ask her every 10 mins if she had to potty and shed say and then pee in her diaper or pullup. or she would take her potty and she wouldnt go then get off and go in her diaper.. it was ruff but then one day it just clicked in for her.. and she hardly ever had accidents after that. my daughter was different she was potty trained by her 2nd birthday. but after a stay in the hospital when she was sick she went back to going in her pullup. but now at 2 1/2 almost 3 shes back to where she was when she just turned two in the hospital. so it took quite a while to get her back on track. plus its always said that boys take longer anyhow.. no one else has right to judge you, so dont worry when hes ready he will let you know. good luck

Heather - posted on 01/06/2010

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I worked in a daycare center for many years and have potty trained many children and they all learn differently I have seen many parents want their little ones to be put on the potty before they are ready which makes no sense at all. All children are different and 3 is pretty normal for starting but I have found disposable pull ups do not work they use them as a diaper you can buy thick training underwear which allows them to be wet but it doesn't make as much of a mess. Don't worry he will learn in time.

Cheri - posted on 01/06/2010

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I would say yes he should of been out of them by now! I also have a 3 yr old and I had her trained at a year old and I'm working on training my 10 month old now. It's more work on you them him. Set a alarm every 1-2 hours have him sit on the potty for about 15 min or untill he go's potty. Read him a book, sing silly songs anything to keep him on the potty. Then then he go's potty jump up and down clap and scream. Like he just won the super bowl. NO MATTER where your at or what your doing STOP or pull over car whatever but when the 1-2 AT MOST is up take him potty! AND Never put him in a nappys again. As long as you put him in them he will think it's ok to use them. Have HIM throw them away his self. If you need more ideas read the book "How to potty train your child in just one day"

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One thing I learned from potty training my kids, and that was a longggg time ago..lol..is that all kids are different. Mine all trained at different ages. One trained completely at a year and a half, other 2 were a little over 2 yrs. I tried to make a game out of it, and used rewards. I had a chart, and used stars.. They got stars when they used potty, different colors depending on whether it was number one or number two. With boys, something you can try is, place a plastic toy that floats in the toilet..sounds crazy, but it worked for both my boys...tell them to try to aim and hit the plastic toy..my boys loved it, and after that they wanted to go on their own. I made it fun, instead of like a chore for them. It's worth a shot..Good luck to you. ;)

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And oh by the way, You are NOT a bad Mom..you are a great Mom! Not all kids train the same way, or learn the same ways..they are all unique and different. :)

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One thing I learned from potty training my kids, and that was a longggg time ago..lol..is that all kids are different. Mine all trained at different ages. One trained completely at a year and a half, other 2 were a little over 2 yrs. I tried to make a game out of it, and used rewards. I had a chart, and used stars.. They got stars when they used potty, different colors depending on whether it was number one or number two. With boys, something you can try is, place a plastic toy that floats in the toilet..sounds crazy, but it worked for both my boys...tell them to try to aim and hit the plastic toy..my boys loved it, and after that they wanted to go on their own. I made it fun, instead of like a chore for them. It's worth a shot..Good luck to you. ;)

Deborah - posted on 01/06/2010

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If you little one has a dry nappy after a short sleep time then he is ready to 'upgrade'! Some little ones would rather use the big person toilet than a potty - a sticker chart can be helpful so he can see his progress. The main thing is to stay calm and not react as he will pick up on this. If other people remark then just say he will do it when he is ready - you are NOT a failure. Take heart - I have yet to meet a little one that starts school that isn't out of nappies!!!

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Hello Nicola. I can tell you as a qualified and experienced nanny, Childminder, Mother of three and Grandma, you are not a bad Mum. Children do not come with manuals, or remote controls. Every child is different and learn at their own speeds. This does not mean they are behind others. It just means they have so much to learn, take in , experience within the first 4ish years of their life's they do it in different stages. The one thing I tell my Mothers is

1.you know your child better than anyone - you’ll know when they are ready to do something.

2.Do not give in to outside pressure.

3.Remember - by the time children go to school they can walk, talk, run, jump, are out of nappies and anything else you worried they were behind on.

4.Never compare your child to another ever, they are all individuals not clones.

5.Each and every child is their own person with their own special abilities and gifts.

Please don’t worry love, he will get there, in the mean time enjoy your precious gift they grow up all to fast.

As for the potty training I would take all the pressure of him for a few months until the summer. Far easier to do this summer time. As everyone for some reason seems to be relax and happier.

Then prepare him for the idea by talking to him about the toilet/potty.

How big people don’t have nappies.

Read him stories that are about potties, not wearing nappies etc.

Afterwards leave the potty around. perhaps teddy would like to use the potty or any game that does not involve him using it.

Let him know that both you and Daddy use the toilet and other big boys and girls.

When he wants to use it make a big thing about it, lots of praise. If he ever has an accident do not tell him off. An ops a daisy, or oh-dear is all it needs and move on. Just praise him lots when he gets it right and be consistent.

I have to go my two year old wants some ‘help’ meaning my attention lol. They are so demanding bless them.

I hope this helps love and does not sound like a lecture - I’m sorry if it does.

God Bless you and yours.

Debbie x

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WHAT IS A NAPPYS??? Anyways...it all depends on the kid. I tried to potty train my oldest when he was 2.5 and it didn't work so i laid off and gave him room and out of no where he started doing it 1 month before he turned 3I know it's hard but you can'r push them if they're not ready but at the same time you can't let them walk all over you.

Keep reminding them to go potty every 15 minutes or so and they will catch on when they are ready. Just don't give up but then don't try so hard. Who cares what people think, just keep working at it.

Dana - posted on 01/05/2010

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Hi! I am a mommy of two, my son who is 3 1/2 and my daughter who is 2. My son refuses to potty train. I started in May of 2009 right after he turned 3 because he was going to start pre-school in the fall two days a week and they have to be PT to attend. We (my husband and I) worked hard at making it fun and giving him incentives, we tried the cheerios, we tried skittles as rewards, we let him pick out his underwear, we even got a urinal (peter potty) so he could stand up, we have two different chairs that we bought that he picked out to go in each of the bathrooms so that he would be comfortable and nothing. Two weeks ago, he came to me and said that he wanted to go to Disney World. I told him okay if he started going potty in the big boy potty and wore his big boy underwear we would go (we already have a trip planned so this worked well for me). After about two days of racing to the potty and cheering along with encouragment and his 2 year old sister has decided to PT now he told me that he doesn't need to go to Disney World anymore... wow! Today when I picked him up from preschool they told me that he has had to many accidents #2 in his pull ups (yes, we did the pull ups so he could go to preschool). So now what?!? I felt like a horrible mother, and it wasn't the teacher that made me feel this way. It is self imposed. I had to give myself a pep talk and I'll give it to you too. Each and every child is different. Your child has control over when he will start to potty on his own, there could be a lot of factors that are effecting when he will be ready. The thing is they are only little once and if we take the pressure off of us as mommy's and let it just be and encourage them it WILL happen. Maybe not on our time frame but who cares when it does happen. I also get a lot of comments on him still being in pull ups or the fact that my 2 year old nurses at night and first thing in the morning or that my kids still get up in the middle of the night and I haven't had a full nights sleep in almost 4 years. And you know what - today I decided that "those people" aren't walking in my shoes with my kids! The fact that you posted this shows that you care! So give youself a big hug for being such a good Mommy and don't worry about it! Good luck!!!

Tanya - posted on 01/05/2010

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Don't worry my son is 3 at the end of January and he is only just starting to toilet train, he absolutely refused prior to this. I tried using pull ups but I think they worked too well so he could never tell if he was wet, so I tried jocks a few times and he didnt like the wet pants. I started by reading to him on the potty so he sat for a bit, usually in the morning first thing after breakfast and he nearly fell off the potty the first time he did a wee out of excitement. Now we use special treats to encourage him to use the toilet or even try using the toilet. It will happen....

Sarah - posted on 01/05/2010

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I don't think your a bad mother!! All kids train in their own time and boys seem to take longer than girls for some reason. My daughter has been trained since she was 20 months and with little effort so she must have been ready. Just be patient with your little man and im sure it will all fall into place for you

Veronica - posted on 01/05/2010

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I gave my son a dummdumm every time he pottyed the first free weeks after a while he will under stand it is better to potty in the toilet and he will be trained before you know it I hope it works give him lots of postive attention and praise we called daddy every time for the first few days so daddy could say great job I love you he loved to here it from him to.

Allison - posted on 01/05/2010

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What I found worked for both of my boys was getting them out of the diapers and into some cool new underwear! You cant believe how exciting "big boy underwear" can be. Also, I found using pull-ups or training pants just prolonged the agony because it still kept them feeling dry. Going straight into regular underwear was A LOT more uncomfortable. Therefore, stopping the accidents much faster. We had a friend that had an aversion to the toilet because of the noises it made, maybe try talking to him about what he doesn't like about the toilet. In the meantime try a little pottyseat? This is just worked for us, and doesn't mean that it will work for your little guy. Keep your spirits up!

Jennifer - posted on 01/05/2010

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don't feel bad my little girl is 3 1/2 and she's going number 2 but want pee and i'm at my at the end of my rope b/c i know she can do it but want and u can not push them or they will lock down and go backwards. its like u playing the waiting game.

Heather - posted on 01/05/2010

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absolutely boys take longer to train than girls. this is true. I have run a successful home daycare for eight years, and have potty trained dozens of boys and girls. Guarenteed, the most important factor to remember is that he WILL NOT be thirteen and still peeing on your floor. He WILL successfully potty train, and he will do it when he is ready. I would suggest making it easy for him (sometimes more difficult for you, b/c it can be messy) and being patient. You are most definately not a bad mother for waiting until he is ready. It really helps if he can witness other children using the potty - or even adults - and the proud excitement that follows. Good luck, and remember that any persistance or determination that he has today about NOT using the potty, is persistance and determination that will serve him well as a charachter trait in many areas of his life as a young adult. :D

Nikki - posted on 01/05/2010

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Don't let people's shock make you think that you're a bad mother. Every child will be ready at different times. What I would recommend is to make it a game or have him sit on the potty for like 5 minutes every few hours and get him used to it. Then make it into a game and provide him treats every time he makes a # 1 or #2 in the potty. Potty training takes time and patients. Nothing makes a boy feel more special than thinking he is now going to be a BIG boy. hope this helps you. DOn't beat yourself up too much. o

Melissa - posted on 01/05/2010

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No way your not a bad mom! Boys take a longer time! I have 2 2 & 1/2 year old girls and they are not potty trained yet! They dotn have the mind set so I dont push it! if they tell me they need to go I take them! But for those who say WHAT ~ tell them if they have any grand ideas to help then to let you know! I had people saying WHAT because mine were still in the ecosaucers at 19 months! Well till they walk in my shoes to get stuff done at home then I did what I had to do to make sure my kids where safe and sound till I could give them my full attention! so good luck with the potty training! its always a challenge!

Andrea - posted on 01/05/2010

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NO way ur not a bad mother. My youngest daughter will be 4 in Aug. and she still takes naps to this day and i love it cause it gives me my own time to do what i want and need to do. Now potty training i never had a problem but i think girls r much easier than boys i have tried potty training my nephew and he just dont want to go unless i make it as a game i would put cheerios in the toilet and tell him to aim and pee on them he likes that...lol If u ask ur doc. she/he will tell u dont rush him into anything he will do it on his own when he is ready.....I personally wouldnt rush him into it if he dont want to go just yet.

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