Mary - posted on 12/18/2012 ( 7 moms have responded )
Hi everyone. I need advice. I have a 1 year old daughter. Her biological father and I dated for a short period of time before finding out I was pregnant. He had nothing to do with the pregnancy as he was more worried about smoking pot and doing whatever else he was doing at the time. So after a few months of trying to understand "Why this and Why that" I decided to end the relationship. He is not on the birth certificate and she has my last name. I allowed him in her life after she was 3 months old. He moved into our home and we tried to make it work. However, during this 5 month waste of time, I found out he was on drugs and taking pills and when he drinks it is in excess! I ended the relationship once again. For a year, there has been no phone calls only text messages "Hey" "Hey hows baby". The man is not trustworthy and he does drugs and knows NO responsibility as he has lived at his parents (who also do drugs as well) house his entire life and still resides there.. Not someone I am going to allow my children to be involved with. You can only give someone so many chances to prove themselves and it has been one fail after another. I feel as the texts are lame attempts and not good enough for my daughter. Should I respond to these pointless text messages? Am I doing the right thing? I need some advice... Is there anyone that has been in a similar situation? So many questions... any response is appreciated! Thank you.