Am i having a miscarriage? Please help.

Kayleigh - posted on 06/12/2012 ( 100 moms have responded )

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I went to the hospital on 7/06/2012 With bit of bleeding after sex (sorry tmi) They took bloods and said everything fine and sent me for an ultrasound. I was meant to be 7 weeks and 2 days but was measuring 6 weeks and 1 day. She said the heartbeat was slow and said it could be 2 options 1) The dates were just calculated wrong or 2) The heartbeat will keep slowing until it stops. And told me to come back thursday 14/06/2012 for another ultrasound The bleeding stopped that day. Its now 12/06/2012 and since yesterday morning ive started bleeding. Its not like a heavy period but its not like spotting its kind of like a light Pink/red period with discharge. I got a bit of pain the night before it happened but nothing too bad but i dont feel any pain at all today but still bleeding? Im terrified at what it could be would do you think?

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Colleen - posted on 06/12/2012

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First I am so sorry if it is the case that you are miscarrying. I would go back to the Dr. being that the bleeding you are having now is different than from the beginning. And maybe for a ray of hope I lost my son between my oldest and 2nd daughter...but with my 2nd and 3rd daughter I had light bleeding in the beginning (scared me to death) but I went and got checked a few times and they told me I had what is called implantation bleeding... its where the placenta is burying itself into the uterine wall. If there is anything I can do or you just need to talk I will be here. Also I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

Louise - posted on 06/12/2012

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Any bleeding needs to be looked at and is considered serious. Go back to the hospital and get another scan it is the only way to know what is going on. Some women naturally bleed through out pregnancy, dont be to worried yet this will only cause you to have raised blood pressure which is not good for the baby.

Go back and get them to tell you what is going on. Then you can decide what is best for you to do. Good luck.

Heather - posted on 06/13/2012

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I spot bled with both of my pregnancies for a couple days and was petrified that I was miscarrying. EVERYTHING WAS FINE. With that in mind, the best thing that you can do for yourself and your fetus is to try and relax and take it easy the next couple days. Go to work/school etc., just don't overdue it.
Now, when your pregnant the hormones within your body increase substantially and there are a lot of chemical changes taking place. This can lead to a lot of anxiety. The first several weeks of pregnancy are when a lot of body systems begin to develope for the fetus. After the sperm and the egg "unite" there are several very complex cell divisions which occur to create the various systems for the "fertilized egg" to become a vital fetus. One of the first systems to develop is the 'heart', but there is also lung tissue, skeletal structure, and all the neurological etc., systems that need to develop properly. Our bodies are incredible machines that are able to decipher the success of these millions of cell divisions that occur within a fertilized egg. Even though the heart began to beat that does not mean it was developed properly, nor that doesn't guarantee that lungs, brain development, liver, kidney, intestines, etc will take place. That is why there are so many miscarriages in the first trimester. If you can, utilize this time to connect with your 'higher power' and let your faith give you strength during the first 12-14 weeks of any pregnancy. If the egg doesn't mature during this time period into a "vital" fetus your body will discharge it. Many blessings be yours in the knowledge that everything happens for a reason and in the long term everything will be okay!

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When I was pregnant, I woke up thinking I had wet the bed Turns out it was blood gushing from my uterous. I called the doctors' office. They did a trans-vag ultrasound (wth my heart in my throat the entire time) and she was able to find im.

Are they able to do a trans-vag and find him?her?

And I am so sorry. I remember that fear so very welll. My husband at the time couldnt' be bothered to go with me do the doctor so i had to face it alone. tAke someone with you no matter what.

Kayleigh - posted on 06/15/2012

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Im starting to get a few shooting pains now which is to be expected. I battleing myself in my mind about the miscarriage ive been booked in for a D&C on monday but i keep changing my mind about wanting to go natural. I am ment to be putting on a show on 22 and im scared of just delivering the baby there and then on stage so thats making me go towards surgical (plus risk of infection if dont) but on the other side something keeps telling me not to go surgical and i would like to bury my baby and not just have it thrown away. I so tired with all the thinking. How long does a miscarriage take? what are the stages? whats best surgical or natural? so many questions

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Maya - posted on 02/10/2014

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I was 7 weeks an 5 days pregnant I'm also 21 years old. I had barely woken up on a Tuesday and I went to the bathroom I was bleeding I rush quick to the ER with my mom. I had been waiting 3 hours till the doctors check on me finally they did they said my cervix was close and did blood work on me it was completely normal to bleed but to rest. The doctors also told me to call a OB asap and make appointment this week I did call right away. I told them what had happen to me they said sorry we can't check on you till 3 more weeks there was no more room for me. That week on a Friday I started to cramp more and still bleeding. I went to a normal
Doctor and she told me that my cervix was a little open that I might have a miscarriage she send me right away to do blood work but all they told me is that everything was fine and to come back Monday for more blood work. That Saturday my mom drove me 45 mins away from out town to another town to we got to the ER and the check me so fast and they where way nice. I told them what had happen witch he started over and did blood test and check me he told me I was having a miscarige and there was nothing he could do I was crying so I sign the papers to leave. I was crying so then I get a call that I need to come ASAP back to the hospital my mom turns around freaking out my doctor was waiting for me at the door he said he needed to give me a shot right now because if I didn't get the shoot I
Could never have baby's because I was RH negative that's when he told me that he went back an check my blood work and that what made me
Have a miscarriage. If the doctors from my town would have pay more attention to me that Tuesday my baby would've survive it's sad that doctors do everything so fast to
Try to get more people in to make money. I'm so depressed and lonely I need good vibes my heart is broken.

Katrina - posted on 07/31/2012

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So sorry for your loss. I have a few angels too.My eldest angel was 10 and a half months old when he passed. Nothing any of us could say will change anything, or make it better, but know that we are all thinking of you and lifting you up in prayer.Keep a support network close by, and take plenty of "mental health days". xxx

Julia Goh - posted on 07/25/2012

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maybe its due to vagina infection.during pregnancy our skin too will be delicated n soft.during sex might tear those tissues.try avoid sex n walking activities.stay at bed more.no heavy jobs allowed n no icy cold foods n drinks.that might help u better.hope everythings ok coz i have some miscarriage too.thats y my hubby stopped me frm doing everything include cooking to avoid it happens again.try not to move everything in your house.let everything stay in shape.as chinese do believe that our child spirits will be following us during pregnancy.moving things might hurt him.and sex after 4 months is better and....do wear condom to avoid infections ya.gentle sex ONLY during all your pregnancy.no rough one and do not do it too often.try it and see.hope u all the best.take care.^_^

Jennifer - posted on 07/25/2012

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I've had two or three miscarriages and I know that this can be very scary. Try remain calm. I know that it is a lot harder than it sounds. When you go for blood work they measure the HCG levels, and they look to see if they are going up stay the same or go down. they generally like to see them double in a 2 day period. With my miscarriages there was a lot of spotting at first, and it got heavier and heavier over a two week period. Then there was cramping, it gradually got worse and worse and can be unbearable. It felt like contractions that you would go through in labor. I can tell you that when I was pregnant with my son I was put on extreme bed rest for about the first 20 weeks. I had lots of spotting, and sometimes heavy bleeding. I was put on prometrium, a hormone to stop the bleeding, as well as hospitalized, and eventually put on heparin injections twice a day. I now have a very happy healthy four year old son, so hang in there and don't give up.

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Could be....do you usually get back pain along with cramps during your period? I would still get it checked since they previously told you to come back if the symptoms continued ...you don't want to let it go just in case the infection hasn't cleared up...that could end up turning into PID (pelvic inflammatory disease). Do you have a fever; even just a low one? Are you feeling more tired than usual? Those 2 things could also indicate an infection. Best of luck tomorrow in getting to see a dr! Let us know how it goes...

Kayleigh - posted on 07/22/2012

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Thank You. I have only just been able to see this message so will phone asap in the morning. I live in the UK. I just though it was meant to happen maybe its my period?

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Kayleigh, this is not normal 5 wks after a D & C!!! I wasn't even bleeding anymore at that point! ! It sound like you have a bad infection. I can't believe they didn't even do an internal while you were there!! Go to another place as soon as you can; I know it's bad timing with tomorrow being Sunday and everything. Could you call your dr and see if they reccomend going to the ER? Because of our anatomy, it's possible the bacteria has also caused a urinary tract infection or bladder or kidney infection, and that might be the cause of some of the pain, especially the back pain. I'm not trying to scare you, but if this infection spreads all over your pelvis, it can cause damage to your future fertility : ( I'm so very sorry you are having to go through this when you've already been through so much. Not sure where you live (as in country), but in the US, sometimes the dr may prescribe a stronger antibiotic over the phone once they have already seen you. But you have to call their emergency line (here sometimes called the exchange) and depending what dr is on call for the wknd will determine what they will or won't do. I let a bladder infection go once for a couple days cause I was working long hours and just figured I would see a dr on my next day off. But in that 48hrs, it spread to my kidneys and that's when the back pain started. So try and see who you can get ahold of tomorrow, but it definately sounds like you need a stronger antibiotic. They definately should have looked at you and taken a urine specimen. A blood test to see if your white blood cells are elevated would also indicate an infection. Best of luck, hang in there! You just might need to get really assertive with them that you need care and it can't wait! Keep us updated on how you are doing!

Kayleigh - posted on 07/21/2012

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**** Also forgot to say blood is bright red one minute and the next it is browny/black with little brown stringy (look like wet toilet paper) things in it about 2mm long. Its not allot of blood now but still have to wear a pad and it there every time i wipe. ***

Kayleigh - posted on 07/21/2012

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It has been 5 weeks on Monday that i had my D&C. I thought i would update and ask for little bit of advice about what is normal afterwords. I went to the doctors nearly 2 weeks ago and they discovered i have an infection from the d&C, I have been on my antibiotics now for 4 days (they are to be taken for 7 days). Now last night me and my partner decided to take the next step (foreplay) and when he pulled his finger out (sorry TMI!) there was blood covering hi whole hand and up his arm and when i stood i felt really dizzy and sickly. I phoned NHS direct and they said 2 things to me 1) if the bleeding doesn't top by the next day even if it is very light then to go doctors or walk in center. and 2) Because my symptom have not gone it means my antibiotics are not working and i need stronger ones. Well today the bleeding is still here so i took myself the walk in and they said its nothing and sent me home and didn't do an internal or check anything but my blood pressure. As the day is going on i am starting to get pains in my lower pelvis and in my back coming and going. I just wanted any advice from people. Is this normal? Should i be concerned? What shall i do? Sorry my posts are really long but there just seems to be one bad thing after another and i just want to feel normal again!!

Jessica - posted on 07/19/2012

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My midwife told me that bleeding after sex is normal. but i would deff go to the hosp just to make sure.

Alicia - posted on 07/17/2012

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Sounds like nothing to be concerned about dear. When I miscarried it was like a flood and very fast too. I would still be checked out to always be on the safe side! May God be with you!

Karen - posted on 07/16/2012

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Kayleigh, I am sorry for your loss - I have had 4 miscarriages - 8wks, 6wks, 5wks & 7wks gestation. All four were a little different from each other, but in between the first 2 & second 2 I had my daughter (there is still hope for a baby, so don't give up).
We were told that the female egg and male sperm are like different colours - they have to blend to make the right colours and sometimes there is something not quite right so the body does what it is supposed to do and the result is a miscarriage or spontaneous abortion.
My second 2 were not complete and I required a D&C for each (they were not as bad as I was expecting) but the recovery was very quick.
I would suggest when you have had time to process this to go and see a counsellor or psychologist - I went after my last miscarriage & even though there wasn't much time spent on the miscarriages, it helped me deal with my current pregnancy (now 27weeks), job loss and the terminal health issues of family members.
I hope that your physical and emotional recovery is quick. You are not alone.
Thinking of you

Sharonda - posted on 07/15/2012

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With my first child I saw blood but it was because my placenta wasnt up enough.

Mrsprincess069 - posted on 06/26/2012

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I am so sorry to hear about your loss dear, and you will be in my prayers. I know this isn't much help, but at least you have time for a next time, and maybe you will be blessed with a whole lot more!!! Hugs for you dear as you need them during your time of healing!!!

Melissa - posted on 06/25/2012

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It can be the amount you had or several weeks of bleeding. It is best for your body to try not to get pregnant though for 3-6 months . if you want to try again.

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I don't remember much bleeding at all after my D&C. Perhaps 4-6 weeks was a maximum? I didn't even bleed that long after pregnancies, so maybe it's just me... I think it's probably fine though. Hugs for you as the rest of you heals as well...

Kayleigh - posted on 06/25/2012

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Its been a week today since my D&C. Is it normal to not have had any bleeding or pains since? Just very light spotting mixed with discharge (sorry tmi) I only bled for like the first hour after surgery and since then nothing. they said i would be bleeding for like 4-6 weeks.

CHERYL - posted on 06/19/2012

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So sorry any bleeding needs to be looked at and is considered serious.Go back to the doctor or hospital at once. Mine was the same way, I had to stay on bed rest again. I would bleed then stop. It was great to see one ultrasound with the baby and it's heart beat.
they did several ultrasounds the one day after none stop off and on bleeding the did one from radiology. when the lady turned the screen quickly I knew something was wrong. I had a tumor that killed my baby 6-30-90
At times my bleeding was real bad even with bed rest I got up and was soaked from the bleeding. I knew something was wrong from a miscarriage back 9-8-86
Some women naturally bleed through out pregnancy and some are not. the doctors will know more, and the ultrasounds can show more .

Mrsprincess069 - posted on 06/19/2012

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I had light bleeding and bleeding during sex with my first daughter, and she had a slow heart beat, and it turned out to be a problem with the RH factor. My daughter was negative and I am positive, but shots helped that out completely. My daughter in law recently had the exact same problem, and bled every time they had sex, but now she has shots, but every now and again she has light bleeding, so they do monthly ultrasounds.

April - posted on 06/19/2012

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I am so sorry-I just read that you had a miscarriage. I posted my reply before I read all comments. When you get pregnant again, try to be extremely careful during those first three months. Try to abstain from sex. Again, this is only something I was told but I followed it and had two full term pregnancies! Good luck in the future

April - posted on 06/19/2012

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I had a bit of bleeding with my second pregnancy and it scared the crap out of me. It turned out to be nothing and I had a healthy baby boy. Just a bit of advice, don't have sex in the first trimester. I have been told it is too risky. In fact, the first trimester is the most fragile time-no exercising, heavy lifting, sex etc. Good luck with your pregnancy! Hope everything is ok.

Angela - posted on 06/19/2012

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i'm so sorry to hear of your heartbreak. most forget through their grief that dad is hurting too. my partner and i greived together both times we went through it, find strength in each other honey. xx

Tracy - posted on 06/19/2012

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I'm so sorry. I lost my first baby to miscarriage. I was 15 weeks along when my body decided to evict my baby whom the Dr says died at 8 weeks gestation. The pain will ease in time. Lean on your partner. Don't let this tear the two of you apart. I tried pushing my then bf away but luckily he was having none of it. Love each other and mourn the loss of your baby.

Tracy - posted on 06/19/2012

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I bled with both my girls. Very heavily with my older one. I would go back to the hospital and have another ultrasound ASAP. I would hold off on having sex until the Dr gives you the ok. Think positively...but do get checked again. Good luck.

Marlene - posted on 06/19/2012

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Kayleigh I personally would go to my own doctor. No one knows your body better than you and your doctor. I would have your doctor give you a complete going over. Any concern you have is valid. Otherwise you are going to put yourself in a constant state of panic which is not good for you or your baby.
I did the same thing with my first pregnancy...and it turned out i had a full cycle for the first few months :( It made it so that my due date was moved up by a month :) as i was further along than first anticipated. But she was born healthy and happy 7 lbs 10 oz.

Georgina - posted on 06/19/2012

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rest a lot i was like that with my third pregancy check it every week i use to see bloood every ten days and at the end it was fine good luck

Pamela - posted on 06/17/2012

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This post is being made on 6-17-2012. If you have not called the doctor and explained what has been happening. Please do so. Any advice you get here will not help. Call your doctor, tell what is happening and take it from there. The highest and best to you and the baby!

Kayleigh - posted on 06/17/2012

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On my way for my D&C. Final gooodbyes to my little angel ♥

A Poem my friend sent me:
You see God needs special people to create the angels he has by his side,
And he chose you, for which you should feel great pride.
It is not forever; he has borrowed them for a while to live up above,
Where they still know you are mum and every day feel your love.
Rest assured that the day will come when you - mother and child - are back together,
But until then, remember they will always be around; look out for the rainbows or a white feather.

R.I.P Baby Sharp. Due date: 22/1/2012 Gone But Never Forgotten, Watch Out For Your Big Brother From the Clouds ♥ ♥ ♥

Cheryl - posted on 06/17/2012

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Not to scare you but I had the same thing happen with one of my miscarriges.. I was measuiring behind and when i went for my next u/s there was no heartbeat.... i had light spotting too.. Hope that is not the case for you...

Kristina - posted on 06/16/2012

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I am so very sorry for your lost. No words can express the feelings of loss, I wish I could say that the pain goes away but I will tell you it gets easier. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Kayleigh - posted on 06/16/2012

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I woke up at 3am with pains (mainly on my right side of pelvis) feeling like early labour that lasted 10 minutes without stopping, then nothing until a few minutes ago where i now have lower back pain in my left side? Is this normal? I still havnt decided what i want to do :s Do you get an ultrasound before the d&c . i know this sounds crazy but 'Just to make sure' xx

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I don't think there is one best way, Kayleigh. You just figure out what is best for *you* and your situation. I chose a D & C because I wanted to make sure everything got out and there wouldn't be any chance of anything being left behind (which I don't think is very common, but check with your dr). I myself was a bit paranoid because I have endometriosis and at that point had already had 2 laparoscopies to remove scar tissue and adhesions so I could even get pregnant. Maybe I was just really hormonal at the time, but for some reason I didn't want to go through the body's natural way because I thought it would drag out the process, I really didn't want to see it come out of me and for some odd reason had this strange fear of seeing it in the toilet? I don't know why, I just didn't want it to happen that way. Sorry, probably tmi! But if you are already having the pains and your body is ready, it may happen before your appt. I do wonder if just going "natural" would be easier on your cervix...you mentioned you had an excision recently, right? So I would think whichever has the least amount of trauma to your cervix so as to minimize scarring. You may have gotten pregnant quickly after the cervical procedure since it was all clear and open : ) And you will again! Even though I was devastated by my miscarriage, it did ease my mind that I *could* get pregnant! Do whatever feels best for you. Perhaps going through this together with your partner will help both of you with the grieving process and the loss. Either way you choose, I think you will be okay to be on stage by the 22nd. If you do go naturally, a lovely tradition a friend of mine had was to plant a tree along with the remains. She also did the same with her placentas. If you are renting, you could do something smaller in a planter. Just some ideas for you. I also read a couple of books on miscarriages; my favorite was one that had many different stories at all different women who lost their babies in different stages of pregnancy. I so wish I could remember the title for you! It was the first time I felt like my feelings of loss were validated; everyone just seemed to think I should get on with it after the first week or so, but I was still so sad and depressed because I had wanted that baby so badly. Good luck with your decision and please keep in mind that no matter what you decide, there is no right or wrong way to do it. It's your body and you do what you feel is best for you. {{{Big Hugs}}} and keep us updated on how you are doing! Take Care, Debi

Jill - posted on 06/15/2012

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Kayleigh - I have miscarried twice - but I have had 3 children since. I did not have a D&C either time. One was very early & my body did it's thing & it was like a really strong period. My second was later - similar in timing to where you are now. I was a tad bit farther. By the time the shooting pains started, it was like an extremely intense period & lasted for a few days. I too knew that it was happening & what it was - which made it all the sadder. I realize now that I'm glad I knew ahead -- it would have been harder if there had been no warning. I was able to tell when my body passed the fetus. Be prepared for that possibly - for feeling that and seeing that. I think it sounds like the D&C may not be needed for you after all. If you are still having these cramps on Monday, you should still go to your appt. They can do an examination and determine if your body needs the help or not. Don't diagnose yourself on that. Prayers and blessings for you. It hurts I know, but time will heal. And the spirits of both the babies I lost are still with me. I didn't lose that.

Kristy - posted on 06/15/2012

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I went through the same thing with my first pregnancy I went to the hospital and they ran blood tests and sent me for a ultrasound I was supposed to be 8 weeks 5 days pregnant but the ultrasound put me at 7 weeks 3 days after that the bleeding continued and my doctor sent me back for another ultrasound this time it said I was 5 weeks 1 day a few days later a did loose my baby it was the worst time of my life
I really hope this isn't the case for you stay positive and go back and see your Dr if you are still worried also make sure you get plenty of rest and stay as stress free as possible.

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I would hesitate to say don't have sex; each woman is different and so is ea. pregnancy. I hadn't had sex at all at least a week prior to my miscarriage. As in Kayleigh's case, the fetus had already stopped growing at approx 6 weeks. So the sex Kayleigh had did not cause her miscarriage. It just started the symptoms that would eventually have happened on their own anyway. If a pregnancy is strong, most drs will say it's fine (as long as you don't go overboard). If someone has a physical problem; for ex unstable cervix, uterine issues, previous miscarriages, high risk pregnancy, etc then that's a different case. Each person should have a talk with their dr. about their own individual self. Just my opinion...

America3437 - posted on 06/15/2012

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Wow talk about bringing back memories. Kayleigh, after going through this same thing 5 times my only comfort to you can be your little angel has 5 friends to play with! May God be with you during your time of sorrow and bless with his light.

Rufaro - posted on 06/15/2012

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Sorry Kayleigh for your loss. The only comfort we have is that she is in a better place and you will meet her in heaven.
May the good Lord strengthen and comfort you and your partner.

Leonie - posted on 06/15/2012

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Kayleigh. I am so sorry for your loss. Sending you a big cyber hug! ((((hug))))

Rebecca - posted on 06/14/2012

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Perhaps not having regular sex would at least ease your mind. There are other ways to have fun with it. Sounds a bit too stressful to keep it up. And, there is always later. I would say go into the Drs office often till the bleeding stops. Sounds way to scary to me!

Vanessa - posted on 06/14/2012

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I dont want to freak you out, but I miscarried yesterday with the exact same. I was 7 weeks and 4 days. It started with cramps, then period pain for a few days and then spotting (when wiping only) then pinkish slimy discharge.

Go back you your Dr or go straight to Hospital. I have 2 previous miscarriages so I am a little bit more relaxed this time.

Good Luck and stay strong!

Riz - posted on 06/14/2012

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xxxx Look after yourself huni xxxx

I really think there is not enough guidance on pregnancy, menstrual and post partum care. The Eastern side of the world have a better understanding of the impact of footwear, clothing, massage, intercourse etcetera. Look after self xxxx

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