Am I near to labor?

Lovely - posted on 05/15/2012 ( 30 moms have responded )

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I am 36weeks and4days pregnant now. me, my mom is having confusions when will really be my due date .. will it be on the end of May or first week of June. When I got my 1st visit on OB for pre natal check up she asked me when is my last menstrual period and I told her SEP. 13,2011 was my last menstrual period. But now .. I remember .. last year sept. It was just like a small spot of blood. Not like my normal menstrual period before. Now I am wondering is the month of september will be the 1st month I'm pregnant? Am I about to get labor this month of May? Please do help me.

this past few days I feel more pain in my upper back and lower back and I can feel that my belly is getting more harder and tighter .. My baby girl this past few months moves every now and then .. but now .. she moves not like before .. maybe moved less than 10times now .. and I feel like I want to have more #2 but when I'm in the bathroom already I can't.. and when i walk .. or just sit down in chair .. I feel like I wanted to have pee pee .. it's like when she moves her head .. and hurts in my pussy part ..

am I really near to labor? Please help .. Comments and suggestions will help.

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Carol - posted on 05/16/2012

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Many, many women throughout the ages have had babies naturally and even alone. You are lucky! You have that nice OB that you like. She will be wanting to see you every week now and she should be measuring your belly and checking your cervix to see if you are dilating. If you are dilating past 2cm, she will probably hook you up to a machine to check your contractions to see if they are real. My advice to you is to relax and enjoy having your little one riding along with you easily and safely. If you spot blood or your water breaks, your baby is on its way! Go to the hospital! My first boy was due June 15 and he arrived June 9. My girl was due December 20 and she arrived November 30! Due dates are sometimes random and babies come when they want to! SEE YOUR DOCTOR WEEKLY!

Happy Blessings to you and your little one! Let us know when (s)he comes.



P.S. When I was about to have my daughter, I went to the hospital 5 times thinking it was labor and the nurses never got tired of me. And that was my second child. You'd think I'd know labor!

Heather - posted on 05/18/2012

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Your OB should have done an ultrasound to be able to tell how far along you are and when your due date estimate is. But yes, you should deliver no later than the end of May, which would be around your 40 week mark, or into the first two weeks of June. Some OB's will let you go two weeks past your due date. No one knows when babies will be born. It will happen, when it happens. Tell her that!

What your feeling is called "pressure." It happens to everyone. It's a part of pregnancy. It's doesn't mean that you are close to labor, and it doesn't mean that you are far from it either. When you start having what feels like Really Bad Period Cramps, then you could be in labor. Keep a piece of paper and a pen nearby and write down when they happen. Once they get about 5 to 10 minutes apart and they are regular, then you should go to the hospital.

Anytime that you feel you might in labor or in pain, always go to the hospital.

Michelle - posted on 05/16/2012

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The tightening would just be Braxton hicks. It's your body getting ready for labor. Your uterus contracts every so often and that's what the tightening you feel is. The back pain could be just your body adjusting to the shift in your centre of gravity, with all the weight out the front we tend to lean back to compensate and that puts extra pressure on our backs.

I'd say you're not far away, another few weeks yet, and you should try and rest up when you can. You will need it once baby is born and you have the sleepless night.

Good luck.

Louise - posted on 05/16/2012

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Have you not had a dating or abnormality scan? These cans are quite accurate and your due date would be taken from that.

If you are now saying that you think your 4 weeks further along than you said and you have not had a scan then this is quite serious and you need to speak to a midwife. The reason for this is the doctors only allow you to go a maximum of 10 days over give or take a day or two and after this it is considered a risk. Most women are offered a cervix sweep which encourages labour to start a few days after their due date.

If you are saying that you think you may be 40 weeks plus 4 then that would be done now. You really do need to see a midwife and see what she suggests.

If your dates are correct and you are 36 plus 4 then you are on the home run and the last few weeks are uncomfortable. These contractions are Braxton Hicks and it is your bodies way of prepareing for the labour.

Rachel - posted on 05/25/2012

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Its a bit uncomfy but if you are ready for your baby to be born have some sex.. Men's sperm have a chemical called oxytocin which is the real to what drs give you in the hospital to help labor progress which is called pitocin.. Either way it sounds like it will happen soon ;)

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Amber - posted on 09/22/2012

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Can Someone Help me, When I Walk i Get Pains In My Hips, And I Get Sharp Pains In My Private, And i Have noticed That My Bump Has Dropped A lot And I Have Also Noticed That My Stomach Keeps Going Really Hard, And Feel Like Its Tightening There Is No Pain When My Stomach Gets Hard And Tightens, I Have Noticed That She Doesn't Move As Often As What She Would Normally, Should I Be Worried About This Or Is It Normal, I Have Also Noticed That I Have a Discharge Which Is Clear, And My Back Is Having a Lot More Pain Especially In My Lower Back, I Have Also Noticed That I Am Waking Up A Lot More In My Sleep, For A Wee, I Am Also Tosing And Turning A Lot More In My Sleep As Well...♥



Someone Help Me Please♥!

Bonnie - posted on 05/20/2012

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It's normal for the baby to be really low (drop) in preparation for labour, which would cause you to have some aches and pains, and swelling down below. You should be feeling less movements by now because baby is running out of space to move around. As far as your due date goes, that doesn't really matter because baby could come early or late. As long as your doctor has record of your due date, that is all that matters.

Melissa - posted on 05/19/2012

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You're about to pop. If not this next week then in a couple of weeks. I was miserable with my first during those last couple of weeks. But, if the baby isn't moving as much, get down to the L&D now to get monitored. If the baby is in distress then they need to get it out now.

Ronda - posted on 05/19/2012

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The small spot of blood was implantation bleeding. It usually happens when your period is due. If you know the average length of your cycle then count back that many days and that is the real date of your last men. period. that you would use to date your pregnancy.

Kerry - posted on 05/18/2012

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It sounds like labor is going to start. Remember however, you will have contractions weeks before you have your baby. It's your body preparing for birth. A good thing. Tiring for you but is a positive sign for labor. If your baby is not moving, sit and pay attention to her. Jiggle your tummy a little bit or clang two cooking pot lids together. If she responds (moves) to that she is probably OK. If she is really not moving go to labor and delivery and be checked out. They have sleep cycles and don't move all the time, but if you follow the above you should be OK. I am a labor and delivery nurse but ALWAYS call your Dr if you are concerned. If you had an ultrasound done EARLY in your pregnancy this is what your MD will calculate dates on. Measurements taken at that time are very reliable for dates. Measurements done now are not reliable for dates. Go by the date your MD gave you. Signs of labor: contractions that increase in intensity (keep getting stronger), bloody show (mucous mixed with blood). If you have bright red bleeding, soaking a pad, get to the hospital immediately, don't wait. Your water might break. Even if you are not having contractions and you are leaking fluid go ahead and go to the hospital - it's time for labor. Remember, any concerns call your Dr. or the hospital where you will be delivering. I hope this helps.

Francine - posted on 05/18/2012

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These questions are for your doctor to answer you should call him/her or go see him/her.

Lovely - posted on 05/18/2012

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Oh! thanks much Mommies! :) Your advices really helps me a lot! :) I hope baby will come out soon already. I can't wait to see my baby GIRL ..


I'll let you know Mommies when my baby girl comes out :D

Mary - posted on 05/17/2012

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Oops I meant the first ultra sound is usually the closest but your baby knows when he/she is ready. At this stage baby is getting big and there's hardly any room to move so therefore less movement. If you are concerned, drink something sweet. That usually wakes baby but of course check with your doctor! Especially if your sugar levels are high. When you are relaxed baby may want to sleep. Look for a pattern if you feel like it. I would recommend just enjoying this time. Learn about labor. There will be plenty to do when baby is born!
Congratulations :D

Mary - posted on 05/17/2012

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The first Estimated due date(EDD) is usually the most accurate. Keep in mind that it is an estimation meaning its not guaranteed! Baby will develope and will release hormones that react with yours and sets your body in labor. So baby knows when he/she is ready. Otherwise it's also normal to have baby around 2weeks before and 2weeks after the EDD. It is normal to also have contractions an sounds like you are having some with the tightening of your belly. If you divide your belly in four (draw a cross from breastbone to your pubic bone and then across from side to side crossing at ur belly button) and feel all 4 quadrants get tight and hard that is a contraction. It's warming you up for labor and baby gets a little massage :) Sounds like baby's head is 'engaged' dropped down into position for birthing ad that will add pressure on your bladder and rectum which makes feel like you want to pee and poop. Drinks lots of fluid and stay hydrated but always check with your Doctor before trying out any recommendations and ask if there is any reason why it would be bad for you before you try anything. Try to go online and learn about the stages of labor so you know what to expect and won't get afraid Of giving birth.
Hope this helps.

Nicola - posted on 05/17/2012

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The other mommies are giving you good advice. I got 3 due dates near the end of July with my first. He arrived 11 Aug. Going overdue is normal too. Just have a good, polite answer or a big smile ready for those people who say "Are you still here?"
Get the baby things ready now. Pack your hospital bag and have it available if baby comes early but also make plans. Tell people if you aren't there that they can assume baby's arrrived. I attended a conference on my daughters due date. People thought I was a bit silly to do that but I needed something to keep me busy instead of sitting around waiting.
My midwife told me if I'm smiling and still joking then I'm not in labour. You'll know when you are in labour. Sounds like your body is preparing. This preparation could go on for weeks though. I hope the birth goes well.

Stefanie - posted on 05/17/2012

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It does sound like you are near. 1st Trimester dating ultrasounds are very accurate. You cannot always go by your period because not everybody ovulates on day 14.... I was a day 21 or 22 ovulator but I tracked my cycles so I knew when I was truly due. Your baby will come when he or she is ready. If you are feeling all that pressure I am sure it will be anytime now....Hope you have an easy labor...you will be holding your baby soon!!!

Caris - posted on 05/17/2012

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Keep mind that due dates only go by "average" lengths of pregnancy. "Normal" gestation time actually varies from 38 weeks to 42 weeks, and a week before or after that is still within a reasonable time frame. (My first was born at 37 weeks, and was still considered "full-term"; my younger brother apparently was close to 4 weeks over-due.) So based on your ultrasounds, you really could be giving birth anytime soon. There is no way to accurately predict when you will go into labour, but based on what you are describing, it might be sooner rather than later. The last few weeks can get rather uncomfortable. Hang in there, and soon you'll have your new baby!

Jennifer - posted on 05/17/2012

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Kathleen, I had the same experience with the dating ultrasound. I also knew the exact date that I'd had sex with the hubby (also the only time that month!) and took the pregnancy test before my missed period and had a bright pink line, no denying that. Then when they sent me for the scan, they said I was only 5 weeks along, which would have meant that I wasn't even pregnant when I took the pregnancy test, LOL.! I told this to the doctor, but they don't listen and gave me a due date of August 8th. When I calculated it myself going by the date I knew to be the true date I conceived, I came up with a due date of July 16th. Guess when my daughter came? July 17th! All by herself, my water broke early that morning and she was here by that evening. Of course they considered her to be a preemie, but I knew better.

Estrella, I agree with everyone here, if you are that anxious I think you should schedule an appt with your OB to discuss all of your concerns. Hopefully she'll be able to help you relax so you'll be more prepared.

Good luck!!!

Kathleen - posted on 05/16/2012

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...I also disagree with the accuracy of the dating ultrasounds. I KNEW the exact date I'd had sex with the hubby, but the doctor's kept giving me dates 3-4 weeks later than I had calculated. (And sadly, YES, it had been just that one time that month.)

But no matter! Just meant I had to send my dad home from the hospital to put the crib together. :)

Estrella - it sounds like you're doing just fine. See the doctor weekly - she'll tell you what's going on - tell your mom to *breathe deep* - it'll all turn out alright no matter WHEN you go into labor.

Enjoy your new love!

Crystal - posted on 05/16/2012

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Sounds like baby down in ure pelvis, engaged, this can happen some time before labour will begin, this will be uncomfortable for u. U may be experiencing Braxton hicks contractions, this is normal and body's way of getting ready for labour, when the pain goes from ure spine to ure belly to ure pubis bone ( where ure pubes grow) this is a sign of labour, but may be some time b4 labour begins, but please go get a scan to confirm ure due date as this will give u a time frame of two weeks either side of ure due date to safely expect arrival of baby.

Momma Of 4 - posted on 05/16/2012

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My baby slowed movement near too, less room to move. Don't fret, baby comes when baby comes. 37 weeks is full term. Just relax, thats the best thing to do. My mom made a big deal too and raised my blood pressure so high I almost needed a c-section. I freaked out on her and calmed down my blood pressure and had a great natural birth!!!

Good luck. Try to be calm... 36 weeks and 4 days is ok. And one suggestion, listen to your nurse. AND when in doubt, go to the dr's and find out how effaced and dialated you are. That's the best indication of where you;re at.

Also tell your mom shes worrying you, she needs to calm down too.

Best wishes!

Amy - posted on 05/16/2012

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Dating scans are NOT accurate. I had dating scans with both my girls and the scans were 3 weeks out even though I new exactly when my last period was. Your baby will be born when its ready!

Celeste - posted on 05/16/2012

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Due dates are not an exact science. They are called estimated due dates for a reason. If you are able to, search for research about due dates. To often doctors are in a hurry to convince women to induce when it is convenient for them, which may not be best for baby. If you can find a midwife in your area, I would recommend it. Midwives answer questions better than OB's and give more information to expecting mamas. 40-42 weeks is the actual gestation for pregnancy. If the three ultrasounds have given EDD's of early to mid June then I would say that you will most likely have baby in June. The reason you feel the need to pee when you are walking is because baby is getiing bigger and bigger so it puts more pressure on your bladder. The same with feeling like you have to go #2, as baby gets heavier it gradually moves down toward the birth canal getting ready to meet you. This act puts more pressure on your pelvis, bladder, and bowels. The last few weeks before baby's BIRTHday can be very uncomfortable. Just remember to relax as much as possible and take good care of yourself :)

Bevin - posted on 05/16/2012

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All due dates are just an estimated time of when the baby will be born. They can be off, sometimes a couple of weeks. It sounds like you are having braxton hicks, which can odten mimmick actual labor pains. The baby's movements do slow down as her birthday approaches. Your body goes thrpugh so many things as it is getting ready to give birth, and you should call your doctor with any questions/concerns. If the back pain does not go away, the pelvic pressure does not go away, and you are having contrctions (when your belly gets really hard and tight, then relaxes) for 60 seconds, and are coming every 5-10 minutes, call your doctor or go to the hospital. It is alwasy better to be safe rather than sorry, and you should never feel bad for doing the right thing or having alot of questions. Either way, your baby will come soon. I know your are very anxious for her arrival and want to do everything right. Just try to relax as best you can and talk to your doc.

Carrie - posted on 05/16/2012

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The same thing happens to me. I went in to labor at 34 weeks and my son had to stay in the INCU for 11 days bc he had no suction and had to have a feeding tube . But on the other hand my son was also 6lb 5oz 19 1/2 in long witch had the doctors wondering if he was really premature or not bc some full term baby's are boring without suction sometime . I personally don't think he was premature I told my obgyn my last period was oct 8 but only had it 3 days and was very lite but that's the day they went by. When we had the ultrasound they also said the baby was big for its age but still went by my last period. Now my son is about to be 2 and does not have any development problems and is on time with everything so far. Well good luck with your new bondle of joy :)

Lovely - posted on 05/16/2012

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I had 3 ultra sounds .. In the first one it says my due date is June 2 .. in the second one is June 15 and last week I got the 3rd ultrasound .. and it says my due date will be june 8 .. so it's kinda confusing ..

I have had 4 OB too because I am looking for a good and nice OB that's why I had 4 OB. But last week I found a good OB and I decided to choose her.

What I am worrying about is that .. I feel like my tummy is kinda hard and tightening now .. she's moving so often now .. :( Even feeling like diarrhea but when I reach in the bathroom I won't have #2 .. I even feel like pee when I walk :(

Michelle - posted on 05/16/2012

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Have you had any ultrsounds? Early ones are good at determining due dates. Your doctor shoould aldo be measuring the fundal height at each appointment. Have they mentioned you are big for how far along you are?

You really would be best discussing all of this with your doctor since you are in thier care and can do tests.

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