anger / depression

Paulette - posted on 11/23/2012

Hi Sarah My husband just left me The good news is my children are older the bad news is the children are older and say and do older things in anger.Can u find somewhere where u can take the kids so u can go for a walkA friend share babtsitting Exercise helps .Diet try to eat natural.Go to group s where there are other mothers or single mother groups Our church at c3 has one so you can go and talk .Get together at friends houses and talk And talk.I put on cds of forgiveness.I used cardboard boxes and smashed them up.I realise now my husband has anger issues and control issuesHe left because he is the same and he doesn't love me any more.I am on the way to acceptance and its helping my daughter deal with her anger.I put on positive cds.Stress also takes its toll on the body so I am using magnesium copper calcium ta lets and vit b and c to keep calm and healthyAlso another tablet healthy not medical is B-calm.It helps stress.I am also going to start helping my daughter take some.

Clotilde - posted on 03/18/2009

When I had my daughter, I was so angry, tired and weepy all the time. I knew I was out of control but was afraid to ask for help and when I did, the dr. just shrugged it off and told me it was from lack of sleep. What I did to cope until I found the right help was to put the baby down in a safe place and walk away and take a breather every now and then. I also dropped her off in the afternoons at my moms and saw a therapist. It was so hard staying awake at the wheel though. It was when I started exercising, the gym had babysitting that I realized something was really wrong. I was sore, even more exhausted and gaining weight. When I crashed into a coworkers car that was an even bigger clue. I went to the right dr. and said I think I have ppd. He said no you don't did bloodwork and I have Hashimoto's disease. After taking synthroid and being regulated, I have felt great. Get yourself checked out. It could be your thryoid. It mimicks ppd and you can pass out from it.

Alexias - posted on 03/18/2009

I suffer from depression and I found myself angry at such little things. I felt horrible and tired all the time. I spoke to my doctor about the symptons I was having and was diagnosed and have been given depression meds. I love them! I feel better, am happier, and don't feel very tired. My kids tire me out some days though. LOL.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2009

Happens all the time, you are probely overwhelmed talk to a professional It could hurt!

Marie - posted on 03/18/2009

A similiar situation happened to me about five yearsago.  Small children and a separation with little help from friends/family.  I probably should have gone to the doctor, but I went to a therapist and that worked great for me.  It is a hard thing to do, I wish you luck.  Sad fact, time is the only real cure for a lot of the anger issues, but talking to someone about what is at the root of the anger will be like getting a weight off your shoulders.  Good luck!

Teresa - posted on 03/18/2009

Try getting involved in a good church. A relationship with the Lord will do way more than any Dr. or pills. Plus there is a lot of help and support in the church. Not to mention it's a great place to meet a good man (if your interested)

Shawnda - posted on 03/18/2009

I think every mother gets depressed and angry at some point- I am a single mother of three and feel frustrated and angry alot- but youve got to find some way to cope- If it means talking to your dr- or trusting a friend or family member with your kids- because eventhough we feel like we do- the kids are the ones that really suffer! I wish the best girly and I truly beleive that you will start to feel better soon! Oh......... prayer always helps me too!! Best of wishes!!

Maria - posted on 03/18/2009

When moms talk to each other they usually focus on all the positive. The truth is that parenting is hard! There is so much to do and think about that we put ourselves last on the list of a million things to attend to. There is only so much neglect that we can put ourselves through before we snap. Don't beat yourself up when this happens. Acknowledge that you messed up and use this a sign that you need help. It's unfortunate that you cant count on your partner, but you have to find someone. I had to swallow my pride and ask my mom for help. If that is not an option then talk to your siblings, friends, neighbors...anyone you can trust with your kids. Then take some time for you. I usually go to the YMCA and exercise or take a yoga class. Anything that helps relieve stress and makes you feel good. It gives you a break from someone always needing something from you. Afterward I always feel recharged for what life throws at me.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2009

thanks i will go on monday

Shelly - posted on 03/18/2009

It sounds like depresion dear go talk to your dr you just have to much on your plate!!!  Some times you just have to put the baby down for a nap and walk out side and take a couple of deep breaths...But make sure you talk to your Dr you might need meds for a little while...Take care of yourself!!!

Victoria - posted on 03/18/2009

that is one reason a lot of people dont think that they have it.. i just recently found this out when one of my friends that i work with told me that she had ppd and wasn't diognosied till her son was 8 months.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2009

oh i didnt kno that

Victoria - posted on 03/18/2009

ppd can happen anytime between birth and 1 yr. and last for yrs

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2009

thank you girls i will have a chat to my DR and see wat he can do i dont think it is pnd because my daughter is 6 months old

Patricia - posted on 03/18/2009

I lived with postpartum depression for almost 3 years.  I recognized there was a problem but I never imagined that's what it was.  Had I talked to my doctor so many things would have been different.  Make an appointment to talk with your doctor.  You will start feeling better soon.  I was hesitant to take meds but my doctor assured me that if I felt "doped" up or not myself then I was either on the wrong type of med or taking the wrong dose.  This made me feel better.  Please get help.  It's nice to have people to talk to here but your doctor can get you back on track.

Victoria - posted on 03/18/2009

yeah it is very important to talk to your dr. postpartdem depression is bed and some people dont even know they have it. some time it can take up to a yr for you to finally break and say f it im done, and with kids you dont want that. i was on anti deppersants for over a yr after i had my first daughter.and it was moslty b/c i was 17 and the dr said i was having a boy! and my daughter's dad and i went rounds on the fact that i didn't sleep around when we were together and that i know who the father of my kid is. my mom did think i would ever come out of it tho. after that i figuered out that friends (no matter how much shit they are dealing with) and family were always there even if i just need a break to take a nap. and learned real quick that if no oone was around to put the baby in the crib and just let her cry and go out side and walk around the house to cool off nad get fresh air till it was warn enought to just put her in the stroller and take her for a walk.

Jennifer - posted on 03/18/2009

I find myself angry/depressed at times too and I have a partner...the lack of sleep just adds to it I find too. Have you tried yoga or any form of exercise? It's a good release. Hang in there!

Veronica - posted on 03/18/2009

I have clinical depression and anxiety and I know those feelings pretty well, unfortunately.  Besides taking meds, I find that exercise helps me work out anxiety and anger. It was REALLY hard to get started with it, though, because I was so tired all the time and wanted to spend every spare minute sleeping. It took about 3-4 months before it started getting easier, so I really had to push myself hard.

Another thing I do to cope with my kids when I'm having a really bad spell is have everything planned out as well as possible so there's as few unexpected irritations as possible. When I know I'm irritable I also make a point to never spank the kids, but only use time outs (which help me, too).

I hope you can find a family member or friend who can give you breaks every once and a while, too!

Hope things get better soon!

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2009

thanks i haven't talked to my dr yet it has only been in the past week that all this has happened and i cant handle being this way any more, even if my daughter wakes up early i get angry if it takes to long to drive somewhere i get angry if someone says something to me in complete innocense i take it the wrong way and get angry. i didnt think it was something i should go to my dr about. i do have close friends but they have their own things they are dealing with so i dont want to worry them with my shit so yeah do you reckon it is something i could talk to my dr about?

Stephanie - posted on 03/18/2009

Well I have a 8month old baby. and ever since my father passed away 3 days after my daughter was born i get frustrated very easily. But when this happened i talked to a doctor about this and they told me to put the baby down in a safe place and to get some air. and i find it helps

Victoria - posted on 03/18/2009

have you tried to talk to your dr about this, there are medications that can help with depression. Do you have friends or family close that could help out so that you can just get your time away every once in a while. that is what i have done in the past. best of luck to you