Any advice with potty training a STUBORN 3 year old boy???

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Milika - posted on 02/01/2012

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My son almost 3 just says plain out no!! its taking so much energy out of me :( we've used reward charts, potties and no nappies at all! etc( these have al worked for a time tho) but nowhe he just doesn't want to go, i have bribed him with treats and still i'm having to pick him up n take him to the bathroom where i then have to pretend to start eating the lollie if he doesnt start getting on with it. Is it this difficult for most parents? i'm loosing hope :( any advice??

Sarah - posted on 03/12/2009

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With my son's we just had them pick out underwear that they wanted. Then we told them we had to throw away the diapers since they had big boy underwear., and they helped put them in the garbage. They only had the option to use the toilet, no diapers or pull-ups. I think if they know that there are diapers still in the house it makes it very hard. There were accidents the first few days but they got it down pretty quick. Cheers and praise when they first started going, and asking a lot if they had to go is important too.

Jennifer - posted on 03/12/2009

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I would say just back off.  He will do it when he is ready.  With my oldest son, we fought for a year  to get him stool trained.  Any sign of pressure and my son regressed.  It was so hard.  Now with my twins, they are doing it with no pressure.  Theyare 3 years and 3 months, and I let them do it whenever they want.  I ask and if they say no, ok.  If they say yes, we go, I giggle at my son trying many different positions to pee (he does not see me), and then when they potty on the potty we do the potty dance. They love it and eventually I know they will do it on their own all the time.  

Lisa - posted on 03/12/2009

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tell him to pee through the holes in froot loops it worked for me like a charm and offer a piece of candy.

Dena - posted on 03/12/2009

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The Easter bunny brought our 3 year old underwear for his bear.  Then we got a sticker chart.  In the beginning we gave him one matchbox car everytime he went and when he filled up the chart he got to pick out a toy.  By day 7 he forgot about the car everytime and he's been great with the potty ever since.  Of course, he was ready.  He was waking up dry every night.  He also never liked the little potty so we got a seat for on top of our toilet.  He still uses it a year later!!  Good luck.  Once this is over....he'll find something new to torture you with...mine did!!

Norma - posted on 03/12/2009

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i know this might sound mad but it worked for me i actually sat on the potty  and poured water in at the back so he couldn't see me n then when i got up i started clapping saying gud mummy as had a wee on the potty then after that he went on it all the time gud luck.

Azira De' - posted on 03/12/2009

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I had splendid time teaching my 3 yr old son to a potty training. It took me only 3 times to teach him then he is off the diapers already.



Actually our kids don't know how the feelings want to pee. So what I did was, I will bring him to the toilet every 1/2 an hour. You must do it or else he will pee on your carpets. Do not scold him if he miss it and pee on your carpets. Just remind him to tell you if he wants to pee. with the boys is easier because you can see his 'birdie' getting hard whenever he starts to feel like to pee.



 



good luck!

Tarisa - posted on 03/12/2009

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I agree with the poster Shawna. Pull ups really aren't for everyone. I think that they are a waste of money. I used extra thick training underwear. You can find them in the baby section of Wal Mart or a store like that. They come in really cool designs now too!

Shawna - posted on 03/12/2009

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Goodness, I just finished with this same issue and let me tell you... Just be patient. I tried a variety of what has been mentioned already, some worked, some didn't. But I firmly beleive that by taking the pressure off (not making it a big deal) was what did it for us. My son is not quite 3 1/2 and just started pooping in the potty a few weeks ago. He did what another poster said about "hiding" it. He wouldn't go at daycare, but once he got home he ran and hid to poop in his pullup. I also think that the whole idea of pullups is a joke. Toddlers can't differentiate between those and regular diapers aside from the fact that they can get them on and off themselves, so I might reconsider using those if you are. They make extra thick underpants (training pants) that you can use instead so they get the feel of being wet, without it going all over the place. The absorbency is better than underpants, but will let them know they have wet themselves better than the pull ups. Be patient, play it down... "Oh, I see you went poopy/peepee in your underpants, next time we'll try harder to go in the potty" and it will click for you eventually. Like everyone always told me... No child ever graduated from high school wearing diapers :)

I was at the same stalling point for 10 months, I thought my son would never get there, but he came around eventually. Yours will too!

Lisa - posted on 03/12/2009

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Quoting Kelly:

Any advice with potty training a STUBORN 3 year old boy?



 





Let him pick a color from food coloring  put about 8 drops in the water befor he pees and he will see it makes designs  show him first and just pour water in to show him. There is a thousand and one things to do i am offering what helped me

Carrie - posted on 03/12/2009

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My son was stubborn until his dad was hom e for a week and in two days had him trained!!

Jamie - posted on 03/12/2009

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Delete Are you sure? Yes | No Posted by You (a moment ago)

Kelly....In response to your post of potty training a 3 year old boy. Boys tend to not be able to control their sphincter muscle until age 4-5. So, you may not have a "STUBORN" boy, he may just not be able to control that muscle, so he won't be able to be potty trained until he is able to control it! Hope that helps!



Jamie

Tamara - posted on 03/12/2009

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Here's what I did with my 2 1/2 year old at the time and it worked like a charm. He's potty trained fully in six weeks -- that's at home and while we were out and about; however, do expect an accident here and there:



Create a large craft paper sticker chart.  Make a column for pee and poop.  Each time your child goes pee or poop he gets a sticker in that column.  Once the column is full of stickers (both pee and poop) he gets to choose a prize.  Mine was always happy with a new little car.



I used small stickers for pee and larger stickers for poop.  He was getting about two rewards a week at this rate.  He also loved to put the stickers on his chart on his own also. 



As I said, worked like a charm for us.  Good luck!

Jessy - posted on 03/12/2009

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Only if this is private enough for you!!! I was fortunate enough to have a private backyard. I potty trained my stubborn 3 year old and a puppy at once :)



I let my little guy pee on the tree too. sounds crazy but even when boys grow up they still love to pee outside. He was pottie trained in  2 days!!! I

Sherri - posted on 03/12/2009

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make potty time fun....get some cherrios and throw them in the toilet and have him "sink" the cherrios with his pee. I raised 2 boys and it worked great both times. They love it, they feel as if they really did something and its fun time for both of you. Good luck

Jannan - posted on 03/12/2009

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Hi there.  My little girl is a stubborn 3 year old, as well.  She was potty trained at 2 as far as urinating goes.  However, it was not unitl about 4 months ago that the poopy potting started.  THANK YOU LORD!  She would always ask for a diaper as soon as I picked her up from preschool everyday.  She was very private about going, and she always wanted to hide to go in her diaper.  But.. one day.. I just said no more poop diaper time.  She cried for 10 minutes, but we haven't had one accident.  She is like your little boy; she was a perfect pottier at school, but she NEVER pooped there.  She always saved that for home.   She will be 4 in July, so don't give up.  He'll get it soon.  :)

Patricia - posted on 03/12/2009

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one thing that is working with my son is that i told him they dont make diapers in his size only night time ones so he has to wear big boy undies and i got ones with the cartoons he likes and told him if he goes in them the cartoon will be ruined i also kept his potty in the living room for about a week so he wouldnt feel like he was missing out on something while he was in the bathroom

Alex - posted on 03/12/2009

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We kept a potty downstairs (yicky but necessary) and one upstairs & when it was warm enough we let ours (both boys, now 6 1/2 & 3 1/2) run round with no pants on, they soon found their way to the potty when they needed to go. Also sticker/reward charts seemed to work really well. Good luck!!

Tarisa - posted on 03/12/2009

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Boys are harder. I speak from experience LOL. I have two of each. My two oldest are girls. They were a cake walk compared to my son. Sometimes it is the other way around though. I have some friends who say their daughters were harder than their sons.

Pattie - posted on 03/12/2009

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When my son was 3 ( he turned 20 today).  He showed no interest in being potty trained until it was time to start going to daycare.  He had a choice of being with the other 3 year olds if he was potty trained or being with the 2 year olds if he wasn't.  Well. he considered himself to be a "big boy" and he didn't want to be with the babies.  He was fully toilet trained within 2 days just in time to start dayare and he never had an accident.

Sheila - posted on 03/12/2009

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we use a reward chart it works really well everytime he goes we give him a star for potty and a star for poopy and then at the end of the week he gets a prize.. it is working good... and he is 2 1/2 almost 3 i hear boys are harder.

Kelly - posted on 03/12/2009

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Thank you for all the ideas. I will have to try some of them. The hardest thing is he will go at pre-school but not at home.

Tarisa - posted on 03/12/2009

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Some helpful tips-- I bought two different potties, one that goes on the floor and an insert that goes on the big toilet. My son chose the insert, course it being Thomas the tank engine helped LOL. Also I just kept asking him if he needed to go pee all through out the day. He will go when he's ready, don't push it. Right now at this age it's the only thing they can control. I also used Cheerios in the toilet and told him to try and aim at them with his pee...seems silly but it worked! Hope some of that helps. Good Luck!

Marlo - posted on 03/12/2009

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Take a break from trying to potty train him, act like its no big deal and you could care less... then he will think its his idea! It takes the pressure off and sometimes they just want to do it themselves... my daughter is like that! Hang in there... ps... have you used cloth diapers... they really feel the wet and pooh so they want out sooner... just a thought! Best of luck!

Abi - posted on 03/12/2009

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let him go to the bathroom with his father and have his dad teach him. That is the best way to go.

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