any stay at home moms that has a husband gone alot

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Emma - posted on 10/22/2011

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I agree Shannon. It's not his fault he's away for work,but you need to start to trust people within your church,or even find a mothers group where you all meet up once a week,get to know people then you can all help each other when help is needed.

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Amberlee - posted on 12/19/2013

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My husband is gone m-f. For the last year it has been this way and I now feel like not only I don't have a husband but a single mom. He has changed so much and keeps telling me that when he comes home next month for good that he will make me happy again. I don't see that happening considering when he is hear I still feel like I am by myself. He doesn't even listen to me talk, just says ya when he doesn't even know what I am talking about its do frustrating and I my feelings are disappearing for him and turning into resentment.

Shannon - posted on 10/26/2011

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my 21 year old nefew and his girlfriend are moving down here and im glad now i can have an adult to talk to and have help thanks for all the advice that you guys have given

Kim - posted on 10/22/2011

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Yes, we are in the same situation. If your lucky to find a job around here the pay is crappy. I don't trust anyone with my kids either which is why I don't have a life. If you do connect with a few people from church mabye start off with asking them to come watch your kids and play with them while you are still home getting stuff done or relaxing. That way they are getting to know your kids, you get a bit of a break, and you are still around if something does happen. Once you are comfortable then you can increase it to a short trip to the park etc.

Erin - posted on 10/22/2011

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I understand not trusting just anyone with your children. I'm much the same way. However, do reach out to people in your church. This may sound strange, but reach out to one of the older women in your congregation. Someone that could be a surrogate mother to you and a surragate grandmother to your children. Start by meeting for coffee (or something simple) and get to know each other. Possibly somewhere where your kids could play a little. It really does take a village to raise a child, especially when your husband has to be gone so much. My husband is in the military and I have learned the value of friends becoming family. What you are feeling had nothing to do with being childish, but rather having no time to recharge your energies. Something else you could do is pick up a project or craft that you liked to do before having children (like sewing or reading) and take just one hour after the kids are in bed and focus on that. I have trouble remembering to do this, but as I had it pointed out to me not too long ago, if you don't take care of yourself, who will take care of everyone else?

Shannon - posted on 10/22/2011

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thanks you guys have made me feel normal
my husband has been doing this for 3 1/2 years and i have been going to church for about two months but still dont know anybody and don't trust anybody with my kids

Kim - posted on 10/21/2011

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My boyfriend works away 2 weeks at a time and then is home for 1 and I totally know how you feel. I even have my mom in the same city and I get overwhelmed sometimes. Since I had my kids young I also lost lots of my friends. I am slowly trying to reconnect with some of them and try and find things to fill the time. It's hard and if your situation is like mine, then he can't just come home. There are no jobs here where he would make near enough money to support our family. Try joining a moms group and hopefully you can find someone to trade babysitting with. If not, I'm not sure how long he has been doing this for but mine has been away for just over a year and it has gotten easier for me as we are all getting used to it.

Sharlene - posted on 10/21/2011

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You have every right to feel this way your only human,LOL. darls okay .you feel like how you want to feel let or your emotions out your aloud to.

Sharlene - posted on 10/21/2011

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Darls dont listen to his mother, and you are not chidish okay dont let his manipulate you like that she must understand how you feel and if she going to be like don't listen to her you concertrate on you and your husband sit down with him and talk .Can your husband find other work? And are you part of a mother's group or something or do you have a close friend to talk too?

Shannon - posted on 10/21/2011

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he works out of town and state

him and his mother tell me i should just grow up and deal with it

his mother was a single mother with three kids but she live in the same town as her family i live 6 hours away from mine i just feel like i need help it's hard for me

Emma - posted on 10/21/2011

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Hi Shannon, Is there any changes in his behaviour or has he always been away from home a lot?

Sharlene - posted on 10/21/2011

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Have you told him how you felt about him not always home,Open your heart to him and say I need help around here and with the kids,Then hopfully he will realise that you and the kids need him,Are part of a mother's group ,probably get some advice from family.friends and other mums like here.I really hop this helps you and your husband out .all the best

Shannon - posted on 10/21/2011

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well its not just feeling lonely i need help and have no help with my two kids

Sharlene - posted on 10/21/2011

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Hi , My first marriage I had two of my older kids 1 yr apart when they were babies,We also had a transport company and he was always at the office some nites ,he did'nt even come , Are you feeling lonely?

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