Any teen moms??

Michelle - posted on 04/27/2010

hey im 21 had my first child at 16. not quite the same situation as you because we had a house but i always felt alone as my partner was working. with no gcse's i managed to get a job at 17 like you my worry was no sitter until another mum told me that if you claim child tax credits and work over 16 hours a week then you can claim your child care fees off the tax credits. hope this can help. good luk and take care

Danielle - posted on 04/27/2010

hey i am 19 with a 6 month old son and a fiance, isnt there anyway u can get help towards living costs?? x

Stephanie - posted on 04/27/2010

hi there im 19 and have an 18 month old. my partner is currently out doin a course 5 days a week therefore i am in the house myself all the time. what i have decided to do is a distance learning course. i am currently studying childcare from home so that i can get qualifications behind me whilst i am still looking after my daughter. maybe if you done this you can be more occupied and be able to get a job at the end of it do be able to get your own place.

hope that helps :) good luck

Ashley - posted on 04/27/2010

I am 23 from Australia, I was 17 when I fell pregnnt with my first daughter. Me and my partner lived with his mum and dad after she was born and it was an absolute nightmare, so I know exactly how you are feeling. Igot depressed,I was always angry because I would rather be anywhere other than where I was. So I scoured the local paper until I found the cheapest rental property I could find. It was $180.00 per week, it was a dump, I didnt care as long a we were all together and out of the situation I was in. I had to put my daughter into daycare when she was 10 weeks old so I could go out and work but I dont regret a thing. We have been able to provide her with what I think is a great childhood. She is now 4 and we have added another daughter who is now 7 months. The only advice I can give you is too never gve up. Things dont happen over night, you have to work for what you want. If you want your own house fight for it, nothing comes for free, you will feel better in yourself if you work for what you need :)

Karen - posted on 04/24/2010

I was almost your age when I had a baby and got married, I was 19 years old when I got pregnant with my son. I married the babies dad at the age of 21 and we worked opposite shifts and sometimes worked 2 jobs to rent our own apartment, then we saved our taxes and bought our first fixer up house, you can do whatever you put your mind too, having my son was the best thing that ever happened to me. I had so much fun with him, we brought him everywhere and you can find jobs that are flexible for mom's, they are out there and you can go back to school and or move up in a company, my husband and I now have been married for 19 years and we have three kids now, our son is going to be 20 and yes if you can believe this he is going to college and our twins are 11 years old.

Shelby - posted on 04/22/2010

thank you everyone =) it helps just to hear how other people handle situations like mine!! thank you!!

Samantha - posted on 04/14/2010

im 20 with a 10 month old baby girl and another one on the way... im in school right now but im gonna be out of school with the second one due in september i do work still b/c i have my parents, my sister and my fiance's grandma to watch my daughter while i work but dont give up for the first few months i stayed home with my daughter and i did get stressed and it it hard being home all of the time.. but if you ask someone who you trust and is willing to watch your lil one for just a little to get out of the house then do especially this time of the year when you van get outside and just relax.. but even if you go to the park as a family and while your daughter is sleeping take a walk and enjoy the family time that you have b/c b4 you know it its gonna get alot busier when shes starts to crawl and get into everything and always have to watch her and are chasing her every 2 seconds but enjoy this time with her and look at the brighter side of things :) hang in there i hope this helps

Tracy - posted on 04/14/2010

Well, I am more like your mom's age, I am a pharmacist, and I wasn't a teenage mother, but I am an experienced mom of two, so I hope you can use my advice. Even though I have a career, by far and away my best accomplishment in life so far has been raising my two precious children! I recently quit my job to be with them because my oldest is in high school, and I know my time with him is getting shorter. I know that you feel a little trapped by your situation (being in "one room with the baby all the time"), but it will get better. Your baby is about to hit the 6 month mark, where she can sit up alone and play independently some of the time. She will soon start saying words, especially if you work with her and name things around you when you're together. Take advantage of the spring-like weather and go out to the park together or on a walk with her in the stroller. Maybe you can enroll in an on-line class or do a work from home kind of job, one that will let you work when she naps or at night when your husband is home. It might make you feel like you are making a little progress. You know, we all start out in spare situations. My husband and I got married when we were 22 and he made a very small income at his first job. I was going to school. We ate a lot of beans and rice! There are just times when you have to make sacrifices for your family. Yours just happens to be right now. Hang in there! You will get through this! Things will not always be so limited for you. Just keep loving that baby and your husband!! You've got your priorites straight!!

Jessica - posted on 04/14/2010

hey!! girl i know the feeling i am 17 with a one year old and married my husband when i was 15 i quit school and gave up everything i had i lived in a house up until things got too rough on us so we moved out now am living with his mother in a tiny room as well even though the school is right acrosss the street i still am not able to go because of no babysitter i think about how my life wouldve been if i wouldnt have gotten married or had my daughter but then i think but i wouldnt have nothing? u have to hang in there and remember you have all of ur lifetime to go back to school get a job or go to college but u dont have forever to start a family so next time ur down and out or sumone gets to ya just remember you have plenty of time to do what you need and ur not in no hurry ;)

Jen - posted on 04/14/2010

im alot olser than u 23 but im in the same situation i live with my bf parents we just have the bedroom to ourselves n am in it 24 7 if i start to get down i will text my freinds to cum round or go round theres or play with my baby take them to the park etc.

Moriah - posted on 04/14/2010

hi im moriah and gurl i know how you feel. im 19 and i have a 17 mounth old son who is such a handful. i live with my parents and i fell the same way. i want to do whats best for my child and sometimes i just dont know what the hell to do. my boyfrined and i recently just moved out of our aparment cuz he thinks that women should not work thats the mans job hahahah little dose he know that he is so wrong. you need to work you need to talk to people who are your age or youll be resenting your husband if he dose work trust me it happens so easy. even if you and baby make play dates with other moms so you have a chance to relate with other people and it socializes baby too. and try day care just a couple days a week to start it give you a much needed break and you could do more mommy things or just relax those little breaks here and ther will help so much. dont give up youll find your way it just might take a little time and dont beat yourself up or your husband hahaha it will all come together in time

us moms have to stick together

love moriah

Shelby - posted on 04/14/2010

I am 18 and have a 3 month old daughter. I am engaged to her father and we also live in a tiny room, but at his parents house. I didn't graduate from high school so I am doing online classes to try graduate but they are really hard. I don't have a sitter either, and like you I am going crazy. I live far away from town and have no car to get anywhere. I am here if you need someone to talk to.

Crystal - posted on 04/14/2010

hey...let me tell you i know things will get better.I became a mom at only 16 and got married at 17.We lived at my moms house in a small room aas well.I know all to well how you must feel.Believe me.I ended up leaving indiana and moving to california to fillmore is the town and started asking for helpo from welfare for thier programs to get me into school and get me childcare, and then with that i went to school for cna and then they took care of alot for me. it really helped because my depression and my whole outlook on life was not good at all.i cant tell you how much i never wanted to leave my couch or the bed because how i was.anywho went to school the kids had childcare, and even helped me with trasnportation.i went back to school after that and got my rma....working in the hosptital and they still help pay my childcare. got our townhouse...and iam so glad we moved out of indiana to california yes it was lonely for awhile....but i would not have changed anything now that i look back.i dont know if that helps.....but i know things seem bad and like a neverending sea of excuses reasons and dead ends....but girl ill pray for ya and if you ever want to talk iam here!