Any tips for sleep training

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Mel - posted on 06/15/2009

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be strong and remember all your hard work will be undone if you pick baby up. sit by the cot and rub his/her back lightly or face then laeave the room if that doesnt work. good luck

Sarah - posted on 06/15/2009

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it all depends on how old your baby is really.
teeny babies, you have to let them decide the schedule really, i kept a note of when she had her bottles tho so i could see a pattern emerging then set bedtime and things around that. a routine is good from an early age, just don't expect them to always follow it!! haha!!
older babies, i would definately get into a good rountine, bath, milk, story, bed. don't run in every time they cry, see if they will settle themselves first (tho don't leave them crying for too long) try standing by the cot so they know you're there, then as they calm down, slowly move out of the room, that way they know you're still there.
or try leaving them for a little while, then going back in, laying them down and going again.
all these methods are fine that people will suggest, but personally i think you need to adapt them to fit your baby and you, take little bits from lots of ideas and figure out what suits you and baby best. and don't continue with a 'method' if it feels wrong to you.
routine is my best advice.
good luck!! :)

Tamara - posted on 06/14/2009

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Don't. Follow your child's lead in setting a schedule and gently transition them to sleep w/o tears. Your baby is only this small once.

Sandra - posted on 06/14/2009

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i guess differnt things work for differnt people, and wat you feel comfortable with, i would never leave my baby to cry if they got distressed, like many of has said you know the difference in their cries,and babies learn so quickly.... so letting them cry for a few mins isnt any harm.... especially when ur never far away... i was just 18yrs old when i had my first and lived in london with my boyfriend, and all my family lived in ireland, so i had learn things for myself and fast...so when i had my son 2 and a half years later more or less the same routine worked again, by that time i had moved home to ireland and was proud to be able to do it so well and so was my mum,so by the time i had my third child 4 years later.... it was just like a duck to water!!! and the bonus of her birth been all over in 20mins i barley made it to the hosp in time lol...i stuck to the same routine again and it worked like a dream!!!after 7yrs a big suprise came... in my princess paige who is now 7yrs old, with her i used have to wake her to feed her and at 8wks old she just automically slept through the night which was great as i was older then and had 4 children to take care and not the same amount of energy anymore lol and just when i finally think all those sleepness nights are long gone along came my adoreable grandson kingston......from my first daughter bianca!!! and 7mths later another granson jayden from my only son dean.... and guess wat.. the same routine was passed down to them... which worked well with kingston,, with jayden it only worked when he came to stay over with nana(me) i wonder why... lol

Grace - posted on 06/14/2009

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My daughter is used to drink milk in the bottle until she's finally asleep...it's the only way to make her go to bed..and she's have difficulties to sleep before 12.00 a.m.honestly, this baby sleeping issues is makin' me really stressed and until now u can't find effective way to make my baby easily sleep.i've tried bath before bed but it also not effective...i really need a help..

Kristyn - posted on 06/14/2009

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Just like Kelly, I used to nurse Skyler to sleep when he was little. I asked my Dr about this and he said until they are around 6 mths old he didnt see a problem with that. Skyler slept reasonably well when he was little. My Dr (the youth clinic) didnt recommend letting them cry it out till atleast 6 months. Everyone(being my friends and family) said the same thing about he would be dependent on me and never sleep and yada yada, but I never had an issue transitioning him. I think that you have to do what you feel comfortable with. Some moms are comfortable laying the baby down and letting them self soothe, others arent. I dont think either way is wrong or bad....just different depending on your child and your family.

Kelly - posted on 06/14/2009

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Quoting Bronwen:

Sleep training??? I've heard some moms swear by it, but I could never leave my child to cry and be in distress. I believe the trick to a child learning to sleep on their own is NOT to hold them until they fall asleep and then put them in their beds, but rather let them start falling asleep and then put them down so that they actually fall asleep in their own bed and by themselves. I think that for a child to be a "confident" sleeper, they need to know that if they DO need you in the night you'll be there for them. You learn their cries very quickly, so if they're just niggly, but dont need you then leave them be, but if the cries are distressed, then go to them straight away. You dont actually need to pick them up, but if you pat them or stroke them they usually settle if its nothing too serious. Of course, tummy aches and nappy changes should be delt with, and if your baby is sick I certainly wouldn't leave him/her to cry either. This has worked for me. My little still wakes sometimes in the night, but 9/10 nights she sleeps through. Good luck.


 



This is pretty much what I do with my daughter.  To begin with, up until she was a few months old, I'll admit I did nurse her to sleep and then put her in her basket, and got all the "you're making a rod for your own back" comments.  But I believe that when they're that young, they don't have the 'brains' to play you - they just need their mum as it must be really scary to be out in the world!!  When she got a bit older, I would put her in her basket as she got drousy - I read that they should always wake up where they went to sleep so it didn't scare them.  Then I progressed onto putting her into her cot when she was awake.  We had quite a few teething problems, but as Bronwen said, you quickly learn the difference between a real cry and a "I want company'' cry.  It really depends how strict you're prepared to be.  I leave Kacey to cry herself to sleep if I know she's OK/safe/not in discomfort, and I know if I walk in when she's just having a moan I'll be met with a massive grin lol!  It's important to set a routine too, I think, like a regular bedtime, a bath, feed, story and bed, then they get to know that its sleep time.  It really is hard to leave your little one to cry, but its just as hard going in every 10 mins to settle them when you KNOW that they're capable of sleeping on their own.  By all means, if they get themselves into a state by crying so much, go in - I tend to lay her back down, give her a kiss and tuck her in, then walk back out without talking.  That way she knows I'm always there for her, but that its not playtime and she has to go to sleep.  At the end of the day its your decision as to how to do this, but this way worked for me and Kacey is a much more confident 'lone-sleeper'.

Kristyn - posted on 06/14/2009

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I have found that a bath works great, too! Also, the Dr recommended doing the same exact routine around the same times every night. Helps the child know whats going on and realize "oh its time for bed". So I say the same things, do the same things, put the same things in with him everynight. He cried the first few nights (only for 5 or 10 mins but seemed like forever) then went to sleep. Now, he sleeps thru the night and doesnt cry when I put him in his bed. So if he wakes up and cries in the night I know he needs something not just wants to be held.

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Sleep training??? I've heard some moms swear by it, but I could never leave my child to cry and be in distress. I believe the trick to a child learning to sleep on their own is NOT to hold them until they fall asleep and then put them in their beds, but rather let them start falling asleep and then put them down so that they actually fall asleep in their own bed and by themselves. I think that for a child to be a "confident" sleeper, they need to know that if they DO need you in the night you'll be there for them. You learn their cries very quickly, so if they're just niggly, but dont need you then leave them be, but if the cries are distressed, then go to them straight away. You dont actually need to pick them up, but if you pat them or stroke them they usually settle if its nothing too serious. Of course, tummy aches and nappy changes should be delt with, and if your baby is sick I certainly wouldn't leave him/her to cry either. This has worked for me. My little still wakes sometimes in the night, but 9/10 nights she sleeps through. Good luck.

Sandra - posted on 06/14/2009

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once my babies turned 6wks everynight at the same time after i had them fed winded bathed i would put them in their nursery with the baby alarms on, and if they cried i left them, and after 5mins it would stop,within 4or 5 days they were sleeping through the night,i really find the bath before bed helps,especially with a drop of johnsons bedtime bath and then bedtime lotion and it smells really nice....and a couple of times i used a babys lullaby cd to send them off....

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