Anyone else ever been sad an had fear there hold pregnancy?

Shontae - posted on 12/20/2012 ( 10 moms have responded )

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Anyone else ever been sad an had fear there hold pregnancy?

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~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/20/2012

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Oh shit. Did I fall for one of her posts?? LOL....I am a sucker.

Dove - posted on 12/20/2012

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Welcome back. I haven't seen a post from you in so long that I had hoped you were done being pregnant and gave birth already....

How's that counseling going? You know.... the counseling that has been recommended every time you post about how terrified you've been this entire pregnancy....

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Jessica Bennett - - posted on 12/21/2012

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I had fear my entire pregnancy, I was very high risk and had complication after complication. I was put on bed rest from the beginning and stayed on strict bed rest til my son was born at 40 weeks & 4 days! But I also went into preterm labor 5 different times before finally having him. My doctor was able to stop my labor and keep my munchkin in til he was ready! My fears were always there though. I was scared to stand or walk bc I feared I could lose my son at any minute... Honestly the fear & anxiety is one thing that makes me feel having just one child is right for me! Talking about your fears & sadness or any emotions for that matter can really help!

Tracy - posted on 12/21/2012

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I'm not quick enough to learn who is and isn't a troll, so I will accept that maybe you guys are right and this person is just not for real. HOWEVER, there are people out there who really are scared during their pregnancies so I will address them. If this person if for real, hopefully it will help her too.

My first pregnancy, I was 17 and so confident in everything. I truly wasn't scared at all except of having a miscarriage in the beginning. However, my second pregnancy, when I was 30, scared me sooo badly. I was ALWAYS scared there was something going to go wrong. Even after she was born. She ended up in NICU for a single night and was fed through a tube for her first meal ever. I can't imagine how some parents do that for MONTHS. When she came home, I was so scared that something would happen to her. She's 3 1/2 years old now and, to be honest, I STILL worry all the time that something bad will happen. My son is about to turn 16 and I have NEVER felt that way about him. Somehow, I am secure that he will be ok. I haven't figured out why I am so scared with my daughter (and it's not because she's a girl, I was this way even before we knew the sex at seven months gestation). I got so bad one night after she was born that I LOATHED the cradle she was in next to my bed. I looked over and was convinced it was a coffin. I pulled her out of it immediately and THREW it out of the room at 2am. It never came back in. OK, MAYBE I'M NOT HELPING because I haven't found a great answer to the problem. It gets better as time goes on. As she gets bigger and stronger, I get more calm and relaxed.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/20/2012

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You know what? I am gonna keep taking the bait. I wanna know Shemekia. I am trusting that you are not the same women that keeps trolling this site.

I had a lot of pain with both pregnancies, especially my second. I wasn't sure I would make it. I had severe leg cramps to the point of being unable to walk, and also SPD (seperated pubis symphisis) where the cartlidge tears from your pubic bone. I could barely move some days. I had a lot of swelling, and got varicose veins. My poor 4 year old son was taking care of me some days. Unfortunately, we cannot take pain killers while pregnant.

For the cramps, I took extra calcium. It really helped. Also ate 1-2 bananas per day with extra water. Pre natal vitamins don't have near enough calcium that preggo's need. If you do not have enough calcium, you will cramps.

For the SPD, I got a belly band that really helped relieve some of the pain, where I could walk.

I hope some of this helps, but every pregnancy is different.

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/20/2012

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Many people have told you to seek counseling. In fact, the last time you were on, you said you had a therapist. I really wish you and your baby the best of luck. I honestly do hope that you are getting help. I would not want things to end tragically for anyone.

Dove - posted on 12/20/2012

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I GAVE YOU ADVICE TO SEEK COUNSELING... repeatedly. If you don't want to HEAR that advice.... don't post. ;)

Shontae - posted on 12/20/2012

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This is my 2nd pregnancy an i be worried bout the pains i have an everythang the doctor always say its normal :-( but i still worry. with my first pregnancy last year i never had pains an i always was happy an very active. but with this one i stay sad an worried bout my pains an i stay worried bout everythang. i talk to every body i can bout it but seem like nothing will help i told my mom an my to oldest sisters they wont know how it feel to be young an have 1baby an another on the way because my mom was 27 when she first had kids an my 2 older sisters is 21 an 23 an they dont have any kids an im 19:-(

~♥Little Miss - posted on 12/20/2012

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Sure. I had a lot of fear during my pregnancy. I just was so scared to take care of another life. Having it be my responsibility to raise him into a good human being. And yes, i would get sad every now and again....but moe fear of the unknown. For me it did not overwhelm the whole pregnancy though. If you are having a lot of anxiety and fear, talk with your doctor about it so they can look for signs of PPD after the baby is here.

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