Anyone else has a 3 yr old who does NOTHING but babbling?? My son has a sever speech delay and I want to know if any of you have heard of any cases where a child with this issue eventually does talk? Or have you experienced it yourself and what have you done about it? This is also causing trouble with potty training by the way.

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Kim - posted on 02/15/2009

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Don't worry he will start talking when he is ready. My nephew is 5 and has started school and has just satrted talking. He went to speech theropy that didn't help. You can't force a child to talk if they are not ready and pushing them too much makes them worse. So just be patiant and it will happen...

Polulani (Jasmine) - posted on 01/24/2009

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My oldest daughter babbled until she was almost 4 1/2 years old. I talked to a pediatrician and they had told me that it was "normal". Wrong answer. I went through the military and they tested her and found that she could use speech therapy. We had an IEP drawn up and was able to enroll her into a public school's special education preschool. She had speech therapy and cognitive therapy. After about a couple of months, I stopped being her "translator" and she was talking like a normal child. She is currently in the 4th grade and in honor programs. Sometimes children just need that extra help and then they'll amaze you! Good luck! :)

Judith - posted on 03/28/2013

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Hi Diana,
What ever became of your son's speech issues? I am now in the same boat.

Debra - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter had a speech delay that everyone was worried about....... I am happy to report she is now  in college and very talkative. Everyone developes at their own pace, and she wasn't  saying much until after she was 5.

Sasha - posted on 02/14/2009

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My son didn't even babble. My daughter was holding conversation (full, intgeractive, two way meaningfull converstaion) at 1 year old. The one BIGGEST bit of advice, is do not go down the route of going through a checklist when your child wants somthing. If they are able to gesture and it is too late to start using a pediatric or special needs sign system, use pictures. If they want ANYTHING. Communication is a huge thing. Stay calm about it. My son is amazing. He was origonaly noted as having autism, but as a result of the work I have put in it is now regarded as Aspergers. You are being not being in any way crewel by encouraging your child to communicate. You are giving your child so much. Everyone saying do not stress about are so right. If it becomes too much of an issue inside you, and if you are hanging on every sound your child makes it will be harder for them to break out. Using another method of communication provides the imediate positive reinforcement 'I wanted that, I showed that that was what I wanted, and it happened'. This is the stage 1 of 'communication validation' which is a key part to may forms of Ocupational and speach thep. Number 1 rule is that if the child cannot communicate by sound but clearly has a point they want to get across, give them another way to do it.

All the best

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Thank you so much Sasha!! Your reply is very very encouraging :) and also to all of you ladies !!

Becky - posted on 01/25/2009

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Hi my 5yr old son was the same he did not talk at all even when he was a baby he dint do the baby coo and babble. He can talk now sometimes you carnt understand him but thats when he get a bit giddy lol. He's been having speech therapy since he was 3yrs old and stated talking at 4yrs with a vocab of about 15 words now he dont stop talking he's still getting speech therapy at school as well. As for potty training dont worry about it my son was not dry till about 4yrs i do think it's all to do with there speech just a little harder for them there brain is trying that had to develope his language skills it's just not got to bladder control yet but as i say dont worry it will all happen just let him know it's not a bad thing when he wets himself. Good luck your little man will get there in the end x Oh yeah we used baby sign language it was fantastic just remember to say the words as well. GOOD LUCK

Vikki - posted on 01/25/2009

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i just read that u have a 2month old as well, this could be his reson  from wen u was caring did he change ?  he might feel like he will get attention , cuz my daughter wen i had my baby wwich is 2 months old 2 she tried talkin like a baby again and use 2 try acting like one.

Vikki - posted on 01/25/2009

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hi my firend lil one didnt start talkin untill he was 4 and that was  because evey one was doin everythink for him so he was just a laied back the heath vistor told her. does he go to playgroup? my daughter has just staed wantin to were knickers this week, all children are difrent sum are yearly starters and sum are late, u should put  him in pants wen u are at home and a potty in the same room and every half hr  ask him o ry have a wee , if he does use it make a big effort in sayin well done .. he might just be a lil nervouse , hope i was sum help.

Amber - posted on 01/25/2009

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hi diana



i know wat its like my son was slow at walking talking and potty training but now hes a pro



some kids take longer then others dont worry  2 much lauchie only spoke sentences once he was 4



and its a known fact boys are slower then girls



everyone is diffrent.... dont worry he will be talkig be fore u know it

Shannon - posted on 01/25/2009

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Are you useing the baby signs?  If he is haveing trouble getting his words together he might love being able to get his point across with a little sign language.  If confidance is an issue because of the lack of communication than this might help him build confidance and help him develope his language skills.

Daisy - posted on 01/24/2009

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Thank you I wish the best for u and your son as well.. And don't worry about the potty training either because my son is non-verbal I haven't been able to get him to train. He was doing it for awhile and then refused to use it again and wanted to be in diapers.. I think with that as  well when they are comfortable enough they will do it on their own and let us know.

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Daisy: I know those doctors can't be right about that. All children with that disorder eventually learn how to speak later on. I think that because he is 5, they are acting like they are giving up but that's not the way to go. I have hope that he will speak just like i'm very hopeful about my son. Good luck with everything and i'm very happy that your son is making some progress. I wish you the best.

Daisy - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi, I have a son who is goin to be turning 5 in april, all he does is babble..he is goin to speech therapy every week and he seems to be getting better. My son was also diagnosed with ASD (Autism Spectrum Disorder). My son used to speak and do everything a "normal" child did/does at the age of 2 then it all just slowly went away. The doctors and specialist that have seen him have all told me that my son may never speak, I for one though do not believe that I think that when or if a child is ready they will speak on their own time. Some children just pick it up quicker then others.

Laura - posted on 01/24/2009

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I have a 2 1/2 year old girl who only has about 55 words under her belt and she is not potty trained yet...everyone tells me not to worry though.........She has a older sister but that doesn't seem to speed the process along......

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Thank all of u for the tips!!
Haley: Another developmental pediatrician told us that he may be mildly autistic also.. and later on he was evaluated before starting his early intervention program and I was just told that it was a speech delay and many kids go into the program with that type of issue but are talking after a year or 2. The autism thing does scare me and he may have it, but I know he has the potential of speaking. he has only said a few words in the past that he never continued saying. It's scary but i still have hope. Thank you so much for your response :)

Marian - posted on 01/24/2009

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don't worry it will come...i have a daughter of 19yrs and is special needs who couldn't talk till she was around 3 1/2 when she was at school she got a speech therapist. she wasn't potty trained till she was around 5yrs so please don't worry it adds to the stress that you feel you are in. my daughter just don't shut up now oh how i wish she was that little girl..

Vered - posted on 01/24/2009

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Diana: My son communicated the same way... When he points to something label it for him and repeat it a few times.. Try to have him imitate you, does not have to be perfect. he will get it eventually!  Good luck ! Thank you all for giving me hope as well..



 

Brenda - posted on 01/24/2009

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I have a 3 year old that talks from the moment she wakes up till the moment she goes to sleep.  I cherish the short lived moments that she is quiet.  I have been told that if you have an older sibling - they will do the talking for the younger one - not to worry though - I'm sure your 3 year old will start talking very soon.

Vered - posted on 01/24/2009

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Polulani: I am soo happy for you and your daughter. That is so great! You made me feel so good, bacause i am soo worried about my son that he will never succeed in school because he is so speech delayed. We are working so hard with him, and he has come a long way. He is 4 years old, but he is still one year behind because of his speech.

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Thank ALL OF YOU ladies very much for your responses. They've made me feel better already!!!

Vered: My son communicates with me by just pointing or whinning and looking directly at what he wants. Its been hard. I have hope that all of us will get thru this together though. Good luck with you and your son!! :)

Paula - posted on 01/24/2009

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Your school district should offer speech and language assessment and service free to you. Check into it. The earlier a child receives services (if needed) the quicker the proess is.

Vered - posted on 01/24/2009

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yes.. that is what people have said to me too, ( about Einstein) It gives me hope. Just read to him a lot and label everything for him. One day the words will come out. It is a lot of work for you and a lot of patience especially with a new baby at home. Just repeat everything to him. Good luck.

Haley - posted on 01/24/2009

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hey there i will tell you this and not to scare you but to look into.



 



My son didn't do it either he babbled and would refuse to use his words he pointed to what he wanted and i was exhausted trying to get him to talk so i ended up figuring it out and yes i too had trouble with the potty.



 



I later found he was mildly autistic. after his ears were checked and yes he appeared to be absolutely normal. hopefully this is not the case, but never overlook the speech being absent, because often they use pictures and it is ono such a broad spectrum you may never think a thing about there being anything like this going on.



 



My son  is so "quote" normal with lots of intervention, and speech but please read about this and then look at your baby,  doctors don't usually say anything early on because they don't want to diagnose him without making absolutely certain. So it is up to us as mothers to read up on it and trust me you will know if it is when you educate yourself on it.



 



Just something to eliminate if you are still searching. The absence of the speech may be nothing, but it we can never be too sure.

Haley - posted on 01/24/2009

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hey there i will tell you this and not to scare you but to look into.



 



My son didn't do it either he babbled and would refuse to use his words he pointed to what he wanted and i was exhausted trying to get him to talk so i ended up figuring it out and yes i too had trouble with the potty.



 



I later found he was mildly autistic. after his ears were checked and yes he appeared to be absolutely normal. hopefully this is not the case, but never overlook the speech being absent, because often they use pictures and it is ono such a broad spectrum you may never think a thing about there being anything like this going on.



 



My son  is so "quote" normal with lots of intervention, and speech but please read about this and then look at your baby,  doctors don't usually say anything early on because they don't want to diagnose him without making absolutely certain. So it is up to us as mothers to read up on it and trust me you will know if it is when you educate yourself on it.



 



Just something to eliminate if you are still searching. The absence of the speech may be nothing, but it we can never be too sure.

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Debra: I'm glad to hear that your daughter did well and it wasn't anything serious. Your reply really gives me lots of hope :) I'm glad it turned out well for you guys. I do hear of many kids that don't start talking till the age of 5. Even Einstein himself didn't start talking till he was 4 or 5 i've heard.

Larissa - posted on 01/24/2009

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I used sign around my son who I had when my daughter was 22 months old and he started signing more at about 4 months it might have been sooner. It is complete opposites my 2 children. My son has a huge vocab and he is 3 now and generally speaks in full sentences to me.

Vered - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hi,



My son just turned 4 this past week. He , as well has a severe speech delay. He was not even babbling at 2. I had him evaluated for speech and was assigned therapy 3x week through early intervention. When he turned three years old, we transferred to the Borad of Education (NYC) , where now he gets therapy 4x a week in Nursery school . It has done wonders. Within 9 months he started talking and now is speaking in short sentences.... We were very worried ( still are, because there is a long way to go...) but he is getting there....



It is very true - every child develops at their own pace.... i would suggest first get his hearing checked and evaluated for speech.



 



How does he communicate with you?



I started potty training process late as well, because he was not talking.... He is potty trained now...so there is hope...



Practice, and Repetition is what works!! 



If you have any questions , please feel free to ask - it seems we are in the same situation!

Larissa - posted on 01/24/2009

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My daughter has a speech delay but that usually comes along with children with down syndrome. Her doctor got us hooked up with a speech patholgist and we got connected with the school districts early childhood program. It has helped, we started out signing so she could at least start to communicate with us. The more we signed and spoke the word while signing the more she would make attempts at the words after a while. It takes consistantly. I can verbally descibe how to do some everyday signs to help you out. Feel free to message me. My daughter is now 5 and still doesn't talk much she has less than 20 words she says, we do a lot of signing and I have also bought some sign language books so I can look up specific signs for you if you would like. Like some of the others have said when he makes the attempt to say anything praise him.

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Rachel: No he doesn't have older siblings. He does have a younger brother which is only 2 months old at the time. I took him to a developmental ped. and she only diagnosed it as a speech delay. I'm still concerned and he is going to a program for toddlers at an elementary school.. but it's for kids who have the same or other issues. He's been there a year and a half and nothing. he seems to want to talk because he vocalizes A LOT but they aren't real words. just babbling. I got his hearing checked twice and everything is fine in that department. WHen i try to get him for ask for stuff, he just goes for what he wants and doesn't want to use his mouth to let me know. It's like he feels no need to talk, but i don't do a lot of things for him, i make it to where he has to ask but that doesn't work :(

User - posted on 01/24/2009

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One of my nephews did little more than grunt until he was 3.5. He did have a little bit of speech therapy and now, at 13, when he doesn't talk it's because he's...well...13! His language ability is no different than any other child his age.

Brooke Anne - posted on 01/24/2009

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Don't let it get to you too much. These Moms are right. Every child develops at his or her own pace. I have five kiddos, and the last two didn't want to talk much. We took them to the school and got them screened, which should be coming up again in a couple months. Pediatricians can get you set up for speech therapy, and they can let you know if there's something to be concerned with as well. Insurance usually covers it. Call and check first for your benefits. Mostly, we had to refuse the pointing and repeat, "Use your words" quite a bit. Probably nothing to worry about. Professionals can help determine if there really needs to be concerns, though. And, potty training...sit your child on the potty every time you go, and have a treat ready...or just sheer big deal praise and a happy face or sticker chart helps.

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Thank you Mishaun! I wish you luck on your visit and hopefully it isn't anything serious. A lot of kids seem to have this issue. please do keep me informed. Thanks a lot.

Ttiaona - posted on 01/24/2009

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s for the potty training, that will come in time, when he is ready.  As for the speech delay, my brother had a delay that was so bad, that we were told that he would never, talk, now he never shuts up, LOL same with one of my boys, his delay was so bad, that he attended a school for Sign Language, he will talk you to deatj if you give him a chance.

Angela - posted on 01/24/2009

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I have 5 children all spoke before 2 or about 2. One of my son's wasn't saying anything but babbling. my pediatirician said the same that it was due to the fact that he has older siblings and they speak for him. I however didn't like that answer. I started researching and i did get him evaluated for speech. as it turns out he is behind in speech and is now in a speech program. It is fun for him and he has much more confidence. He was getting very frustrated when he couldn't communicate now things are better. i am glad that i checked into speech therapy he is still in the therapy working on the clarity of his words but his speech is getting stronger each day with fun playful games. He will eventually talk but it may be good to get him some early intervention it will not just help with potty training but also give him the confidence when he enters school for Kindergarten. Most local districts will evaluate children for free and if the qualify will also offer the services for free. check out your local school districts. I hope this is helpful.

Rachel - posted on 01/24/2009

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Does he have older siblings? My son is 2 1/2 and just started talking a few months ago. I talked to my doctor about it and she said that it is probably because his older brother is talking for him. I didn't think this was the problem, but once my oldest started going to school my little guy started talking. I also have a nephew that wasn't talking and they found out that he had a hearing problem and has to have tubes put in his ears. A few weeks after the surgery he started talking. Just a few suggestions. I would talk to his pediatrician if you are concerned.

Mishaun - posted on 01/24/2009

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Hello I'm a Rocky Mount parent with a three year old whose having the same problem. We will be speaking with someone on Wednesday. So I'll keep you informed.

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