anyone else having a bad day?

Sarah - posted on 07/20/2009

Wow--7 months pregnant with a 2.5 year old--I think you have a right to complain. You need some pampering, even if it's just a little, as soon as it can be arranged. At least get your husband to take your little boy out while you take a shower or nap if you can't get away to get a pedicure.

Laura - posted on 07/16/2009

HAHAHA love this. It is so good to rant. I'm done with the baby/toddler stage and on to the child stage. I have a 9 year old daughter and an almost 8 year old boy and almost 5 year old boy. The two older ones are in summer school, starts at 8:30 and we live 5 minutes from school and they still are yet to get there on time. Every morning I hear how much they don't like what we have for breakfast and can't we have make coco wheats. I remind them that that's only for children that get up in time for me to fix it. My youngest finds out he has a t-ball game tonight and get in his uniform and insists on putting on his cleats which is fine but then after 2 mins. outside he's back inside stopping all around the house in his dusty dirty cleats. Every five minutes he's asking when his game is and I tell him after dinner so then at 10:00 am he's asking for dinner. And, it's the whiny you can't explain anything to him kind of asking, all day long. The usual battle over what everyone wants for lunch insues and then luckily grandma and grandpa come to take the kids to the park. I actually got to do something on my own and in peace. Kids come back and we take one to the piano lessons and stop to pick up a pizza. The two boys are loud and obnoxious. One is talking like a baby loudly and the other one is yelling at him. So, I have to kick them outside. Meanwhile, pizza place ran out of plastic wrap and seems to be having a problem replacing it so my take and bake pizza is taking half an hour and I'm standing there with these crazy, loud boys. Zoom back to get daughter, start to go home and have to pull off road because, yes guess who's being loud and fighting in the car. Get home and while pizza is cooking, I'm spraying the garden because the stinking rabbits are getting fat on my beans. But it's windy, so I'm getting sprayed with what the label reads "petrescent egg solids, urea, garlic, and pepper". Yeah. Hubby calls won't be home until much later. Then I discover we missed the game. Thought it was at 7:00, it was at 5:45. Try to go for a walk but get whined at because one wants to go for a bike ride, get whined at again because I ask that they ride in socks and shoes not flip flops. I'm done being whined at, everyone went to bed early. Ahhh!!!

LaCi - posted on 07/16/2009

lol.... isn't every day the same? all my days are those days... although it might not rain.... but it probably will.

Jenny - posted on 07/16/2009

My toddler (he will be 3 on the 25th of this month)is potty training for the 2nd time and has already peeed all over the place twice today and it is only 12:30. My 8 month old is actulaly taking what will probably be her only nap for the day. I need to be moping the kitchen floor while she is asleep but I am taking a min for myself (with my son in my lap) so I dont go crazy. My husband works all the time so guess what that means, I do it all by myself!!!! I love my babies but everyone needs a break at some point!!!

Jessica - posted on 07/16/2009

Good for you! Sounds like you got the right attitude here! I suppose all you can do is be as supportive as possible now!

Erin - posted on 07/15/2009

Yeah apparently, as I can tell by him being drunk all last week! He was waiting to call today to see if there was work, 'cuz someone in the shop told him he def. had a job there just wasn't any work (such is the problem with cabinetry) and this increases his lack of motivation to find something different. But he's going to have to look for work to maintain his unemployment so I'm sure he'll get on the ball here soon! He did update his resume so that is improvement :) BTW, I've gotten him jobs before so that's nothing new to me! He was inbetween jobs 2 yrs ago and was stuck at a low paying job w/long drive time. I got him a higher paying job closer to town by emailing his resume :) Of course I didn't get him the job as he did that with his skills and such, but I def. kicked him in the right direction :)

Jessica - posted on 07/15/2009

Quoting Erin:

I can completely understand your plight! I am 31 wks w/a soon to be 3 yr old. I work PT & don't make enough. My house is generally super dirty (by which i mean toys all over EVERYWHERE) My husband got laid off right before the 4th and is going stir crazy! All last week I think he got drunk? In turn feels like sh!t & pisses & moans that he needs to quit smoking! WE CANT AFFORD IT! Couldn't b4, sure can't now! The ONE day he was supposed to he didn't even bother to get up til after 1pm because he didn't have a cigarette to wake to. And I'm sorry but I quit smoking b4 our 1st child (when he was supposed 2 quit w/me so I have NO sympathy!) BTW he's sleeping now... We were supposed to see Horton Hears A Who in the theater during the free fam. film fest. but my boys wouldn't get up & then after a half hour of the movie my son wouldn't stay still and we ended up leaving... which is why my husband's asleep because he was woken up too early (9:20a) My son doesn't want to take naps anymore but won't go to sleep any earlier, he just gets a pissy attitude instead, and keeps dumping the damn cats food in her water, which she's almost out of & I can't afford to buy her more :( And to top it off, my husband thinks that getting unemployment ($400/wk~which is at min. $600 to as much as $1600 less then his wages) is good enough that he doesn't have to try hard to get anything better, despite the fact that that is $400 less then our bills per month and I will no longer be working in 3-4 wks! So yeah, I can relate, and hun cleaning the house is the LAST thing on my list!!! If I can't keep ME sane my house often reflects this :) Can't do it all!!! Funny thing though, my husband though after #1 & I stayed home to care for him that I would, for some reason?, turn into this wonderful domestic little thing that had a clean house waiting for him and meals ready, HAHAHA! My mom asked if he turned into wonder dad when he got laid off, YEAH RIGHT! Sure my house is a little cleaner, but I mostly did that! Yeah after the first 6mos w/#1 I quit cleaning my husbands laundry and haven't looked back! He STILL complains when he doesn't have clean clothes, AS IF I CARE! I told him if #2 pukes like the 1st one then he'd end up getting our son's laundry to boot, and I'd just take care of mine & the baby's :D he didn't like that thought too much!

Your hubby needs kickin into gear! When your out and about and you pass a store or somewhere with a job up for grabs run in an grab an application! Then hand it to him when you get back home! Just keep on at this an hopefully he will get the message! If he dont then don't give him any money for cigs when he runs out an got no cash! Maybe he will find the energy to fill out the forms that way!

Don't get me wrong! I know how it is to be unemployed! You lose the enthusiasm and initiative to do anything! but if he don't start doin summat soon he never will! Especially after being laid off! Thats a real blow to the self esteem!

Jenna - posted on 07/15/2009

I CAN SO RELATE, i HAVE 6 KIDS AT HOME RIGHT NOW, AND MY 3 YR OLD SON IS STARTING TO BE A PAIN. MY 18 MONTH OLD IS STARTING THE TERRIBLE TWOS, MY 2 12 YR OLDS ARE ALMOST THIRTEEN AND THINK THEY'RE ALL THAT, AND MY 6 YR OLD IS COPYING THE 12 YR OLDS. MY OLDER 12 YR OLD IS HAVING TANTRUM ISSUES DUE TO BEING BI-POLAR AND ASSAULTED ME YESTERDAY, MY OTHER 12 YR OLD THROWS HER TANTRUMS AS WELL BOTH ARE BP JUST ONE WORSE THAN THE OTHER! YESTERDAY AFTER ALL THAT I HAD TO DEAL WITH A CRANKY HUBBY, AND THEN HE GRIPES BECAUSE I AM TIRED AND NOT REALLY INTERESTED...SIGH

Maria - posted on 07/15/2009

Wow! I know most of us have been there and feel for you! Here is something that helps me feel sane... I bought a little $2 pocket calendar and plan out cleaning for the month in that, on days I don't have doctor appointments or social events scheduled. Outside of dishes and laundry, I only do one task per day--and I actually get more done than I used to before looking at a whole house in shambles thinking about how overwhelming it was! I found that a good dusting with Pledge lasts (shiny wood!) about a month, so I went room by room and noted tasks that take about 35 minutes (that's how long my son sleeps during the day!) and try to follow it. With dishes and laundry, if I can't get them done I ask my husband for help with at least getting stuff to the right spot. Anyway, yesterday I mopped downstairs floors; today I will clean my downstairs bathrooms. Even my guest bedrooms are on the calendar, despite only being used a few times a year--because when I do have guests I'd rather proactively know I've dusted and cleaned in there than try to get it and a guest bath and the rest of the house done before people arrive in a day or so! So take an afternoon, plan out weekday cleaning for the month, and see if it helps. Don't try to fit in too much; one project a day is more than plenty to keep a 2000 sq foot home looking good (stressing "good" not "perfect"!). Put kids in playpen/room for a little while to do dishes and laundry if you can't find any other way; they'll be fine even if they are clingy and miss you for 15-20 minutes! And if you find some cookie dough, sneak a few bites while you're "cleaning"... you deserve it!

Erin - posted on 07/14/2009

I can completely understand your plight! I am 31 wks w/a soon to be 3 yr old. I work PT & don't make enough. My house is generally super dirty (by which i mean toys all over EVERYWHERE) My husband got laid off right before the 4th and is going stir crazy! All last week I think he got drunk? In turn feels like sh!t & pisses & moans that he needs to quit smoking! WE CANT AFFORD IT! Couldn't b4, sure can't now! The ONE day he was supposed to he didn't even bother to get up til after 1pm because he didn't have a cigarette to wake to. And I'm sorry but I quit smoking b4 our 1st child (when he was supposed 2 quit w/me so I have NO sympathy!) BTW he's sleeping now... We were supposed to see Horton Hears A Who in the theater during the free fam. film fest. but my boys wouldn't get up & then after a half hour of the movie my son wouldn't stay still and we ended up leaving... which is why my husband's asleep because he was woken up too early (9:20a) My son doesn't want to take naps anymore but won't go to sleep any earlier, he just gets a pissy attitude instead, and keeps dumping the damn cats food in her water, which she's almost out of & I can't afford to buy her more :( And to top it off, my husband thinks that getting unemployment ($400/wk~which is at min. $600 to as much as $1600 less then his wages) is good enough that he doesn't have to try hard to get anything better, despite the fact that that is $400 less then our bills per month and I will no longer be working in 3-4 wks! So yeah, I can relate, and hun cleaning the house is the LAST thing on my list!!! If I can't keep ME sane my house often reflects this :) Can't do it all!!! Funny thing though, my husband though after #1 & I stayed home to care for him that I would, for some reason?, turn into this wonderful domestic little thing that had a clean house waiting for him and meals ready, HAHAHA! My mom asked if he turned into wonder dad when he got laid off, YEAH RIGHT! Sure my house is a little cleaner, but I mostly did that! Yeah after the first 6mos w/#1 I quit cleaning my husbands laundry and haven't looked back! He STILL complains when he doesn't have clean clothes, AS IF I CARE! I told him if #2 pukes like the 1st one then he'd end up getting our son's laundry to boot, and I'd just take care of mine & the baby's :D he didn't like that thought too much!

Tinya - posted on 07/14/2009

oh and one more thing. I dont want anything to do with sex in any way shape or form, and my husband cant get enough! i have told him how i felt and he just laughed

Tinya - posted on 07/14/2009

just what i need a place to vent, and not have to hear lectures about what im venting about!.....i lost my 3.5 month old baby almost 4 months ago. so i am dealing with that heartache, now my dr tells me that my blood pressure and my cholesterol is too high and i have to change my diet of 37 years. ok, fine, i can do that so that i can be around for my 2.5 year old. then my husband tells my that we are too broke to buy cigarettes so we have to quit, whether i am ready or not. my husband goes to work and comes home and plays his game on the computer, and thats it. he get noticably angery if i ask him to take out the trash (which is only 1 of the 2 things i ask him to do around here). i do EVERYTHING else around here. cook, clean, laundry, and paying bills while watching over my 2.5 year old. the past few days i have been dizzy, light headed, and sick to my stomach. my husband got home really late from work yesterday, i had been felling like that ALL DAY (while taking care of the kid) so i asked my husband to take me to the hospital because of it and he said he was too tired and he went to bed. being this dizzy and light headed i cant risk driving my self to the hospital especially not with my kid cause he was not going to watch her so i could go. i feel unappreciated and uncared for. i am starting think think my husband does not care about me any more. i know alot of my problems are the medical problems and i am on lots of meds, but i feel like there is something else going on. i am greiving for my baby, and everyone wants me the change everything i know. i hate change. anytime i try to talk to any friends or family i get lectures. thank you for letting me vent.

Stephanie - posted on 07/14/2009

I was JUST writing my friend about how horrible of a day this has been. My son had a fit (to say the least) when I dropped him off at daycare. I dressed him in a nice mostly white polo because I figured it was kind of chilly and they wouldn't play outside (turns out they are doing a "fun" project with dirt today. I couldn't find a parking spot at work. I realized my boss didn't approve one of my timecards so this check is only for a week and I have to wait for the rest until the 29th. Not to mention I have less cash because I'm taking care of things while my fiance it out of the country until August. While at work the stapler broke and of course I tried to fix it and the end of the staple caught my finger. I got up to go to the bathroom and my work decided to close EVERY one so they could wax the floors (as if doing one at a time would be to difficult). My shift ends at 2:50 but it's now 2:52 and the person who is suppose to take over the next shift isn't even here so I can't leave yet. Why does everything happen in one day?

Stina - posted on 07/14/2009

Fly Lady anyone?

Not that I've managed to make it through her baby steps yet :)

No. we moved in back in mid March followed shortly thereafter by my sis-in-law moving in just before my baby was delivered -repeat c-section.

So boxes in the office were all moved to the garage instead of being unpacked b/c only I seem to possess the ability to take things out of boxes. Baby born. in law no help at all while I recovered from surgery, cooked dinner's she often didn't bother to come out of her cave to eat... then SHE had the nerve to say she felt unwelcome in her rent free room and begged my husband to take her back where she came from.

Boxes back out of garage into office. I'm fully recovered, but 4 months after moving, two months after the baby, We are still not finished unpacking b/c like I said, it's somehow all my job. And I work 32 hours per week too on top of kids, house etc. My hubby does help pretty significantly around the house though so my biggest stress is the boxes.

Natasha - posted on 07/14/2009

god his is sooooooo my life that last couple of months :(

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009

Quoting Marie:

Oragasm whats that? lol!

lol sounds like us women are left to pick up all the crap an then neglected at the end of the day! What happened to afternoon delight? It's grossly unfair! lol

Marie - posted on 07/14/2009

Oragasm whats that? lol!

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009

The aftermath of an orgasm can also attract the opposite sex! Give yourself one b4 hubby gets home! :D lol

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009

It never is! You don't get to fully relax when you doing it yourself but i say any orgasm is better than no orgasm! lol Here's a good one for you! If you have a tension headache or feel the start of a cold give yourself an orgasm! It releases endorphins an some other chemical i fail to remember the name of lol but it relaxes your muscles and can help prevent a cold from getting worse! Not to mention the heat an orgasm creates within your body helps you relax too!

Jocelyn - posted on 07/14/2009

Quoting Jessica:

Totally get the feel here! Joshes dad goes out to work leaving me with a TON of dishes a TON of laundry! Living room a mess a hyperactive 8 month old who won't let me put him down an screams in my ear! HE won't have his naps and leaves toys strewn across the floor! I don't sleep well as it is but i also have to get up for Josh as he has started teething again so he can't sleep either! There is never ANY chocolate in the house (cant afford it :( ) and no me time! Then when daddy gets home it's "what happened in here" "what's for dinner" "i can't relaxe in a messy house" I just feel like screaming "WELL YA KNOW WHAT? I DON'T GET TO RELAX AT ALL!".......
No problem in the sex department though...........I have a Rampant Rabbit ;D

oh my sex life with myself is great  :) lol   but my hand just isn't the same as his!

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009

Then on the days that daddy is home guess what mommy does? Goes out to work! 32 hours a week in a hospital with NO time to sit! GREAT! lol

Jessica - posted on 07/14/2009

Totally get the feel here! Joshes dad goes out to work leaving me with a TON of dishes a TON of laundry! Living room a mess a hyperactive 8 month old who won't let me put him down an screams in my ear! HE won't have his naps and leaves toys strewn across the floor! I don't sleep well as it is but i also have to get up for Josh as he has started teething again so he can't sleep either! There is never ANY chocolate in the house (cant afford it :( ) and no me time! Then when daddy gets home it's "what happened in here" "what's for dinner" "i can't relaxe in a messy house" I just feel like screaming "WELL YA KNOW WHAT? I DON'T GET TO RELAX AT ALL!".......
No problem in the sex department though...........I have a Rampant Rabbit ;D

Marie - posted on 07/14/2009

Bad days seem to be normal for me lately. I have three children and a husband who does nothing but gripe about how i do things all the time. I work a full time job and try to maintain my home! Which by the way is a disater most of the time. There never seems to be enough time or money. Sometimes I wonder if this is really what life is all about and if it ever gets any better. But with that said when my three year old wraps her arms around my neck and tells me she loves me and that i am the best mommy ever I know it just got better! :-)

Jamie - posted on 07/14/2009

I like your rant, I have a 2yr old and I have those days a lot. I am a single mom and seem to always be running running running. It's so nice to know that I'm not alone. I feel guilty at times b/c of all this.

But we love our kids, life is a good thing

Bev - posted on 07/14/2009

Sometimes just letting off steam with others who know what you are talking about helps...keep venting with your fellow moms. My are grown and gone (except for my adult daughter who still lives with me) and believe me, sometimes that's no picnic either. It seems sometimes the older they get - the bigger the problem. But you know, I don't think I'd trade it for the world. I always think things could be alot worse. And I'm not being a "Pollyanna" in this regard. I know what you mean about being sexually deprived - sex??? what's that????

Savannah Miller - posted on 07/14/2009

Hi, I am having a really hard summer. I wish it was just the day! I cannot seem to hold t all together. I am working so hard to create peace and order in our house and allow for fun too and I feel like my kids are a little gang against me. I feel like I am unraveling and it makes me so sad. My husband is working construction full time and we live on a farm, so then he farms until 10 or 11pm, so he is not around at all. I run a home-based business and so the farm and have 3 kids. I thought this would be so much easier. It was easier when we had more money, that is for sure. Not much money, too much work and too little time for me is not working very well. I could make more money if I worked more, but I am not sure when. other than in the fall when my kids are back in school. I feel terrible about myself right now, so yes, I totally understand. But when I step back and look at my life, there is so much beauty in it, so much tp be grateful for. I wish I could feel all that right now.

Savannah - posted on 07/14/2009

Hey, that DID help! ha ha

Savannah - posted on 07/14/2009

I feel you! Laundry, housecleaning, have to be out of our house in a month. We sold it and have NOWHERE TO GO! ARGH!

Kiddos are fussy,

Got caught in roadwork for 1 hour to drive the 15 miles from the store to my house

All of this would be okay, I could deal with it, but my husband has been gone since monday and won't be back until friday night and he decides to start a retarded fight with me over, get this, my tone of voice!!!!

Thank goodness for the chocolate cake I went and bought. I'm gonna eat the whole thing. Screw it.

Kate - posted on 07/14/2009

I understand....



My toddler (17.5 months) is fussy today, because she was awake and playing for awhile last night, for no reason. Playing, not crying. Ugh. Who needs to play at 3 am?? Anyway, so she throws herself on the floor for no reason and I don't have the energy or strength to pick her up (38.5 weeks pregnant). She climbs on me, elbows my tummy, etc.



Plus I've been having contractions/signs for a WEEK and no baby yet. I'm done!! And my floors are all dirty, the laundry isn't done, and the playroom is a disaster. Even though I cleaned it yesterday and didn't get all the toys out again yet. Sigh. Yeah -- toddlers, messy houses, and pregnancy do not mix well.