Anyone experience Night terrors with a toddler?
Nikki - posted on 12/13/2009
Yes...my oldest son is 4 and he used to have them everynight. He would wake up screaming and crying but still be asleep. He would fight us in his sleep and wouldn't know what was going on. He doesn't do it much now. I think he has had maybe 1 in the last year but when he turned 2 it got worse. It began to die down when he turned 4, thank goodness. But the bad part is, my middle son just turned 2 and seems to be going through the same phase. Their doctor suggested that we let them finish the night terror and not try to wake them up out of it because it tends to scare them more than the terror. Hope this helps. Happy Holidays!
Tristian - posted on 12/13/2009
YES! It is horrible. It makes you feel so powerless! I used to share a room with my son, he slept in his own bed, but that was when the terror's were at their worst. When we moved to a house and he had his own room he was just fine. He also get's them if there is a TV in his room. Once we removed it he slept better and didn't wake in the middle of the night freaking out.
Karrie - posted on 12/13/2009
My son ended up going on medication, his got so bad. Like others said don't wake them up. It is because there not in a deep sleep nor a light sleep, so there little brains are working overtime. It can be very scary, my son would go blue with such a blood gurgling scream.
Tracy - posted on 12/13/2009
I experienced this personally..i myself had night terrors growing up until the age 10-11. My older son who is 13 had them until he was about 8 and now my youngest has them very rarely and he is 6 now. I brought both my boys to the doctors and had them closely monitored because of the problems i had with mine as a child. I was also told to never try to wake them, as most of the times it will prolong or make the night terror or make it worse. I wish you lots of luck and just know that eventually he will grow out of it. Good Luck!
Rochelle - posted on 12/13/2009
I have done some studies on these night terrors in children. The one main reason is a tramatic insident with the child...others is just a situation they are in at the time and will soon out grow. The bad news is...if it is a tramatic insident you need to find out what it is to get them to stop....I would hate to say but investigate family and friends that are around your child....it happened to me with my child and was surprised and out of my mind with I found out what was causing them. My child was being molested by a trusted family memeber and now they are serving time in prison for this. Once it had came out in the open what was going on and the actions were taken and alot of counseling the terrors have stopped, but dreams will alway be there from time to time but they do get better. Search and investigate is all I can say.
Alina - posted on 12/13/2009
my son suffered a series of night terrors over the course of about 6 mths when he was about 3 yrs old.....they were horrible and highly upsetting for the other older children who simply wanted to help....i was the same...the doctor said he would simply grow out of them....my natropath suggested lavender baths before bed to ease the senses and chamomile tea....after a month and 7 days of doing this my son no longer suffers night terrors... i hope this helps, it was great for my son and i.
Karen - posted on 12/13/2009
My daughter that is now 23 experienced these. It was also a NIGHTMARE for her dad and I. I was told by her Dr. never to wake her. As I walked into her room to pick her up when she was a toddler she fell off of her bed to avoid me. She was terrified. We would pick her up. Cuddle her, rock her and speak as softly as we could in her ear. She would occasionally wake up in terror again. It would take my husband and I both to hold her. But when she would get back to sleep and we were positive she was sleeping we put her back in her bed. She never remembered in the morning. As an adult she has some memory of those times. You will get thru this. It is a an awful time for you. There was nothing in our life going on at the time except I was under stress as a young mother moving a lot with a young child.
Katherine - posted on 12/13/2009
My son is 2 and has occasional night terrors, usually when he's overtired or stressed out. He's only had 4 or 5 in the last year os so. Generally, he cries for awhile, and as long as I don't accidentally wake him, he never actually wakes up. Night terrors are a sleep disorder, and occur during non-dreaming deep sleep, so they're not like nightmares. Most kids grow out of them.
Shameka - posted on 12/13/2009
My son who is now 8 years old had night terrors starting when he was 4 years old. It was a very trying time in the beginning. He would wake as many as 5 to 8 times a night and at times I folded and let him come to sleep with me to calm him. It has gotten better with time. Some of the things I learned to do to counteract was doing more activities to tire him out so he would be more likely to rest better. Also, I cut his TV time before bedtime back. As he has gotten older, it has gotten better. We still have a few episodes every now and then. But I can say it got better over time. I hope this helps
Melanie - posted on 12/13/2009
Did a study for a few years and maybe this will help! The colours of the room could be a big put of for little ones. For grown ups bold colours are colourfull but for them it can get scarry. If you can change the room colour to a more softer tone. Then big picters on the wall make sure its more friendly than monsters in fairy tale, a big scare are Clowns. Clowns were found to be one of the most caracters little ones were scared of. Soft lights in the room and a cuddle toy/blanket. Maybe you should think of re-arranging the bedroom the way THEY would like it. Good Luck!
Heather - posted on 12/13/2009
My daughter had night terrors from the age of a year until she was about four years old. There is not much you can do. I was advised to never try and force her into waking up. They are completely unconscious when this is happening to them, my daughter hated to be held during a night terror, she would go stiff as a board and scream even harder. I'm sure some of the neighbors thought I must be abusing her. Sometimes, all you can do is let them scream until it's over. I know you want to help, but sometimes that is the only help there is. Keep calm. Try not to let your anxiousness affect the baby. Sing softly. Play soothing music very low. Pat their back if you're able.
The only word I ever got on what causes this is that during this time, a child's brain is growing, soaking in all the information around them - that's millions of pieces of information daily and that when they're resting, the brain is sort of on over drive trying to catch up with all this information, overloaded I guess you could say and it triggers the night terror.. It could also be from trauma, I wouldn't doubt it. Mine did take a tumble with her grandmother down a flight of stairs previous to her night terrors.
They do start to happen more infrequently, but there is really nothing you can do to prevent them. The best thing I could say is, she never seemed to know they happened. When it's over, it's over.
Good luck and don't lose heart!
Jessica - posted on 12/13/2009
Yes. my daughter is 3 and has been getting them for about a year. She does not have them every night. I try to calm her down and she goes back to sleep within minutes. I usually give her her glow worm that lights up and plays songs. I also put her nightlight on every night. Good luck.
Kevlyn - posted on 12/13/2009
i wish i could pinpoint what they are from but theres nothing....
I know the feeling. My mom and I were just discussing it a few nights ago and neither one of us can figure out why she is having them. I could understand better if she had, had some kind of trama in her life, but she never has. So none of it makes since to me....
Diana - posted on 12/13/2009
The Pediatrician told me she would grow out of it, its been a good year or so and lately they seem to be getting worse!! Shes even had a few while sleeping in the car, imdriving and shes freaking out and yet sound asleep and i cant do anything...
Sarah - posted on 12/13/2009
Yes my daughter started having them after me and my husband got a divorce. It was a horrible relationship and it really affected my daughter. I even took her to the doctor to try to get some insight on the situation. Her doctor said that with time they would slowly so away as long as we could address the problem and never put her back in that same situation. It has been 7 months now and she is doing 100% better I can't even remember the last time she had one.
Kevlyn - posted on 12/13/2009
My three year old has been having them for about two years now and is now scared to go to sleep... So I am having lots of trouble getting her to go to sleep and when she finally does go to sleep it's not but a few hours until she wakes up and then it takes hours to get her to go back to sleep..... Next time she goes to the doctor I am going to ask the doctor if there is anything that can possibly be done about it.... Good Luck :)
Shauna - posted on 12/13/2009
My daughter get them some times. The only thing I am able to do is stay clam and try to wake them up. Don't wake them up to fast casue they can come out of it thinking that it really happened. Just stay calm and let them go sllep through it.
Sheryl - posted on 12/13/2009
yeah i have and it not easy that's for sure! my son is still having them. he well not sleep in the dark and wants a tv to sleep too. top it off he even tryies to sleep in my bed. he comes in the middle of the night. but i hoping to get through it soon.
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