Anyone have any ideas how can i get my 15 months old daughter to fall asleep on her own and sleep in her crib?

Char - posted on 12/11/2012

Poor daddy! But what a sweetie. Not every partner/husband would make that choice. This does seem to be universally a problem around this age. Getting babies off to sleep in their own bed. A lot of people have their babies in their own room at age one or so. Some even before. It is whatever you think is best. Are you sure nothing changed apart from the weather in the last 3 weeks. Even the tiniest change can make our children very clingy. Did she knock herself on her crib or get some kind of fright. You know when your child is teething even if u don't see any teeth when they dribble excessively or more than usual sometimes grizzle more and incessantly suck and chew on everything. Also they may push their bottle away or chew on the teat. I would just keep doing what u are doing and take things one day at a time. Maybe she could of had a nightmare or maybe a loud noise woke her. Or maybe mummy is feeling rundown and she feels that. Or mayb she simply wants to be close to her mummy. The seahorse is a great idea to try if you can get them. We can't in our area but I have been told they are on line. Thorjinn usually sleeps in a little room connected to ours so it is like he is in our room. Most of the time he does well. It will be interesting to see if we go through the same thing later on.

Marija - posted on 12/11/2012

I dont think she needs her daddy as much as she needs me... thas why she spends more time with me. She plays with him during the day sometimes but when she wants to eat, sleep, bath ect she is looking for me. Her daddy was forced to leave our bed so she can sleep with me :)))). She even has her own room but i think she is too small to sleep alone in a separated room. Yeah she used to sleep in her crib, recently 3 weeks now she refuses to sleep there.

Char - posted on 12/11/2012

I am sorry you are having such a hard time. Children will stay in your bed for ever if you let them. Maybe she misses daddy. As Thor gets older he notices when daddy is not there and will only settle once he is home. Has she ever liked her crib? Does she have a mobile? When bubba first went into his cot it was in our room and would still bif our new house could accommodate. That way he felt safe and secure in his cot and new we were right there making the transition to his own room easier. Someone I know actually has a child your age and has had similar probs. she had to spend over three hours trying to get bubba off to sleep still reading to him as he cried. That worked for her and especially after she got a special night light squeeze toy life is better in their house. It is so hard hearing our babies cry. You obviously really love your little girl so I know you will get there. Keep up the good work and remember you are not alone.

Marija - posted on 12/11/2012

Believe me i been trying all of those stuffs but she is doing the same...when i carry her into her crib she cries and want me to get her out of there. Also i tied to let her cry until she falls asleep on her own but no way.... She was crying for more than 1 hour. Of course i was in front the door and getting in the room every 5 min just to show her im somewhere there i havent left her but nothing helps. at the end i took her out of there. She has a million of soft toys and dolls but she doesnt want to sleep with them. Maybe she found my bed is better and more comfortable for her , i dont know! So far she doesnt even want to drink her bottle of milk in her crib and she gets sleep on her pushchair until i go sleep than i carry her into my bad. That's it! I think i will try again to get her to sleep in her crib in a few days somehow i will use her toys, music but i wont give up. Thank you so much for your support! Chears!

Char - posted on 12/11/2012

I am in NZ and it is very hot at the moment. It is not unusual for a baby to want you with them as they sleep. In the crib is different than anywhere else because it is enclosed and you are unable to lie down with her. She needs something to comfort her. Do you have some kind of soft toy that plays lullabys and has a light that fade. If not it would be a good investment. She can cuddle it off to sleep. Persistence is key and despite feeling overwhelmed or even feeling fed up it is important to create a calm atmosphere for her. Also at this age she may be having a battle of wills with you as she navigates the world around her and her place in it and how much control she has. Routine his key. Do not give in or give up. Try to create as relaxing an atmosphere as possible around bedtime. Playtime, bath, feed, cuddles, change, lights dimmed, in bed with toy, story, toy with light fodder and melody and lights out. Quietly hang around. Ther may be crying but just keep silently watching and if gets too much let her know you are there. Sometimes adding gentle massage after bath can help even more. Also if is cold ther try not to over wrap your baby in her crib because babies tend to run hot. Whatever you do know you are not alone never give up and know it gets better. Take care

Marija - posted on 12/10/2012

Oh yeah dear we still have same problem. I dont think she is teething because she would sleep everywhere else but not in her crib and seems like she needs my presents to fall asleep. I dont know where are you from :) im from Serbia and here is a pretty cold now but in our bedroom is a nice temperature. I dont know what to do really im trying everything.. anyways thanks for your suggestion.

Char - posted on 12/09/2012

Hi I am sorry to hear that you are having a hard time. Has anything changed in your household lately that may have made your baby feel insecure in any way? Is your little girl teething. Is there extra noise around than normal or is she too hot or too cold depending on what side of the world you live. The reason I ask is that it has just become summer here and over the last couple of weeks it has gotten extremely hot which has mucked upo our sons usual routine making him get extremely upset and over tired. We usually give our son who is 9 months a playtime, bath, feed and then a cuddle time and a storyand then it is bed time. I do my best not to let him go to sleep before bed or if he does I make sure I gently wake him and change him first because babies especially as they get older get really startled when they find themselves somewhere different than when they first fell to sleep. Sometimes it just takes a little bit of reassurance and an awful lot of patience. Good luck.

Marija - posted on 12/06/2012

its really weird. She used to sleep in her crib for all night with out problem, recently 2 weeks ago, i noticed that whenever she falls asleep and i carry her into her crib she wakes up crying and she doesnt want to sleep anymore. Seems like she doesnt like her crib anymore! i hope you addvice will help!

Jacinta - posted on 12/06/2012

No worry a I really hope it does work for you :)

Marija - posted on 12/06/2012

Yeah it might help.i will try that way.. Thank you so much for the advice!

Jacinta - posted on 12/06/2012

Maybe by her a special night like maybe even the fisher price lullaby seahorse it sounds babyish but it sings a lullaby and has a light as well plus she can cuddle it.Explain to her she is a big girl she has to sleep in her own bed after.Give her her milk in her room,place her in her crib but sit in the room.If she starts to cry lean over the crib say mummy's hear and read her a story after her story give her a kiss and lay her down is she is standing in her crib.



Sit on the floor near the door but still in the line of vision of your daughter don't look at her don't speak to her look at the ground.No matter how much she crys leave her in her crib.I know you don't like hearing her gasp for air but if your consistent this ill work (if she is in danger than of course take what ever actions needed) but other wise leave her.If she edgers out of the crib place her back in don't say a word just pick her up out her in sit back down.



It might take a few nights many hours at a time but if you do this for several nights it may help and you will notice it takes her less and less and less time to fall asleep. (When she is asleep go to your bed) after a week of sitting near the door go to your own room.give her plenty of warning and for the week gradually move further and further from her crib.the first night be quite close than gradually move slowly night by night.by the last night you should be just in the doorway.



Be patient and don't cave! By now shes learnt if she gasps and crys that mummy's going to cave and she will be in your bed like she wants its important to be strong and patient and stick to the same time same routine might by night.believe with enough patients and not giving in this will work.



I hope this helps you,it worked for me.Good luck.