Anyone just as scared as i am?? I know its going to be painful ,any pointers on how to calm myself

Joy - posted on 07/10/2009

Hi!! All I can say is it's just one day (possibly 2??!!) and the end product for one day's "labour" is so worth while!! OXO Joy

Jennifer - posted on 07/09/2009

Prepare yourself for whatever may come, and when it all goes smoothly...u'll rest even easier.

Kristen - posted on 07/09/2009

Well... I learned during labor with my second that laboring belly down in a tub cuts about 75% of the pain off! Not delivering in water (didnt get to try it) but laboring that way was amazing! I was only miserable for about 15 min before my 3rd was born... oh... and I was at the hospital for 23 min before my second was born... it was great!! GOOD LUCK!!

Karen - posted on 07/09/2009

Felicity. Congratulations on your upcoming meeting with your new child. The most important thing for you to remember is to try and think positively about this new child entry into our world. Please don't talk to everyone you meet who has had children, would like to have children or just plain has ideas that you don't personally agree with. Relax as much as you can for now, get some sleep if possible and try to get a good nights sleep every night. Take care of yourself , the baby and the daddy and try not to get freaked over a very natural although sometimes difficult to manage situation. km

Tanya - posted on 07/09/2009

I forgot to mention that I waited as long as possible to get the epidural and by the time it kicked in I was about 7 cm dilated. I didn't want to get it right away because it slows down the process and I wanted to hang in there as long as I could and still be able to get it.

Tanya - posted on 07/09/2009

I felt the exact same way and have what I consider(ed) to be a low threshold for pain. I was Freaking out the last month or two of my pregnancy and then I had a false alarm about 1 1/2 wks before she was born and spending a few hours in the hospital helped a little. I wasn't going to originally suggest that, but now that I think of it, maybe you can tour it a couple of times to be more comfortable with the setting. I had done the classes there and the quick tour, but familiarize yourself with where you'll be, if possible. I have to tell you that when the day finally happened, I was so ready to be done with it, that my focus was completing the task and meeting my baby girl. I had geared up in my head for 24 hours of labor and all the other horror stories that people loved to tell me in my final weeks before delivering. I don't get that at all. I guess it's because the women are proud that they endured it (but people need to realize they're scaring those who've never done it before.) Well, in the end, my labor was only 7 hours! Yay! Yours could be short too. Just assume the best!

The epidural is the very best invention and I only pushed for 30 minutes. The avg is closer to 2 hrs. Yes, the contractions were intense for a few hours before I got the epidural, but no joke, I turned to my husband after she was born and said, "I could do this again." Ms. Neurotically Anxious Pregnant Woman actually said this to him. I hope you take comfort in that. I don't want to sugar coat it, because it is painful, but that is what I said. Before I delivered, I kept thinking about all of the billions of women throughout history who had multiple children and if it were that bad, everyone would stop at one. :) In fact, I'm considering the possibility of having a second one at some point too. ;-) You'll do well! Just remember to breathe and make sure that someone is doing counter-pressure on your lower back. Those are the two most important things.

Kerrie - posted on 07/09/2009

Honey, I have had 5 children...all natural, i.e. no c-sections. If you get yourself all worked up because you think it's going to hurt, it will cause you AND YOUR BABY unnessessary stress. YOU DON"T NEED THAT!! Just know that there are options. Medication to help you get through your labor. If you think you can do it without an epidural, and you are freaking out before you even get started, GET THE EPIDURAL!!!

Just breath...take some deep, relaxing breaths and allow yourself to accept the fact that until the medication takes affect, you will be in some pain. Breath through the contractions and focus on an object or thought to get you through it. I took my oldest son's teddy bear to all of my deliveries. That was my focus point and it did help. If you focus on the pain you will feel it more. If you allow your mind to focus on something else and just keep telling yourself "no pain" over and over again it will not hurt as bad. Believe me, I have used this technique on more than one occasion and for more than just labor. It works. Don't stress, it doesn't help. Relax and breath and know it will all be worth it in the end.

Good luck and congrats!

And remember, once it is all over and you have your beautiful and precious baby in your arms, you will forget all about the pain and know it was worth it.

Marta - posted on 07/09/2009

I found that labour was more painful if I was screaming as soon as I reminded myself to make low groaning noises and follow my bodies natural motions (whether it's the urge to squat or bend over leaning against the bed or a railing etc.) the pain seemed to lessen and labour progressed faster. Just practice soothing methods with your partner and support person such as low back massage, deep breathing, warm showers/baths and kick your feet up. It always helped me to go out for a nice romantic dinner and a movie with my husband in the weeks before the baby was born. I hope that this helps you.

Kelly - posted on 07/09/2009

ya, try not to think about it b/c it is inevitable, the baby has to come out one way or another! Just ask for the epidural when the pain gets to be too much then you will be feeling good. The nurses will do it all, tell you when to push, get you ice, calm you and encourage you. I didn't take any lamase classes or anything and I did just fine. Try to think about the baby you are about to meet, not the pain. Honestly if it were that bad do you think women would continue having babies? It is like they say, you forget about all that pain once you hold your baby- it is so true! You can do it just relax and enjoy your last few weeks of freedom.

Shelley - posted on 07/09/2009

I just thought to myself that I could be one of the ones with an easy labor. I also got the drugs they offered and know that it is a VERY short period of time and it will be over before you know it. It really is not that bad!

Debbie - posted on 07/09/2009

Honey, the main thing is to have taken childbirth classes and learn the breathing technique. Learning that will help you I promise. But nothing will take the pain away, just remember, it only last a short while and then when the baby is born, you forget all about the pain.

Sandra - posted on 07/09/2009

Do not be scared! Giving birth is the most beautiful experience that a woman, and only us, can have. I did not have any pain meds for my two children... I also thought that nature has prepare us for birthing, and my mother did not have anything for the 3 of us, neither!! I did go to Lamaze prep with my husband, I think that between the respiration and relaxation techniques they teach you and the mere fact that my husband was there with me and the baby, the two laboars were wonderful! Good Luck and blessingsl

Rebecca - posted on 07/08/2009

I dont think that you ever stop getting anxious or nervous for delivery. I was always anxious for both of my deliveries as the day drew closer. I was also 2 weeks late for both of them which seemed to make it worse. You just have to read about it so that you know all about what is about to happen. Make sure you know what your medication choices are if thats a route you are looking to go. You can have an epidural as well if you are finding it hard once labour starts. And dont worry, labour starts gradually, it will just be uncomfortable at first but you will be able to still do all your normal activity, it gradually builds a bit at a time. Not just BANG your in labour and writhering on the floor. Make sure as the ladies stated you have a birth plan and a good support system in place to help coach you through the tough times. Going in the water is a great pain reliever as well as being on the ball. But you will surprise yourself and find what works for you once you are in labour....your tougher then you think you are! And the best part...is what you have been working on for the last 9 months! That beautiful baby!

Latrice - posted on 07/08/2009

Don't panic. You don't want to stress yourself out. The best thing is to have a support system with you. Just believe that you can do this. I think the most important thing to remember is to take deep breaths during the contractions.It's over sooner than you realize. It doesn't hurt to have an epidural :-)

Misti - posted on 07/08/2009

I have 2 children, when I was pregnant I read alot I feel like this really helped me while I was pregnant.

Tonia - posted on 07/08/2009

There's a lot of good advice here. I'm going to share my story. I had the story book pregnancy, everything was wonderful and I enjoyed it immensely. Then the day came I went into labor...for 24 hours I labored at home before telling hubby to take me to the hospital where I continued to labor another 5 hours before delivering her. And by the time I decided I wanted something to take the edge off the pain (non narcotic Nubain), because yes, it hurt like hell, it didn't have time to kick in until after she was out. Which wasn't so bad because she had to go to the nursery to warm up and I fell sound asleep for a blissful pain free 2 hours and went home the next day.. My secret of getting through it all. I allowed myself to cry and sob when I needed to. I growled at times and I toned (sometimes quit loudly) through the contractions. I found the best position for me and my back labor was on my forearms and knees. Music helps some, mental images or photos of relaxing images help others, baths, showers. I say try anything and everything that they'll let you to get through it. I'm so completely glad that I did it without the pain killers so that I can truly say I don't ever plan on going through it again. I loved being pregnant and my daughter is priceless, but delivery...nope, that was not fun. Worth it, but not fun.

Cathy - posted on 07/08/2009

I was terrified with my first as well. It's so normal. I thought about dying and everything! The anticipation is the worst part, really. Once you're in it, you just do what you have to do. Keep reminding yourself how many women have done it throughout history . . . and how many choose to do it again. It is so worth it all. And it will change you in a way that will amaze you. You're about to join a special club. Good luck!

Erin - posted on 07/08/2009

Trying to imagine what it'll be like can be awfully scary! With my son I got an epidural and it did wonders for the contractions I was going through up until the pushing started. And unfortunately my doctor was on vacation and my fill in was absent a lot because it took 22 hrs after admittance before the baby was finally here (4hrs of pushing) stupid dr.! My friend and I are in disagreement on this but I would rather have a baby then a seriously bad tooth ache! The birth pain fades so quick whereas a bad tooth ache usually requires dental work, which is never done right away. She's never had a bad tooth ache! FYI, nobody told me this...once my son came out I thought I was done...I was horribly wrong in that assumption as you must also birth the placenta, which I found to be more painful then the birthing was. But again, not to freak u out, just to prepare you, I've got 2 months for #2 and will be doing it again. There's women that have 14 kids! AND I once read a story about a woman in Africa who was walking along, working, when she stopped and squatted (by herself) and delivered her child, wrapped it up in a piece of cloth around her breast for feeding and resumed work. CRAZY I know, but heck if they can do that right! It's not that awful :) and my mom said (she had 6 herself) that my labor w/my son was worse then any of hers.

Debbie - posted on 07/08/2009

Don't sweat the stuff you can't control that's what Doctors and Nurses are for. It's not nearly as bad as you think, sure it will be painful unless you get the epidural, but just look at what you'll have when it's over, one of God's most treasured creations. Relax and enjoy the last few weeks. I'll be praying for you!

Donna - posted on 07/08/2009

Hi ya I know this is going to annoy some people but it might be something you'd like to hear. I actually did not feel anything during the birth or labour. No pain at all and I only used a little bit of gas. I pretty much slept through all of it and didn't want to move. I suffered extremely bad period pain as a teenager and found that the only way I could deal with it besides 100 packets of Ponstan and a hot water bottle was to sleep it off and lay perfectly still. I hadn't suffered period pain for a long time but when I went into labour I suppose this was my way of dealing with the pain. I had a fantastic Doctor whose advice to me was...Do not have a birth plan, just know how you feel about all the pain relief options and know all the different stages of labour. Be sure to say what YOU want. Do not listen to all those horrible stories that people only bring out when someone is having a baby. It may hurt, it may not but your little bubba is coming out someway so relax (huh you say!) And if you do have a birth plan that's fine BUT don't stress if it doesn't work out that way. Just try to be open to it and let your body do what it needs to do. Good luck and I'm sure you'll be fine.

Amy - posted on 07/08/2009

I was scared myself but I asked many questions prior to the day even if they seemed rediculous. The midwives were fantastic with answering my questions as well as during the birth. I found being under a hot shower was wonderful and kept me calm prior to pushing. Once it was time to start pushing the midwives were constantly talking to me which I found reassuring. It really helps if you can let the midwives know what you are feeling especially in regards to pain and if the pain changes. I hope this helps

Kate - posted on 07/08/2009

Is this your first baby? Because it is scarier the first time just because you don't know what to expect.

Pay attention to what makes you feel better now. Does a bath relax you? A massage? Pressure against your lower back? etc. These same things might help you when you are in labor. Share these things with your husband and other support people so they have an idea how they can help.

Picture your baby and your body. Your body is opening, slowly and beautifully, for your baby. Your baby is actually quite small (I look at my toddler for comparison, and think if I gave birth to her and still carry her around, I can certainly give birth to another tiny, squishy newborn!) and very flexible and this will help.

Try to do what feels right to you. Sleep, eat, rest, talk to friends, etc. Allow yourself to be "lost" in your body and how you feel. I think all of these will help.

My baby is due in about 2.5 weeks and as I'm almost completely effaced and partially dialated I am expecting it much sooner, so I know how you feel! But I feel like I know so much more this time and I trust myself, I know I can do it, so I am fairly relaxed.

Jadie - posted on 07/08/2009

Giving birth is the most natural thing a woman can do!.. Its what our bodies where made for =) its when you start to fight the labour there is problems.. ok yeah there will be pain but all that is forgotten the second you have your beautiful child in your arms.. and that pain seems insignificant with every day that passes because youll be over powered by the love you have for your child =).. x

Catherine - posted on 07/08/2009

The epidural was my best friend with all three of my kids. Seriously, getting it REALLY wasn't that bad! I felt NOTHING after I got it. They's look at the monitor I was hooked up to, and say, "Are you ready, here comes a big contraction?." I wouldn't have known had they not told me. I felt NOTHING.

Nancy - posted on 07/08/2009

I have three children, my youngets will be 10 in September. I had no pain medication with any of them. One thing that kept me calm was knowing that this is what my body was built to do. If I let my body do what it needs to do I will be fine. I did deep relaxation exercises with the help of my husband, it was the best experience of my life, and my 3rd one weighed 9 lbs 6 oz.

Just calm down, don't listen to people who say it hurts, and let your body do what it was designed to do. One book I found helpful, even though it was written in the '60's, is Childbirth Without Fear.



Enjoy this experience, it is worth it!!

Nancy

Jenn - posted on 07/08/2009

Oh, and when you meet with the hospital staff, let them know how scared you are and what your pain tolerance is. My hospital was wonderful about all of that!

Jacquie - posted on 07/08/2009

It will be ok... I have had 3 kids all with no pain medication. I just had my 3rd and last baby 3 weeks ago. He was a month early but was still a decent size. What I did was focus on breathing and keeping my thoughts clear. I did have back labor with my last 2 but what helped with that is I had my husband push as hard as he could on my back where I was feeling pressure. Really the worst of the pain doesnt come till the end. But you can always use pain medication if that will help. Just rmember that all the pain you went through to get your little one here is all worth it, and you will quickly forget about it when you are holding your baby.

Jenn - posted on 07/08/2009

I was terrified before I gave birth. I would suggest taking a birthing class, because honestly for me, high school and birthing education was about a thousand years ago. And they teach some a lot of incredibly nice and helpful things. I was still scared to death, but at least I knew what was happening, so that helped a lot. And I had an epidural and was loving life. For me that was the way to go. But if you're not into meds, I've heard that you CAN learn how to do breathing and relaxation techniques so that your body takes over. Plus the less scared you are, the more your bodies endorphines will take over and push the pain to the side. I've watched women give birth that didn't look like they were in pain and didn't make a painful sounding noise. Good luck and just remember, it's a short period of time compared to the love you will feel for the rest of your life!!

Chicky - posted on 07/08/2009

just relax. that is all you can do. i am a mom of 3 and one eptopic pregnacy which is way more painful than actually child birth. i am not going to lie to you it does get painful but with love and support there for you it will be fine and is all a matter of minutes when it actually happens. i am a person that had 2 babies over 10 lbs at birth that i had 100% natural with no med. its tough but its all worth it. just be strong for yourself and your beautiful baby. its the most remarkable moment of your life. the greatest gift ever from god and you will cherish it forever. trust me. so no more stressing, it will make you tence up. you just need to relax, walk if they let you, watch your favorite show, have friends and family there to talk to and to support you and tell you that you are doing a great job. that is the best med. good luck!

Rachel - posted on 07/08/2009

Seriously--you'll be fine. Women have been having babies for hundreds and hundreds of years. If you're super worried about pain--that's why they have epidurals and such. Enjoy!

Also--MUSIC helps a lot. Some head phones and your favorite music and you can just walk around labor and delivery to your hearts content until you feel like you really want some pain medicine.

Pain sucks.  But just go with the flow. Your labor and delivery nurse can help you. Also--ever heard of a doula? They help greatly as well.

And seriously. Get an epidural if you're worried.

Laura - posted on 07/08/2009

The unknown is very scary but don't focus on it. Look around and see how many women have done it. I chose the whimpiest woman I knew with children and told myself "she did it, I can do it". Probably not the kindest thing to do but I obviously kept that to myself and it helped bring me back down to reality. Breathing techniques saved me. I delivered 3 without painkillers and the breathing techniques from my birthing class got me through, they were very effective, gave something to focus on and calmed me. They taught how to change your breathing as the pain increases and yes whomever is helping you needs to learn those breathing techniques too. My husband was great although with the second he had some obnoxious gum and was .blowing it's strong smell in my face. I almost yanked it out of his mouth myself. Just remember that once it starts it does have to end, don't watch the clock just deal with each minute as it comes. Before you know it you'll have your baby and truly everything stops the minute you deliver. Recovery takes a little longer but it's okay. Good luck, you'll be fine

Stella - posted on 07/08/2009

Seriously, please don't worry. I felt the same in the approach to giving birth to both my daughters (probably more so the second time!). Each time I astonished myself with how well I was actually able to cope with it. You will find you have reserves you never knew. All kinds of things kick in - hormones, adrenaline, maternal urges. So much is going on, that it all happens quite fast (and both my labours were 19 hours long! The time flew!). Also, don't be too proud/shy/whatever to ask for help - painkillers, back-rubs, whatever gets you through! Keep telling yourself this is just a bit you have to get past, to have your fabulous baby.

Michelle - posted on 07/08/2009

Just breath!! I found it helped to look at my husband and only my husband! It sort of calmed me. I can't lie, it hurt! But the reward in the end was wonderful! I have a beautiful baby girl and I would do it all over again just to get to hold her for the first time. You'll do great and everything will be fine. Good luck:)

Alyce - posted on 07/08/2009

when the contractions start the best thing that help me was slowly breathing in your nose and out your mouth. dont hold your breath b/c to me that made the pain stay and not go away as fast as when i was breathing.. and dont do the he he he hoo like on tv that really didnt do anything for me... just slowly breath and good luck

Laura - posted on 07/08/2009

Just like the Doc is gonna tell you while you're in labor.... BREATH! Take a deep breath girl and take another and another till your heart rate slows down. lol I know. All your life you hear horror stories about how bad it is. Take the worst cramps you've ever had when you've had to take a dump and multiply them 100 fold. Ya ya ya. Honey, they have DRUGS for this! The Docs gave me on in my I.V. that I called liquid laughing gas. You still feel the pain but ya know what? You don't care! I liked that one. And when that one wore off? Oh ya, I was beggin for that epidural! I went into back labor where it feels like a giant band goes all the way around your middle and it hurt to even breath. But once they gave me that epidural, the Doc set up a mirror so I could see what was going on. I sat back and relaxed, pushed when the Doc told me to, and watched my son come into this world with no pain. Some people say the pain makes you have a closer connection with the child,... I say ya right! Tell that to the nurse I yelled at when I almost sliced my sons skin open because the natal vitamins had made my nails so long. I've never seen a human being run so fast for nail clippers. lol And I was in tears 'cause I had almost hurt my brand new baby.
If you're scared of being at home when the labor starts, talk to your Doc about inducing you when it's getting close to your Due date. I was induced and honey, it's no big deal. I went in at 6:30 in the evening. They hooked up and I.V. and put this little tiny pill up o my cervix. Within an hour I had started to dilate. No frantic running around and panicking. Just a nice calm controlled start.
Seriously, the freaking out isn't good for you or the baby. If you're that concerned, talk to your Doc and he can tell you everything you need to know and help you decide what's gonna happen in that delivery room so you can have your baby in a calm and loving way.

Sue - posted on 07/08/2009

It's not knowing what's going to happen that scares you, I got a lil freaked when my water broke! Just rem. Millions of babies are born everyday and when that day comes , you will find the strength and peace to get through it and it is always worse in your mind than it actually is.

Abby - posted on 07/08/2009

the last few weeks feel the longest ever. but i was also petrified, but my midwife who went off duty 2hrs before cam was born said to me, every contraction is one step closer to baby! course it hurts, but there are ways and means to deal with the pain!

ur always gonna get people telling u how awful their labour was, i wont start dont worry, but every bit of it is worth it when u got a tiny baby laying on ur chest!



midwives know how scared ur gonna be mine were all brilliant. talk to ur midwife and she'll talk u thru things, read books if u want or go and do things and take ur mind off it completely!



good luck x x

Ashli - posted on 07/08/2009

When the time comes, you will just deal with it. You won't have a choice, You will be so ready to get that baby out, you won't even have time to be nervous. My best advice is if you are planning to do it naturally, PRACTICE YOUR BREATHING WITH YOUR PARTNER/COACH! I did not do this (despite my mother's advice) and he would laugh every time I tried to get him to breath with me! You will be fine. Just keep in mind, even with the longest labor, it will be over soon.

Fiona - posted on 07/08/2009

i have been through it 3 times as a mother and 50+ as a maternity nurse your best support is your partner or mother and your midwife tell them about your fears. you could spend hours reading on the net and get even more stressed. Make yourself a plan, ifyour planning a home birth contact your local home birth society they also may have a pool whih is bigger thana bath that you and your partner could be in if this is what you want. If you are planning a hospital birth visit theretake a look around its not that scary. You can use massage aroma therapy and of course the drugs. If the worse case senerio happens and it ends up a c section it is not a failure on your part some times he baby wants to have it there way. Talking aboutyour fears and facing them is the first step to relaxing. You can do it if you have any more question that you are too scared to ask your midwife i'm happy to help

Kirsten - posted on 07/08/2009

Confront your fears. Do some research and find out everything that you can. If anything is making you anxious then talk to someone about it or draw a picture or do some artwork to confront your fears. The more you think through what could possible happen and how you personally will deal with it when/if it does the more you'll be able to relax in the situation because it'll be like you already went through it. Good luck!

Lydia - posted on 07/08/2009

If your worried about pain then just go for the painkillers when you feel like you are going to need them (not when you already do because they can take a little time to organise and kick in). For the anxiety I used hypnobirthing CDs to help prepare forthe pregnancy. The visualisations they used helped me to keep a little calmer about the whole thing (didnt totally get rid of it but definately eased it) before and during labour. Best of luck - once its done with the Mummy experience is definately worth it!

Summer - posted on 07/08/2009

Just relax and make sure you get the drugs!!! You'll be fine:)

TinaMarie - posted on 07/08/2009

Felicity, Yes each time (3xs) , it's o.k. this nervous energy will turn into your super Mom powers. Really share you concerns at the Dr's office, demand attention it's o.k. you pay for treatment and advice!!! start collecting people who build your trust and your confidence. You body was built for this, your feelings are normal, it's important to get your answers, you count for two and one is the precious child you are fighting for. God Bless !!! oh,yeah I almost forgot... BREATHE, "Lamaz" is so great, I have chronic pain unrelated to this subject and it really helps with pain and it DOES calm. It's o.k. to cry but keep it in control, it can snowball and exhaust you. You can do this REALLY !!!

Sheena - posted on 07/08/2009

just relax it will all be worth it when your baby comes...just think to yourself that your baby will be coming soon and just be happy you get to meet your baby...just remember everyone that had a baby been through what your going through...just be strong for your baby and be happy it will be soon that you get to meet your little one...just pray to God to help you relax...anyways heres my story the whole time i was pregnant with my baby girl i was scared becuz i was only 8 months pregnant and my husband had to leave for a deployement in iraq so i was scared becuz i really wanted him to be there with me but there was nothing i can do...and plus i did have a baby girl with my first but i lost her becuz i was only 22 weeks pregnant when i had to deliver her...the doctor said i had a low cervix so if i were to have another one i need to get my cervix sewed shut so it wont open like it does before my due date...but yea going through all that i was so scared for my second pregnancy but all went well i didnt even need to get my cervix sewed up but i was still careful and i just always pray to God that all will go good...anyways i had to fly to guam wen i was 8 months pregnant becuz our families were there and we were stationed in nebraska and i had no family members here...wen i got to guam i found out i needed to have my girl in 38 weeks becuz i had to have a c-section again and it was becuz of how they cut me with my first c-section they say i cant ever give birth nomal but i thought to myself its ok just as long as my baby girl is healthy and strong...so yea i had her at 38 weeks and she was healthy and my mom was the one who went in with me but all in all i was so calm i was nervous but i just kept on praying to God help me get through this and he really did becuz i got through it all even though my husband wasnt there...

Kat - posted on 07/08/2009

It is totally ok

I was the same way

it sucks, not going to lie, but mins afterwards it was fading and I was fine

I was in an emergency induced labor because she was getting too big. It lasted 26 hours and she was over 9lbs. I promise that an hour later you will have started to forget how it felt...regardless of the medication you might use or whether you need an episiotomy like I did. Don't worry, women would breed more than once if it was as bad as you might be imagining.

Tara - posted on 07/08/2009

Well it was a warm bath I was in it from 1am till 8am when I went to the hospital. As the water cooled I would drain some and add straight hot. For the contractions I tried to stretch out laying back more than sitting. Once at the hospital they only had showers, that helped with the pain too but was not as effective as the bath.

Felicity - posted on 07/08/2009

can you tell me what exactly you did with the bath? just sat in there and how hot was ur bath?

Tara - posted on 07/08/2009

Try not to focus on it. Remember it will end and all of the discomforts of pregnancy have helped you get ready for delivery. I focused on the fact that the pain would end and thats what helped. ( I also did most of my labouring in the bath, till it was time to go to the hospital that eased alot of the pain.) Hope it goes well for you.

Claire - posted on 07/08/2009

I know what you mean i was the same and it doesn't help with so called helpful people around you telling lots of labour stories, If you haven't done your birth plan yet explain how you are feeling to the midwife, don't put any set plans down for pain relief as some midwifes like to try to make you stick to this, you will find that once you go into labour that alot of the feeling you are having go your intinsts will take over, but most of all let the midwifes know how you are feeling they were a great support to me, i hope everything goes well xx

Claire - posted on 07/08/2009

I know what you mean i was the same and it doesn't help with so called helpful people around you telling lots of labour stories, If you haven't done your birth plan yet explain how you are feeling to the midwife, don't put any set plans down for pain relief as some midwifes like to try to make you stick to this, you will find that once you go into labour that alot of the feeling you are having go your intinsts will take over, but most of all let the midwifes know how you are feeling they were a great support to me, i hope everything goes well xx