Kyleigh - posted on 05/15/2011 ( 6 moms have responded )
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I want the children to be there for 2-3 weeks at a time then a break, 2-3 weeks at a time then a break because BM will think she has full custody anyone know if that can be done or does it have to be 5 weeks 1/2 the summer please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Teresa - posted on 05/15/2011
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All I know is that my ex gets the kids for 4 weeks in the summer (assuming he can afford to come get them, of course). The longest I've been away from my 9 year olds is 2.5 weeks (last summer) and the longest I've been away from my 3 year old is one week. I want them to see their dad and I want a bit of a break, but I am NOT looking forward to FOUR weeks. I don't blame you for wanting to split it, but it depends on what your court order says and how willing BM is to work w/ you. If BM is anything like my ex.... forget it! Good luck though!!
Kyleigh - posted on 05/15/2011
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oh wow sorry to hear jenn
Jenn - posted on 05/15/2011
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In my case, my ex sees our son when he asks to see him - which isn't often. As far as summer goes, I'll be lucky if he asks to see him 2 or 3 days - not together of course because that would be too hard for poor Dad. *rolls eyes*
Kyleigh - posted on 05/15/2011
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i see wasnt sure if anyone else is having split up summer breaks
Sherri - posted on 05/15/2011
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It all depends on the order drawn up by the courts. I know one family that dad gets them for 8wks during the summer, another that gets his gets 6 wks during the summer. It all depends on the agreement.
Kyleigh - posted on 05/15/2011
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yeah but SM is pushing for it to be broken up my attrny think otherwise
Holly - posted on 05/15/2011
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Every custody order is different. We live in a year-round school distric, so the "summer vacation" is only 2 1/2 weeks long, but when we lived in a traditional schedule school district we ended up having to give BM 6 weeks of summer parenting time. It was REALLY hard, but in the end it didn't do any harm and everyone survived. Of course the BM got delusions of grandeur (she's now trying to tell the mediator in our case that the visit was 3 months, but I have documentation that says otherwise), but in the end the thing that matters most is that the kids get a good visit.
In custody issues, the ONLY thing that matters is the child(ren). Maybe talk to them and see what kind of visitation schedule THEY want with their BM?
In the end, though, if the custody order says she gets 1/2 the summer then she gets 1/2 the summer. If it doesn't specify how that is to be broken up or give specific dates then it never hurts to present her with your proposed visitation schedule for the summer and see if she agrees. If she does, that's great; if she doesn't then you and your hubby need to ork WITH her to get a schedule you can all agree on. If everyone is being difficult just for the sake of being difficult, then take it back to court (or mediation) and have specific dates set - the only thing about that though is that often times you won't have a lot of say about how long the visit is, and you have to learn to live with whatever is ordered...
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