Shannon - posted on 09/06/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )
I feel guilty sitting at home while Monday-Friday, 9am-5pm, while my boyfriend works. I stay home with the baby. With his salary, I don't need to work, therefore WE opted that I don't and I raise our son and do my online schooling (rather than having constant babysitters)...
But I can't help but feel guilty that I am not contributing on the finance end. I started working and paying for all my own things at age 13; by my choice. So, I don't know if maybe I need to kind of enjoy it while I can? Is the guilt due to the fact that I don't like having to rely on other people, or is there something else to it??
Also, our basic schedule is as follows (unless stated, i am taking care of the baby):
-He works 9-5
-He comes home and sits around for 1 1/2- 2 hours if we're going out. in which case, i have the baby until he's ready and then he has him for about 15 minutes while I get ready and most of the time, pack up our little man.
-By that time, he's usually sleeping and stays that way til about 4:30am then dad changes him, feeds him and off back to bed they both go.
-7:30-8 rolls around, I get up, change and feed him and then my day starts over.
He rarely naps during the day anymore (which is fine with me cause hes a happy baby so he's good) but I still need a break when dad comes home.... how do i get him more involved without getting aggravated at him or him getting frustrated and making me feel bad that he "worked all day"....
Thanks for reading!
[p.s. dad didn't feel like getting up for his 4:30 feeding shift, so here I am;; only to be back up at 7:30am-midnight again.]