Baby #1 just turned 9 months and baby #2 is due soon

Amanda - posted on 09/18/2009 ( 7 moms have responded )

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Well my son just turned 9 months (today actually) and baby number 2 is said to be making their arrival at the end of October...anyone else been in this situation and have any advice on coping and dealing with two babies under a year ? It wasn't a planned pregnancy definately surprise .

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Jade - posted on 09/18/2009

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my friend is in the same boat as u atm if u wnt to add me on fb and private message me i can give u er msn addy or sumat and u cn chat to her?

Stacey - posted on 09/18/2009

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My kids are about 19 or 20 months apart, but none the less, I had my Son on a routine and had him sleeping through the night before my second came along. I think this made the world of difference, once my second was 3 months, I had her in a routine and sleeping through the night also. It makes things so much easier and they are more content. The book I used to achieve this is 'Save our Sleep' by Tizzie Hall. Good luck!

TaraLovinJahzariah - posted on 09/18/2009

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It will work out all for the better jus put your kids on a schdule and it want be as much strees on you because i have a sister the same way and it always have energy because is on a schdule

Louise - posted on 09/18/2009

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Quoting Angel :

My two are 13 months apart! My son was born April 29th 2004 and my daughter was born June 22nd 2005! I say take each day at a time, its going to be tough...real tough, but the older they get the closer they are. My children are the best of friends. Sleep when they sleep, do not push yourself to get everything done, little by little helps. If the chidlren are fed, diapered and safe it does not hurt them to cry a little, you need a break too. Do not let your pride stand in the way, take help as it is given and always take hand me downs...be thankful at all costs, help doesnt always stick around. The hardest thing for me was feeling the love for my daughter...I know this sounds so bad but that love you have for your first can never compare...and bc the births are not far apart, you still know that exact feeling you got wit hyour first...it is OKAY to feel this way. This feeling will go away and you will realize that you love them both the same! Make sure you still get some alone time with your first, bc they are so young they will not understand completely the whole new baby thing and will need their undivided mommy time every chnace you can fit in. I always tried to get my daughter to go down for a nap an hour before my son, this way he had a full hour with me alone, then after I put him down for a nap I still had some time to get some sleep in myself.
Enjoy every moment, take lots of pictures of BOTH, bc they grow so fast.



I totally agree, my children are 14 months apart my youngest only 3 months now and i worried about how i would cope. It has been a hard 3 months and ive been tired but saying that its been the best 3 months of my life having not 1 bundle of joy but 2. My advice is organisation is the key everything to hand so your not wasting time looking for stuff, wheres the cream wheres the cotton wool ect ect. Getting your older child into a nap routeen can be a life saver an hour or two to recharge or spend time with your new baby. As mentioned above i would also say get plenty of sleep even a 20 min nap can do the world of good, and dont forget to eat keep yourself well rested and fed and things are easier to cope with. good luck

Miranda - posted on 09/18/2009

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I cannot relate to your situation exactly but my two youngest kids are 14 months apart. My son turned two in August and my daughter will turn one in October. I do relate on having two babies at once and it is very hard at times. It is challenging because you have two who need so much attention. You are constantly being pulled in one direction and then in the next second, the other direction. I stay at home with my kids during the day and go to work at night. Some days it feels like all I do, is feed them, clean up after them, and change diapers. One of the best suggestions I can give you is to make sure you don't trap yourself in your own home. Find a mom's group to be a part of or a friend with kids and get out with them. It's very easy to get stuck in the house and end up feeling lonely, frusterated, and exhausted. Getting out of the house, even for what I like to call an "adventure walk" (talking about birds, animals, trees, picking things up, letting your older one run around in an open field, etc.) is better than staying in all of the time. The second best advice I can offer is to make sure you are making time for YOU. Make time after you have your 2nd to go out with your girls, or whatever you need to do to be you. You need freedom and you time in order to be a good mom. That was originally hard for me to do considering women tend to feel guilty, but now I can say I am VERY well adjusted and look forward to getting out when I want and need to!! Hope this helps and despite all of the hard parts it is the best experience of my entire life. The kids have an amazing connection and when my daughter came their was zero jelousy from my son. It is a wonderful thing and I wish you the best in everything. Let me know if I can help in any other way!!

Angel - posted on 09/18/2009

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My two are 13 months apart! My son was born April 29th 2004 and my daughter was born June 22nd 2005! I say take each day at a time, its going to be tough...real tough, but the older they get the closer they are. My children are the best of friends. Sleep when they sleep, do not push yourself to get everything done, little by little helps. If the chidlren are fed, diapered and safe it does not hurt them to cry a little, you need a break too. Do not let your pride stand in the way, take help as it is given and always take hand me downs...be thankful at all costs, help doesnt always stick around. The hardest thing for me was feeling the love for my daughter...I know this sounds so bad but that love you have for your first can never compare...and bc the births are not far apart, you still know that exact feeling you got wit hyour first...it is OKAY to feel this way. This feeling will go away and you will realize that you love them both the same! Make sure you still get some alone time with your first, bc they are so young they will not understand completely the whole new baby thing and will need their undivided mommy time every chnace you can fit in. I always tried to get my daughter to go down for a nap an hour before my son, this way he had a full hour with me alone, then after I put him down for a nap I still had some time to get some sleep in myself.

Enjoy every moment, take lots of pictures of BOTH, bc they grow so fast.

Sarah - posted on 09/18/2009

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my best friend was the same way. her first child was born 2-14 and her second was 12-31. it is almost like haveing twins except with twins you have them in the same stage which is easier. trust me i have twins and it is work but they are so worth it. good luck and God bless.

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