baby #2

Brandy - posted on 11/01/2009

I found out i was pregnant again in the same month as my son turned 2. I tried to prepare him for a new brother the whole time I took him to the dr appointments and let him see the ultra sounds and everything. I also talked about him being a big brother and how i was a big sister and Love it! By the time his little brother got here he loved to look at him but didnt want to touch him. Grandma was a little concerned but I knew that if i didnt force the baby on him he would warm up to touching him/holding him on his own terms. After all babies can intimidate grown men let alone a 2 1\2yr old. I think though girls are a little different because they notice and love babies. haha i feel however that it doesnt matter if they are really close in age or far apart that they will love each other no matter what. So I would just try for one when you are ready for another. :) good luck

Theresa - posted on 10/30/2009

thanks everyone for your thoughts!

Natalie - posted on 10/26/2009

Family is family and their is no certain amount of years to technically make siblings close.My little sister is 8 years younger than me and with the chunk of years I have experienced before her she comes to me for all of her advice.I love my little sister vry much and couldn't imagine another family experience because this was my family experience.Now I have a 10 year old a 9 year old and a 2 year old with one on the way.Our family is really close and siblings can play together at any age as to a parent playing with dolls and tea party's is out of our age element but it is cute fun and mature to understand the stages of growing.My older two are very good with my 2 year old and I will see at times when my 9 year old son does a lil puppet show to make his little brother laugh.It is a great feeling to see their understanding of life and family and growing together.

Jamie - posted on 10/26/2009

I enjoy having my children only 27 months apart I got pregnant when my oldest was 19 months old we thought we would start trying and it would take a while til we got pregnant well nope first shot was the deal. but i believe two years apart is a good age my son still helps his brother with everything and they enjoy each others company and he can keep the little one happy at times when i may not feel well or just plain tired but all up to you and good luck

Theresa - posted on 10/26/2009

well my sister and i are 19 years apart so i understand this. thanks

Marlene - posted on 10/26/2009

I really feel it is what you think you can handle. My first two children were spaced 8 years apart, but the next two were closer, 3 years apart. I believe they will get along great no matter how far apart you have them. Just make sure you spend time with the older child too so they don't feel left out. Personally I liked having them that far apart because I didn't have to do double diaper duty.

Sharon - posted on 10/26/2009

My kids are 4 yrs & 3 yrs apart, 14, 10 & 7. The 10 & 14 yr old can play a lot of the same games together and frequently do. The 10 & 7 yr old can play a lot of the same games together and frequently do.



The 7 yr old IDOLIZES the 14 yr old and mimicks virtually everything he does. The 14 yr old and I had to have a little talk about calling his little sister an "ICBM" um if your military its not what you're thinking. When she figured it out, it broke her heart and he was her slave for the rest of the day.



The 7 yr old strives to be as good as her big brothers at everything they do and is WAY beyond them - if you compare her at 7yrs to them at 7yrs.



We didn't plan for our kids to have this much time between them but its how it worked out and I LOVE IT!!

Candi - posted on 10/26/2009

My kids are 12 years apart...I don't recommend it, lol!

Sara - posted on 10/26/2009

My kids are 12 months and 1 week apart, and they are already the best of friends even though they are still very young. I think that the closer in age that they are the better the friends they will be, even though it is harder on the parents when they are so close in age! But there is no right or wrong answer, what is meant to be will be!

Heidi - posted on 10/26/2009

There is an upside and a downside at any age difference. Mine are two years apart and are just now starting to get along. That only took five years and my youngest starting Kindergarten. But having a second baby really is a big deal. It's like someone changed the rules in the middle of the game. It's a bigger change than having your first child. I think it takes until after five before it is all the same.

Just remember, there is no rule on age difference.

Jennifer - posted on 10/26/2009

Quoting Alison:

There is no right or wrong answer here.
I really wanted to have my children about 2 years apart. They are now 18 mos and 3-years-old. The past 18 mos have been pure madness! I know that in 6 mos or so it should start to calm down a bit, but it is quite draining.
So, I have concluded that there are definite advantages and disadvantages to ANY age gap. There is no ideal age difference. Do what feels right for you. And ultimately, we are not totally in control anyway.
Good luck to you and your family! Enjoy the ride. :)

I have to agree with Alison.  No matter how far apart or close your children are there will always be up sides and down sides.  My kids are 22 months apart and I love it but there is also stress at times.  Just know that no matter what happens or desicion you make it wil work out to be what is best for you and your family.

Kelly - posted on 10/26/2009

My son will be 1 on the 14th of November and we aren't really trying to have another one, but we are not doing anything to prevent it, i figure it will happen when it was meant to be.....i want my children about 2 years apart.....my sister and i are 2 years and 1 week apart and we are the best of friends now....when we were growing up we had our fair share of fights, but we usually played together.....

Elizabeth - posted on 10/26/2009

there is 3 years beween my first two and 4 years between the middle and youngest. it is so nice because you don't have to worry about 2 sets of diapers and the older girls like to help out a lot. my older two are 3 years apart but they are best buddies and play together all the time. now there was 14 months between my sister and i and we fought constantly when we were little. the rivalry is way worse than if you space them out a bit. i mean we get along fine now that we are adults but growing up was hell. you have to worry about them stealing your clothes, stealing your friends, etc. and my friends with babies close in age are losing their minds while they're little. hope i helped but this is just my experience!

Linda - posted on 10/26/2009

My daughters are just over 3 years apart and they have an amazing relationship, I think that 2-3 years is perfect timing just because the one child has a chance to "be the baby" for awhile, but it's not too long that they get too used to being the only child. I got my oldest a baby doll with a stroller and diapers and all that stuff so when our new baby came, she could take care of her dolly while I took care of the baby. They are now 5 and 8 and still play together....my youngest has grown up a little faster than my older daughter did, but thats just because she tries to be like her bigger sister =).

Alison - posted on 10/26/2009

There is no right or wrong answer here.

I really wanted to have my children about 2 years apart. They are now 18 mos and 3-years-old. The past 18 mos have been pure madness! I know that in 6 mos or so it should start to calm down a bit, but it is quite draining.

So, I have concluded that there are definite advantages and disadvantages to ANY age gap. There is no ideal age difference. Do what feels right for you. And ultimately, we are not totally in control anyway.

Good luck to you and your family! Enjoy the ride. :)

Melissa - posted on 10/26/2009

I only have one child right now. I had him early and before I met my now noyfriend (soon to be hubby). I had always wanted 4 children all two years apart. The reason for me is because I have an older brother, two years after him came my sister, two years after her, I was born (and I have a younger brother as well, but i'm almost 9 years older than him). We did fight when we were younger, but when we got older, i'd say when I was 16 - 18ish, we all became best friends. I hang out with them all the time. My brother is at my house like 2-3 times a week just to hang out. My sister right now is out of town for therapy. But when she come back, we'll be together. I like that because we all get along so great, and our parents love it. So, that is my reason for wanting my kids to be two years apart.

Kim - posted on 10/26/2009

We waited till my oldest was 2 1/2 and ended up havin the 2nd when he was 3 1/2. I wouldnt change it couse the oldest was old enough to understand he was gettin a brother and loved it. He was also very helpful with the baby and knew to be easy with him.

Brittani - posted on 10/26/2009

Well if you wait till she is three there are good and bad things. A good thing is that she could help you out with the baby and she will understand better that the baby needs more attention then she does. the bad thing is that the baby and her will be a few years apart and she really won't beable to play with the baby as they get older