Peggy - posted on 01/24/2013 ( 17 moms have responded )
How do you know if you are ready for the next baby plunge? I have a 3 year old. I wanted to wait until my daughter was old enough and out of diapers before baby 2. My husband and I are thinking about trying this year. His only concern is getting a bigger place since we only have a two bedroom apartment. He wants us to move before I become pregnant. So in the next couple months. We are looking into renting or buying... whichever works out. My only concern is not wanting to get up all night to feed the baby.
The other concern is money. I really thought we would be in a better place financially. We are both working full time, but childcare costs a lot that I'm basically working to pay the preschool (2 days a week), the babysitter (1 day a week) and the dental insurance I just started paying. (I was only able to go back to full time this past fall when my daughter was old enough for preschool.) We don't really have a ton of money and looking at the 3 bedrooms are making me nervous about affording them.
We do not get any type of financial assistance or help with bills. We don't have family close by to help. It's just us. My main question is is it selfish to knowingly get pregnant with a second baby in a two bedroom apartment. Like if I have the baby next March and we stay until next May or so? I feel like it would be selfish to just add another to the mix in that situation. A lot of people have been telling me otherwise. They say, "no it's not selfish." I just can't get rid of that feeling. I don't want to wait another year, though. I don't want my daughter to start kindergarten (which is when I'd be able to make more money and/or go back to school) just to have another baby to be back to square one.
I'm really torn. I know a lot of people have babies they can't afford and I don't want to be like that. I don't want to be selfish and take what we could give to our daughter, either. But I also don't think I'm ready to let go of having another baby. I don't really want the kids to be more then 4 years apart. What advice do you mom's have for me? Thanks.