Baby shower dilemma!

Faith - posted on 01/15/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )

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I need opinions!



My sister is throwing me a baby shower in early March and yesterday I sent her a list of addresses including all the addresses of the women from my husbands lab that I was planning on inviting. So, last night, I found out that the women from my husbands lab are throwing us a baby shower in mid February.



My question is: Would it be considered rude to not invite them to the shower my sister is throwing since they are already doing one? I've already asked for their addresses, but I don't think they would come to both. Please help! I don't want my sister to waste money on invites if she doesn't have to!

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Monica - posted on 01/15/2010

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It will not be rude if you don't invite those same women to the other party. I had 3 showers with all separate people (work, friends, family) and did not co-mingle them. It would have been too large and put too much pressure on the host, plus these ladies would feel obligated to buy 2 gifts if they came to both.

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Absolutely not. I had two baby showers myself since I live in way west Phoenix and my mom and most of my family live in way north Phoenix. There is no reason why if they are having a seperate party for you that you need to invite them to both.

Ashley - posted on 01/15/2010

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I do not think it would be rude at all, it would possibly seem odd to them if they threw you a shower and then you invited them to another. They may feel pressured to buy you more than one gift.

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Do not invite them to the shower your sister is throwing and let your husband handle it. He works with them and it shouldn't be an issue if he tells them that there are two showers...one for co-workers/friends and one for family. He should make it a point to tell them that they're being very generous and the shower is appreciated. Also, I'm sure they don't want to attend 2 showers and buy 2 gifts.

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Faith - posted on 01/15/2010

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Thanks ladies! I'll probably send out an email to them letting them know that there is another one in early March, but they shouldn't feel obligated to come to both and definitely not to buy a second gift. My husband has been working there for the entire time that we've known each other, so it isn't like I don't know these ladies at all. They do baby showers and birthday parties for everyone in the lab.

Chelsea - posted on 01/15/2010

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people can have two babyshowers, i would invite her to that one to, and just say my sister wanted to have one for me as well. twice the gifts i guess? free food at the least! lol. kinda weird though if you dont really know her and she's throwing one for you.. unless you do. but thats really kind of her so i would invite her to the other one to. but she may not go if it was just people from work and not your family she is inviting. so.. shoot. i dont know, i would just invite to be nice.

Melissa - posted on 01/15/2010

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Yeah it is perfectly fine to let them know u have two showers. Don't forget to give your sister a list of stuff you got at the first shower so no one goes out and buys you repeats. u dont want 2 cribs or 2 carseats etc. ;)

Erin - posted on 01/15/2010

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No it would not be rude not to invite them, but I would let them know that you are having another one in case someone can't make it to the work one. I know I wouldn't come to 2 baby showers for the same woman for the same child.

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