Baby Shower for baby number 2

Cherise - posted on 03/18/2009 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Just wanted to get others opinion. Is wrong to have a baby shower for baby number two. I have had some friends tell me that you shouldn't have another one because you have everything from the last one. My thought is that a baby shower is to celebrate the mom and the blessing of a new life. Would like to get others feed back.

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Emily - posted on 03/21/2009

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I agree that all babies desreve a celebration of some sort be it a shower, blessingway, welcome baby party or whatever. if someone eles is throwing it for you anyway, then you can't be accused of improper etiquitte

Patti - posted on 03/21/2009

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My son Jayden who will be 8 in April... I am pregnant with my 2nd child scheduled June 17th.. which is a girl.. We neber thought we'd have a 2nd child... I had a very traumatic birth experience with my 1st child... we are both very lucky to be where we are now. It took us 7 years to even consider having another child... with lots of prompting from our son for a sibling.. We gave everything away thinking it would never happen again.. My sister is throwing me a shower... I think it's appropriate! This baby should be able to have all the celebrating & happiness our 1st child recieved.. If someone doesn't feel it is appropriate.. then they don't have to participate.. but most people bring a gift to the baby after they are born whether at the hospital or home.. so if they want they can give it to you at the Pre-baby party... :o) So you can prepare for what you need! Best of luck! & enjoy your shower!

Heather - posted on 03/19/2009

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Yea, I agree. I think it is the general rule that you only have one. Especially when its one of the same sex. But... right now, I have a friend who is pregnant with her second, and its one of the opposite sex. Her mom is throwing her a babyshower. Personally, I wouldn't have another one. But that is just me. A lot of people are doing it these days... and well, if you want to have one.. have one! Its you and your baby! If someone is wanting to throw one for you, then I wouldn't say no! :)

Cherise - posted on 03/19/2009

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Quoting Dawn:



Have one!  I had two showers for baby #1 and one shower for baby #2.  I didn't get to have one for baby #3 (we had just moved and didn't know anyone) and I regret that.I think it is absolutely ridiculous to say you should only have one baby shower.  It is truly not all about the gifts.  If someone is offended that you are having a second baby shower, they don't have to come.





That is what my sister inlaw said.  "If people don't like it they don't have to come."  I am at the point in my life where I can't live off of what people think I have to live my life.  So if she wants to throw me one I think I am going to let her.

Joanna - posted on 03/19/2009

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That's a good question. I think if the two babies are several years apart then it's appropriate to have another shower, or maybe even if they're different genders?



Usually people don't throw showers for themselves, right? If someone wants to throw a shower for a second time mom then that's their choice and I don't think it's improper to accept the gesture.



What do others think?

Dawn - posted on 03/19/2009

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Have one!  I had two showers for baby #1 and one shower for baby #2.  I didn't get to have one for baby #3 (we had just moved and didn't know anyone) and I regret that.I think it is absolutely ridiculous to say you should only have one baby shower.  It is truly not all about the gifts.  If someone is offended that you are having a second baby shower, they don't have to come.

Kristy-Lee - posted on 03/19/2009

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Hey i myself had 2 baby showers the first one i did not know what i was expecting to have so i got lots of things everyone needs to prepare for there baby, and for the second i was told i was having a girl and ended up with lots of little girls things, i think it really comes down to personal preference, they are a great way to celebrate the birth of a baby before it arrives. If you dont need certain things ask for vouchers or just do something small play games and eat there great, good luck

Cherise - posted on 03/19/2009

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Thanks everyone for your comments. My sister in-law wants to do something for me so I think I am going to have just a get together and maybe ask everyone to bring a pack of diapers.

Eleanor - posted on 03/19/2009

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My antenatal group is going through second pregnancies at the moment, and we think it is a nice gesture to have a baby shower - of course we didn't know each other well enough at the time to be invited first time around! We're just holding the shower as part of our regular get together, with just small presents and quiet games that we can do while our 2 year olds run riot around us.

Mandy - posted on 03/18/2009

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I completely agree with you that it's fun to have a shower to celebrate life. For my third one (which is really not okay to have a "shower" for), I decided to have a Pre-Baby party. I specified no gifts on the invitation and stated that it was a semi-potluck with fun games to play (not baby shower games). However my daughter tried coming that day so I had to cancel it. After people kept calling and asking if I was going to reschedule. They were all so equally excited to celebrate. So this weekend I'm having a Post-baby party.



For me, having three daughters, I didn't want my third child to ask one day why I celebrated the first two but not her

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009

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I don't think it's bad. My kids are 12, 6 and 18 months and after each kids I got rid of everything afterwards. I had a shower for my first and last. It's more about everyone getting together. I give homemade gifts for all the people I know having kids. I make quilts and scrapbooks, even if they don't have a shower.

Sara - posted on 03/18/2009

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I think the prevailing thought is that you shouldn't have a baby shower for baby number two. However, if you just want to have a party to celebrate new life, maybe you could just send invites and specify "No gifts, please". On a personal note, I think you should just have as many baby showers as you want, because you are right, it is the celebration of a new life. Congrats!

Laura - posted on 03/18/2009

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I had a baby shower with both of my girls.  They were completely different. The first one was typical. I ended up with 32 pink outfits from 0-6 months. I received no bottles or diapers. With my second daughter my friends had the "shower" at a resturant. My gifts were diapers and a gift cart to super suppers.( basically a way to fill the freezer with prepared meals). It was great. The second one was lots more fun. I say go for it. It is the only time it gets to be all about you. Congrats!

Heather - posted on 03/18/2009

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I know people tend to have a 2nd one if the baby is a different gender than the last one was.  Or just if someone wants to throw them one.  I'd say if someone wants to do it then go for it but ask for things like diapers and wipes and other things that you don't still have from the first baby.

Sarah - posted on 03/18/2009

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The general rule is one baby shower only. But if people are wanting to throw you one, take them up on it! If you want to have a shower, but with no presents, that would be awesome - a true celebration of the new life! Perhaps call it a Baby Blessing or Blessingway? Do what you want!

Angie - posted on 03/18/2009

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Good question.  I have had friends and family have a second baby shower if they are having a different sex.  I myself had 2 boys and did not have another one.  If you have another and you want it to celebrate you and the baby ask for no gifts or somthing small like a books,   But most of all if you want it then do it. 

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